TTC baby #1

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Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

@Niffler1988 I’m so glad the movie worked ! Keep going , it’s not over yet !

Thanks for the advise , That and some new lingerie will do the trick I’m sure x

@Niffler1988 yay I'm glad! Hopefully a little bit of time will be all it needs for O to settle into a routine (hoping that for myself too).

@Itsemily I'm an over thinker/worrier like you, but so happy you guys had a chat and all is ok again ☺️ guys forget things quickly anyway hah! What do you do at the hospital? Husband and I are currently living in Hong Kong (for his job) so I work from home (our head office is in the UK, so grateful I can work remotely) with our dog! I don't have a support system here so messaging you ladies is lovely ☺️

@han2291 Living in Hong Kong must be such an adventure but hopefully you are well away from the protests! I've always wanted to visit sometime as it looks an amazing place 👍

I work in R&D so spend a lot of time in the lab. Luckily it's kind of impossible for me to bring work home so that's a bonus 😂

@Konbanwa ooh so interesting ☺️ do you enjoy it? That's always a huge bonus! Unfortunately I can't seem to escape mine haha.

Luckily we're a little way outside the city so we haven't been affected by anything, traveling to the airport has been a bit tricky once or twice though. Hoping it starts to settle down soon.

@han2291 wow that’s amazing !! What an experience . My husband wants to visit There as he’s isn’t different cultures and his auntie lived there for years and years .
I’d love to work full time from home. I work in pathway support so basically ensuring patients get appointments when they should , see them within their referrals if it’s w two week wait (urgent), things like that . I did nursing before for 4 years .
But at the moment , I too, can’t really bring work home with me like @Konbanwa haha . I am a writer part time so I do that from home which is nice. This is a lovely support network , I look forward to checking in with you all

@han2291 sorry that should say he’s into different cultures . My iphone screen is smashed so I press the wrong keys every now and then lol

Hey guys! My body is feeling so weird today. I'm feeling really uncomfortable and having some cramping.

No idea what this means as I think I'm only 3-4 days post ovulation.

Hopefully it's not that my dates are way off and this an early signal that AF might appear in a few days! 😬

@Konbanwa hmmmm could it be implantation pain ??

@Itsemily I hope that it is but I had a similar feeling last month close to AF so I'm hoping it's not just that again.

Fingers crossed that this means something and I'm not just being paranoid with symptom spotting 😅🤞

@Konbanwa it’s so exciting ! Fingers crossed it’s implantation and not AF. The two week wait sounds like it can be tough with symptom spotting though ! But we are all in this together . Me and my husband had a chat last night after he asked me when I’m at my peak . I was so happy he asked - I told him wed, Thursday and Friday are the highest days. So he has said we are going to DTD as much as we can over the next three days to try and nail it by ovulation (as in try and aim every other , not every night) . Fingers crossed he’s not too tired 💤
Any tips on how best to nail it ? Did you DTD day after ovulation too? Not quite got my head round it fully although I’m slowly getting there I think....thanks to technology lol

@Itsemily Thanks for your support! It's great getting to chat here! Definitely fingers crossed that it isn't AF!

From what I understand, the egg is only viable for 24hrs after ovulation so your best bet is to DTD before, on and just after your ovulation day. The times before will make sure the sperm have been able to swim up the Fallopian tubes and wait for when the egg is released. Especially as they can survive for up to 7 days inside the uterus!

But I'm also still learning so if anyone has any other info please correct me!

@Konbanwa you’re a star thank you. I’m so anxious for things to work out right but excited at the same time . It’s so strange to know we are actively trying if that makes sense ? When we’ve gone years ensuring we are careful lol!
So if we DTD now until day after ovulation hopefully we’ll make it !

@Itsemily sorry for the late reply, glad your chat went well and he felt all ok. I think us girls overthink too much about certain situations and in their head it is already over and done with! But always nice to have a new treat with new underwear and feel good about ourselves too!

I'm a legal secretary, and the girls I work with are lovely, but the majority are all very young and not even thinking of marriage and kids yet so think they think I'm old haha! I've got a couple of sisters but one of them recently told me she doesn't want to hear about me trying for a baby as it's private and I shouldn't be talking about it, so glad I've got this chat! I'm quite an open person so find it hard to keep things quiet all the time either when excited, anxious or frustrated! I did talk to my sister and say I felt like she wasn't really supporting me but I won't tell her if she would rather not know!

@han2291 wow that's exciting, but yes can understand it can be a bit lonely if work from home as well. Always welcome to talk and chat with us on here!

@Konbanwa Oo I hope it's good news for you, keep us posted. I did have some weird aches and pains last month after ovulation (if I ovulated as was first month off the pill!) and it is so easy to symptom spot!

My husband is going away this week on business right over when I am due to ovulate so not holding out much hope for this month but we will still try anyways in case it doesn't fall when apparently I am meant to 😂 x

@lou1904 Yes it is definitely too easy to symptom spot and I'm sure that these are the same feelings I got last month after ovulation so I'm trying to not get my hopes up!

It must be interesting being a legal secretary, and I know what you mean about working in a group that are at different life stages to you. All of my colleagues are either in their early 20s and are no where near thinking about kids, or have been there done that and have teenagers!

@Itsemily I agree that it feels really strange to be actively trying after actively preventing it and being paranoid about getting pregnant for so many years! Ha! It's gonna take some getting used to for sure.

But I did have a revelation today when I let myself think 'what if I am pregnant' and then found myself feeling a bit teary about if I'm not! I guess that proves that I do definitely want this!

@lou1904 don't be silly you don't need to apologise. Your job sounds great, my Sister was a Legal Secretary and I remember when she started she was a lot younger and used to say how she felt so young and all her colleagues were married, had kids etc, and then she turned 30 and said how she felt so old compared to the new employees lol

@Konbanwa you are so like me. My Husband laughed at me the other day when I sobbed about how emotional and exciting it all is and I got myself overthinking about how sad I would be if the first month doesn't work out! What are we like?!

@Itsemily I know! I feel like a hormonal mess now I'm off contraception!

On another note, how is everyone doing this week? I'm so ready for this week to be over and I'm counting down until the weekend when I can have a good lie in!

@Itsemily oh cool ☺️ and you write! That's awesome. I keep a journal but I don't think that counts haha but yes you should definitely visit HK it's a great place!

@Konbanwa I've been feeling a bit odd and crampy as well, I think I'm either 5 or 6 DPO. Wondering though if I'd pick up on any of these feelings if I wasn't actively trying to feel them, if that makes sense. Fingers crossed for you!

@lou1904 haha I have the same issue! Luckily none of my husbands trips have been booked for the wrong days yet but it's bound to happen.. I'll try to prevent it as much as I can 😂

Any of you ladies that recently stopped the pill, are you experiencing any (non TTC) symptoms because of it? My skin is a little bumpier and keep getting big spots on my chest/back 🤦🏻‍♀️ trying to stay positive about them though, my body is slowly adjusting to natural hormones again and I should be happy about it but.. spots. Ugh 😂

@Konbanwa I'm good ☺️ thanks for asking! How about you?

@han2291 I'm good thanks! Feeling quite tired this week though so will glad to have the weekend. I was in bed by 9pm last night! How is your week going?

In regards to symptoms related to coming off the pill, I haven't had too many tbh although my biggest one is that my boobs seem to get unbelievably sore around the middle of my cycle. I'm having to go back to sleeping in a bra and I haven't had to do that since I was a teenager!

My skin is the same, although I do seem to be getting a little bit more emotional. But whether that is from coming off the pill or just life stress I don't know! Ha! 😂

Good morning ladies

@han2291 I was on the pill as a teenager , can’t remember exact age as I started my periods quite late compared to a lot of girls and they started quite heavy , regular but heavy, so I went on the pill. When I came off it to go on the coil I got terrible acne and really sore breasts ! Other than that , nothing else. Journaling is great, I’m so glad you like to write too!

I’m doing ok, getting quite impatient with the unknown lol but I’m doing good . Doing lots of house work today to keep me busy .
My husband has said he’d prefer DTD every other day from now so I’m glad he’s spoken with me because I would’ve been so upset if he hadn’t have been honest and felt forced . He said because of his shifts he’ll be so tired . He doesn’t know I’m monitoring my ovulation anymore I’ve decided to keep it to myself to minimise any feelings of ‘chore’ lol x

So yesterday I had cramping, today I have cramping and a little back pain, I ovulated Sunday, I’m hoping it’s implantation but anything I read says it’s too early

@rosabuddy morning Rosa ! I hope it is too, everyone is different so hopefully you’re getting early symptoms ! Researching the web for things is either a blessing or an absolute nightmare . I’ve been googling allllll sorts of stuff about CM, lots of tmi topics lol! It’s awful

@Itsemily That sounds like a good chat with your DH, and DTD should be more than enough for TTC. Fingers crossed for you! I'm jealous of your day at home though, but I don't think I'd be so productive with house work!

I'm at work today and I'm supposed to be busy doing paperwork but keep getting distracted by thinking about all this TTC stuff.

I'm not having any weird cramping today like I had yesterday which is making me wonder if they might have been due to ovulation. If so, I might have missed the boat this month as we last DTD on Sunday. Hopefully there are some guys chilling up there ready and waiting to catch an egg! 🙈🤞

@Konbanwa 9pm is a great time to go to sleep haha I genuinely look forward to getting into bed every night! My week has been OK, just take each day as it comes and try not to stress too much about TTC 😂 not very good at switching my brain off though!
Aah ouch, that's not fun 🙁 can totally relate to the emotions though.

Do you usually get cramps multiple times a month? Fingers crossed it wasn't just O pain!!

@Itsemily I think post acne seems to be common from what I've read online, just hope everything sorts itself out! Housework is a good way to busy yourself - do you turn into Monica from Friends? Haha probably not a bad idea to keep the ovulation bit to yourself to minimise the pressure ☺️

@Rosabuddy from what I've seen on Google you can get cramps after ovulation too as things settle down around there, maybe that's what it is? ☺️ but Google does tell you a million different things so honestly I don't know what to believe anymore haha