Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

Weasel - how are you hun? How are you coping now you’ve ‘moved on’?
I find I’m ok in everyday life but as soon as I go somewhere which is full of young families I find myself obsessively zoning in on how many children people have, especially those with 3. I’m looking at what they have and I don’t:( it’s so sad. I should be happy with the two gorgeous DC that I’ve got! I try to guess the age of the mother and compare myself. God it’s so sad to write it down:( No matter what I do I cannot shake the longing. How do you do it??

Hi little I'm doing ok to be honest. I have the odd wobble bad day, had one this evening! But like you I wanted 3 and I'm slowly accepting its not going to happen. I wish I'd started earlier in life but then I remember I got to 14 weeks with number 3, but it had an extra chromosome and passed away so I didn't leave it too late, it just didn't work out for me.....
I have 2 friends who can't have children (known from an early age more or less) and I remind myself that they would give anything for what I already have - so I have no reason to be sad. I'm just so grateful for what I have, no point longing for something else when I already have 2 small people in my life....
3 would have been lovely but it's not meant to be...... it's took a good while to get to this point. Time to get on and enjoy life with the 2 DC I have :)
I still stay on this thread though as I want to read the good news stories and especially want to hear about critters babies!!!! :)

Morning ladies
Catching up with this thread this morning has me in tears,. It's so sad to see so many of us struggling and some of the 'long timers' on this thread giving up., Booseys, Hellen, Littlemimosa and Weasledee I truly hope you all find the peace and happiness you deserve with your existing families, and continue to check in here from time to time. @weasledee your comment made me laugh and cry at the same time - that's so nice of you - I had no idea people were so keen to hear about my twins lol. I promise to keep you updated!

Next week is my last week in work - I'll be going off at 32 weeks as its getting very hard to function now. I've also just been diagnosed with obstetric cholestasis which is a rare pregnancy related liver problem so will involve lots of extra appointments and monitoring from now on. It will also definitely mean an induction at 37 weeks even if the babies haven't decided to come along by then so we now know they will definitely be here by early June!

Good luck to all the ladies with recent BFPs, I hope you're all feeling good and managing not too worry too much (much easier said than done I know!)

Enjoy the Easter break and beautiful weather everybody, sending love and hugs to you all 💕

Morning ladies..i know i know, what am i doing still here when i bid you all farewell last night?! But i just wanted to say MrsAmelia is so right about being much more fertile after mc's. I had two then fell preg without even realising a couple of months later! We weren't even trying and then like a miracle it happened.

Weasledee & littlemimosa.. Thank you. I'm in tears this morning but I truly feel I'm meant to have just one. I don't think my body is up to it at 47 and I'm terrified to try too hard so I feel like a flake being here tbh!
I can't believe how incredibly hard it is to move on from this group/thread and I know I've been on the cusp of leaving a few times in the past but something has made me hold on.
Wishing you all baby dust ..you are all so lovely and deserve it so much

Ooh goodness... @weasledee @BooseysMom and @hellenbackagen so sorry that you are coming to the end of your journey on here.. sending big big hugs.. and going to miss you.. as @littlemimosa says I want to scream DON'T GO but we all have our own personal journeys and thresholds for what we can do.. or want to do and I think you are being very brave.. lots and lots of love and pop in from time to time please..

Thanks chat, I'm not going anywhere for the time being, I just can't delete the thread yet!! :)

Mimosa - I had no side effects from clomid, although from this mornings temps ovulation still hasn't happened. Cd19, so it's mega delayed. Managed to get dtd this morning so hopefully we're back in the game. Just hoping I'm not struggling to ovulate resulting in large cysts.
Good luck with testing today, let us know how you get on. You never know!

Sorry to all those who are feeling its time to give up. It's such a stressful trying time, especially when we do have a time limit and we see the hourglass running out of sand. I've felt that way many times. If you do give up, there is no reason you can't still come here to vent.

So sad to see Hellen and Booseys go. And hi to Weaseldee- if you are staying around that will be great.

LittleMimosa- your periods must feel so confusing at the moment. Sending big hugs and some hope.

Hellen- I'm so sorry about your MIL. You have so much to deal with. Huge hugs for you too.

This seems like a sad time in this group. I'm also really excited to see Critter and Hobbes' babies in a few weeks/months. I'm so happy for both of you and anyone else here who's graduated to the second trimester!

Cleo- well said. This group is here for support as well as TTC.

@littlemimosa , @weasledee , @BooseysMom , @hellenbackagen sending you all lots of love. It's so difficult, isn't it. Thank you for your kindness and support. Super friendly, knowledgeable ladies.

I can't quite let go yet. I'm eternally grateful for my beautiful first girl and still grieving my second girl. I should have been going on maternity leave next Friday. Keeping myself busy and hoping for another miracle in the coming months.

Ps @CritterTamer I definitely want to hear about your lovely babies!!!!

Hi all - just catching up and feel sad about those of you who are teaching the point of giving up. I just wanted to send you love and thanks for being there for me and others... I think actually calling time is an incredibly brave thing to do, and I hope it brings peace to you. I am still checking in to see how everyone is, and also as I feel I can't count my chickens yet.
You are all such a lovely bunch.
I too want to make sure that I hear all about @CritterTamers babies when they arrive - I hope you are ok - the liver thing sounds pretty awful and I know it's been hard going for you for the last few weeks, so hope that the next few are ok.
I'm approx 17w now and desperate to feel babies move a bit more obviously - I feel things I am fairly sure must be them, but I'm also having constipation issues (sorry!) so I keep worrying it might just be my intestines being backed up!! I have another scan next week (24th) can't wait as I just want to feel reassured they are still doing ok... 🤞
Anyway, thinking of you all... x

Ladies you are all just so kind and I wish you all the luck in the world.

It's really odd I just know I'm done. 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I lingered on for so long!! Daft really but hey!

Baby dust to all who follow . 💐💐💐

Hellen - it’s not daft at all in fact to me it’s the most un-daft thing I could think of. It’s completely natural and normal but I just hope you’re ok x

Hobbes - good to see you. Glad all is going well. Keep up updated on your progress with those bubbas.

AFM I’ve not tested yet. Had a busy day out with friends and now I’m in bed and too tired to even contemplate testing. I’m so scared this time because if it’s negative I’ll be fine about not being pregnant but completely freaked out that I’m in late peri and it’s all soon to be over....

@Chatbash72 & @mellongoose.. thank you. I shall miss you all and even now am struggling to leave this group. It would have been lovely to have met up some day. I wonder just how long I've been lingering as Hellen says. I just couldn't quite let go. Today I went to see a friend who has three DC's and her youngest is one and is just adorable. All smiles and cute chubby legs, she's just started walking! When she saw me she held out both arms to me and wanted to go me straight away! I have never had that with someone's baby! It was just amazing but so hard and the longing for a baby was re-awoken in me. I don't think it will ever leave me tbh

@littlemimosa I feel for you. I really do. I hope it's the former. I just cannot imagine that you are in late peri already. You're too young. Sending positive vibes and vibes for a positive when you decide the time is right 🌟🤞

@BooseysMom you're clearly a natural. Cherish your baby and channel all your thoughts towards him. He's lucky to have you 👍

Sorry to those of you who feel you need to detach a little. I know how that feels.

I’ve been following the 40+ thread for coming up to 3 years but stopped posting regularly a while ago. I still check in though as it’s hard to give up. And even though I don’t really expect to conceive, I still hope for a miracle and grieve for what could have been.

Out of interest, what’s the oldest conception we have on here?

Mimosa - good luck to you if you test today. I totally understand why you don't want to, it's sometimes better to just keep the hope alive, especially if the other option causes concerns. But remember even if it is negative it doesn't necessarily mean you are late peri, it could just be a really shit cycle. I think unless it happens again, it could just be random.

As for me, it's been 4 days now since my peak, and still no temp rise. It's worrying me, as I am getting ovulation cramps daily and after taking clomid for the first time, I worry it's caused cysts and stopped ovulation.

Ali - I think it was 44?

Hugs @booseysmom

@KristieP2018.. Thank you
Well today I had to hold a 5 month old baby and I was in floods of tears in the bathroom after. I also have exceptionally bad hormones again and it's nowhere near AF due date..I'm mid cycle. I have a splitting headache, can't face food, alot of thick mucus (Sorry tmi) and just constantly see-sawing moods. I was totally opposite yesterday. I know I can't be preg.

An unbelievable story for you that I found out today... A lady at this person's work complained she had a bad tummy and was putting on weight. She said she'd gone through the menopause as she hadn't had AF for a year then she went to the docs and found out she was preg.! She was 47!! She hadn't been trying as she thought she had gone through the change! It's crazy the lengths so many go to, then some it just happens to without them trying.

Ooh @BooseysMom sending big hugs.. for lunch with my fam tomorrow and 9 month old nephew will be there.... it's so tough when your uterus is crying out for a squatter.. love the story.. have you tried homeopathic oils for the mood swings... it could really help ease things a little.. x

I think I'm having my first annovulatory cycle in 2 years - and it's on clomid. How is that even possible?! Clomid is supposed to induce ovulation, not stop it right?

@Cleozeta is the daily temping reducing your stress levels or increasing them? We have no way to fully predict what's going on inside our bodies... sometimes we just have to take a leap of faith that it's all ticking along.. if you are having twinges, chances are you've ovulated, but you May have missed it on the predictor sticks.. x

Thanks chat. I got a peak 5 days ago but temps are still flat. I'm using ava bracelet which is easy so no stress. No idea what is going on. Having twinges on the right side daily, starting to thing egg did not release and it's turned into a cyst.
Should have left clomid alone. I just wanted to try something, as my natural ovulation was so weak