TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO. 9

[stormtrooperjulian]

We’re almost at the limit on thread no.8 so I thought I’d start a new one before that one fills up

@cupcakesandglitter @MrsEG @Delilah7 @crossfitgirl @DayDreamer1707 @FlapJackered @sunshine1987 @FivexFive @GemmaJen @daisiesandpeonies @KatBeCool

Sorry to anyone I’ve missed 😘

@cupcakesandglitter - I don't watch it with DH around as don't want to freak him out haha!
Ok, will try and dtd tonight then maybe keep doing the opk's a few more days just in case...

@EltzBee those penguins are amazing!!! Wanna see the final result of this Christmas cake once your done!
@starkid could be that your wee was a bit too diluted? Did you hold out for a few hours? Could be a whole array of things really. Short surge? So annoying you can't use tour cb one again now. But maybe do another IC later today/tonight and then do it tomorrow too that way you can compare? I did another IC about half hour ago too and mine wasn't too dissimilar to yours. Will send a pic in a moment.

@stormtrooperjulian Oh no - maybe wait until AF is officially late in a few more days? When I was pg before my MC I didn’t get a BFP until the day of AF. It can take a little while for the hormone to kick in. FX!!

@starkid If you’ve had one positive I would DTD today anyway just to be sure. If you have ovulated early you don’t want to waste it!

@MrsLBear My cycles are really short (26-28 days) so I’ll know one way or another by Xmas day/Boxing Day by my count. I’ll either be celebrating or drowning my sorrows! Could you take some tests with you on the family holiday, so you don’t have to wait til you get back?

@EltzBee they are so good!! Well done!

Thanks for the birthday wishes @eltzbee @cupcakesandglitter

@eltzbee those penguins!!! How did you make them?? They are amazing! I'm gonna do some baking in my week off this week... baking goals... baking goals

@mrseg omg tiny socks are the cutest! Though all the tiny new born stuff is the cutest. I would have been totally confused as well tbh!

@mrsLbear yes get on it for at least the next 3 days! You wanna go for day before ov (today or could be tomorrow) and day of and day after! Go go go!

@Crossfitgirl happy birthday, lovely lady!

@EltzBee you're so clever! Those penguins are incredible!

@cupcakesandglitter I love OBEM too! Again, don't watch it when DH is around, because he doesn't do well with the actual birth bit! Haha! He's already said that he'd be staying up at the head end rather than watching the live action stuff 😂

Haha my DH is the same @cupcakesandglitter @MrsR16 he literally has his hands over his eyes the whole time. I'm like oh man up will you 😂😂
There's gotta be a new season of it soon as well! I watched one of the first episodes the other day actually and OMG it looked so budget!! It's got so much better.

Happy birthday @Crossfitgirl! Hope you've had an amazing day!
Well we DTD today (sorry for tmi but I laid there with a pillow under my backside for a good while) but unfortunately I've got a 12 hour shift tomorrow so it's out of the question and then will hopefully DTD again Tuesday but tbf I feel like I'm so close to O as I can feel twinges etc etc. I really wanted to SMEP this month but I've settled for eod instead. Also love the idea of giving everyone those cards for Xmas. Will be such an amazing moment. Enjoy every second of it!!! Perfect timing or what. How far along will you be on Xmas day?

Thanks @mrsr16 :-)
@mrsLbear ahh sounds like you've got it covered :-) I think I'll be just over 7 weeks at Chrismas, I can't believe how well it was timed. I homestly thought it would be next year or later... Fertility clinic appt would have been on the 31st!

@Crossfitgirl Happy Birthday!!! 🎂🎉
That is funny about the temping thing. Well hopefully we will have it covered if we Dtd every other day. Although we are due to Dtd tonight and I am just not feeling it at the moment, and in the interest of keeping it chilled I'm not sure what to do about that as I don't want it to feel clinical this month. 🤷🏼‍♀️ tricky one!!
Here is the recipe for the tagine if you're interested!

@MrsEG well done on keeping it chilled! We have done well so far but now we know it is likely to be fertile time I think neither of us are in the mood! Not sure how to proceed now as I don't want it to feel forced and get stressful this month!

@cupcakesandglitter they are pills that encourage an increase in oestrogen I think! So can help mature and increase viable eggs is my understanding! There are amazing success stories using them. You take them at the beginning of the cycle. Most people say it brings ovulation forward a bit which would be good for me as I ov quite late. There have been a few threads with people saying it messed up their cycle but I asked my GP and she didn't seem worried, so I will give it a go! I can be the guinea pig for the thread!

@MrsLBear they are so good aren't they and so easy to make! Love Jamie!

@EltzBee those are amazing!!! I am making penguins for mine too but those are so cute!!

@stormtrooperjulian that's a good sign then! Have you had any af symptoms or anything? What OPKs do you use? It seems it can be missed so easily (o day I mean) it might be that you just missed it. This is the first month I've caught it - I had no luck previous months am cos it seems that if you are a day late sometimes you can completely miss it. Thanks bodies for being really easy to read.........

@FlapJackered I really think pushing to DTD when you don't really want to is (well for me) a massive fail. We did that the other week (ironically no where near o day so there was no need) and it was shit and made me feel shit too. Defeated the whole point of even DTD. We tried to DTD eod but as it got too much we decided to chill and just do it when we actually wanted to and the next night we just naturally did it and it was so much better - physically and mentally anyway. Everyone is different though and I do think it's got a lot to do with your partner too. Some men can be up and ready to go (no pun intended) at every opportunity. My DH hasn't got a crazy rabbit sex drive and I was always thankful he didn't until we started TTC. Also having done it Friday you're still in for a very good chance and tomorrow is another day. I just think do what your body says not what your chart says.
I'm gonna stop rambling now, excuse the essay.

@FlapJackered what are these pills called your talking about? I tried reading down but couldn't see the original post. They sound like something I can benefit from me - ovulating so late.
Have you read anywhere that it's detrimental to ovulate as late as we both seem to do?

@MrsLBear wise words! I think you're right, I might just see what happens and see if the mood changes!
They are Soy Isoflavones - I found this thread which is really encouraging - https://community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a12154345/bfpswithhsoyisoflavones.?cpg=1&csi=2066074503&pd=-6
but I have also seen people complain about them too, but I suppose you will get positives and negatives with most things.
I don't think ovulating late is terrible but I do wonder if it might mean there is a slight imbalance in hormones which this could help with. I will report back in January!

Evening ladies, hope you've all had a lovely weekend.
We've just got back from our lovely weekend away in Scotland. I didn't take the HPTs with me in the end, I just wanted a weekend away to not think about it (ha like that was possible). I half expected my period to arrive yesterday or today (based on the 12 day LP I've had for the last few cycles) but it hasn't come🤔. So I'll be testing again tomorrow morning if it doesn't come during the night. My DH thought that The FRER I had that I was sure was an evap was a Bfn with no line anyway. I'm sure he's getting sick of me tbh with all this TTC malarkey tbh. One of my school friends (not friends with her anymore though) had a baby yesterday and it hurt so much because I always thought that I would be the first one out of my friendship group from school to have a baby😞. TTC sucks sometimes!!!

@FlapJackered that sounds so interesting! So many successes with it and quick ones too! Yes defs let me know how you get on!! I am 100% gonna look into getting some.
Well I'm just worried cos I O late that my LP is too short. Plus I've read it can affect the egg/lining. But who knows!
Really think that's the way to go sometimes. Go with the flow - which I know is so hard to do! And farrrrr easier said than done.

Welcome back @MrsAW2018 👋🏼
Glad to hear you had a nice time and away from the TTC madness (well as much as humanly possible cos it really is ridiculously addictive)
Fx for you tomorrow!!!!!
Oh men are useless with stuff like this. I've taken the mute approach and literally don't tell my DH anything.
Ah that is the worst. I keep seeing people I went to school with announcing pregnancies on fb and it's a killer. Wanna block them all! (Not bitter or anything 👀👀👀)

@EltzBee I love the penguins!

@MrsEG I’ll test again towards the end of the week if AF doesn’t show up. I’m pretty sure it’s just my body messing me around though.

@MrsLBear dtd today should cover you for the next couple of days anyway. I read that it’s better to have the sperm already waiting up there ready for ovulation so you should be good there if it happens in the next couple of days

@FlapJackered don’t push it if you’re not feeing it today, I think doctors recommend every 2-3 days so don’t worry about missing a day

@MrsLBear I use the one step cheapies, I wasn’t particularly rigorous with the testing this month so I’m not surprised I didn’t catch it really.
My boobs have started hurting today which is something that usually happens before af but I also have sore nipples, which I don’t usually get. I also just had (this is tmi and gross btw!) loads of yellow tinged ewcm, which is a bit random. Why can’t there just be a consistent pattern so we know what to expect

Morning ladies. Just done another cheap test and it's a BFN so my body is clearly still just messed up from the MC. Thinking I'm out this month already x

@DayDreamer1707 Sorry to hear that. It can take your body a little while to recover. Could you maybe go and chat to your GP just to answer any questions you have? My GP was brilliant after my MC. Big hugs to you

@DayDreamer1707 I am sorry hun. At least you know now though. X

Work has been crazy so I haven’t been posting much, though I have been reading.

@Eltzbee I love the penguins! I wish I was that talented.

@Daydreamer1707 sorry to hear about the bfn. It can take a while to level out after a MC. Be kind to yourself xxx

Everything is going ok. My temperature charting is having mixed results. I need to get up at different times in the morning depending on how my medical condition is, so my Fertility Friend app is giving out to me for not doing it at the same time every day. Apparently my graph is more jagged than most people’s because of this but it can’t be helped. I haven’t ovulated yet so I’m hoping there’ll be a distinct difference in my chart despite the fluctuations.

I’m finding things ok at the minute, but this part of my cycle - after AF but before the TWW - is always the calm before the emotional storm. I’m hoping Christmas is a good distraction from it this month.

@MrsEG @FlapJackered @DuchessofPemberley I didn't think I was pregnant but was difficult actually seeing the BFN, especially as I should be pregnant at Christmas. I was told that i could try again as soon as I was told I can try again as soon as I had my first AF. Just got to give it more time I suppose. Just more annoyed that I may be ovulating so early too as that can't be good x

Thanks @MrsLBear! My DH is generally quite good with it all but I feel like he's getting tired with me going on about it all the time. It's all I think about!

Just done an IC and it's a bfn... do I waste a FRER? 😩😢 it was bfn on Friday... do you think the results could have changed between then and now?

Sorry for the double post but think I'm out this month. Just did the FRER and it's a bfn. Devastated to be honest, really thought I'd be pregnant by Christmas (we started trying in June). Just want AF to arrive now so we can move on to cycle 7.

Anyone else feel anxious, I think a baby is what I want (have 1 child age 12 - so very much starting again and obvs I'm 12 yes older) but one minute I feel desperate for it to happen and now I feel panicked that I might have conceived. I end up in a mess as don't know what's for the best.
In a loving relationship but he is older he is supportive either way but I know if I wasn't wanting one he certainly wouldn't be pushing for a newborn. Felt dilemma when I was pregnant last time so much so I didn't know what to do, lacked maternal instinct was skint and bad relationship (loved her immediately when she arrived) but now £ and stability and loving home not an issue yet seem to have same fear/anxiety - what if I get sick, what if baby unhealthy, what if I don't enjoy being a mother, signing up for another extra 12/13 yrs of parenthood, going back to work/childcare, effect on partner. I'm driving myself to despair to the point now not sure if to go out to get emergency contraception 

@stormtrooperjulian Will keep my FX for you. Has AF arrived yet?

@MrsAW2018 So sorry to hear about your BFN. Is AF definitely due/late? It’s really hard - we started trying June too, and so badly wanted to be pg before the end of the year. But January is another month! I will keep everything crossed for you, and hope you have a lovely xmas to try and take your mind off it.

@DayDreamer1707 So sorry hun. I really hope your body settles down soon and that you get that BFP quickly in the new year.

@MrsEG I think my cycles are pretty all over the place to be fair even before my MC. Not really sure what to do. If I had any issues they would of noticed when I've been for scans and smears right? I've seen that you can ovulate quite early so just have to see x.

@MrsAW2018 it's horrible when you see the BFN. FX we get lucky over Christmas x