TTC awhile now

[BFP2020]

Hey, I've started a more broad thread this month rather than a bus so we can keep it going rather than starting new ones every month.

Here are my stats
TTC no 2 (2 years to have no 1 but we weren't actively trying and I knew nothing about my cycle and DTD not so often)
Cycle 12
AF/BFP 12th Jan
Age 30

Feel free to tag some more @tamalala @Sunflower2019 @ceebee21

[ablisha]

@Tamalama I'm due Monday so we're in this together! Fingers are crossed for us!
I keep having dreams about pregnancy!

[Tamalama]

@ablisha yep fingers crossed for us both! 🤞

@Hola84 how are you getting on?

[Tamalama]

I'm 7dpo today, I've had a headache since Friday, but thankfully they've not been as severe as Friday's one.
I was badly constipated all day Monday and most of Tuesday, but Tuesday evening I had a lot of loose stools (tmi!)
My boobs were a bit sore yesterday and they're a bit sore today. I've woken up with some mild af cramping and backache that comes in waves and some ovary twinges... I'm sure I have the same symptoms every month but I seem to forget them 🤦‍♀️ I don't recall having af cramping at such 7dpo though, it usually starts a few days later...

[Hola84]

@Tamalama, hey, ah poor you with all the headaches! I'm okay, the bleeding was only for few hours, and not a lot of it really (it was brownish, Def not red). No other symptoms to date apart from a A LOT of cramping. I don't recall having that each month for such a long time before AF so here's a hope X only two days left to Friday when it's due. I'm so tempted to do the test though !!!! X

[BFP2020]

Update : Hey everyone I'll have to try catch up on the chat tomorrow didn't have a minute today. Very busy in work took a half day because I had my gynaecologist app. He has advised I have secondary infertility. He has also advised I need to get a laparoscopy and a dye test through my Fallopian tubes to see is there anything effecting the sperm meeting the egg! I have health insurance so I have to ring tomorrow and see will they cover it if so I could be getting it done as early as this month 🤞🏼 it will be something easy and that they can fix and I can get pregnant soon xx

[Hola84]

@BFP2020, secondary infertility? I had no idea this is a proper medical thing! Great that you know now and can get this sorted so quickly! Good luck xxx

Just an update, period due tomorrow, cramps are gone, but now I have the lower back pain, my major symptom of af. #herewegoagain xx

[Tamalama]

@BFP2020 ahh fingers crossed for you that they get it all looked into very quickly! 😊

@Hola84 I hope af stays away 🤞

I'm 8dpo, got some pelvic pain on the right side and my lower back felt like it was on fire earlier on today. I had some quite sharp pelvic pains yesterday but they were on the left side, so who knows. Af due on Tuesday so I guess I'll know around then. I feel like the af symptoms are starting so I won't be surprised if I do come on 😕☹️

[sportyfanatic]

I hope I'm alright to post, as I've been mainly a watch-er not necessarily a post-er.

I've found the mumsnet groups to be so helpful when trying to conceive. It's a really hard process and I think all of you do amazingly carrying on with day to day life, I found it completely consumed me really quickly, and I never thought that would be me.

TTC #1
29 yrs old, husband 32 yrs old
Cycle 9 over Christmas
Finally got the BFP this Jan! So we are very excited!!

I don't want to make anyone feel worse if they're trying and it hasn't happened for them yet. IT WILL.

All I wanted to say is:

• Don't underestimate how tired you get whilst TTC and how physically prepared a little egg needs to be. It's alright to sit and think and get emotional about when it's going to happen, that's not a bad thing that doesn't suddenly mean it won't happen/that it's making you stressed and therefore it won't implant. I'm a hard working professional with a long commute and sometimes up to 12 hour days, that crams WAY too much into my day even once I get home. I'm all about not wasting time and getting 6.5 hours sleep. It probably happened to me this month, because I slept >8 hours for two weeks solid and long may this continue. It's completely forced me to think differently about what actually growing a little person means. I now treat sleeping as if I would doing exercise/shopping, I just don't do stuff that's not important if I can't fit it in. Being physically tired could apply to any mum to be out whether she's working or not, or is trying to just do too much.
• DTD: lets face it, get rid of all the other stuff you can do to get pregnant: vitamins, BBTs, exercise, diet. If you're not DTD enough, it's just not going to happen is it?? We had some months when on reflection, we just didn't try enough times in the given frame because we were busy or we weren't actually near each other because either one of us was away. You need to make time for it as much as you would shopping/exercise/eating at the right time.
• Ovulation kits: I just paid the money for Clearblue - I know they are SOO expensive, but blimey you'll spend a fortune when the kid eventually arrives anyway right? For the first 7 months we haven't been using them, I figured I'd be fine but actually my ovulation date has moved in that time by about a week so, bizarre? Totally don't regret buying those, you feel in control, you know you've DTD when the egg will be around at least - and leave the rest to nature.

I drank more alcohol this Christmas than I probably have all year. Ate as well as I normally did, took the usual vitamins, used the usual Conception plus gel. I was doing quite vigorous exercise (netball) as implantation was occurring which gives me confidence I can continue exercising for as long as possible! Oh and I had no symptoms that I was pregnant that was any different to PMS symptoms I've had before. They are so similar for me its crazy, so no point symptom spotting or any of the other things you're suppose to check because nothing really gives you that absolute answer like a positive pregnancy test. Now I have all my fingers crossed that the first trimester goes smoothly.

Don't give up hope - so much baby dust to you all!

[Hola84]

@sportyfanatic, many thanks for the encouragement, and huge congratulations!!! So so pleased for you, good luck with the pregnancy! When's your due date? How are you feeling? X

[Hola84]

Hey ladies, how are you doing? My period was due yesterday, nothing yet, but my ovulation was 3 days late, so I guess af will be too? Haven't done the test yet 😬

[Tamalama]

@sportyfanatic congratulations!

@Hola84 I'm 11dpo and now feel the usual af cramps. She's due on Tuesday so I imagine she's on her way. I was convinced I'd done enough this month, dtd at the right time and doing dry January but I don't think this is my month. Tomorrow will be a year since I started to miscarry, so I'm not in the best of moods either 😕 I did a cheap test yesterday which was negative. I've got quite a few test strips so maybe I'll take one later. I imagine if you did ov 3 days late then af due date will be later than you first thought?

How is everyone else doing?

[Hola84]

@Tamalama, ah sorry to hear you're feeling down today :((((( Same here, af arrived this morning. This month its particularly hard as we dtd every day around the ovulation day which I knew was happening as i had positive OPKs. so disappointing. Even more so as this month we're away to see family so won't be able to dtd in the fertility window X take care and hope you feel better soon x

[Johnnybegood2]

I've decided to bite the bullet and go and see the doctor. Got an appointment booked for this Wednesday. Not really sure what to expect, if anyone has some experience they can share that would be much appreciated.

Been trying since Nov 2018, finding it all a bit of a chore now tbh and it's starting to effect how I feel about baby dancing in general :(

[Kataa]

Hi @johnnybegood2
I’ve been through all the testing and am happy to answer any questions.
I went to the gp with my partner after over a year of unprotected sex and a further 6 months of active trying with ovulation tests etc.
She asked us about how long we’d been trying, whether I was taking folic acid and then sent us off for tests. The first tests were done through the gp and had to be done before we could be seen at the fertility clinic at the hospital. I had blood tests for ovulation, thyroid, blood count etc. and also had an ultrasound done. My partner had a sperm analysis, which he had to get a specific form for and book a time to ‘deposit’ it at the hospital, that took a while as there weren’t many appointments available.
Once the gp tests were done I was sent an appointment for a hycosy and after that given an appointment to see the fertility consultant.
Hope that helps, the process probably varies from place to place but the tests are likely to be similar. Let me know if you have any questions! 😊

[Johnnybegood2]

@kataa Thank you :)

[BFP2020]

@sportyfanatic thank you for sharing your journey and congrats 🥳

@hola84 sorry to hear AF showed remind me what cycle are you on now?

@tamalama I hope AF stays away 🤞🏼🤞🏼 sorry to hear your feeling shitty just remember it will happen 😘

I'm currently in the spa relaxing 😎 waiting for my therapist for my massage 💆‍♀️
I am able to go private for my Laparoscopy and dye test but it will still be March before I get an appointment. So for now I'm chilling with the TTC we will still DTD around FW but I'm not expecting anything to happen and I hope to get answers! In other news we have decided on a venue and date to get married so loads to keep me busy 😍 xx I'll still be on checking in everyday and updating on any progress with my appointment xx

[Tamalama]

12dpo- I'm laying on my bed with a hot water bottle on my tummy, gritting my teeth through the usual god awful period pains. I've not come on yet, af due tomorrow and I know it's on its way, regular as clockwork 😕☹️

[Tamalama]

@Hola84 I'm sorry that af arrived, it sucks doesn't it? ☹️😕 x

[Tamalama]

Morning everyone. I've not come on yet (due on today) but before I do I suffer with intense bowel cramps, constipation and contractions type pain. These started last night but have eased off but all along my lower abdomen and c section scar it feels extremely tender and sore, like it’s bruised. It’s hurting constantly at the moment and I can hardly move. 

I have strong prescribed painkillers to try and keep the pain at bay but it’s not working. I’ve also been using hot water bottles overnight to try and relieve the pressure.

I know I’ll need to get it checked out next month once my period has finished to rule things out but I was just wondering if anyone has experienced the same thing. I find that once I have a motion the bowel pain eases considerably and that's usually when my period arrives....

[BFP2020]

@Tamalama I suffer with that too I'm either constipated or I get diarrhea I don't get the pain around my scar tho 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Tamalama]

@BFP2020 it's awful isn't it? The pain is also just above my scar and it's more intense there rather than along the scar. X

[BFP2020]

@Tamalama what we go through is so bad like 🙈 I'm going to try Accupuncture I've my first app tomorrow the lady I'm going to see has had so much success so 🤞🏼 have you tried anything like that?

[ablisha]

@Tamalama was due on yesterday and have woken up with diarrhoea and sickness. I've had three BFN so I'm definitely linking it to my period starting. I only came off the pill end of October but I've never had anything like this before!

[Tamalama]

@ablisha how are you feeling now?

@BFP2020 I've not tried acupuncture, I'm a bit scared of needles 😂 let me know how it goes.

So af has properly arrived so that's me out for this month even though we dtd at the right times and I did dry January. I'm going to ring the gp tomorrow to make an appointment for next week about my cramping and pains.

[ablisha]

Sickness stopped at 2pm. I think I just have a huge period coming - I've had 2 'ok' periods since coming off the pill so feel the real deal is on its way. I also have really bad lower back pain.
Tests still BFN. 🤷🏻‍♀️ how are you all ladies