TTC baby #1

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Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

Can I join? I'm TTC #1, had my IUD removed October 2 (after I had already ovulated - it was a copper coil so my cycles were not affected) and am just finishing up AF today. I tried temping for a couple of months earlier this year to get a sense of my cycle and think I ovulate on Day 13, which means DTD lots this weekend... it's exciting but I also know the TWW will be really stressful and that the chances of it happening the first month are slim!
DH and I are both 29, live in London, and I work in consulting - long hours are not particularly conducive to baby making but we'll both have to make the time!
I haven't bought any OPKs yet - thought I'd wait a month or two but am very tempted! I've been taking Seven Seas preconception and extra fish oils, and have read Taking Charge of your Fertility (highly recommend!) - what have you ladies done to prepare?

@Rosabuddy Hey! Seems like we might be having similar symptoms around ovulation. It's horrible isn't it?! So confusing!

@han2291 I'm not even sure if I would usually get cramps mid cycle as I have only had two cycles since coming off the pill. As it has happened both times I'm assuming it might be part of my natural cycle around ovulation 🤷🏻‍♀️

My body is making me so confused!

I think if nothing happens this month I might have to start tracking using OPKs to try to get a better idea.

On a lighter note, what does everyone enjoy doing on an evening? At the moment I've been watching The Circle on C4. It's such trash tv but it is a lot of fun! 😂

@notalwaysalondoner Welcome to the group! It's great to have some people to talk to about all this TTC stuff! This group has been such a great support.

Congrats on starting the exciting but scary TTC journey!

So far in terms of preparation I have come off the minipill (end of August) and have now started trying in earnest after giving myself a recovery month. I'm taking folic acid and vitamin d tablets at the mo, and also have to take levothyroxine as I have hypothyroidism.

Oh, and also trying to DTD as much as possible around when I think I might be ovulating (haven't started on OPKs yet...).

I’m so confused though cause I ovulated at the weekend according to clear blue and 3 different apps, don’t know what’s going on

@notalwaysalondoner Welcome to the group! And congrats on starting your journey. You ladies are giving me so much positivity with all your support for each of us. I love London, I don't live too far away on the train and I am taking my Husband there for his birthday as he has never been! We're going to watch our favourite pianist. So excited but he's unsure on the busy-ness of the City lol
You sound very prepared, and don't buy any OPK's yet-believe me haha
I am taking 5mg Folic Acid as I have Epilepsy and my Dr wanted me on a bit of a higher dose. I also just generally look after myself but not sure what else to do really other than work on DTD when we can and then prepare more when we are successful!
I honestly never ever had a single idea that we can only get pregnant during such a short window!

@Konbanwa On a night I like to watch a bit of TV too, I haven't watched that but saw everyone watch it on Gogglebox and I could see it seems like a laugh! I like my medical stuff like Hospital programmes (the real ones not Casualty etc). My Husband and I try and watch a film once or twice a week too!

We had agreed that we will just see what happens, but I can’t help but obsess over it! I have been thinking about using OPKs but really don’t want to make it more stressful than it already is! I know there is such a slim chance of it happening in the first cycle (especially since I don’t actually know if my cycles will go back to normal) but there is still that bit of hope 🙈

@bubblebathlover well my husband has just come back from work saying he’s so tired that he won’t be up to anything tonight (I told him to make sure he tells me if he doesn’t want anything) so we’re not like planning but it let’s me know not to make the first move lol
I think we will end up missing it this month :(

I am trying not to show my husband how much I’m obsessing/stressing over it because I don’t want him to feel the same. I keep telling myself that it will happen when it happens!

Hi all. I’m 24 and live in the countryside- this our first cycle trying after getting the copper coil out but I’m 99% sure we’ve missed our window this month. My period is due in 4-7 days so we will see...

@BubbleBathLover I know what you mean. I'm having the same issue here and I'm trying not to make my DH feel pressured or bored with talking about it!

Welcome @itsheapsswell!

My DH seems happy to talk about the dates, but it's only month 1 so we'll see whether it puts the pressure on or not! What days pre- and post- ovulation are you planning to DTD? I understand you are recommended to do it every other day to boost the sperm count, but is that on Ovulation minus 2, then on Ovulation day, then 2 days after? Or is ovulation -3, -1 and +1 better...? Any evidence?

@Konbanwa, I'm working pretty late right now so typically get home between 1930 and 2130, but in the couple of hours I have I have recently got very into Gossip Girl (ten years after the rest of the world haha). Meeting my mum and sister tonight who are up in the big city which will be great - my parents live 3 hours away and I wish I could see more of them. We're starting to househunt and I'd love to move more in their direction (west of London) but we'd still need to commute so 1.5 hours is probably the closest we'll be for the time being :(

@itsheapsswell Welcome to the group and good luck on your TTC journey!

@notalwaysalondoner I've never watched Gossip Girl but have heard good things about it!

I had a good chat with my DH last night about TTC and he was really helpful and reassuring about being just as fully on board and excited as I am. It made me feel so much better and less stressed about the whole thing. Especially as he showed me how much research he had also been doing!

Something that I found referenced in another thread, and had a read through last night, was the SMEP (sperm meets egg plan) method. It sounds really good so if I get a BFN this month we might try that for November (maybe with or without the OPKs!)

spermmeetseggplan.com

@notalwaysalondoner welcome!! And it's NEVER too late to jump onto the gossip girl train 😂

@Itsemily ah I'm sorry 🙁 there's always next month and you never know, you might still catch it in time anyway!

@Konbanwa same, it's tricky to figure out what normal symptoms are supposed to be after not having any for so long. I'm on my 3rd day now of on and off cramps.. they feel like very mild period cramps but I don't feel bloated (yet, still 4 days until AF) and this may be TMI so I'm sorry in advance haha but this evening my underwear feels damp.. I keep dashing off to the loo to check but there's no bleeding just a lot of white CM 🤷🏻‍♀️ I didn't feel this way my last 2 cycles but who knows if this is also just another "new" PMS symptom for me. I don't want to pick up on everything but I literally can't switch my brain off.

On a lighter note, since I can't get English TV here Netflix is my best friend! I just finished the 3rd season of 13 Reasons Why so now I'm in a bit of limbo deciding what to watch next.. give me your suggestions 😁

@Konbanwa that's awesome and so good that he's done some of his own research! I mentioned my cramps today to husband and he said "but that could also be implantation right?" 😂 I was like whaaaa??

Thanks for the article, will definitely have a read.

@han2291 I bet HK Netflix is amazing though! I love Korean and Chinese dramas so I'm sure you have loads of choice!

In regards to other Netflix shows, I quite like the cooking ones like Sugar Rush and Nailed It. They are good for a laugh!

And yes, my DH surprised me with all his research although he is very scientifically minded so was also talking about oestrogen and progesterone curves! Ha!

@Konbanwa yes there's definitely a lot of Asian dramas, I saw a Korean one that looked good but in the evening after I've been staring at a computer screen the idea of reading sub titles puts me off haha.
Not heard of either of those but I'll check them out! I love a good cooking show ☺️
That's awesome, love that he knows what he's talking about!

@han2291 Your symptoms seem like those that some people say can be a sign of early pregnancy! That's so exciting! Fingers crossed for when you test!

@Konbanwa I'm keeping everything crossed but I don't know.. I'm such a negative person that I have it in my head that I will just never get pregnant (I know, SO negative) so I don't truly believe it will ever happen to me, which is really sad when I think about it. If I let myself believe I could for just a second I get too excited and know I'm just setting myself up for disappointment 🙁

Something I’m really confused on is last night I got a solid smiley on clear blue , which I think means I’m due to ovulate the next 12-24 hours or something but I’ve just done a simple dip test from boots and it’s not showing anything at all ??? I’m so confused and sad if I’ve missed it but if I happened to have ovulated yesterday we did DTD Monday so would I have caught it ?? I’m so confused 😩😩

@Itsemily I don't know what might have been happening with the OPKs, but from my understanding sperm can remain viable in the uterus/tubes for up to 7 days so you should still be good 🤞

@Konbanwa really?! So because we had intercourse Monday and did by chance ovulate early, I might be OK?
Fingers crossed Hubby has had a good day and we might DTD tonight and fingers crossed we catch it if todays ovulation day or tomorrow. I hate this it's so confusing like, people say clear blue detects 48hrs before ovulation but the other strips say otherwise...

Sorry ladies I've been so busy the past few days!! So AF has arrived Bang on time, typical! However, one positive is that my cycle seems to have regulated again so I should be able to track my O better! And looking at it, it doesn't seem like we actually DTD at the right time! How are you all doing?

@han2291 fingers crossed that you are having early pregnancy signs !! I am so excited for you!! But I feel the same and I'm not even past ovulation yet. Eeeeek I am sending you so many positive vibes. I am having a very emotional day today, so talking to you all helps a lot. I'm so up and down.
And it's peeing it down today outside, and very dark already!

I didn't really click with the new season of 13 reasons, not sure why it was. But I highly recommend watching Working Moms, it's so funny I literally binge watched it. x

Hi ladies . So I think today is the last day now before the two week wait . If my body has ovulated as it should’ve , if not then we are already on the TWW. Who knows . Period is due 25th October so we will see.

How are you all? What are your plans for the weekend ?