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All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

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katendmom · 16/09/2007 21:00

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

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cricri · 26/09/2007 11:26

Ronshar, SK and Gfor3, thanks for your reassurance. It is mainly old blood, but was redder earlier this morning (sorry, TMI!). Perhaps it is just the final bits of the mc. I will keep an eye on things as you suggest though. I really hope it doesn't go on for another week and a half - I'm fed up with the whole sanitary towel business!

ronshar · 26/09/2007 11:29

I really dislike sanitary towels. How thought they were a good idea. Nothing like reminding you that you are bleeding.

ronshar · 26/09/2007 11:30

Or WHO maybe.
My spelling is crap

splishsplosh · 26/09/2007 12:36

Was feeling OK this morning, but took dd to the wiggle and jiggle at the library, and in the middle suddenly found it really difficult to hold back the tears. No idea what set me off, don't think it was the words to row row row the boat anyway. I'd even been sort of OK looking at the little babies who'd been to bounce and rhyme - jealous, but OK.

Was hardly any blood this morning, and wasa getting all optimistic, but it's got a bit heavier again. Hope I won't bleed for too long, I'm fed up of sanitary towels too. Will be having to bulk buy at this rate - why don't they give you a prescription for about 200 of them???

I'm envious of the April thread I used to be on - it feels like they're carrying on a great adventure, and some of us have had to pack up and go home just when we're looking forward to it all.

ronshar · 26/09/2007 12:40

I know exactly what you mean. You get all excited about your prgenancy, even though you know you should wait untill at least 13weeks. Then it all gets taken away from you. With no warning or aftercare. You are left on your own to work out how you feel about it all. Which normally is pretty crap.
It does get easier I promise.

splishsplosh · 26/09/2007 12:58

I've just had such a horrible year. My mum died, now the baby (sorry, "cluster of cells", as the dr called it) has died.

I just looked at the April thread & lots of people have had scans showing all is ok - I'm so pleased for them, but it's also made me cry again, cos I'm thinking, why wasn't that me with happy news.

Has anyone been to mc support groups? I was given a leaflet, and there's 1 held each month as the hospital. Has anyone been and found them helpful?

DUSTIN · 26/09/2007 13:06

splishsplosh sorry you have had such a bad year. I was debating whether to go to the local support group too, the nurse gave me a leaflet today after my scan.

iliketosleep · 26/09/2007 13:18

I brought ok magazine this morning and on the front was kerry katona and her hubby with the words "ohno im pregnant again" I thought huh but then when i signed into my bt email there was a news thing that says kerry katona has a miscarriage

cricri · 26/09/2007 13:59

Splishsplosh - it sounds as though you've had a horrendous year and the mc will probably have brought back all the feelings you had when your Mum died.
Personally I've found the Miscarriage Association website helpful but I haven't been to a support group. I think others on this thread have though so they'll be able to tell you about their experiences.
I must admit I've deliberately not looked at the Due in March 2008 thread since my mc because I know it will just make me feel worse. It's bad enough having to deal with pg friends in RL without having to be reminded of what should have been happening for me if things had been different in cyberspace. But everybody has their own way of dealing with things. Sending you lots of hugs anyway and keep talking to us on here. xx

iliketosleep · 26/09/2007 14:12

i know what you mean cricri i went in once and it wasnt so bad but then it stayed in my active convos and hearing all the good news etc made me feel like crap

positive · 26/09/2007 14:20

Hi everyone,
i've only posted once or twice here. Sorry that so many are going through a mc at the moment. I had a missed mc Jan last year but am now 11 +1, took us 18 mths trying to get this far. Have my 12wk scan Fri next week but worried as I mc'd after 12wk scan last time.

I really want chocolate and coffee but they make me sick at the moment so all I can do is enjoy a virtual cuppa and the biggest bar of chocolate I can find - does anyone want share?

sorry, thats my moan over for now,

hope everyone keeps well
good vibes and positive thoughts to everyone

ronshar · 26/09/2007 14:30

I want to share my new found cake with everyone.

It is M&S carrot cake. But it is from the fridge.

OH MY GOD. It is beautiful. I have had my slice, so shall now eat yours.

Thank you positive. It is always great to hear from girls who have graduated from the dreaded MC misery. Good luck for your scan. Im sure all is well. Being positive.

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TJuice · 26/09/2007 16:02

good luck positive. really hope its goes smoothly this time xx

splishsplosh - so sorry that you are having such a rough time. haven't thought of a support group myself, as it would prolly be in danish, which wouldn't help me. but last night i wondered if i should talk to someone. i seem to be stuck in a limbo and not really moving on right now. in fact, i think i am going backwards a bit. anyway, what with losing your mum too, it might be a relief to see someone. i have never been a real therapy person, but my mum saw one for only two sesssions (and she is not the sort of person to go in for telling her darkest thoughts) but she really got something out of it. anyway, i hope you have all the support you need.

so know what you mean about your confidence, poppy. i am definitely feeling not myself and unconfident in terms of my body - its really odd. which is prolly why i am stuffing it with cake and wine.

well actually no cake yet, but as soon as i get onto this thread, i start thinking about it . . . that black forest gateaux sounds divine and i could definitely go for a rich brownie in a hot fudge sundae.

hi to everyone . . . hope you are doing well.

nh101 · 26/09/2007 16:10

V. sad for Kerry Katona. But she says she is "counting her blessings" as she and her DH have four kids already. That is a good attitude.

Iliketosleep - you know your Hot Stars mag inside OK? I produce that! I am doing next week's issue as we speak (well, in between posting on MN ).

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katendmom · 26/09/2007 16:16

Good morning~

Just read your posts and girls... you sound so down. We just have to do something about it. I think that cake and wine are failing miserably at this point.

I know it will sound very trivial but it is true - ability to conceive has a connection with your state of mind. I personally think that our brain is more than we give it credit for. So when it does "all systems check" and finds us at the bottom of the barrel, it shuts off any avenues that could potentially lead to new stress... and yes, pg is a stress. Ever wonder why so many teenage girls get pg when they're drunk? Yep, no worries holding them back, all guards down.

True, it is easier said than done but we can do it. You keep picking out pg women out of a crowd... now how many of you are millionaires? Or at least VERY financially well-off? Ok, so sounds we're all about "middle class." Now, do you look around for women who drive more expensive cars? Wear more expensive jewelry than you might ever be able to afford? Not really. So my point is - we notice what we're looking for (trust me - after yesterday's assessment - I notice things about my little DS that I have NEVER paid attention to).

So if we notice what we look for - it is in our power to change that. Not easy but possible.

I think some things are true triggers and we should avoid them. Like lunches with pg friends - I think it is too upsetting and we should just be up front about it. As true friends they'll understand if we take a "rain check" for a couple of months. After all, if your friend lost her job and you just got a major promotion - she might not be as thrilled for you, right? Just natural, we are all humans.

The point to my post is that we do need to talk about mc, we do need to look for answers (both physical and what can help emotionally) but we cannot allow ourselves to slip into self-pity. It is only prolonging our TTC process. NOTHING should be on the way of that .

~phew... Kate gets off her soapbox, wonders into the kitchen to make herself a sandwich~

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katendmom · 26/09/2007 16:19

nh101 get out?! TOO COOL about the Hot Stars thing

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katendmom · 26/09/2007 16:52

Guys, I know somebody asked this before but I can't find that thread - for how long do your hormones stay up after MC?

I was just sorting through my bathroom cabinet and found a left over pg test. So I figured I'd wee on it just to confirm that I am back to normal. It turned positive. I use the digital one so there is no line guessing. It clearly said "pregnant"

Now... I had a D&C on Sept 13 (almost 2 weeks ago?!) I have stopped bleeding like a week ago. And if I think back to my dating scan (which I hate thinking back to) - the baby passed away in like mid Aug...

Ok, so hormones are probably staying up until you have the baby in you but 2 weeks after D&C - how can I still be "pregnant?!"

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iliketosleep · 26/09/2007 16:52

really??? i was just reading the hot stars bit

iliketosleep · 26/09/2007 16:53

oooooooh give me some gossip now so i can save myself2 quid lol

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nh101 · 26/09/2007 16:56

Kateandmom - what a good positive post. Not sure about hormones after MC - I thought it was about four weeks but not sure.

Ha Iliketosleep! No can do

nh101 · 26/09/2007 17:00

I also work on a mag called Star - we have a question of the week which goes on the masthead. Last week the question was "What is top of your to do list?"

My answer: Making a baby! (it was before my BFP)

This week the question is "what did you last google?"

My answer: How much zinc you're supposed to take when trying to get pregnant.

Slightly obsessed!

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katendmom · 26/09/2007 17:01

nh101 so you mean I should wait 2 more wks (to bring me to 4 wks after D&C) to retest and then the test should be back to "negative?"

gillydaffodil glad my thinking is in line with professionals . I don't charge for it and you don't have to leave the comfort of your home for it. I'm giving out advises even when I'm not asked LOL! Just ask my DH

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iliketosleep · 26/09/2007 17:11

Just as well i suppose, wont have anything to read next week lol......

I thought it took 10 days to get all the HCG hormones out of your body, but it may be that as you had the ERPC your hormone levels didnt get the chance to fall naturally? so is taking slightly longer... I know mine had gone the weeks after as i had another blood test. (the one i had done on the night i was rushed in showed i had a high white blood cell count) actually no one explained exactly what that is, anyone know??