Being unrealistic with myself

[ScaredFlamingo]

Wondering if anyone else experienced this... I am already setting unrealistic expectations for myself. I had my coil out 2 weeks ago, had sex maybe twice since and for some reason am disappointed I am not pregnant ... any tips on how to not do this to myself??

Hello everyone! I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas break! Ok... so I am 3 days into the TWW, fingers crossed this is my month! My fertile period was all last week and I am happy we DTD enough (every day!) I can test on the 11th Jan (if AF doesn't arrive before then)
@ScaredFlamingo good luck for the end of January! Have you enjoyed the break in not TTC?
@27andcounting How's things with you? Any news?

@goodforbrian fingers crossed for you. Nightmare the TWW.
I've had another funny month. As AF came a week early in a bit unsure where I landed with ovulation. She technically isn't due until the 3rd but had no usual period symptoms but also on had BFN on tests (tried a couple of different ones over the past few days) just wait and see what happens.
@ScaredFlamingo hope all goes well and be back to your journey soon.

My best friend who started her journey at the same time as me has just announced she's 12weeks.... which has caused a rollercoaster of emotion.

@goodforbrian and @27andcounting

Hi both!! I’m currently on AF and thoroughly enjoying not symptom spotting (interestingly I didn’t even realise she was coming!!)
Fingers crossed for you both this month!!

So frustrated still getting BFN but also no AF or even AF symptoms help I'm going crazy

@27andcounting Sorry, just seen this!! Have you been to your doctor?

Hello to you both @ScaredFlamingo and @27andcounting and sorry about my absence. I am trying to keep my mind off TTC and I am really trying not to test before the 11th.
@ScaredFlamingo I am so glad you are enjoying this 'time off'.
@27andcounting I am so sorry I have only just seen your message. How are you feeling now? Any news? And I can completely relate to how you must have felt when your friend announced her pregnancy 😢 It's such an array of emotions. I promise I will keep a closer eye on this thread now, we need to support each other!
All the best to you both and Happy New Year (filled with new babies) x

Ps. I just don't 'feel' pregnant this month either. I'm only 4 days away from being due on AF and I have zero symptoms... if anything I have negative-pregnancy symptoms. No bloating, no hormones, no appetite. Just nothing. I know I am out this month and it is just hurting because over Dec (my fertile week) DH was off of work and we DTD so much. We will never have that much sex again until next Dec because if his work schedule. I've been taking conception vitamins for months, eating the right foods and having lots of sex and it still isn't bloody happening. Grrrr sorry just had to get that off of my chest!

@goodforbrian so sorry to hear that. See what the coming days bring for you, I get it can be really disheartening especially when you've really tried but your not out till your out!
I've finally got sore boobs which means at least my body is doing something I'm hoping AF is on her way now. Still getting BFN's on different brands of tests so just want AF so I can move onto my next cycle. If she isn't her by Friday then I'll get booked in with my doctors.

Still no AF for me but I've done a PT and it was a BFN so I won't get my hopes up.
@27andcounting any news? And sign if AF it even better a PBP? I know what you mean, TTC is so difficult especially when our bodies just aren't doing what they are supposed to do!
I honestly can't try any harder than I did last month but I will keep on at it and hope for the best! No other option really x

@goodforbrian
Sorry sorry now went MIA haha work has been so crazy. So I called my doctors today as still no AF and went for a wee just before the app and there she is!! But still met with the doctor anyways to just let her know what I had experienced and if it was okay and she was basically just like "yeah, it happens" so just back to tracking now.

Hey @27andcounting! Omg that is amazing news! I am so happy you can get back to tracking and (hopefully) making babies! Our cycles must be very close as I am currently on my 4th and last day of AF.
This will be our month girl!
I'm am ovulating next week! I am trying to do everything in my power to get that BFP!
I am eating healthily, exercising (well, walking the dog more lol) and trying to chill out a bit.
Are you ovulating next week too according to you tracking?

@goodforbrian oh they defiantly are this month. We'll I'm just going to DTD every other day and hope I'm near ovulation at some point we've also brought pre seed to use around my "ovulation day" see how that goes.
Funnily enough we've tried to eat a lot healthier and I've joined my partner more when walking the dog instead of staying home and cooking and yeah according to tracking I will be, just going to OPK's and not holding out much hope this month because my cycle has gone a bit haywire over the past couple of months.
@ScaredFlamingo how you doing? When are you getting the fibroid out?

@goodforbrian @27andcounting
Hey ladies!! I’m crossing everything for you this month!!! Fibroid comes out on Wednesday so I’ll be back to trying in February... hopefully you guys will preg by then and can keep me sane haha!

Good luck for Weds @ScaredFlamingo ! Us 3 (including @27andcounting ) are the three TTC amigos now haha, we will all get through this together!
I'm fertile now with ovulation in the week, I'm excited and have a good feeling about this month (I say that every month don't I? Lol, oh well, it's good to be positive!)

@goodforbrian I have everything crossed for you!!! And yes, we will all get through this together. Even if we end up at different stages! X

Thank you @ScaredFlamingo ! Fingers crossed for us all 🤞🏽 x

@ScaredFlamingo @goodforbrian

Yeah I like the little support group we've got going. I'm in my fertile week as well testing every day with OPK's to just see whether I can find my peak and just going to DTD as much as I can till either positive or AF haha

@27andcounting Haha! Just keep doing it until it sticks and then none for 9 months hahahah! I’m in waiting room for my fibroid removal now and then we can start trying again in February...! Lots of my partners’ friends starting to fall pregnant/have kids so I think he’s keen to get going now haha!
@goodforbrian How you doing?

Haha brilliant advice @ScaredFlamingo ! I am good, ovulation tomorrow (according to my app) and DTD yesterday and today! Going to hopefully do it again tomorrow and Friday and then I will let Hubby rest haha. He has given up caffeine with me this week and finishing work a little earlier so here's hoping it helps! I'll try anything.
How are you feeling?

@goodforbrian haha let him rest! I’m ok, but crampy but nothing major. Enjoying the time off from work ha! They said the womb looks fine, they took a biopsy and they removed a cyst (not a fibroid!) so I should be good to go and not have too many problems.
Bless him for giving up caffeine!! My partner is giving up nicotine today.. I quit smoking years ago and switched to the vape but quit that when I had my coil out. He’s now quitting his also...! Another 2 weeks and we can start DTD again ... it’s been about a month so far!!
Fingers crossed for you that you get bang for your buck this week 😉😂

@ScaredFlamingo sounds like everything went as well as it could then? Glad to hear it. I'm sure you'll be glad to get back to TTC?
@goodforbrian do you just go by your app or do you back with with OPK's or anything?
Me and my OH have cut a lot of caffeine out but not all (I work in law so need it to get through my days) And I've cut out nicotine but still have my Vape (0nic) but even that I've cut back in so much I barely use it.
Are either of you taking Folic Acid?

@ScaredFlamingo oh I bet you can't wait to get back down to business haha! And that's so good that you have had your womb checked and all is good. Good luck to your partner quitting smoking too, I gave up smoking 3 years ago and I know how hard it is. I vape (currently on 6mg nicotine 🙈) but I have bought 3mg in the hope I can cut down. I am slowly working on giving up my vices! This baby-making malarkey is tough!
@27andcounting Wow! I can certainly imagine you need a caffeine injection whilst working in Law. That is so good you have cut down to 0mg on your vape, that's what I am aiming for! Just out of interest, is there any research on vaping and fertility?? I suppose bit as it's so relatively new 🤷🏽‍♀️
I have been taking the Pregnacare 'before conception' supplement since Oct (when I came off the pill) and that has the recommended amount of folic acid in it. I have read mixed reviews about it on here (making people feel sick/mimicking pregnancy symptoms) but so far so good. I must admit the first couple of weeks they made me feel a bit nauseous (and made my wee bright yellow!!) but now I am fine as long as I take with food.

Sorry that was long! I can't sleep, because SHOCK I am wide awake googling and obsessing about everything babies haha. I promised I wouldn't do this this month 🙈 Honestly, the only time I am 'chilled' is when I am on AF 🙈

Also @27andcounting I have used OPKs on and off since October and they always seem to coincide correctly with the date of ovulation as stated by my app (I am using Flo). I know it might sound strange but I also just 'know' when I am ovulating now, I get a bit of a bloat on and twinge quite a lot. Because of that I have stopped using them but they are really handy for peace of mind. Are you using them? I used the Boots own brand ones and they were excellent x

@goodforbrian I don't think there is much research and when my ex sister in law was recently pregnant the Doctors actually gave her a Vape and liquid to stop her smoking so they must be fairly with them.
I take folic acid but admittedly not so great at taking it every night (how I never got pregnant on the pill I'll never know).
I think I've figured my ovulation out, I also get twinges but I am currently still backing it up with OPKs I have the Flo app and the ferometer one which I take a picture of the strips (they do their own) and it tells me what it thinks low, high or peak.

@goodforbrian @27andcounting
Hi both! I’m all recovered. Very excited to get back at it. Due my period next week and then new cycle starts!
I also know when I’m ovulating, it’s like being on my period.. so weird!! I was taking that same supplement and actually noticed I felt pregnant so it actually could be that?! I have been useless at taking them though .... probably should get back on them if we’re gonna be trying again.
My partner and I have been going through a bit of a rough patch but I think we’re coming out the other side now...!