Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

Beautiful pic @Megan2018 xx

God I’m having the weirdest cycle already. Three days of really light af, then stopped, then on cd6, 7 and 9 (today), a tiny bit of brown cm when I wiped - each time just once in the day. Wtf? I’ve never spotted after af before. Can’t help thinking the worst. Guess I have to wait for results of the tests next week

I always get brown spotting after af, usually up until around cd9, then cd11 & 12 ewcm can be brown tinged. Mine is perimenopause related. Got used to it now

My periods started changing when I was 39 (very heavy or very light), I went to the GP as I thought I was clearly dying.
No one prepares us for this stage of life. I wonder how many panicking 40 somethings have turned up at doctors surgeries with expectations of doom, only to be told it's normal, just a taboo secret.
The good news though, is while all this crazy shit is going on, it's still possible to conceive.

Hello ladies hope you're all well. Just popping by. Am in the 2ww although a bit confused about when ovulation happened but heyho...am probably about 4/5dpo now.

@Gizmojo I get this every cycle and have done for at least a couple of years now. Just when I think the period is over I get some more blood-tinged mucus after having a couple of days without! I'll be 42 in the summer so am assuming it's an age thing. I had my daughter at 40 and was already having light periods (they got lighter from my mid to late 30s) so it certainly didn't affect things in term of conception 👍🏼

Xx

Thanks for your answers, @cleozeta and @karryk. I just wish there was some consistency - things seem to be changing from month to month at the moment!

I've always had very light periods.
I was on the pill from 16 until into my 30's, then I stopped hormone contraception due to BP.
On or off the pill they were pretty light and painless - 2 days bleeding. Day 1 heavy-ish, then a day of light, then a day of nothing, then a few days of brown or brown-ish discharge that might stop and start.
They haven't changed at all yet.

Cycle length has altered very slightly - I was 26-27 day on average off the pill with the odd 24/25 day one. Then just before I conceived I had a 28 day cycle and tested because I thought I was late, the month after got BFP. I don't know if that was a factor!

Hi everyone - lovely scan pic @Megan2018 - you must feel so delighted!
@Russkispy - good to hear your follicles are growing - don't worry if you are needing a couple extra days - I don't think it's a bad thing.
Had midwife appointment yesterday - the most dull form filling appointment ever. I did ask if she would listen on Doppler - but was a def no, far too early. She did however ring the EPU for me and I'm booked in for a scan tomorrow to check the babies are ok as I just can't cope with waiting any longer. I am scared they are no longer alive in there. My sickness has subsided - I'm still tired a lot, but my boobs don't feel so sore either. I'm just so scared - so getting v nervous.

@Hobbes39
I was a tearful, shaking mess before the 10 wk scan for NIPT. I told them I didn't want to look, so I had my eyes clamped shut streaming tears until I heard her say "I can see the heartbeat, baby very wriggly". Then I properly sobbed. I was convinced there would be nothing there.

I did the same at the 12wk but luckily sonographer also found the heartbeat in seconds and then I could open eyes. I cried a bit less that time as wasn't so overwhelmed but it was still terrifying.

I have had very mild symptoms generally which adds to the terror. I know exactly how you feel and I can't say it is getting any better. I think I will be feeling the same until I feel her move - and then I will have a whole load of new things to worry about.

Good luck at your scan, I wish there was something I could say to reassure - but I think it just is a terrifying time all round unfortunately!

@Hobbes39 sending big hugs.. a window into our uterus' would be soooo useful and obviously a big design flaw 💕

Sending as many positive vibes as I can for today Hobbes

Symptoms do come and go so dont read anything into them. I was also convinced that a scan would show a mmc and was a bit of a wreck. I’m starting to be able to feel him now though. Little light movements like bubbles which I find very reassuring. I’m sure they are still there and fine

Hugs Hobbes! Sending you good thoughts.

🤞 hobbes, really hope everything is ok

@Littlemimosa if no-one took the royal jelly off your hands I would like it! Sorry to take so long to respond. Possibly the other stuff too, although I’m not sure what they do.

@Hobbes good luck for your scan!

Just wanted to check in and let you know that to my total amazement they found a heartbeat today at the scan. It was an abdominal one too, whereas they couldn't even find a yolk sac last week with a vaginal scan. Dated 6+1 which is roughly what I thought. Amazing the difference a week makes. I'm still getting a lot of crampy feelings but they don't want to see my back for another 6 weeks. It's not really sunk in yet! Good luck Hobbes and everyone else this week.

Brilliant news @Onlyinanemergency !
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Brilliant news @onlyinanemergency!!

Brilliant news @onlyinanemergency

Thanks everyone! X

@Onlyinanemergency. Awesome :) so glad it’s worked out for you

@Onlyinanemergency

Amazing! So pleased for you - hope everything is straightforward from now on.

Great news only!

Cleo..your msg made me lol!

Megan..bless you x. I can only imagine how that must have felt. I missed the whole first 12 wks!! But I was a sobbing mess when I saw DS on the scan for the first time.. I never imagined it was a baby in there! I thought I was peri-menopausal when AF went all wonky and all along it was DS!!

Hobbes..sending you lots of love and good vibes for your scan tomorrow x

Onlyinanemergency...hurrah! Great news! x

@Onlyinanemergency yay !!!! 💕💕💕