TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in 2020!

🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧

[Morganmom]

Woke up and temp dropped to 97.99 so I’m out! I was so devastated and my husband too but then we talked and went to church and I realized I have a great life with many blessings ! Just gonna look forward to next month!!

[Shefliesonherownwings]

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry. It's completely understandable to feel uncertain about what to do. I know none of us can help you decide but it might help to take a break for a little while and see how you feel. @MrsMGEs suggestion about Tommys is a good one, I've heard nothing but good things about them from people on the Sands forum.

@Ejb86 I use Flo and Premom plus OPKs. I used Flo when trying to conceive DD and it was pretty accurate. My CM has tied in with Flos predictions this month as did my OPKs where as Premom predicted I'd ovulate today but I'm pretty sure I ovulated on Thursday or Friday. I'm trying to go more with my CM and the OPKs as a marker. Looks like I'm now in the 2WW so we'll see how things go this week. Love to everyone.

[Mumlili9]

Thank you for your support ladies.

Well I spent the morning on the phone with gynaecology trying to figure out why I still have not received an appointment for the hysteroscopy yet. No joy.
So to cheer myself up I went and got my ears pierced. Didn't hurt as much as I expected.
Still waiting for the bleeding to start now I'm currently 17dpo and boobs are still so so sore but tests negative. Why is the waiting forever.

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

Is temp drop so definitive @Morganmom?

Oh @Mumlili9 I’m sorry you’re a little in limbo. Getting your ears pierced is a lovely thing to do to cheer yourself up. Mum mum pierced my ears when I was about 1 so I didn’t know any different 😂

[LyKelly98]

Hello,
Can I join this group? I had my 3 rd miscarriage on new years eve 2019, found out I was pregnant on boxing day. So now Im waiting for AF to show up, I would assume in the next week. Drs are now taking me seriously as I have had no live children and have given me progesterone perscription to take as soon as I find out im pregnant next, as I may have a hormone inbalance. Im due to get bloods done on the 13th to see if I have any other issues, but Im worried I could be pregnant again. This morning I only had tender breasts and now my whole breast and nipples are killing me. Also took an ovulation test and the line is pretty dark considering I should be getting my period in the next few days. And last week a line was barely there. Im not sure what to think.

Im so sorry to hear of everyone elses losses and struggle concieving. Was never taught any of this in school and was always raised with the thought "you have sex, you get pregnant and have a baby"...wow that couldnt be further from the truth
Xxx

[MissSparkles81]

Ive just sat and read through the thread. I am so sorry to everyone who is experiencing losses at the moment. Sending you all the biggest of hugs.

Thanks for the good luck vibes @BunnytheBlueWhale ... we managed a successful babydance at the weekend but sadly its too far away from ovulation to count. Im due to ovulate on Saturday I think going by last months opk's. Hoping our good luck continues and we manage another successful one in the next few days xx

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

You never know @MissSparkles81 and I always think it’s good to get some baby dancing in before fertile week so he gets some fresh swimmers in for when it matters😬😂🙈

[MissSparkles81]

@bunnythebluewhale ... I just hope that he can perform when it does matter 🤦‍♀️

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

@MissSparkles81 I hope so too! Try not to think about it too much. I get anxious around FW and then end up falling out with DH just because of the pressure I put on myself and him 🤞

[Morganmom]

@BunnytheBlueWhale usually temp is but now I’m not sure! Temping can be complicated and now mine went back up. Usually when it drops for sure AF is right behind it! I dunno now but 11DPO I felt safe and I checked a FRER and BFN. My body is all over the place!!

[Mumlili9]

Sorry to keep ranting about me ladies but I'm so frustrated.

I've had near negative test now for four days so I'm definitely going to mc but it's taking its sweet time. I thought Monday the bleeding would start because my temp dropped way down but went back up again today with still not a hint of spotting or active bleeding. What do you think I should do to hurry things along this waiting is breaking me. DH is pretty much ignoring the fact that it's happened at all (I had to tell him in the end because of the lack of a period, he's not stupid he can count the days since the positive opk) everytime I mention it he gets busy or changes the subject but it's hard to say what I'm feeling to him as he's aspergers (high functioning autistic) and does not really do emotions that arn't his own. He can't understand my emotions and just tends to ignore conversations that he's not interested in ( he literally just walks away) it's not his fault and he's not doing it on purpose. Most of the time I can deal with it, but right now I need him to be sensitive to my needs and feelings but it's just not going to happen, the most important thing for him at the moment is getting to work and getting his work stuff sorted everyday. I wish I could shut off my feelings like that and just focus on mundane day to day stuff

OK rant over sorry again xx

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

@Morganmom It’s so confusing isn’t it. I started symptom spotting yesterday so need to not do that!

@Mumlili9 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Men deal with things differently from us. It’s not an excuse and not ok but I think they just try to be practical and get on with things, which is tough on you when you’re the one who doesn’t know what your body is doing. I don’t know what to suggest. Is it something you could speak to your GP or EPU about? I expect their advice might be to wait xx

[Morganmom]

@Mumlili9 yes my husband asked me same questions over and over because that’s his way of dealing with it. I’m sorry you have to carry so much. I wish There weren’t so much heartache in this whole process.
@bunnythebluewhale I don’t know wtf with my temps! They r usually so reliable. I am at the point where I am AF just come pit me out my misery.

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

@Morganmom A change in your body good be good news but you need a distraction! It’s so hard to get stressed with TTC and the 2WW and all the other letters of the alphabet 😂

Sorry, I’m exhausted and probably not making any sense now...

[Mumlili9]

Ladies I'm so scared. So after waiting for 5 days since the near negative test. I had one or two spots of red blood first thing this morning and assumed this was it the bleeding has started. But nothing came of it so because I'm a poas freak I took an easy@home hpt and the line came up darker then the ones I took 6 days ago. So ran to the shops and got cb double check pack. Both positive and when I took the digi when I took the frer that was the most positive (before the near negative the next day) it said not pregnant two days in a row. I'm terrified it's an ectopic pregnancy. I'm so head f**d right now. I've got bloods tomorrow. Also I keep spotting red every few hours. I'm going crazy if this is real its the slowest hcg rise I've ever known. I'm 19 dpo now so most tests should show a blazing line by now. I'm totally sure of my dates coz I temp. Have any of you ever known this and if it ever turned out with a healthy baby. Oh also my temps have gone back up too.

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

@Mumlili9 I haven’t had this so not sure what to suggest but didn’t want to read and run. I take it you’ve got an appointment tomorrow so can be checked out to make sure it’s nothing untoward like an ectopic. Have you had an ectopic before? I would love for this to be just a late BFP for you. Keep us updated if you feel up to it xx

[tmc14]

@Mumlili9 I’m so sorry it’s been so stressful for you. I don’t know what it could be, but I’m keeping everything crossed for you for tomorrow. If you’re worried it’s an ectopic and it’s causing you lots of stress, could you go to A&E tonight? x

[MissSparkles81]

@Mumlili9 I also didn't want to read and run but like the others I am not sure either. Hopefully at your appointment today they will be able to give you some advice. Good luck xx

[Russkispy]

@Mumlili9 I hope you get answers at your appointment today! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

[MrsG3]

@Mumlili9 🤞🏻 for your appointment today, hope they can give you some advice xx

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

Thinking of you today @Mumlili9

[Timeforanamechangeagain1]

I really don't know what it can be @mumlili but I have all my fingers crossed for you

[Morganmom]

@Mumlili9 I’m glad you have bloods today. I don’t know exactly what this is either but I prayed for you that this is BFP just showing later !

[Avocuddles]

@Mumlili9 just wanted to let you know I've been praying / crossing my fingers for you. Hope you have some clear (and positive) answers x

[MissSparkles81]

So stark blazing positive opk this morning and a solid smiley on clearblue ... BF had taken today off totally unplanned so we tried a babydance this morning and sadly it didnt go to plan. We did manage to try artificial insemination so hoping that works - bf didnt actually think I was crazy as I just kind of sprung it on him.

Can't believe I am posting this 🤦‍♀️ thank god for anonymity 😂😂