Too many threads and looking for friends to go through the TTC journey

[jenna30]

Hi guys

Not sure about anyone else but i have found that that i have tried posting on various threads and sometimes your own post gets really lost which can be slightly disheartening. I thought i would start this thread for anyone who has just started their TTC journey and together we can share our thoughts and experiences.... i do ask that (not to be mean) that this thread is only for people who have just started their TTC journey to avoid disappointment for people who are way into their journey and who may be experiencing different things. My own story is that i came of the pill in September and have yet to get my BFP. I got my first positive on Saturday just gone and now im 1dpo. Be great to hear from anyone in a similiar boat! Xx

@hannah17381 yay I'm hoping it doesn't take too long either - this is intense and I'm only on cycle #1!! Xx

@carrot88 @hannah17381 welcome!!
My cycles are normally regular but last month it was abnormally long. So my Flo cycles were off a bit, hence using OPKs. However, Flo still managed to predict my ov day as I was expected to ovulate today and got my positive OPK last night. It may be off by a day or so but it is easier to know for sure that the app is correct.
Having said that, I find OPKs super confusing and a bit of hassle. I knew I had ovulation coming as I had ewcm so I started testing twice a day. Yesterday afternoon it was negative and then last night it was positive so it can be a bit of a faff.
Sending baby dust to you both!!

.....how do people track?
I have used OPKs and BBTs before, but want to be a bit more relaxed this time.... At least to start with.... I think part of the lack of success before was stressing/obsessing.....
However, I do think an app would be good. But what? Help me!!

I’ve attached my OPKs over the last 24 hours (ish). It must be so easy to miss your peak!
I got my darkest positive today at 1:30pm (darker than control line) and then by 5:30 it was slightly lighter.
Now I’m stumped with when I can say my Ovulation day is? Tomorrow?
I’m only so concerned as we can BD tonight but not tomorrow ☹️ And I also want to know for the TWW as we have been very active this week and I’m feeling hopeful! 😂

Got some good news today. I had my sonogram done and, hooray!, my uterus is PERFECT! And I am, in fact, ovulating. I still need to schedule the colonoscopy but I'm good and just waiting for my AF to arrive so we can start again.
My doc feels like I went wonky because, in my depression from the last loss, I went off track with keeping my Endometriosis diet so this is a flare. I'm getting back on track TODAY!

I hope everyone one else is doing well in their journey as well.

@Swife that’s amazing news!! I’m so happy for you! I bet you must feel so relieved. When is AF due?

@FirsttimeTTC Thanks, I feel so much better about things. Well since my OBGYN did confirm that I ovulated, and I know my LutealPhase is 14 days when my cycles are normal, I expect to start on the 23rd. It puts me at a 39 day cycle. My normal is 28-29days! But my doc says it should be back to normal once I get back on my Endometriosis diet and my fitness track.
How have things been going for you?☺️

@Swife at least this long cycle is coming to an end soon and that you know everything’s all good to get BDing next cycle! It must be so reassuring to have a dr so helpful! A year ago I was suffering massive pains throughout my cycle and had been for over a year then. My drs were not much help! They told me time and time again it couldn’t be my coil as it was in the right place but I had my coil removed and had instant relief.

All good here! Had my positive OPK today/last night so I’m going to dtd again tonight (can’t tomorrow) and then we’ve done all that we can! I already know this TWW is going to be a LONG wait and I’ll be POAS all the time. I really want to wait until at least 12dpo but will probably only make it to 10dpo.

That’s good swife.
I’m finding folic acid is upsetting my stomach and making me bloat, anyone else?

@FirsttimeTTC YEESSS! Since it had been now 3 off cycles, I had been getting very worried that I may bee premenopausal 🤔. So it is a huge relief that we didn't have to start that discussion 💆🏽‍♀️. DH can breath better to he's always concerned about my health. Especially while TTC and my health history. GGIRRLLL!!! THAT TWW IS THE WORST😫! But I I believe that you can at least make to 10dpo🤞🏽😂.

@peachypetite thanks ☺️. I find that ginger, in any form, is good along peppermint(hard candy or tea) and Apple Cider Vinegar works. I don't like the taste of the ACV but the other two are my go to. Hope you find relief.

@Swife aw bless your DH, he sounds like a great support and it must be comforting to know he really has your back.
I know don’t even get me started! I think I definitely ovulated yesterday, OPKs are a definite negative today (never had such a faint line!) and I had a little bit of cramping. So I am officially 1dpo. 9 days at least until I can test. I already feel impatient haha. ITS HORRIBLE!

@jenna30 @MrsH0692 hey girls! And welcome to all the new ladies, I am finding it hard to go through all the messages and keep up to date with everyone! But just wanted to see if anyone has had any good signs of pregnancy through the 2 week wait? Me and my partner were trying religiously over Christmas and no joy! Because my cycles are quite long (33-44 days) this month we are going to try as soon as my period has ended which is hopefully today. (we have been trying from around a week after my period the last couple of months so I am hoping this new way might make a difference!) Do use all track your discharge? I am struggling to determine what is Egg White and what isn't...every month 1 day (tends to be on a night) i have a lot of discharge - wondering if this is my ovulation day but the sticks havent necessarily matched this? Anyone else experience this? Wishing use all luck though! Its nice to speak to people who have been trying for a similar time as its easy to stress (from my own experience being the most impatient person living haha!) @FirsttimeTTC @peachypetite @Lucy5546*@mimmi91 @EithneBlue* @fioney25 @NCON - tagging use all so I don't miss anyone out (sorry if I have!) x

@FirsttimeTTC I'll hold you 🤝 to help you be more patient 😀.

@Vikki9 it's funny that you mention tracking CM. I have and I never notice any EWCM. It always gets just to watery🤔 is that bad. Maybe that's why my doc has me taking Vitamin E vaginally. Come to think about it my cervix does not follow the norm either. Which I why I stopped using them both to track. I'm going to add back in my temping with my OPKS.

Anyone else have this issue?

Hi @vikki90 why are you waiting a week after your period has ended? I think it’s best to start a couple of days after it ends so you are building up to that ovulation day:
Sperm can live for up to 7 days inside a woman's body. So if you've had sex in the days before ovulation, the sperm will have had time to travel up the fallopian tubes to "wait" for the egg to be released.

@Swife @peachypetite I have been using the ovulation kits and my high days tend to be after 14 days (think because my cycles are longer) and because I dont have really any discharge the week after my period we kind of didnt want to 'burn out' (I think I ovulate later - like day 20 +) but I could be totally wrong....but maybes this is where I have been going wrong. Its crazy I personally spent 13 years trying not to get pregnant and when you actually start to try its alot harder than you think! x

@hannah17381 just read your message - I use the Flo app, its good for tracking cycle lengths etc so worth a download :-)

@Vikki90 Thankyou!! Had seen that mentioned, might give it a go....

@Vikki90 Hey lovely.

So I’m CD 27, AF was due today but no sign as of yet!! I keep getting these waves of feeling horrifically nauseas and then it passes but other than that, no symptoms. BFN this morning when I tested. So so so hoping this is our month, I’m never usually late with my AF, if anything I’m early. But we shall see, not getting my hopes up!
How are you feeling? All good I hope xxx

@MrsH0692 Ooo I have my fingers crossed for you!! The waiting part is the worst, but everyday you don't come on is a positive! I can normally tell when I am due on (less discharge etc - I have read when you get pregnant the discharge stays?) How long have you been trying? I am good, better today - I joined the chat the other day as I had came on and was feeling frustrated and a bit sad so it was nice to find this chat with other people in the same boat (makes me get my realistic head back on) but I am feeling back to myself now and thinking positive! :-) xxx

@Vikki90

That’s another weird thing, TMI but I’ve still got a lot of discharge!! So my story.. I got married in September, stopped taking my pill about June time as I wanted to prep my body almost. So we’ve been DTD unprotected for quite a while but actually started actively “trying” after the wedding. So this is my 4th cycle I think? How about you?

These chats do help I agree as you don’t feel like you’re completely alone. People I have thought would Be fully supportive of me in my life have been a bit like stop trying so hard, be more chilled... very easy for people to say when they only have to look at a penis and get pregnant haha! So I agree it’s nice to be on here with like minded lovely people and hear other people’s experiences xxx

@MrsH0692 awww well this is positive, so thats exactly the same as me - came off in June and we have been trying since October...(congratulations on the wedding!!) :-) so this is my 3rd Cycle!

Yes totally, and my best friend got pregnant in the first month of trying and I am like my god why is it taking me 'so long' - feels long to me anyways! Its nice to get a bit of reassurance - I am an over worrier anyways and always think the worst! Really hoping you get that BFP!! xxx

@Vikki90 fingers crossed!

It does feel like ages because you want it so much, and wait for it every single month! Xx

@Vikki90 well hello its nice to hear from you. Oh btw i have slightly changed my name from Jenna30. Im currently at a spa relaxing so l've finally got a minute to myself to respond (i have avoided using my phone all day, defeats the purpose of relaxing and being at a spa if I'm using my phone 😂). I am exactly the same as you i thought i had ewcm a few days ago but i don't think it was. Me and DH dtd the day before so i think it was due to that. I haven't noticed any ewcm since i came off the pill in September and like you I just have an odd day where its watery. I have been testing using opk tests but i still haven't had a positive yet so we have been dtd every other day. My cycle is around 30 days long and last cycle I got a positive on opk on cd15 but this cycle nothing yet. I have been mega stressed this month so could be delayed because of that. Either way im just going to continue dtd every other day and see what happens. Good luck xx

Btw girls i have slightly changed my name from jenna30. 😂 @peachypetite @FirsttimeTTC @EithneBlue @NCON @Vikki90 still the OP. Sorry if i have forgot anyone there is quite of a few people to tag!

@Vikki90 i am an over worrier too and at times when i have felt really low i think ill never conceive! And thats it just mot meant to be for me. Sounds so silly as i haven't even been of the pill that long. Its bonkers really. Since i came of the pill in September i have had three people i know announce that they are pregnant and thats when it gets tough and i begin thinking something is wrong with me because everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant straightaway!!