All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

Hi Littlebit - my message crossed with yours - I knwo that doesn't seem likely given our messages were 20 mins apart but I got distracted halfway through by our builders.

Sorry you're feeling down - dd here has started talking about brothers and sisters. I'm not sure she quite understands the concept but a lot of her little friends now ahve baby brothers or sisters so she's beginning to cotton on. Bizarrely she always talks about having a brother even though most of her friends have little sisters - am not sure if its

a) a premonition
b) something spooky to do with the baby we lost
c) too much peppa pig

I'm going for c).

Anyway, am thinking of you. THe ups and downs are so hard - just as you think you're fine and getting over it, you suddenly realise you're not. Hugs..

Hello Gilly. Hugs to you too...

alittlebitshy and triggles - you don't know until you know for sure. i have been playing the raising my own hopes game though and i think it may be doing my head in.

i had the same "only-when-wiped" AF before my bfp in july, so was hoping that last week's crap period was the same . . .but all my tests say no. and even so, i am thinking back and i didn't get a positive until another 10 days or so after that . . .

anyway, i really hope that it is good news for both of you.

but then last night i had supper at my friends place and had quite a lot of wine and just kind of let it out a bit . . . i have been very very moderate since july so am a complete bantam weight but i guess i kind of needed to let my hair down a bit, as this morning i feel kind of relieved, if a little fuzzy.

and i am definitely planning cake later on - i have an urge for sticky ginger cake . . .

lcy - where you at????

af is here for sure
Hoping I get my miserable mood out of the way today cos i hate feeling like this.

Gilly - not seen much of counsellor lately. Once since the start of August. Seeing her next week though. NOt sure if it will help or not....

I'm off to ocmfort eat now I've gone up a clothes size again (went down one last year which was fab, but haaaard work)- most of the weight gain has been since the m/cs . can't be arsed though.

The pain seems to have gone now, so I'm really hoping the worst is over.

Kateandmom - I heard that Einstein didn't talk until he was 3. Or was it 5? Anyway, I hope it's nothing to worry about, and at least you're getting him checked out early so he'll get any help he needs.

littlebit - go easy on yourself hon, it isn't easy to cope after MC and so what if you put on a few pounds? You can lose them when you're feeling better and stronger in yourself. In the meantime be good to yourself, and if you need chocolate, have it x

Glad is less painful now splishsplosh x

Hey Littlebitshy, I was thinking of you this morning. I was wondering how you were. Now I know. Im sorry the witch has ruined your month AGAIN.

Yesterday I posted a lovely post about being really down and how it has taken 6 months to get myself to the place where I can see other pregnant ladies and not feel the urge to scream and shout. But my stupid computer crashed again. Wireless dont bother.

Rosy I hope you are home and doing ok.

I have eaten a slice of Bakewell tart and a choclate flapjack from M&S. Lovely.
And I ate all of it myself. What a pig!!

Splishsplosh your name is excellent. I always look at cool names and wonder where they come from. I hope you are ok. Remember the physical trauma is over much quicker than the mental. As we can all attest to. That could be why we are all spending at least 2 weeks of every month drunk!! Apart from ILTS of course.

Good girl ronshar. Always believe in the healing power of cake, it never fails me.

hehehehehehehe you bunch of bloody alcho's

Hello have been reading posts and just wanted to say hi. I have been ttc for 15 months now (MC July 06). Oftern pop and keep upto date with thread but trying to think about other things. Had to write though after reading alittlebitshy's post. It is good to let it out on MN I totally understand how you are feeling. Don't be too hard on yourself and have whatever you need to get through it.

There is an explosion of pregnant people (especially since my 3 closest friends are). It is very difficult at times to try and feel positive but I think it is getting easier with time. I think the MC has really dented my confidence as it is wierd that one of the most natural things in the world and my body doesn't seem to be able to do it.

I am trying to fill my time with new projects and meeting up with non-pregnant friends - it helps

Wow just read my last post - I'm not always so sad sounding, I think you guys are right chocolate and alcohol do definately help!!! [smile}

Will you lot STOP talking about cake and alcohol. I am trying to give both up....

Hi Poppy - welcome to the thread. I m/c in July 06 too so I've been at it (so to speak) that long too and there are quite a few here who have sadly been on this thread a long time (and anyone on this thread has been here too long) so you're in good company. Good luck.

Hi all, new to this ttc business (well not new to the bd bit!)

We got unexpectedly but delightedly pregnant, found out mid August when we were 5 weeks. We went on a two week holiday touring Europe in one of our classic cars at the beginning of Sept and sadly I started to have light spotting, after two days went to hospital (in germany, not nice when you can't even talk to doc) and scan showed no viable baby. Back in the UK a scan showed we had lost baby at just 5 weeks so all the time we were so excited it was already gone. Back at hospital today and doc says all clear, wait a month before trying again.

So here I am, ignoring doctors advice about waiting for a month and joining you all for cake please.

I think the decision to try again plus the doc saying that effectively the horrible physical side of the m/c is over has meant that today has been my most positive day since we lost baby.

Oh and thanks for splishsplosh for directing me to this thread!

Hi girls~ (waves manically)

As always - had to read through and catch up on posts. I just want to give all of you who're feeling down today a big teddy bear hug - and then a big group hug. Just wait - when you're all experienced mothers of teenager (cuz I just know that all of us you're waiting to get pg - will) and you all graduate to the "parents of teenagers" thread - and go on and on about how bad these rascals are - I'll post this thread. I will, cuz you know me .

Life can be like that - it's like a zebra - but just know when you've hit the black stripe, it means the white is just around the corner. Well, for us it's the "pink" stripe LOL

By the way - meant to ask - why do you all use tests with lines? I use the one that has a little window that shows either words "pregnant" or "not pregnant" - I mean it takes a bit of guessing fun out of it but I kinda like it black or white...

A word of updated on my boy. Well... who would know?! They didn't think that a speech pathologist would help him because they diagnosed him with "sensory hypersensitivity..." In a nutshell - there are people who're sensitive to light or noise or in our case - textures. The way it translates is that DS is very particular about what he touches, what he takes in his hand (who would know - he would not put a jelly fish down when we were at the shore?!). Since at this age - texture appreciation has a lot to do with mouth (that?s why kids always put EVERYTHING in their mouth) - and since because he gets easily overwhelmed with textures - he "guards" his mouth and everything that has to do with it - which is speech. Who'd known? I was so surprised - like they were telling me things and I was like "you're right on"... like he is very particular about what he eats, he doesn't like anything cold or hot (he won't touch ice cream), he NEVER puts toys in his mouth...

So the verdict is that he will work with an occupational therapist first to help him learn to better integrate his senses, in particular get a grip on textures. They feel that speech will naturally come shortly after that, as soon as he gets comfortable with his mouth... I am still in shock - what a different thing from what I expected to hear.

I'm glad you're feeling more positive ClairePO and that you found your way here.

Ronshar, thank you about my name - I was pg, and thinking about happy childish things, and who hasn't enjoyed splashing in puddles? That's how it came about. Now I'm thinking it's still relevant cos it's like tears! Oh well....

I have no cake in the house, but I have pizza and chocolate, so now dd is in bed, I can indulge myself, as I think I deserve it!

Hope everyone's ok this evening

Hi everyone - just a quick one as am off to bed. Just wanted to say a massive thank you for all your lovely posts & support.

Got home about 7pm - didn't have a great day but will go into detail more tomorrow. The best part is hopefully its all over and we can move on (mentally & physically).

Kat - thats an amazing assessment of your DS - bless him. Isn't it weird when they start mentioning things that fit your child exactly...(isn't it great what they know! - when DD squint appeared last year they asked if she bumped into things that were close to her - & I was like... YES! - its cos she can't determin how far things are away from her).
Sweetkitty - thank you - hoping DD's op will work too... although there is a chance she will need it twice.

ILTS - still luv ya - now where's the cake??

Rosy
xxx

Rosy - was thinking of you today glad your home the physical side is over now just the mental to go and thats what we are in part here for.

I like coming on here I feel I can talk as much as I want about the mc without judgement, in RL I think because people don't know what to say they never mention it, sometimes I want to shout "you know I should be 15 weeks pregnant now feeling my baby kick for the first time and getting excited about the 20 week scan" do you know how hard it is - sorry but everyone else on here knows how hard it is

Kat - wow I've never heard of that, your amzaing DS now you have a diagnosis he can get the therapy he needs now and thats great.

ClairePO - hiya and welcome to the thread but sorry you had to join us, I had my mc early August too, I ignored the advice too but by the time the bleeding had stopped, AF was just around the corner so this month is my first cycle ttc again, I am a bit obsessed I think it's my way of dealing with things. Anyway it's a great thread and we get to eat cakes too.

Sk waves hello to ILTS, wheelybug and poppy and anyone else I have missed.

Today I have had 3 of the chocolate bites and a cherry bakewell, must stop soon can feel the weight creeping back on.

Aww rosy hope your ok and sorry it didnt go that good for you but at least its over now.

I dont have any cake came on here to see if you lot had any i could scav off you.....Anyone got a black forest gateau going spare??

MMMMmmmmmMMMMM black forest gateau

Really should have just called this thread cake lol

Morning everyone.
It is lovely and sunny here on the south coast. Cold though but who cares if the sun is out.

I love you Jules you always say exactly the right things. I always have a little sniff when I read your posts. I like it though because you say so perfectly what I think/feel in my more sane moments. Which lets face it my sane moments are few and far between

I am symptom spotting. Which means I am crazy again. I have not started peeing on sticks yet. I learnt my leason with those things back in June. Spending a fortune for no reason!

I am getting very low aches in my womb area. I am CD 17. Maybe 6 DPO. Not sure exactly when ov, but did get lots of EWCM.
I have arranged to go away for the weekend so I am no where near the shops or the dreaded sticks. I shall hold on this time I shall!

Jules Nobody would ever think you were crazy, especially not the people here. We know how hard it is and everybody has their own way of dealing with things. It sounds as though you're doing positive things and trying to turn the bad things into good.
Sweetkitty I know exactly what you mean about wanting to scream at people about how many weeks pg you ought to be. People I haven't seen for a while keep asking me what I've been up to over the summer and I feel like saying "Well, I was pg and felt crap so not much, and now I've had a mc so I feel even worse!" A bit of a conversation-stopper I think I'm seeing my pg friend again tomorrow for lunch and I can feel myself feeling increasingly jealous, which is bad I know. I don't want to get to the stage where I avoid her, but I can feel myself getting that way. I know she feels really bad after what's happened to me, so hopefully I can keep my feelings under control.
Rosy - sorry to hear it wasn't good. I guess it was never going to be pleasant... I was thinking of you yesterday too and like you say, hopefully you can move on physically and mentally now.
On the same subject, does anybody know how long is the bleeding supposed to go on for? It's been 2 weeks since I first started bleeding and it stopped for a few days at the beginning of this week, but this morning it started again. I guess everybody is different and I don't want to bother the doctor if this is normal. It almost feels like AF with slight cramping etc. but surely that can't be possible?

cricri - I bled on and off for 3 1/2 weeks.

RosyBelle - I hope you are feeling better today.

ronshar - I have my fingers crossed for you and everyone else TTC at the moment.

justjules - I hope you get some answers soon.

Hello to everyone else.

Cricri, is the blood still red or has it got darker in colour.
I ask because if it is still bright red and you are getting pain again there is a small chance you may have retained products which could be causing a small infection. I am not trying to worry you but it is a small risk of a 'natural MC'.
I hope it is just the end of your truama.
I do hope I havent scared you or made you worry more. If you are unsre go to you GP thats what they get paid £100 grand a year for!

Morning everyone th sun is out here too although it is freezing cold, CD20 and trying not to think about it

cricri - I bled for about 12 days stopped for 4 then bled for another 2 or thereabouts, got AF about 3 1/2 weeks later.

jules - nice to hear from you I often think of you, I think it's great all the stuff you are doing with the rememberence garden and mc support

hello to ronshar, ILTS and everyone elsemust go do DD2's nappy she has a sixth sense every time I get 10 minutes for a little MN she poos!