Being unrealistic with myself

[ScaredFlamingo]

Wondering if anyone else experienced this... I am already setting unrealistic expectations for myself. I had my coil out 2 weeks ago, had sex maybe twice since and for some reason am disappointed I am not pregnant ... any tips on how to not do this to myself??

@27andcounting that's good to know about the vaping, thank you. I take my pregnacare with lunch everyday, I have a box at home and a box in my handbag so I never forget (my brain is mush in the evenings so I would forget too haha). That's great that you are so aware of ovulation, that's half the battle I think!
@ScaredFlamingo woohoo! So glad you are all healed and I bet you can't wait to get AF out of the way so you can get down to some serious baby-making this month! I agree, the first month of TTC (and taking pregnacare) I convinced myself I had all the symptoms of early pregnancy but looking back on it it was definitely the tablets giving me those feelings. Cruel hey?!
So glad you and your partner have came through your rough patch, TTC can cause so much stress on both parties - especially as you had other health problems too. It's quite funny actually, last Sunday my DH was being a right argumentative shit lol normally I would pull him up on his behaviour but because I was entering my 'fertile week' I decided to let it slide as we needed to be friends and DTD as much as possible haha. I must really want a baby 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

@goodforbrian Haha! Letting them get away with it because need to get the deed done! Period has just started (which explains why I was so horrible to myself yesterday for drinking wine Saturday eve!) so new cycle and we try again...!

@ScaredFlamingo so this cycle you can start trying again?. It's horrible when you have problems with the OH but glad you got through. I went through w bad patch just after we started trying but got through it and stronger for it.
@goodforbrian when's your test day? I've been DTD like everyday just want to make sure we're giving it all we've got this month

@27andcounting yep! Next week we can start trying again...! Oh it’s been pretty rough; just irritating each other all the time and bickering! Seem to be a lot better though.

Exciting times for you and @goodforbrian - everything crossed that this is your month guys!!

Hey ladies! Sorry about my absence, I am well into the TWW and I am trying to remain as calm and collected as possible! My test day is next Friday... 8 more whole days to wait ahhh. So far I have pee'd on zero sticks and I am feeling extremely proud of myself haha.
@ScaredFlamingo I bet you are counting down the days until next week so you can start trying again! You are back in the game girl!
@27andcounting when is your test day? If I remember correctly our cycles are very close!

@goodforbrian Keep calm and remember... the later you test, the more likely to show positive, if positive then the less time you have knowing you’re pregnant and waiting to have the baby haha! Someone told me once you don’t wanna know too early but 9 months is a looooong time haha! And if it is negative then the less time between finding out and starting a new cycle to try again!

I’m not sure we’ll be going full force on trying, the house sale fell through on my partners place (he rents it out to his parents) and so we’re still in our rented place with a housemate ... not the best arrangement but if we fall pregnant then won’t be disappointed!!
@27andcounting How are you doing?

That's so true! Thank you @ScaredFlamingo I'll try my best to remember that when I am reaching for those pregnancy tests like a loon early next week haha.
Sorry to hear about your house situation, that's not ideal but as you say it will be a lovely surprise if you were to fall pregnant! And then you'll have 9 months to let everything else fall into place.
I'm half way through the TWW and boy I am struggling! No caffeine, no alcohol and cutting down on my vape is so hard 🙈 Being a Friday night doesn't help! I know I will have to do this when/if I fall pregnant but right now I am feeling a bit sorry for myself and just wanting to go to bed.
I don't think i have asked, how old are you both? @ScaredFlamingo and @27andcounting ? I am 33, 34 this year x

Sorry, bold fail! Haha.

@ScaredFlamingo that's actually really good advice never thought of it like that.

@goodforbrian should be testing around the 10th I think, trying to just get through each day, with my last two cycles being a bit crazy not holding out too much hope this month.

@ScaredFlamingo sorry to hear about your house :( that's literally my job (conveyancer) and I hate when things don't go right and it really can affect people's home life's and plans. But I kept waiting for the 'right time' financially, house, marriage and in the end I figure there would always be something else to wait for. So me and my OH aren't planning our wedding just yet as would probably have to go on the pill else I could end up with major dress issues

@ScaredFlamingo @goodforbrian
Need your help ladies, so I thought I ovulated like 6 days ago which would of been normal and I had all the normal symptoms for my ovulation, however I had them come back and probably stronger than before so I did an OPK and it's come back like so clear, what do you think?
Don't think there's any mistaking that line.
Going to DTD anyways... Shame we have a family meal like in half an hour else is be on it right now

@goodforbrian I turned 31 at Christmas. Fingers crossed for you that it’s your month!!!

@27andcounting Yea it’s a pain but we’re just going to see what happens and let things happen. I’m in my fertile period towards end of week so we shall see!!

Could you be pregnant? Could symptoms be implantation maybe?

@ScaredFlamingo Thank you!
@27andcounting I agree, could you be pregnant? Worth taking a test! I have no other explanation? I did read someone some woman can ovulate twice in a cycle but I think that's rare? Keep us updated x

@ScaredFlamingo Thank you!
@27andcounting I agree, could you be pregnant? Worth taking a test! I have no other explanation? I did read someone some woman can ovulate twice in a cycle but I think that's rare? Keep us updated x

@goodforbrian @ScaredFlamingo

I'm going to test in the morning but will see what happens, seems like it would be much to early for such a strong result even thought I have heard that OPKs can pick up pregnancy.

Also I'm 27...hence the name

Any news? @27andcounting eeekkk!
I caved and done a test this morning... negative again 😢 but I'm very early as not due AF until Friday so I still have a little bit of hope (but not much!) Hope you both have a better morning than me! x

@goodforbrian I tested this morning negative on the pregnancy one but still peak on ovulation. So think I've just ovulated really late this month, or ovulated twice but seems unlikely. So going to start my TWW again and fingers crossed!
Still early days for you hold out for a new more.... hoping you get a BFP

@goodforbrian @27andcounting Morning both! You’re not out until AF comes.

I am having a mare... the boyfriend is down with a sickness bug and I am working from home and literally just waiting for it to hit me.... not the best vibe for fertile week haha!

Thanks ladies! I am remaining positive (story of my life haha) and still hoping for that BFP at the end of the week.
@27andcounting sorry you didn't get a BFP but you seem really on track with your plan moving forward and I'm wishing you a quick TWW!
@ScaredFlamingo oh no, talk about bad timing! I hope you manage to avoid the bug and DTD as much as possible 🤞🏽

@goodforbrian yeah plan this month just keep going till either AF or BFP just means I got to wait a bit longer before POAS.

@ScaredFlamingo oh dear that's the worst timing! As gooforbrian said I hope you don't get it and can make it DTD as much as you can

@goodforbrian @27andcounting
So I didn’t get the bug!! Not sure how but I swerved it haha!
Fertile towards end of week... see if I can time things right haha! My partner has a really low sex drive so without actively trying I think it’s gonna be down to luck if we do the deed at the right time!!

How you both feeling?

Yay @ScaredFlamingo that's great news! I think I need your impressive immune system because I catch every bug going. DH also doesn't have the highest of sex drives so we save our DTD's for fertile week only! Seriously, we even make jokes that we are only allowed sex for one week a month 😂 Maybe you could do the same? That way the men should look forward to it haha.

I am feeling ok today, very crampy but not in an AF way as too soon? Or at least I hope too soon and AF isn't going to arrive early for me! It started last night in bed. I don't know what to make of it in all honesty! One minute I convince myself it's a sign of pregnancy and the next I am like naaaah it's just AF again! I am trying my best to hold off doing a test until Thursday (AF due Fri) I have no tests left in the house so should be easy (haha as if!)

@goodforbrian I have a suppressed immune system so I’m really not sure how I got away with it haha! That’s such a good idea, I might slyly run it past him.. although he did say he didn’t wanna put pressure on it and do all the tracking... it’s such a tightrope to walk with these men sometimes!!
Nice to meet someone who faces the same issue I do with the male sex drive. I’ve always thought men want it all the time but my boyfriend could go a week or two without it ... thought there was something wrong with me but starting to think it’s an age thing haha!

You might be implanting... not long left to wait!! Try to relax (soooo much easier said than done haha!)

@ScaredFlamingo glad to hear you made it through without catching the illness. I'll sure you'll manage to DTD during your high fertile time.
For me and my OH it was the other way round d I have quite a low sex drive.

@goodforbrian I have such terrible patience already bored of waiting haha

Hi @ScaredFlamingo and @27andcounting So, I'm due on in 2 days and I've gone and bought myself some clear blue tests. I have decided that seeing as I have waited this long, I am going to wait until Friday to test... I am trying my best to be sensible for once and I can't bare another negative test! So far I am feeling ok, cramping has gone and I just feel 'normal' no AF symptoms and no BFP symptoms.
How are you guys getting on?
Also re sex drive... mine isn't anything to write home about either lol. The older I get the more it dwindles haha. I am definitely more of a let's have sex to make a baby rather than let's just have sex for the fun of it!