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Yammed if you do, Yammed if you dont

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Owlpatrol · 30/01/2019 07:15

Yammers thread 10!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night
  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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Owlpatrol · 04/02/2019 12:14

Yeah will do chick @impatientmammy just trying to get through Monday with no dramas. Itching to find out about the job as well, stupidly forgot to ask when I should hear!

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BGDino · 04/02/2019 13:31

@Owlpatrol got my crossables crossed for you!

impatientmammy · 04/02/2019 13:31

@Owlpatrol how do you feel like it went ? X

NoseringGirl · 04/02/2019 15:40

Hope you find out soon @Owlpatrol keeping everything crossed for you!!

cupcakesandglitter · 04/02/2019 18:54

Hope you find out soon @Owlpatrol xx

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Owlpatrol · 04/02/2019 19:02

Awww thanks for all the love everyone! I feel pretty good about it (no news is good news right?) I punched a bit for a salary increase but hey i wont leave my current job for nothing so lets see. Things are looking in the right direction but I don't want to get my hope up

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todaywasafairytale · 04/02/2019 19:13

Hello everyone, mind if I join? I'm on cycle 7 and feeling like it'll never happen. I'm also feeling like I'm surrounded by pregnant women. I even cancelled on a friend tonight because I just can't be around another pregnant woman and I don't want to talk to her about her pregnancy. I feel absolutely awful for that. It's been a rough weekend. I see others are finding things difficult too. It's a rough journey!

impatientmammy · 04/02/2019 20:14

Welcome @todaywasafairytale sorry your here but I hope you find it a supportive place to be. I gave up and told my closest friends we were struggling to be honest though when they stopped talking about their pregnancies I found it worse so you can't win really. It is nice though to have people that understand. Be kind to yourself I'm sure your friend doesn't mind xx

cupcakesandglitter · 04/02/2019 23:43

Hi @todaywasafairytale we can all definitely sympathise - when you're TTC and not pg it definitely makes it more difficult being around pregnant women or their babies.

My best friend knows we're TTC and I've said that it's harder than just getting pg - she has polycystic but has never tried for a baby and has always been on contraception- so when I talk about it she quickly says how she's basically in fertile anyway so she can relate. Makes me want to just snap and say she can't relate at all, she's never tried and never been told that she can't have kids. I guess it's one of those things you only get once you're in the situation 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've started listening to the BFN podcast. Highly recommend it for anyone that's not listened to it before, really funny and informative - and also realistic too

cupcakesandglitter · 05/02/2019 14:06

AF has turned up for me which means it's the end of my TTC journey 🤷🏻‍♀️ I might pop back on here every now and then but I'm unsure, may just delete the app altogether. I wish you all the best and hope you all get your BFPs xxxx

NoseringGirl · 05/02/2019 18:45

I'm so sorry to hear that @cupcakesandglitter wishing you all the very best Thanks

todaywasafairytale · 05/02/2019 20:07

@cupcakesandglitter all the best, I really hope things work out for you.

todaywasafairytale · 05/02/2019 20:09

@impatientmammy she ended up coming over anyway. I'm happy for her, it was tough to hear lots about her pregnancy, but I am happy for her. Had someone else in work today show me scan pictures, it literally feels like everyone around me is pregnant. Waaaaah. Feeling better today though, onwards and upwards, things could be much worse.

impatientmammy · 05/02/2019 20:42

Sending lots of love @cupcakesandglitter . I never really know what to say when anyone comes to the end of their journey. (Their should be a thread for it where people can truly understand.) look after yourself 😘 xx

impatientmammy · 05/02/2019 20:43

@todaywasafairytale glad your feeling better today. Just think if you do get your BFP your babies will be close in age 🤞x

inquisitivebadger · 05/02/2019 21:19

@cupcakesandglitter so sorry AF got you. Hope I'm not saying the wrong thing here but you never know, now you're not going to be 'actively trying' it might happen for you..?
Welcome @todaywasafairytale. I think you're right about not knowing until you've experienced it. I think my best friend was a bit baffled when I was so upset every month. She said it was natural for it to take a bit of time and I shouldn't be surprised. She was right but didn't understand how difficult it is emotionally.
Any news @owlpatrol and @JustLikeTheySaid? Hope you're both ok.
Thanks for the advice about OPKs and temping @cupcakes and @NoseringGirl. CD16 and still a very faint line but I dont feel so panicked now. I think I'll try to push for another blood test anyway for piece of mind.

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Owlpatrol · 05/02/2019 22:21

Ahhh @cupcakesandglitter so sorry to hear that Flowers I really hope its not the end end but maybe just closure of this chapter?

Nothing much to report here apart from a manic day at work, no news on the job. Af not turned up but cycke day 30 tomorrow so expecting some spotting tomorrow. Fully expecting it don't feel pregnant at all, crampy, feeling angry, and generally pmsy but it's taken a long time to come this month

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impatientmammy · 05/02/2019 23:05

@Owlpatrol I hope if your not pregnant the late pms doesn't mean af will be late. Could you have ovulated late do you think? X

BGDino · 06/02/2019 07:33

@cupcakesandglitter sending hugs

In other news, hubby has rotated back to his home hospital to a job with fewer patients and more sensible hours... which is good because we want to restart TTC as soon as the fertility specialist lets us and we'll need time to be doing the sexy Wink

cupcakesandglitter · 06/02/2019 11:00

Thank you all for your kind messages, it really means a lot. We went for dinner last night to talk about how I was feeling because I think AF put me in a really bad place. We've agreed to try without trying - so no timed sex, OPKs temping etc etc, we're going to carry on as normal but just not use contraception. If it happens, fantastic, but if it doesn't I can't be as disappointed because we won't have put anything into it. I've learned a lot from this journey, especially that I need to be patient, and also that I can't put my life and plans on hold for something that will happen whenever it wants to. TTC makes us forget that apart from being potential mums, we are also wives/partners, who have our own life and aspirations other than becoming a parent - in all of this I forgot to start looking after myself.

I will be back, definitely - and I may just lurk from the sidelines to see how you're all getting on, but I think this time out will do me some good. Sending lots of baby dust to all of you, thank you all so much for getting me through this ❤️ xxxx

NoseringGirl · 06/02/2019 11:57

@cupcakesandglitter it sounds like a very balanced approach. It can be easy to lose yourself on the TTC journey. I'm glad you've been able to talk it through and come up with a plan.

todaywasafairytale · 06/02/2019 20:21

@cupcakesandglitter I agree with @NoseringGirl , you're being so rational about all of this. It's so difficult not to let it take over your life, we need to live too. Best of luck xx

SuziQ10 · 06/02/2019 20:32

Going on holiday to the USA on Saturday AF is due the day we arrive there - Sunday (oh great). I'm feeling as though I am due on, spotty etc, but would like to take a P test just in case. Not much hope this month though.
Should I test on Friday, or not set myself up for being upset on the eve of our holiday to Florida

NoseringGirl · 06/02/2019 21:48

@SuziQ10 I would personally test but I usually test before AF anyway as I'm impatient and prefer to know whether it's coming or not. I think it's a case of weighing up what you'd find more difficult, AF appearing unannounced on the first day of your holiday or knowing in advance. I do hope AF stays away and you have a wonderful holiday.

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