Being unrealistic with myself

[ScaredFlamingo]

Wondering if anyone else experienced this... I am already setting unrealistic expectations for myself. I had my coil out 2 weeks ago, had sex maybe twice since and for some reason am disappointed I am not pregnant ... any tips on how to not do this to myself??

@ScaredFlamingo I felt a bit like that, I'd say hold off at least till 11/12DPO if you can. Fingers are crossed for you.
My OH and I were talking and I completely forgot that he started struggling to cum (TMI) and the only time he did was the day I got the positive ovulation test which meant I ovulated the next day..... so all it takes is the once.

Going alright went to my doctors yesterday and got an appointment with the midwife on the 17th March when I'll be approx 8/9weeks so exciting but also feels ages away. Nausea is getting worse each day, only actually been sick like twice but keep getting little sick burps so I don't doubt it will pick up more yet, i don't mind though because it's a good sign. Although did have a fright yesterday because I saw on another site someone saying something about strong HCG levels early on could point to twins and my tests got strong quite quickly haha.

@27andcounting oh interesting.. we only had sex once in my fertile period and by my count if should have been the day before I ovulated. I’m trying not to overthink it but right now I feel nothing haha! If you google it though everyone says they had symptoms at like 6dpo onwards ...! My Mum did say she didn’t have a clue she was pregnant until 2 weeks after her period was due, so fingers crossed there’s still a chance.

March seems so far away?! Can you get an early scan? This is a problem with ttc because you find out so early haha!
Oh god... twins?! Haha! At least you get 2 for price of 1 😉 ...! Sorry to hear you feel so sickly but like you say; it’s all good signs. I’ve heard ginger tea helps.
How did you tell your partner?

@ScaredFlamingo exactly just hold out as long as you can. Still early doors.

I know it seems forever away I was talking to my OH and think we're going to book in an early scan for like 2 weeks time.
I know I wouldn't mind too much but one would be plenty for now ahah, I feel like I know loads of people having twins at the moment so it's weird.
I just Burt our crying so he came to investigate and saw me holding the test so not very exciting but I've just bigger plans for telling my dad and his mum and dad. The only other person I have told is my sister and it's literally because I don't have my mum anymore so I've really needed someone to talk to and she's got a little girl already.

@27andcounting Yea, I just hate this waiting.

Aww that’s quite cute to be honest... I think if I get pregnant and tell my partner he’s gonna freak haha! He’s onboard but I think the reality will kick him lol!
I would def get the early test if you can!! I couldn’t wait as long as that haha!

@ScaredFlamingo To be honest I hate keeping it I'm so wouldn't of been able to keep it from him long enough to plan anything. 🙈 I've treated ya to 1 item and that's it u too any scans and it's only cause it was in the dale too much to reset... just a little winter bodysuit 😂 I'm so bad. Early scan is booked in for the 5th March though.

How are you getting one? Given in yet?

@27andcounting haha I would likely do the same to be honest!!

I did a test at 10dpo but it was like in the evening and I thiiiiiink I saw a super faint line but it could have been my eyes deceiving me so I’m going to get some tests and do one tomorrow morning. I had really bad heartburn last night but other than that and the dull aches, I’m not really feeling very pregnant haha!

@ScaredFlamingo literally my test at 10DPO was so faint I couldn't be sure.... I've attached it. Could barely make it out.

Not wanting to get you hopes up too much but basically the same symptoms as me and I never got a implantation bleed so who knows!

@27andcounting Fingers crossed... I’m away this weekend but I may do a test when we’re back. I don’t expect it to be BFP but everything crossed it is!

How’s the nausea?

@27andcounting I tested this morning and BFN, so just waiting game for AF now!

@ScaredFlamingo oh no :( that sucks. Least when she comes it will be a new cycle.

Nausea isn't too bad at the moment but always seems worse when I'm at work which sucks. I'm can't wait for my early scan on the 5th seems to be so long away 😩

Exactly! It’s a shame because I’m feeling a bit off last couple of days so thought maybe this could be it but never mind, I’ve only been trying 1 cycle since my fibroid came out so I’m not worried yet!
Had a dizzy and nauseous moment and I’ve got sinus pressure and weirdly my cramps have stopped since Friday lol!

It’s not too long now!! Nearly there!! You can do thiiiis!! Bet nausea at work is because you know you’ve still got 7.5 months until maternity leave haha!

@27andcounting I’m 3 days late but far too nervous to test and convinced she’s coming, just late....

How are you?

@ScaredFlamingo omg I co portent spaced on that last message sorry :(
Oh that must be so nerve racking you going to try and wait it out? How long till you might test again?

I said the same to my other half about nausea at work. Worst part is it keeps waking me up and I really want to wake him up so he can suffer too haha.
Never thought so much about everything that I eat.

That was means to say completely spaced

@27andcounting I did a test this morning and as I wiped there was AF... my body is evil.

Haha! I’d be the same!!

I've just read your post OP and wanted to say i know how you feel. It took us a year from coming off the pill to getting my bfp and it was horrible, every time af showed up i was so upset, it totally took over my life. Now have a healthy 14 month old DD. I know everyone says this but for us it was the cycle I stopped stressing about it that it happened so try to relax. Also remember it is totally normal for a healthy couple to take up to a year to fall pregnant. I read somewhere that getting pregnant is like playing golf for the 1st time. If everyone stands in the same spot and tries to hit a ball in a hole 5 meters away some might be lucky and get it in 1st or 2nd time but a lot of people won't but by 12 attempts most people will get it in or be very close. Every cycle is such a small window of chance and there are so many factors that need to be right in that small window, sometimes it just takes time to get it all perfect. Hope that helps!

@merrz Thank you so so much for that. It is exactly what I needed. I feel pretty sad today but I’ll be ok. I had been stopping myself getting excited every day I was late, this morning I let myself believe it might be and there AF was, such a disappointment BUT it does mean I’m on a new cycle and a new start so trying to be positive. I’m gonna let myself have a little wallow today though :) x

@ScaredFlamingo sorry been MIA manic few days with family just not had any time to check my phone oops. How you doing? Like you say was your first cycle need to get back in the swing of it.
I wonder how @goodforbrian is doing?

@27andcounting Sorry I missed this??
How are you getting on?
So this month I have not even thought about getting pregnant... and guess what I got this morning?? BFP!

@ScaredFlamingo it's okay busy lives and all 😊 doing really well thanks for my scan on Wednesday. Hospital have me at 12 weeks although I'm sure they will put me at 11 at the scan because I ovulated a week later. But all good here.
I'm so happy to hear that what fantastic news! Congratulations!!!! Keep me updated and if you have any questions feel free to ask.

@27andcounting How was the morning sickness? I get slight nausea but nothing major.
I have my early private scan on 17th so fingers crossed everything is ok there.
Did you have one in the end?

I think I got off pretty lightly, only sick a couple of times just nausea, has the painful boobs kicked in yet?

How exciting. Yeah we had ours on the 5th March. Here's the picture we were dated at 6 weeks 4 days. The baby is between the two yellow markers.

@ScaredFlamingo

@27andcounting Yea I’ve had to start wearing sports bras to bed haha! They’re not awful, I just feel them a lot more than usual. I’m not getting much in way on symptoms; but I’m only 5weeks2days so expect it might get worse!
Ahhh that’s so exciting!! Did you see heartbeat? I want my scan now... this waiting is going to kill me! I don’t want to let myself get too excited yet.

@ScaredFlamingo yeah you'll get a mix of symptoms I'm sure, although the one I haven't had yet is that "feeling pregnant" like I know I am but I think until I can feel movement it will be that way, I'm very much a physical person like I believe things when I can physically tell it's true. And yeah I saw the heartbeat couldn't hear it at that point but they check everything else and confirm baby is in the right place etc. I know exactly what you mean, just take it easy try and avoid stress and don't be harsh if you eat or something that you should avoid.... I still eat the wrong things.... but most
Of my favourite foods are on the do not eat list haha.