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TTC after pregnancy loss thread 31 - baby penguins are coming!

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strawberrye · 30/06/2019 07:32

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This is a wonderful supportive group for anyone TTC after the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Together we can get through he rollercoaster of TTC and get our baby penguins xx

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ReeReeR · 05/08/2019 22:55

Good luck tomorrow @Lilimum7 It is possible you will ov a day or so later if you are v stressed x

Pop1234 · 06/08/2019 06:49

@Lilimum7 good luck with your appointment today Thanks

Noisysparrows · 06/08/2019 07:01

Good luck @Lilimum7. Take a written list of questions if you have any specific things you want to know - I always got flustered or upset in appointments at the FC and came away realising I hadn't got the answers I wanted x

Noisysparrows · 06/08/2019 07:01

Good luck @Lilimum7. Take a written list of questions if you have any specific things you want to know - I always got flustered or upset in appointments at the FC and came away realising I hadn't got the answers I wanted x

Noisysparrows · 06/08/2019 07:01

Good luck @Lilimum7. Take a written list of questions if you have any specific things you want to know - I always got flustered or upset in appointments at the FC and came away realising I hadn't got the answers I wanted x

Noisysparrows · 06/08/2019 07:02

Sorry for posting three times!! Confused

TwittleBee · 06/08/2019 07:43

What a difficult set of emotions to be dealing with Lilimum , just hope you do get answers today but not only answers but also a way foward. Good luck x

TwittleBee · 06/08/2019 07:46

I'm seriously struggling today, can't shake off how my baby was my rainbow yet he has been stolen from me. 5 precious days with my rainbow and then he died. Does that still make him my rainbow? He brought us such joy so surely he must be? But then what's my next baby? Another rainbow? And what if I kill that one too?

fnej01 · 06/08/2019 08:06

@TwittleBee I am so very sorry for your loss. You absolutely have every right to be feeling how you do, and missing your rainbow. Have you been having support and counselling? Have you got a good support network IRL?

mrslaurenbrown · 06/08/2019 08:52

I just wanted to come on here to share with someone that I have been really struggling these past few days. I had a mc in July had to stay in due to it being a pregnancy of unknown location (this was my first baby). I was finally discharged last Tuesday when my hgc dropped to less than 5. On the whole I feel as though I've coped quite well, looked at the silver linings etc. Now I am starting to approach what I think is af coming and the last few days my mood has been so low I've struggled to get out of bed for work in the morning (no one at work knows about the mc) and then got straight back into bed when I arrived home. I can't remember feeling this down for a long time. We were TTC for 5 months before the first baby we lost. I desperately want another baby but can't bare going through it all again and suffering the disappointment month on month knowing that I was pregnant before. Sorry to rant just need to get it out.

mrslaurenbrown · 06/08/2019 08:52

I just wanted to come on here to share with someone that I have been really struggling these past few days. I had a mc in July had to stay in due to it being a pregnancy of unknown location (this was my first baby). I was finally discharged last Tuesday when my hgc dropped to less than 5. On the whole I feel as though I've coped quite well, looked at the silver linings etc. Now I am starting to approach what I think is af coming and the last few days my mood has been so low I've struggled to get out of bed for work in the morning (no one at work knows about the mc) and then got straight back into bed when I arrived home. I can't remember feeling this down for a long time. We were TTC for 5 months before the first baby we lost. I desperately want another baby but can't bare going through it all again and suffering the disappointment month on month knowing that I was pregnant before. Sorry to rant just need to get it out.

mrslaurenbrown · 06/08/2019 08:54

I'm so sorry for your loss @TwittleBee thinking of you Thanks

Mistymeow · 06/08/2019 09:35

@TwittleBee so sorry to hear of the loss of your little boy. Of course he was your rainbow- he will always be your little boy. And your next baby will be your rainbow too (you can get double rainbows in the sky Smile). Please don’t think you caused the death of your child. You didn’t. These are all feelings of grief which are completely natural but make you feel terrible. Are you getting professional support? I think Sands has already been mentioned but they also have a lot of other organisations listed on their website who could help too. I hope you have people irl to look after you whilst things are so raw. My mum used to nurse special care babies and after my losses always knew what to say. Keep the people around you that give you what you need right now and take your time x

Mistymeow · 06/08/2019 09:43

@mrslaurenbrown sorry to hear of your loss. Things always feel much harder when your period approaches because of the hormones. Be assured that once af arrives and ends you will start to feel better but if you are still struggling please do reach out to your gp for support. Or there are helplines where you can talk to someone about your feelings (Sands and Tommys). Petals is another charity that offer free counselling sessions. It’s a terribly lonely time- do you have friends and family you can talk to? Would it help if you confided in someone at work? I also started to get into bed feeling down but in the end it made me feel worse. Instead I would watch a dvd or distract myself because I knew that getting stuck in bed was feeding my low mood. Please do reach out for professional help if these feelings are ongoing. It’s so raw at the moment but over time it does get easier and you will feel better again.

TwittleBee · 06/08/2019 09:43

Thank you all, sorry to be such a misery when we are all experiencing grief already. I am in touch with various support via phone calls, but I am awful at initiating those, but I do have a counselling session finally coming up on the 13th August.

mrslaurenbrown I am so sorry for your loss too. It isnt just the loss of a baby is it, it is the loss of all those hopes, dreams and lifetime of knowing who they were. It is the loss of watching them grow up. It wasnt that long ago you had to go through with having your MC and staying in hospital must have been tough too, the whole unknown. Im wishing you the best of luck as you start the TTC journey again

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:03

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:03

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:03

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:03

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:06

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:06

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:06

Good morning all,

I wondered if I could use your eyes... I am really freaking out.... I have been trying to track my ovulation & not getting any dark lines. When I last conceived I had the same problem which is why I took a test.. does this look like a line?

As awful as it might sound I am hoping it's a false positive / line eyes otherwise I fear I may be having another ectopic. Previous TTC journey -BFN's, 'normal period' and then a positive which is what I'm worried is happening now

Thank you!

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:07

Sorry pic attached

PrincessConsuela12 · 06/08/2019 10:16

Ok so MN isn't working for me this morning 😕 apologies for the spam 🤦🏽‍♀️

ReeReeR · 06/08/2019 10:34

I'm so sorry for your loss @TwittleBee I cannot imagine what you are going through. I agree with @Mistymeow's wise words. I lost my daughter at full term around six months ago and I have found Sands helpful. There is an online forum which I go onto occasionally, not all of the time, but when I feel it would give me some comfort to hear from others who have been through similar. The most comfort I have got through Sands is through making a couple of friends. One I met online and we have messaged each other daily since we both lost our babies in February and another I met at a Sands meeting around a month after we had lost our daughters. I have had one of those mornings today when I have cried for about an hour for my daughter. If you ever want to PM me then please do.

I am so sorry for what you are going through too @mrslaurenbrown The ladies on this thread are wonderful but I hope you have some real life support too. Of course you are devastated. Don't put any pressure on yourself to get back to "normality"

Hope you're ok @Lilimum7 @Avocuddles

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