3dpo and looking for TTC friends

[Lolliloo1234]

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

Hey! I am 26 and also on cycle 2. Currently 5dpo and keep having to tell myself that of course I won't feel any symptoms yet as if I have conceived chances are I haven't implanted yet!
Went a bit POAS crazy last month. ICs and FRER arrived today but trying not to test until at least 12 dpo...

I’m exactly the same - I’m so up and down, convinced myself that I can’t be pregnant because of a myriad of reasons which aren’t plausible already 🙈 feel a bit loopy!
I did too and now I’m trying so hard to be patient this month! When is AF due for you?

Joining. Im only 1dpo at the moment. Fingers crossed this is our month. Slightly worried as i have had a couple of cp so be nice to have some support xx

Hi @Solomon1212

Sorry to hear about your CP, that must be really tough. I’ve had one so far and it sucks. What’s your TTC plan? Do you use OPKs or CM/Temperature?

Support is deffo something I can give here!

Hi 🙋🏻‍♀️ I’m 28, on cycle 8 for first baby, currently 3DPO too, AF due 20th. Fingers crossed for us all and our potential Christmas babies ✨

Hi @Nat4392 👋

I want to keep everything crossed for this one. Sometimes I feel that it’s never going to happen 🤷🏻‍♀️ it just seems so out of reach you know?!

Hello!

@Lolliloo1234 Being a bit neurotic together sounds like just my cup of tea!

I’m 30, on cycle 2, and expecting to ovulate in the next few days. Just recovering from a UTI so hoping I don’t miss the window!

@HopeWish - I also went POAS crazy last month! Glad I’m not the only one!

@AnxiousBear that is one thing this whole TTC business has caused is UTI issues!!!

Oh I’m sure that whatever you’re thinking or doing we have also done the same. You are not alone.

Hello

We are Cycle 1 TTC! I think I'm due to ovulate today or tomorrow! Very nervous because I am neurotic about things..

I wish you all the baby dust and luck

Hey @beccaxob 👋

How are you charting your ovulation? Do you use OPKs or just CM?

Hey @Lolliloo1234

I use the Clue App & I am using the CB ovulation tests and I've had three days of blinking smileys.. No peak reading yet. A couple of weeks ago we were only thinking about it and now I'm fully obsessed haha.

Xx

@beccaoxb omg I totally understand - I’m on cycle two and we were going to just wait and see what happened...well I am not chill and I am not just waiting and seeing. It’s so difficult because the mind is so powerful and I know if I worry it could hinder things.

(Before lockdown) I was going to acupuncture, I take all the vitamins and had all the pre TTC scans and blood tests so I’ve officially reached crazy status. I think I’ve got the entire conception aisle of Boots in my drawer from pre-seed to pregnancy tests.

Hopefully my special brand of crazy will make you feel better about yourself haha!

@lolliloo1234 yes it does suck so really hoping this month.
Ive been TTC for around 8 months. After the CP i gave myself a little time off but fell again in feb which ended in MC just before 6 weeks.
I have tried the opks but i dont really like them, so ive gone off of CM and premom app which is pretty good so far. Its also got an option to log opks which i done till i got fed up with them

Well @Solomon1212 I am keeping everything and more crossed for you this month.
When is AF due for you? We can hopefully all be here for each other through the awful TWW!

Hey girls!! I'm 32 and 2DPO on cycle 2 of TTC #2! AF due on 23rd according to natural cycles app which we used to conceive our (almost) 1 year old 🥰
We were ridiculously lucky with our DS and conceived on the first month of trying, but I have a feeling it won't be so easy this time. Sending lots of happy positive vibes to you all and hoping for some good luck xxx

Hi @mrsmummy111 !! Mines due 20th so we can navigate this together!
Keeping everything crossed for you! If you don’t mind me asking - what was your DTD routine for your DS? I’m still trying to get to grips with it all! Thank you xx

Fingers crossed the ride isn't too bumpy for either of us @Lolliloo1234 !! I always thought once I had a baby I'd be less neurotic and obsessive about TTC, but if anything it's even worse as now I'm desperate to get pregnant again as you always imagine what age gap you'd like your kids to have, and every month you don't conceive makes the gap that little bit bigger!

Well even I'm stumped on that one tbh. We weren't taking it hugely seriously as we were getting married the next month (I was actually 2weeks pregnant on my wedding day!) I ovulated on day 15 when we conceived and we DTD on day 13 and day 15, but obviously managed to catch it. This month we DTD 12,13 and 15 and I was so upset that we missed day 14 but it was just a bad day and DH was stressed from work and I didn't want it to become a chore, but now I'm kicking myself (even though I know it's technically possible by DTD on 13 & 15). The ovulation thing still confuses me though as I feel like I never know exactly when I'm ovulating, and whether it actually happened when I thought it did.

Do you mind me asking how you're tracking it? X

@mrsmummy111 no I don’t mind at all! So I used to track my temp but when I went to see my fertility acupuncturist she said not to bother because it doesn’t really help so now I just do CB ovulation tests.
I OV on CD17 (I’m normally 16/17) so we DTD on day 16 & 17 which may not be great because they advise doing it every other day instead of every day as it limits sperm count. DP gets super tired from work (we’re both key workers so you can imagine what life is like at the moment!) so the advised DTD every other day for a week during high fertility isn’t quite an option for us!

I know whatever will be will be but I can’t help but worry! Xx

Hello everyone hope you are all well :) AF is due anytime in the next ten days. Then i usually ovulate a week after ( I track CM and use the Clue app) as my cycles vary by ten days. Then i am hoping to ttc :)

@Lolliloo1234 Yeah that does make sense, but the idea of OPKs just makes me really stressed as I can imagine myself spending every day testing and they're notoriously unreliable so even though my cycle is very regular, it would just mess with my head if they said I wasn't ovulating but the app said I was?! It's all just very daunting, why can't it be as easy as "have sex, get pregnant 🤣🤣)

I just hate feeling like I have to DTD even when I'm shattered / not in the mood, but then equally don't want to miss out on my chance and then regret it. Must be so much worse for you and I applaud you with everything going on at the moment. Worst thing we can do is get stressed over it though - positive vibes only!

@Lolliloo1234 I also had scans and blood tests done prior to TTC and my bedside table looks like a pregnancy pharmacy. So you’re definitely not alone!

I hate that feeling of having to DTD regardless of how I feel too. It sounds like you still DTD at the right times, you’ve got to have a balance what with being a key worker and this Covid nightmare.

@AnxiousBear @mrsmummy111 I totally get how you feel on the having to DTD. I won’t lie it has caused a little bit of friction between me and DP at times. I’ve stopped telling him when I’m ovulating because I found that when he feels under pressure it all goes a little bit awry anyway if you know what I mean. Which is great for his performance (he’d die of embarrassment if he knew I was talking about this haha) but has left me feeling quite alone because I have to keep some of this stuff to myself.

In terms of work this COVID stuff has been a real life nightmare, I can’t even begin to explain it but on a personal level, this shared experience has meant that DP/colleagues/family and I have never been closer and more connected. It’s been awful but really beautiful at the same time.

Did it impact your decision to start trying? I’ve seen on here some people have stopped until it’s over.

@lolliloo1234
I agree about lockdown bring us closer together. DH and I are both teachers...at the same school! But we barely see each other in the work day and when we get home all we talk about is work. DH is always stressed during term time (I've asked a number of times if teaching is -really- the career for him) which makes it frustrating when I want to have any intimacy! Since lockdown, he has calmed down more and we are now close again.

Re: COVID
I've done a lot of reading up and careful thinking about whether to stop TTC. It is scary when nearly 1000 people a day are dying of this virus in the UK.
DH and I are both in secure jobs, are young and healthy with no underlying health conditions, and research suggests that we are not at any serious risk of the virus. Whilst I understand why some couples have stopped, most medical bodies/organisations have stated that the risk of getting it would be the same for the woman whether pregnant or not, that it can't be passed on to the foetus, and that babies are very very low risk of getting it.

There are rumours and predictions floating around about it ending in summer, in autumn, coming back in winter, not having a vaccination until next year, but the truth is...nobody really knows.

I'm not the kind of person who plans out "the perfect pregnancy" (I'm a bit more do-it-yourself-and-just-get-on-with-things kind of person) so I'm not too worried about restrictions like hubby not being able to go to the scan etc.
Everybody is different though and I entirely respect the opinions of those who don't want to continue for whatever their reason is.

On a symptom spotting note... 6DPO and getting some period pain-like dull cramping in my lower abdo today. Maybe implantation? Maybe mild obsession...

@Lolliloo1234 I could've written this post myself! The reason we didn't DTD on day 14 was because DH had already had a bad day at work and I was hinting that we need to....you know, and he just got annoyed and said he feels like it's too much pressure. Day 15 was a similar story and although we ended up doing it, let's just say it wasn't his best performance!
I agree though and also that I said I won't tell him when I'm ovulating next month, but he'll know anyway as we don't regularly have sex 4 times a week! 🤣

What a wonderful outlook you have, it's so refreshing. It's horrendous and I can't imagine what it would be like seeing it first hand, but at the same time it's amazing to see someone focus on the positive and take something good out of all the bad! ❤️

@HopeWish

I agree with everything you just said. I think we are very similar people (I’m a teacher too but currently providing free NHS childcare in my home over Easter hols - plus my school is providing wrap around NHS childcare when not on hols) My DP is so affected by his job (in NHS) and the stresses it brings, it can sometimes take control of both our lives so I can totally relate to you. He has accepted that it can’t be forever now, it’s just too stressful for him.

I’m 5dpo and also getting mild cramps and twinges. I’m just trying to put it down to overeating during the lockdown but I’m also mildly obsessed. When are you planning on taking a test?