3dpo and looking for TTC friends

[Lolliloo1234]

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

@mrsmummy111 My DP is exactly the same, we’ve had lots of tears on my part and some serious conversations. I’ve managed to crack it now by during my fertile week I kind of focus on him (lucky *) and I’ll do something like give him a foot spa experience or give him a facial (HAHA innuendo!) and it seems to relax him enough that he performs. Although my DP probably isn’t as clued up as yours and just enjoys the attention for a week and doesn’t really get why 😂😂

Tbh DP sees first hand how awful it is, he has come home in tears many nights this past month. I only see it through the eyes of the children I care for who are children of his colleagues at work. What the worst thing is the impact what their parents are going through on them, NHS workers whole lives are being impacted. BUT beautiful thing for me is I've had lots of Impromptu sleepovers and play dates with some awesome kids who are fab!! I adore children 💕 I just have to spend some extra time talking them through what is going on. The media portrays the situation in a very particular way but there are many beautiful things to come out of this.

@lolliloo1234

I feel ya! I've been into school a couple of times to run activities for children of key workers, going in again on Friday.

I've told myself not to test until 12dpo, which will be Saturday, but feel like I might get a sneaky IC in on 10dpo (thursday), if only to satisfy my POAS needs! When are you testing?

I started a healthy eating drive 2 weeks ago in the hope that I won't come out of lockdown weighing 1 stone more and regretting it! Lockdown has really given me the motivation I need to do things like gardening, cleaning the house and improving my lifestyle. People keep telling everybody to look after their mental health in lockdown... but lockdown has been the best thing for my mental health in a long time!

Hi ladies can I join.

I am 29 and on cycle 7 of ttc for baby number 2.

I should be 3dpo according to my clue app but I ovulated a few days earlier based on cramps and cm.

I don't use any ovulation tests due to coming over obsessed 😂

@HopeWish I’m not sure when to test - I was thinking maybe waiting until Saturday next week because that’ll be two days before AF is due. I’ve been pregnant before (many many years ago - isn’t a fun story) and I 100% knew by the day before AF was due that I was pregnant. I’m kind of hoping that by Saturday I’ll know whether I am or not so if I see a BFN I won’t be too disappointed as I would’ve already accepted it. It’s going to be hard not to do one before. Do let me know how it goes for you, I’ll keep everything crossed for you!

I know what you mean in terms of wellbeing. I actually am on top of my laundry which never usually is the case and my garden is sorted for once!

@rosie990 Hi, of course you can join! How’re you? What was your journey to baby #1 like?

@lolliloo1234 I am well thank you although I feel like I am symptom spotting everything.

Journey one was a surprise and blessing so I am really struggling with actually trying and it not working. :-(

@rosie990 welcome! I’m sorry, it must be so hard it not happening sooner. Fingers crossed and baby dust for you.

@Lolliloo1234 and @mrsmummy111 - huge respect and thanks to you both for all the Covid work you are doing. It must be so hard.

We have talked about Covid and kids a lot. I feel anxious about it all, but also we have been debating trying for such a long time and I don’t feel like we can stop trying now we have started. It really does feel like a drive to me? Like a switch flipped.
We are both working from home, so feeling quite isolated from the world, taking all the precautions.
Glad I’m not the only one not enjoying the DTD pressure!

Hi, please can I join you?! I’m a bit older, 37, and TTC number 3. My other kids are 4 and 7, it took a while for us to decide whether to have another! This is our first month of TTC and TBH were not so much trying as not not trying if you get me! I’m not tracking my ovulation or anything, just seeing how it goes, I got obsessive with DC1 and it was so stressful and horrible. I am planning to test on the 21st but knowing me, it will be earlier and therefore pointless!!

@AnxiousBear it feels the same to me, I don’t think I could stop now even if I tried tbh. I was such a party girl and really enjoyed going out and socialising, children of my own were definitely not something I wanted to do. Since Feb when we start trying a switch has definitely flipped physically and mentally, it’s right what people say, once you want one your REALLY want one.

@Wineandrun of course you can join! If you don’t mind me asking how long did it take you to conceive your two? I will be keeping everything crossed for you!

Our first took 8 months but my husband was in a bit of a bad place mental health wise, as soon as he got some help and was on the road to recovery we conceived, it really was a case of the horrible saying ‘stop trying and it will happen’, that worked for us! I went from being completely rigid, not drinking, taking vitamins, monitoring every symptom to going to complete self destruct, binge drinking, eating unhealthy, the works, and bam, she is now 7! With my second he literally looked at me and I was pregnant 😂 so who knows this time. I’m older but otherwise completely healthy, normal BMI etc, so we shall see!

I agree with you all saying you want to continue TTC with everything going on, research says it’s most dangerous during the third trimester, by which time for us hopefully this will all be over!

@Wineandrun I’m so pleased for your DH that he began to feel better. I completely think that mentally the place you’re in is the biggest contributing factor to conception l. It’s like the higher you stress and fret the less likely it is. I’ve been doing meditation and yoga recently to try and forget about it. I usually have about two days every 2ww where I go bonkers but then it settles and now I’m at peace with what’s going on. I must admit I haven’t stopped drinking, I’ve stopped binge drinking but I do love my G&T! I can be quite airy fairy (much to the hilarity of DP) and I’m comforted by the fact my cycle is synced with the cycle of the moon. I ovulated on the night of the full moon this month so I kind of feel a wider universe ness about the conception thing and when it’s right, it will happen. I do know how bonkers I sound haha feel free to take the mic!

Two of my closest friends are 39 and both have had (first) babies this year after trying for under a year. I hope one day I’ll have three children - although I don’t know DP would cope haha!

@Lolliloo1234 Agree with other posters on here, we discussed our plans obviously re Covid but we have no idea when this may be over so I'm not really willing to wait another year to conceive. There's no concrete evidence that it's harmful for unborn babies (as far as I'm aware?!)

@Lolliloo1234 Sorry just seen your latest post. I was totally relaxed with our first as we were actively trying - I had all the gear ready for when we were intending to try after our wedding, but we were pregnant before I had a chance to obsess. It meant that I was still drinking (a glass of wine or a G&T here and there, and the weekend before we found out we were in Italy for a very good friends wedding and it was a very boozy weekend. None of that stopped us conceiving so I've done the exact same this time. I'm not a huge drinker but I'm currently on my second gin & elderflower, it's the only enjoyment we're getting at the moment and I'm not willing to give it up 🤣🤣

You don't sound crazy at all, my mum is also very much into lunar cycles as well and puts a lot of significance into it. If it helps keep you sane and happy, then go for it!!

*weren't actively trying sorry!

Morning girls - anyone else symptom spotting like a mad man? I’m pretty sure I’m out this month!

Morning!

Yes symptom spotting like crazy. Keep thinking I feel mild cramps but had this last month and was just AF on the way. Not due AF for another week, and only 7dpo so may not have even implanted yet! Also had really vivid nightmares last few days (woke up crying this morning!).

Never really know until AF arrives (or doesn’t). Doesn’t make the wait easier though!

I think I’m not very well hence why I think I’m probably out - waves of nausea and headache which was AF coming early last cycle when we started trying. I’m only 6dpo so won’t be pregnancy related.

I’m sorry to hear @HopeWish that you’ve had a rough night! I have ridiculously vivid dreams so I can empathise.

Morning ladies.

Oh god yeah, symptom spotting like a crazy lady and keep going back in my app from when I conceived my son and trying to remember how many DPO I felt things 🤣
I had ridiculously sore boobs almost immediately which is how I knew 100% I was pregnant last time, so in my heart I know if I don't feel the same then it's not my turn this month 🙁
I was getting vvvvv mild twinges and backache yesterday but if I wasn't a divinely TTC I would never have noticed.
Sorry you're feeling ropey - although even at 6DPO it could be pregnancy related. It's so hard to tell though.

@HopeWish I also had a crazy vivid dream last night!!! It was awful I was being followed by a random man on the street. Do you think vivid dreams mean anything?!

So glad i found this group as was convinced I'd have to start one, so brill!!! 😊 31yrs old ttc #1, PCOS, 34 months trying but cycle 8 of ovulation induction meds no more meds until August as appointment cancelled 😫 so really hoping this is THE month!!! 2dpo and will be testing 27/04. So looking forward to being on this journey with you ladies and best of luck to everyone 🌼🥂

Hi everyone

This is my first ever post (hope I am using it right!)

This is our first ever month ttc (together for 11 years and married for 6 years) I was on the pill for around 10 years but I think I'm been off for about a year, taking folic acid off and on and I have a 27/28 day regular cycle.

I'm finding the emotions so crazy as in one sense you think yeah this won't happen first time but in another thought it actually could.

I'm very grateful to Mumsnet forums for reassurance!

I'm 4dpo but we only managed sex twice during the fertile window so who knows what will happen I feel a bit different but it might all be in my head- tired, sickly, didn't fancy alcohol etc!

I'm a bit worried about being judged for getting pregnant during all of this.

How is everyone feeling today? What date are you planning to test?

I want to wait until AF is late but that seems so far! Due on 23rd April.

I forgot to saying im following SMEP

Hi @Snowberry4 and @serialplanner! Welcome. I’m due AF on 25 April so I suppose technically could still be ovulating but I’m about the start a run of night shifts so no sexy business for me! Wishing you both lots of luck xx

@Wineandrun good luck with the night shifts! At least it's at the end so all effort pre now is the main thing

Hi @Snowberry4

How are you finding SMEP? I am tempted to try it next cycle if this one doesn’t work out but DH has a fairly low sex drive so I am not sure how he would feel about it!

@serialplanner I know what you mean about emotions. I go through waves of “oh this is a symptom I must be pregnant!” To “don’t be silly it could be normal AF symptoms of course you aren’t PG” in about 5 seconds. I am only on month 2 and it is mentally exhausting but fun at the same time. I think I find the process exhilarating and exciting, I can’t explain it!

Aaand with the symptom spotting... still got cramps, really bloated and AF not due for a week. Although I do remember feeling this last month...argh the wait to test is unbearable!

I'm 1dpo, first month ttc coming off the pill on 23rd and after obsessively taking OPKs I'm not sure how I'm gonna cope not testing the next 14 days (I don't want to test until AF is due). Did BD two days before ovulation but doubt it's this month as I know it's very unlikely!

@wineandrun I'm also a night shift worker which makes this whole ttc thing more difficult as some evening we have 45 mins from husband coming in from work before I'm going out the door ☹ we pass each other whilst im driving home and hes off to work - I almost feel like saying leave me a sample for the morning at least that way I can get out of the horrid baby making sex that I'm never up for and can lay still after haha!

So I'm just going to come out and say this.... we're all in a ttc forum so there's no such thing as tmi in my eyes so I won't apologise in advance...!

Does anyone else struggle with baby making sex compared to just normal amazing spontaneous sex? I just find it's so not sexy by the time (in my case!) iv got a towel down, drawn up preseed or concieve plus lube like a junkie, got a mooncup, pillow and baby wipes on stand by and it's gotta be planned and done on demand. I just find it so clinical and unsexy and really feel for my poor husband bless him.
To all those who will say you just need to make it fun by dressing up, relax, dont overthink it, be spontaneous ( are you really on the same ttc journey I'm on?!) I'm sore for pretty much the ttc week as is he and it's rubbish knowing it's got to be planned and what the rest of the week holds in store.
The things we gotta do to have a baby right?!