TTC baby #1

[GaaaaarlicBread]

Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

[TeddyToaster]

@itsemily Thanks hun. That's really helpful.

Ladies, I know this is tmi but would it 'work' if - if we couldn't dtd (do the deed) every other day - db gave a five finger salute. Would that also help improve the quality of the sperm, you think? X

[Konbanwa]

@TeddyToaster I don't see how it would hurt matters as I'd assume it would just be the same as you DTD every other day when I comes to sperm quality. Could ensure that there are some 'fresh' guys for the next round?

My only concern would be that it could add quite a bit of pressure to TTC, which is already quite a stressful process.

[Prinnyshelly]

Hi girls, I was wondering if anyone could help me. Me and my partner have been ttc for about a year I have only 1 tube due to previous eptopic many years ago! We decided to go to a fertility doctor he done a scan & said everything seems ok I'm going back for a blood test on 21st around ovulation & I may need a tubal flush. My question is I do the clear blue tests & I do get the static smiley which is meant to mean ovulation pending but does that deffianlty mean im going to ovulate or is there a possibility I could get the surge but my eggs won't drop ? I don't really understand it

[GaaaaarlicBread]

@Konbanwa yes I know! I was saying that the other day, I can't believe how little they taught us in school. I mean it doesn't even seem that long ago that I was leaving school for college in 2010, it's scary We just weren't taught anything. I had zero clue about the intensity of everything. My boobs hurt so bad when my coil was removed, and I am sure they've got bigger lol! It's such a shock isn't it?


@TeddyToaster My husband and I have said we will DTD every other day, if we cannot manage every day. He is not starting work til late tomorrow, and is off Tuesday (nursing shifts!) and I am not back to work yet, so I think we should be ok for the next few days of managing to fit things in (no pun intended). So you should be ok but it can be so difficult I get that.

@Prinnyshelly that's a tough one, I hope you get a positive soon! Yeah it sounds like it has potentially picked up your surge and displayed Peak Fertility of the static smiley face, but then your body has not released an egg. Did you get the flashing smiley first? and then the static one? Any signs of ovulation , cervical mucus etc?

[Niffler1988]

@itsemily I'm hoping that I have tested too soon, so I'm gonna try my hardest to wait until I get my AF. My mum said that with all three of her pregnancies (one resulted in MMC) she didn't get a BFP on any test until she had bloods done 10 days after her AF was due, so who knows.

I've put on a Disney movie to hopefully cheer myself up!

[Prinnyshelly]

@Itsemily thanks for the reply hun. & I do get cm around my expected ovulation & I do get the flashy & then I do get the peak which I did assume then I was deffo ovulating but now I'm thinking would it deffo go to static even if my egg doesn't drop ? Or would it stay at flashy it's so frustrating waiting till the 21st lol

[GaaaaarlicBread]

@Prinnyshelly ooo I don’t know now ! I wish I could help you but ovulation and stuff confuses me if I think about it too much !
I’m feeling pretty sad- (for my husband). He got performance anxiety tonight / well it’s 1:15am now so I guess it’s this morning lol. He’s never had it before but I said to him ‘ I don’t want you feeling pressured’ literally as we were about to DTD and I ruined it for him and now I feel awful about it and can’t sleep as it properly turned him off ! He says he’ll be ok tomorrow and to not worry but I feel sick now 😩 I am losing my mind over everything . I’m lying here wide awake now thinking about what I can do to make him feel relaxed for next time ? Any ideas ?

[han2291]

@Niffler1988 I hope the Disney movie perked you up! ☺️ It's not over until AF so I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Right there with you on the confusing O dates though, tracking natural cycles is haaard!

@TeddyToaster that sounds like it was a horrible time for you.. I don't think (as teenagers) we're taught enough about the pill and what side effects it can have! Maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself? I think we're all guilty of doing that. My husband is loving that I have a high sex drive now but really it's not THAT high.. 😂 I just have more motivation now!!!

@Itsemily aahhh no, don't beat yourself up about it lovely! You could try banishing any baby talk in the bedroom, even if it's in the back of your mind? I'm sure he'll recover by tomorrow ❤️

[Konbanwa]

@Itsemily Oh no don't stress about it! It happens to all guys at some point and you can't blame yourself for making that comment.

Might be worth trying to keep things light for the time being and try not to mention too much stuff regarding TTC when you are wanting some bedroom action.

I definitely know what you mean about not wanting your partner to feel pressured to perform, and I do think that TTC can make things feel a little prescribed rather than spontaneous and fun.

I hope that you managed to get a good nights sleep and I'm sure everything will be better today

[han2291]

@Konbanwa you're definitely right.. TTC can be a bit of a fun sucker 🙁

[GaaaaarlicBread]

@Konbanwa @han2291thanks girls it really bothered men. I am so worried that now they’ll be slightly on his mind and it’ll be a recurring thing . Not even for selfish reasons just because generally I want him to be happy .

Third day of flashing smiley clear blue face today so I’m sure ovulation soon, so it’s a really intense time anyway x

[lou1904]

@Itsemily I hope you managed to get some sleep, try not to worry at all about it, it does happen sometimes and if he was tired/not really in the mood at the time, it may not have just been your comment that did it. Start today as a fresh day, if it happens today/tonight then it does but don't stress too much if it doesn't. Without TMI haha maybe wear some nice underwear etc to seduce him a bit today so he knows you are still keeping it exciting and fun, hope you ok!

[lou1904]

@Konbanwa welcome! And good luck with TTC, completely in the same situation with trying not to test too often! Hope it all works out well for us!

[lou1904]

@TeddyToaster hey, I also have just got an ovusense as well, as soon as I received it, I got AF so I am waiting to test it out once off! Good luck with it. I am also taking Maca supplements which is meant to help with fertility and sex drive but have found that my sex drive is higher now that I am off the pill! Good luck with it all!

@Niffler1988 eek good luck, it may be that you tested a bit early so have fingers crossed for you!

@CooperLooper hey I have not used OPK sticks yet but have got ovusense to see when I am ovulating instead. Don't think it is essential but because I have just come off the pill and don't know what my cycle will be like, and was reading that what they say about ovulation happening in the middle of your cycle is only what happens for 35% of woman or something like that, so that a lot of women are trying around that time but may not be when you are actually ovulating! Good luck with TTC!

@Prinnyshelly I'm sorry I don't know whether you would get that result even if you didn't release an egg. Do the OPK sticks have a help number you can perhaps ring and ask them? Good luck for the 21st xx

[firstimemamma]

No ovulation tests for me. Here are the 5 things we did (got pregnant first try):

• tracked cycle using app
• healthy lifestyle / no booze
• regular sex especially around ovulation but not too much stress about trying to pin point ovulation if you see what I mean and just trying to keep things fun and relaxed
• lying down flat for a bit after sex
• pregnacare conception

Good luck all.

[BubbleBathLover]

Hi everyone, I thought I would jump in as this is our first cycle TTC #1. I took my last microgynon pill on 24th September and had my usual breakthrough. Just hoping my cycles return to normal 🙈 I told myself that I would stop taking the pill and just see what happens but I am totally obsessing already!

[Konbanwa]

@BubbleBathLover Congrats in starting the TTC journey!

I've only just started my first proper cycle TTC and keep getting quite overwhelmed with all of the new info re: conception.

I tried to use an opk for the first time this morning but messed up using it because I didn't have a pot/cup. Going to take it as a sign that I definitely shouldn't be stressing about using OPKs just yet! 😅

[han2291]

Welcome @BubbleBathLover ☺️ it's an exciting time!!!

@Konbanwa don't go down that rabbit hole yet 😂 one test turns into soooo many!

[han2291]

@Itsemily can totally appreciate that.. maybe keep that bit to yourself until after the deed is done then maybe he won't feel as much pressure ☺️ I think we focus so much on putting ourselves through all of the stress and I forget that it's a tough time for our guys too! It takes 2 to make a baby.

[Konbanwa]

@han2291 I tempted myself too much because I knew I had the packet of them in the cupboard! Definitely going to resist from now on though...

@Itsemily Sorry that you are feeling so bad about last night! Maybe take some time to have a chat through it with your DH as that might help take some of the pressure/stress out of the situation.

[han2291]

@Konbanwa it's super difficult to resist them! And then if you can't read them properly it stresses you out and your brain goes into overdrive thinking there's a million problems.. ugh. I'm thinking of trying a thermometer next month but I don't know, I think I'll become equally obsessed with that haha

[GaaaaarlicBread]

@lou1904 Thank you Lou , @han2291 and @Konbanwa

I had a chat with him this morning and he was like "you haven't had a sleepless night have you? I'm totally OK it hasn't bothered me one bit!" and I was like really?!? He said of course, I know I said I lost it a bit last night but only because I want it as much as you but I was equally quite tired. He said he's not put off and we can have a nice night tonight as he's off work tomorrow, so it is all good just me overthinking! He said I made it sound way worse than it was in my head and that it was. And Lou, thank you for that idea I have bought some today from Next down the road :)

@BubbleBathLover Huge welcome to this chat, and congrats on the start of what will be a wonderful journey!

[Konbanwa]

@Itsemily I'm glad that your chat went well and that all is ok! I think it's good to have a 'touching base' chat about TTC sometimes as it's really easy to get caught up in the planning.

I know my DH gets sick of talking about it some nights!

In regards to nice underwear, I've been quite a fan of the lace bralettes and knicker sets from Monki lately! Super comfy to wear and I have had some good reviews from DH 😂

[GaaaaarlicBread]

@Konbanwa I’m lucky my husband understands mostly as he’s a nurse but I think I probably annoy him most the time lol!
I’m glad your Husband is a fan of your sets !

What do you all do as jobs ? I work in a hospital and so wish I could have these chats with my colleagues but I’m not that close to them so I’m so glad I can come on here ! X

[Niffler1988]

@han2291 the disney movie worked! And as you said, its not over until AF arrives! Having O all over the place is just confusing as hell!!

@lou1904 thanks hun! Fingers crossed!

@Itsemily try not to beat yourself up hun! You were just trying to put him at ease. Sorry if TMI but the best way I find to get DH more relaxed and then incidentally get him going is to give him oral. I just started kissing him and straight on down there. Makes it more spontaneous and he is already excited for you to then DTD! Again sorry if tmi!