TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO. 9

[stormtrooperjulian]

We’re almost at the limit on thread no.8 so I thought I’d start a new one before that one fills up

@cupcakesandglitter @MrsEG @Delilah7 @crossfitgirl @DayDreamer1707 @FlapJackered @sunshine1987 @FivexFive @GemmaJen @daisiesandpeonies @KatBeCool

Sorry to anyone I’ve missed 😘

@MrsEG thanks lovely. AF was due over the weekend so god knows why it hasn't come yet. One of the apps say it might come tomorrow but according to my LP it should have been over the weekend. How are you getting on? X

@DayDreamer1707 it's horrible isn't it😞 got my fingers crossed that we all get our BFPs in 2019! X

@MrsAW2018 See if it comes tomorrow and if not I would test again. You’re not out just yet :) I am still in my 2WW, 5dpo now and counting down the days! Keeping myself busy with Xmas prep to take my mind off it all :)

@DayDreamer1707 To be honest, I’m never really sure what smears are checking for outside of cervical cancer cells. If AF/your cycle is all over the place maybe worth chatting to your GP for some help? I would definitely stick with the OPKs too to give you some help in understanding what’s going on in there!

@MrsEG I'm onto my last FRER now! They're so expensive 🤦🏼‍♀️! Ooh good luck! When are you planning to test?

@MrsAW2018 Oh my god, if I could get the £ back I’ve spent on FRERs this year I’d be bloody rich..... I am due AF either Xmas day or Boxing Day, I’m gonna test Xmas day morning just so I know if I can get pissed or not!!! Our family know we are trying as they knew about our MC in October so we could just tell them if it was good news, rather than everyone raising eyebrows if I refuse the Prosecco!

@cupcakesandglitter @MrsLBear @MrsEG @Crossfitgirl @MrsR16 @FlapJackered @stormtrooperjulian @DuchessofPemberley thank you, I’m really pleased with the penguins!The royal icing is done and drying (gone for thick ‘snow style’) so will take a pic once it’s all finished this week! They weren’t too difficult to make from fondant, just needed some patience! Headphones were on and was good to focus on something creative :D

@DuchessofPemberley I get up at different times too, depending if I’m working from home when I take advantage of the extra time in bed, or if I’m heading in to the office etc. I have CFS which is largely under control thankfully, but I do make sure if I know I’ve ‘overdone’ it that I give myself the rest and recovery time sooner to prevent the payback. The Fertility Friend app recommends not ‘correcting’ the data though. As long as you do it first thing when you wake up you should still be able to spot a trend along with your other observations :)

@MrsAW2018 sorry to hear about the BFN, when is AF due? We’ve been trying since our wedding in June too so totally get how frustrating it is. Sending virtual hugs.

@DayDreamer1707 sorry to hear, keep looking after yourself. A friend had a MC when they were trying for their second, and they had one cycle then conceived again the 2nd month and went on to have a healthy 9 months. They are lucky though in that they seem to think about getting pregnant and it just happens!!

AF is due for me Saturday, currently on CD7. No differences compared to every other month on the TWW except for really sore nipples for a while yesterday, almost like being stabbed! Sometimes get sensitive boobs so expect its just my hormones making that worse than normal because it can…! This is the 6th ‘proper’ cycle, 7 if I include the first few weeks off the pill before first real period.

@DayDreamer1707 could it be that the spotting wasn't your period but just some mid cycle spotting from your MC? I would try not to worry too much although I know it is hard. Your body probably just needs time to balance out again.

@MrsAW2018 so sorry about the bfn. It's rubbish but just try and focus on the benefit of not being pregnant over Christmas, you get to enjoy mulled wine and lots of junk food!🍷

TMI question, do you find that sometimes loads of sperm comes out after sex and other times there is not even a drop?
We just Dtd as DH is working from home today and literally nothing came out afterwards. That can't be a great sign for lots of swimmers can it?

@FlapJackered yes!! I notice this too, some days there is loads and other times I nip to the loo after and it seems like nothing. I wonder if it depends on how much fluid we have down there which can vary day by day on the cycle?

@FlapJackered suppose it could be but that would mean I am on CD 34 and possibly had 3 lots of positive OPKs. Anything is possible I suppose though. I hope not because I have looked an you can Ovulate early and wouldn't be too far out for my next AF prediction. Also had lots of CM lately so would make sense but then again nothing makes sense in the TTC world. I have noticed that sometime I get more sperm come out after than other times. Sounds silly and TMI but my OH knows when it's going to be alot. Especially after AF as we wont have been DTD.

@EltzBee I know people who have also gone on to have successful pregnancies after MC and it does give me hope 🙂 FX for your BFP this month x

@MrsEG I suppose there isn't anything wrong because the EPU said that there was nothing wrong with me after the scan and they did check, probably have to when you have a MC. They also said to try again as soon as my first AF. I guess I just need to give myself time and I can just keep using the OPKs, I can obviously get pregnant so that's a positive x

@FlapJackered I notice this too and then hours later loads more will come out. I think it gets trapped 😂 but still think the number would be the same it's just more semen maybe?

I'm having really bad ovulation cramps today - well that's all it can be as had my static smiley yday. Does anyone else get them? And if so is that generally the day you ovulate?

@FlapJackered I used to worry about sperm leakage as quite a lot tends to come out with me! But it’s nothing to worry about at all; apparently the sperm are ejaculated first and head right on up there, and the rest is just leakage that flows out naturally. So if some leaks out it’s no big deal, and if nothing does, great it’s all stayed in there! I’ve heard position can be good to keep it in too - doggy or missionary - to direct it up there, and also lying still for 20 mins after to help it on its way! But I’ve heard the legs in the air thing is a myth :)

@MrsLBear I get very mild ovulation cramps and usually the day I ovulate, really mild though - nothing like AF cramps.

@DayDreamer1707 I’m sure there’s absolutely nothing wrong! MC is ridiculously common, I hadn’t realised until I had my MC at the end of October just how many people had them. There’s no reason at all why you can’t jump right back on the horse, but don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen right away. It hasn’t for me yet either but we’re trying again now and just hoping for the best. I’m trying my best to stay really positive as my GP really advised against stress and anxiety when TTC - I had to tell her my only stress was getting pregnant!!! Fx for us both :)

@FlapJackered - coughing or laughing usually dislodges it for me 😂
@MrsLBear - I've never noticed any cramps etc. around ovulation

Did another opk just now and it was a firm negative, so will definitely be dtd tonight (didn't happen yesterday in the end) so will hopefully have had 2 goes this month while fertile, presuming I ovulated yesterday or today... not ideal, as I was hoping to have done it a few times beforehand so they're all ready up there, but wasn't expecting to ovulate so much earlier than usual (my app wasn't even showing the fertile week yet, not usually until around cd19, not cd10!)

@FlapJackered yes!! Sometimes it's everywhere, and other times I'm convinced there was nothing there in the first place!!

I feel like AF is on her way 😩 don't know where I am in my cycle but I've drank copious amounts of wine cheese and salami this weekend so it's only a good thing really 😂 just waiting for her to show up now

Omg I didn't drink cheese or salami 😂 (ate both though )

@cupcakesandglitter Ha I read it as ‘wine cheese’ and thought wow that sounds delicious!!!

@Eltzbee that’s really reasssuring - thanks for that!

I totally understand the “pregnant by Christmas” thing. I really wanted that for myself. I was so upset when it didn’t happen. Still, some of us will have babies for next Christmas, which is a nice way to look at it.

@DuchessofPemberley that is a nice way to think about it. Thanks.

AF arrived here overnight. Mostly ok with it as has been such a weird cycle I’m just glad of some clarity. DH was funny last night - realising it’s not happened 3 months in he announced “we’ll need to start some of that unromantic timed baby-making!” Not sure what he’s been reading but made me smile...if only he knew how much I’d been learning on here!

@Scotslass55 Haha! DH refers to our tube of Preseed lube as ‘Baby juice’ At least your DH is being supportive and getting involved!

Just checking in, how has the week kicked off for everyone, good Monday?

I've been concentrating on work for the last few days, got a stressful week coming up with building work at home, already going wrong as the start date has been pushed back till Wednesday. But af has now left the building, so planning on when to start the ic OPKs and CB... Thinking cd8 and cd12 - what does everyone else do? Think I should be back to a 30 day cycle this month. Had 36 day after the MC last month, but only a 12 day luteal - think the chemical might have brought AF on early though.

Have been doing my best to relax... No testing early this time. Going to wait till the 12th January, already in the diary! Fx for all of you still in the game for 2018 bfps. There's got to be some more bfps due this year, I know it

Thanks for all the lovely messages ladies. AF has arrived with a vengeance so I'm currently lying on the sofa with a hot water bottle. Onto cycle 7 I guess😔

@GemmaJen Hi! I start my CB OPKs at 8 days but that was just following the guidance in the box, based on my cycle length!

Great you are relaxed this month - that has been me this month and it’s honestly been great. Can’t tell you how much I don’t miss the stress and anxiety! Of course i’m still aware and counting down my days DPO etc but I just feel a lot calmer - if it will be, it will be. There really is only so much you can do after all! FX for this cycle for you!

@MrsAW2018 Feet up, Netflix and chocolate and get yourself ready for your next cycle. AF coming along is always tough, I’ll keep everything crossed for you for Jan!

@MrsEG that's the plan for the evening! And thank you.... think we're overdue some BFPs on this thread!

@MrsAW2018 Definitely!! Think there’s quite a few of us testing next week though - FX for some Xmas magic! I’m having a night in front of Netflix myself - planned to go to Pilates but once I was in the car, changed my mind, came right home, finished off my advent calendar (oops) and now i’m in my PJs for the night - I do not regret my decision :)

@MrsEG yes! Fingers crossed for some Christmas BFPs! I don't blame you for changing your mind about Pilates - It's too cold and dark! I've just polished off half a box of Heroes😂enjoy your Netflix evening!