3dpo and looking for TTC friends

[Lolliloo1234]

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

Hope everyone is doing ok?

I need some advice please what would you do about work given the current situation.

Current guidance states pregnancy is on the vulnerable group list and where possible should work from home.

I'm a teacher and our school guidance is to support working from home where possible or non contact duties.

When would you tell your employer? It seems so early but in the same way I don't want to put myself at any added risk.

Xx

Sounds lively @wineandrun!

Im nhs @justacouplettc but I'm having an early scan next week so if it's all OK I will probably tell my manager then. In theory before 28 weeks means you can still work even clinically with covid patients if need be, just with ppe. I'm more office based but we have close links to clinical areas so work might suggest I work from home (other pregnant staff are)
It doesn't make it easier though, but I think my contract says i have a duty to inform my employer if there is a risk (I work in radiation so have to tell them early on in some situations to be able to have a risk assessment done as the fetus is classed as a member of the public)

It’s so hard isn’t it, I work clinically in the NHS and there’s not a chance they will say that I don’t have to work, we can remain patient-facing until 28 weeks (and until
You go on mat leave in normal non corona times). I don’t want to tell them yet but I think I’m going to have to, the long shifts re already kicking my ass. There are always pregnant women in my job though and they all still Manage to work normally so I don’t want to appear ‘weak’!

I think in your situation @justacouplettc I would tell someone, if there is a chance you could work from home. We are at no more risk than anyone else from covid at this stage but no one wants to get it anyway, pregnant or not! I think physically the first 12 weeks are the hardest, so maybe you would be able to work from home now then go back to the school in your second trimester, especially if covid as calmed down?

Thank you @Sammyclaire22 @wineandrun I've just called and will be working from home until things change. It's so hard to not thing of letting others down but actually I need to be selfish and but my health first x

That's exactly what it was @Sammyclaire22 !!!! "I'll have one large pizza with liver and pineapple"

What did they say @Sammyclaire22? Glad they are looking after you!

I'm glad you are from home @justacouplettc... Remember it's not selfish, it's risk reduction. The advice is if you can wrok from home you should x

I think the joke was phoning up and asking if they do liver, then they say yes we deliver and then going round in circles. It's my step dad to bes humour lol as he actually does it to local takeaways.

Not said anything to work yet, I'm waiting on my early scan which is a week on Friday... Eek! Was hoping for it to be earlier as I will be over 6 weeks but they use the 28 day calc which puts me 6 weeks on the sat not the Thurs which I think I am x

How's everyone doing today?

@Lollilop1234 anxiously awaiting your return....hope you're doing ok

@Lolliloo1234 sorry!!!

I’m ok thanks, feeling a bit crap and had a stupid argument with my mum on the phone as I can’t just drop everything and race up the motorway to see her, as much as I would like to. Think I’m hormonal 😂 I just want life to be normal. I also feel like I’m living a lie by not thing anyone about my pregnancy! I told my manager who was fabulous but i has a socially distanced chat with my neighbours tonight who I get on really well with and I just want to shout it out loud, althouhh I also want to wait. Argh!!!!!

How about you @mrsmummy111? Sorry this board it turning into the place I just come to for a rant!

Oh please @Wineandrun rant away! It's quite therapeutic to unload to people who don't actually know you and won't judge you for being painfully honest! Do you have a best friend or siblings or something that you can tell? I found it so much easier once my best friend & sisters knew as DH just didn't have the same understanding and it meant whenever I wanted to just chat about it (eg all the time!) I could talk to them. Even just one person you're close to knowing may really help. I absolutely get it when people want to wait until 12 weeks but if it's killing you not talking to anyone about it then just tell one close person you can trust?

I'm on CD12 today and my 5th flashing smiley on the purple CB ovulation tests. Thinking I may get a static smiley tomorrow or CD14 and ovulate around 14/16 butttt who knows. We'll DTD every other day for the time being as don't want to overdo it, then once I get a static we'll DTD 3 days in a row and be done with it.

@mrsmummy111 Hi 👋 it’s me, back again, slight name change (I shut down my account for a bit but couldn’t get my exact name back) but still me 😂
I’ve been spending some time healing. I found it very difficult to be happy for anyone else for a week or two which was super selfish of me so I needed to hibernate whilst I became a nice person again.
Flashing smiley face day 2 for me, CD12. Ovulation may be Monday I dunno. Not DTD that much, just every other day until no more smiley faces. If it happens then great but if it doesn’t then it’s fine 😊 my body needs to heal mentally and physically so it’ll do it’s thing when the time is right.

Congrats too all those with BFPs 💐💐💐💐 looks like this is a lucky thread.

I’ll drop in and out from now on, back to work full time on Monday which is going to be one wild ride!

Lots of love to you all xxxx

Yayyyyyy! Welcome back @Lollieloo1234 !!! I've honestly been thinking about you and wondering how you're doing. Very strange considering you're a virtual stranger to me but I think this who's TTC journey is making me soft!

Ah well that will explain why I couldn't tag you before then.

By the way, that's not selfish. That's really really normal. I still feel happy when other people tell me they're pregnant, but I also feel deeply envious. I think if I went through what you did then I'd also have a very hard time trying to be happy for a while, but it'll be your turn soon and everything else will fade into the background.

I am now on day 6 of flashing smileys (CD 14) so I've either missed my peak (I don't always use FMU) or maybe I'm ovulating late / not ovulating this month. But we're DTD like normal and trying to stay relaxed. I think I overdid it last month and diluted DH's swimmers so trying a new tactic of (pretending to) go with the flow and just do it when he tries it on 🤣 Good luck back at work and keep us updated how you're getting on! Xx

@mrsmummy111 I doubt you’ve missed your peak. I’m convinced I ovulated last Sunday as I’m on Day 4 of flashing smileys CD14 but probs just my brain as I’ve ovulated CD16/17 before! I’m sure your static will come xxx

Nice to see you back @lollieloo1234, and as @mrsmummy111 said its not selfish at all. It's such a personal experience and I know I found it hard when I found out people were expecting even if I hardly knew them. I'd have no idea if they had a long or short ttc journey but it still doesn't make it easier as its a reminder of what you want and what you have lost. With my first I found out my best friend was due about a week before I would have been and even when I got pregnant again I still found it tough.

Fc for you @mrsmummy111.. Ive never used the clear blue as they sound too confusing for me! But dtd regularly should be all that's needed and if oh is getting it when he wants then everyone is happy lol!

Well I either didn't have a peak or I missed it by testing too late in the day, because I got 7 (I think?) flashing smileys and then today I got a negative and my temp also spiked this morn so I've got a feeling i ovulated yesterday. We didn't DTD yesterday but tbh, we DTD every day possible last month and still didn't catch it so I genuinely feel weirdly chilled about it. Ask me again in 10 days time though.....🤣

Hope you ladies are all enjoying the sunshine. Any update on static smiley @Lolliloo1234? Xx

@mrsmummy111 I think I may be in the same boat you know - Day5 flashing smiley face today and If I don’t get a static tomorrow I’ll just stop for this month. Very odd! You should test with first morning urine which I’ve been doing. No EWCM and I got some 2 days after my period last week so I could be completely topsy turvy after the MC. My boobs have been so sore this week to a point I did a pregnancy test which was negative. Hoping it signals imminent ovulation due to rise in oestrogen but who knows! I did a cheapy one this afternoon which was pretty strong so I’m going to DTD tomorrow night and then be done with it.
Don’t need the stress!! If it happens it happens right?!
I usually use Superdrug CB ones but this month I am using Amazon ones which have reported that some batches they send are fakes.

Which CD are you now @Lolliloo1234 ? It's CD16 for me so if DH tries it on tonight I'll oblige (because why not!! 🤣🤣) but then think I'll give it a rest after that. Like you say, if it happens it happens! Also you are super duper fertile immediately after MC so I'm hopeful for you that this will be your month. I've had a load of CM all week so I'm almost positive I've already ovulated just can't pinpoint when.

But there you go I guess. Another TWW awaits...

@mrsmummy111 I’m CD15 so I’m keeping everything crossed for a static tomorrow, I’ve ovulated on CD17 before but never later than that. However, when I wiped today I had a little bit of blood so I could be on my next cycle already. Honestly who knows?! I have no idea what my body is doing honestly. I usually get CM but none this week. I haven’t been temping but I probably should have done!

Any static smiley @Lollieloo1234 ?

@mrsmummy111 yep Static smiley today. But I’m also bleeding again so I have no idea what my body is doing. Brown blood and quite a lot today - perhaps ovulation bleeding but I dunno. Everything is a little bit muddled up.
I might DTD today or tomorrow but I think I’ll see what happens with the bleeding because if it turns into AF there’s no point.

Hi ladies, thought I’d check in and see how you’re all getting along as it’s been a while since we caught up!! Those of you already pregnant, hope it’s all going well for you!!!

Any more BFPs to share??

@Lolliloo1234 how’s everything going?

Hey @mrsmummy1111 how are you?
My emails don't seem to come through anymore for some reason. All OK my end, heading towards my 20w scan soon, still feels surreal. X

@mrsmummy1111 @mrsmummy111 @Sammyclaire22 @Wineandrun

Hey, Lolliloo here but with a slightly different name again!!
Just wanted to pop by and see how you guys were doing after all this time! My ttc journey wasn’t straight forward in the end and I have just finished IVF with a BFP. Early days and IVF babies are high risk but keeping the faith.

How’re you all doing? X

Hi ladies! @Sammyclaire22 @Bobblehatwobble

Sorry @Sammyclaire22 I seem to have completely missed your previous message. Really nice to hear from you both! How's your pregnancy going? You must be fairly far along now. Hope everything has been well so far and you and baby are both doing well.

@Bobblehatwobble I have been thinking about you! I had a feeling maybe things hadn't necessarily been smooth sailing but it's so great to hear things are finally looking up. I have a number of very good friends who went through IVF and I know it can be a very stressful and emotional experience, but I'm thrilled it seems to have worked so quickly for you! How are you feeling? When did you get your BFP?

I'm 16 weeks with baby #2 now. We had a bit of a scare at the 12w scan but thankfully everything is ok, other than that everything is good my end!

Please check in and share your updates ❤️ (you too @Wineandrun if you're still here!)