3dpo and looking for TTC friends

[Lolliloo1234]

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

So I caved and took a early response pregnancy test - there is a very very faint second line. I tried to take a photo to show you but it doesn’t show up so well. I think I’ve officially lost the plot. I’ve convinced myself I’m seeing things. I knew I shouldn’t have test. I’ll now wait until Thursday because I’ve only got one test left.

It’s very faint but I think this may be just the residual dye on the test.

Welcome everyone. I can honestly say that this forum has been a real comfort to me.

Omg @Lolliloo1234 please try to take a pic 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Please tell me if I’m being bonkers - it’s super super faint.

I’ve officially gone mad. Lol I’ve just clicked on the photo and looked at it again and I’m deffo losing the plot 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

@Snowberry4 I can promise you, you're not the only one who finds TTC completely unsexy and a total turn off. My husband & I have fallen out about it already and we are only on month 2, it just doesn't feel enjoyable or spontaneous in ANY WAY. And even if I tried to make it seem as though I'm really in the mood....my husband knows within 2 seconds and then he gets really turned off and it's all just a nightmare. Although I must admit we don't do anything differently in terms of lube / towels etc. We just have bog standard sex as we conceived that way last time and i think until it gets to the point where we feel like it's not happening and we don't know why, I'm gonna try to keep it as normal (lol normal) as possible.

Sorry if you've already said but how long have you been TTC?

Ok so I won't lie it took me a few seconds of staring and I also keep losing it 🤣🤣 but I see something just at the bottom that tends to fade further up. Is that what you see too?

Hey @HopeWish, how you doing? obviously hasn't worked so far just yet ( pcos being the issue) but I really think it's a good plan to follow to cover all bases and know you've covered most days. It is just hard work but isn't ttc in general right?! Husband had good sperm count when he got tested but that was after 5 days of holding it, so no idea how that works out if you dtd every over day for a little while then the 3 in a row miss a day then one more try. We really struggled with the 3 in a row but were see what happens I guess.
Has any health professional given you any advise as to what would be most beneficial for you both when ttc? Like eod or every 3 days ect? X

Yeah @mrsmummy111 that’s what I see and In the light it goes all the way up. Keep everything crossed for me!! And if AF shows up next Monday I will know that I am certifiable haha!

Sorry @HopeWish misread and thought you wrote low sperm count not low sex drive sorry hun. I have more drive then husband but I think he gets in the mood if he can see me enjoyin myself which is difficult when I'm really not whilst ttc. We both just feel we gotta job to do so just have to grin and bare it lol.

@Snowberry4 don’t worry about TMI - no such thing around women trying to have a baby! You are not alone on the conceiving thing, I try every trick in the book to try and make it less uncomfortable or mechanical which is exhausting. There have been so many tears and arguments with DP about it. My sex drive is higher anyway than his which causes issues but this has just added to it all.

@mrsmummy111 so glad to know I'm not alone! Ttc has caused many upsets on our journey too, certainly not easy or it? Are you in for a good chance this month or are you taking the relaxed approach? How do people have one night stands or oops babys when im over here temping, charting, planning, opk'ing, vitamin and supplementing and all other things ending in 'ing haha. Wheres the justice 😋 We've been trying 34 months and currently on cycle 8 of fertility meds and now I'm all out if this cycle doesn't work as my appointment got cancelled until July. So if this isn't our month at least we can begrudgingly take a break for a few months... ( not sure what's worse, the thought of more ttc sex or having to wait another 4 months to the in with a chance again) best of luck mrsmummy111 x

@lolliloo1234

I can see something really faint but too early to tell really atm! You are, what, 5/6 dpo? I don’t think any test will show a pos at that stage.
Everything crossed for you though!

Hello!
Joining as I'm on month 1 of ttc, I ovulate in 2 days, so still a few more opportunities to DTD.

Im 30,and have an 18 month little boy who's just the best!
We conceived the first month trying last time, and only had unprotected twice around ovulation time, so I'm hoping it's quick again for us!

Best of luck ladies, let's hope this month is our month!

@HopeWish I’m 6dpo but I have quite a short luteal phase (11 days normally) so you are probably right. Next cycle I will not be doing this early testing thing! I need a distraction - May have to get cleaning or something else equally time consuming!

I have to admit we don’t do baby making sex any differently, we just have sex, normally every other day/ every day if he’s lucky 😂 I purposely don’t tell my husband when I might be ovulating though and we have sex at least every other day anyway when I’m not on shift. I honestly don’t think how you have it will make any difference, as long as sperm is swimming up there you can’t do much else surely?

@Lollieloo I can’t see anything but I never can in pictures. I have everything crossed for you for a few days time though!!

@Lolliloo1234 sending lots of positive vibes and fingers crossed for you!

@Snowberry4 I definitely do not find it as sexy and my DH's sex drive is lower than mine.

I almost think gosh wouldn't it be easier at uni when you had sex 10 times a day everyday!

@Wineandrun what a hero for having sex so often as usual! We are not like at all. Definitely weekend sex people who then go a bit crazy on holiday etc. Makes me a bit nervous for the TTC journey as it's a breeding ground for arguments isn't it.

I always hoped I would "just see how it goes" but given we don't just have sex everyday/other day it's pretty much impossible not to try properly especially as period apps predict when you are ovulating etc.

Gosh this is all so werid! But good

Hi everyone,
I’m 33 and trying for our first baby. I’m 6dpo, I’ve been taking my body temp every morning for the last 3month, this month it seems all over the place. Not sure if stress is playing a part in it. Has anyone else found this?

Hi, I’m so pleased this group has taken off with so many people now. This TTC malarkey is tough going and deffo not as simple as I first thought that’s for sure!

@Suki2020 have you been taking your temp at the same time each day?

Hi yeah I take my temp roughly same time everyday, maybe 15mins different at weekends

@Suki2020 Hi! Do you use a particular app? I use natural cycles and take my temp using an oral nasal thermometer every day but it says as long as you take it immediately after waking up and you've had a decent amount of sleep then it doesn't have to be the exact same time (its roughly the same time for me, but obviously the baby gets me up early sometimes!) x

It’s so nice having ladies to chat to about it rather than my other half that has no idea what I’m talking about half the time
Does anyone else use charts to see when they ovulate?

@mrsmummy111 yeah I use an oral thermometer every morning as soon as I wake up and before I get out of bed. I use the app fertility friend

I use a different app but it does track your ovulation and tells you which days are your most fertile - it was 100% accurate when we conceived my son and we got it on the first try, but of course that's also a lot of luck. As every pregnancy is! It lets you enter info such as CM, OPKs etc and tells you months in advance when you're "likely" to ovulate and when your most fertile days are based on that.

@Suki2020 would you recommend it?