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TTC July - Time to try again!

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alittlebitshy · 08/06/2007 16:23

Eek never started one of these threads before but thought i'd be brave.

is cd 1 today This was my first cycle since m/c in march. Feeling pretty positive about July - if i don't i'll cry .

Surely someone wants to join me and stop me looking/feeling like a fool!!

OP posts:
kneazlechick · 17/07/2007 12:52

I know. Dd has only recently started going thru the night - at 16mo!! So glad she has before I get pg again. Couldn't face 2 children getting up in the night!!

ladylush · 17/07/2007 12:55

Long may it continue. Ds has only just stopped waking at least once at night and he is 3!

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 13:22

Hiya. Can't believe it took me so long to join this thread. want to say ta to Mrs Rigby, Kneazlechick, Littlesquirt and Lady lush for there msgs - really helped cheer me up.

Ladylush - sorry to hear about your m/c - it is just so unfair! Really hope your blood tests help show what is going on for you. Hope you are ok and not having too low a day.

Took me 10 months to get pg last time - really hope it doesn't take as long this time. Going to get a fertility monitor just to try and help me along though cos I am so impatient. Going to keep my eye on ebay and hope I can grab a bargain.

4 months will feel like forever to wait - I had to do it but had no choice cos I needed to let my elepehant dose of folic acid get to work - wouldn't have waited otherwise. Like I said am too impatient. Can't wait to get started again now though just trying not to get my hopes up for a BFP starightaway.

How is the thunder where you are? 2nd attempt at this msg cos it keeps switching all my power off!

x

LittleSquirt · 17/07/2007 13:46

Hi MoodyMoo. I hope it doesn't take you that long either. I know what you mean about being impatient, I have only just started TTC again after my ERPC too and days feel like months at the moment!!
Have you decided which fertility monitor to get now MoodyMoo?

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 14:19

hiya Littlesquirt
Think I am going to go with the clearblue one. Have spent ages looking on the internet and has had good reviews.
Last time i tried the opk's but even though I got pg was more down to luck than the kit cos the lines never worked. Think it just helped me relax.
Too be honest will try anything if it will help me get a BFP quicker. Have ditched alcohol(boo hoo) and made hubbie ditch it too. Not missing it too much - some really good alcohol free lager out there, just need some good wine alternatives.
Going to try Reiki on Thursday and reflexology - not sure how they help but should be realxing which is a start. Can't wait.

Hope you are feeling ok after your ERPC - I didn't have one of these as was so far on had to be induced. Got a friend who had one though and she said that she found it easier to get pg after she had it so fingers x'd for you.

LittleSquirt · 17/07/2007 14:27

Thanks LittleMoo.

So far so good. I had my ERPC on 2nd July and didn't bleed too long (only about 4 days, sorry if tmi) and pain stopped within a week. I have heard of people who had pain and bleeding for 3 weeks plus so I am not complaining.

Although it was all so tough to go through and get over, I feel like it was nothing compared to you having to go through an induction (I never saw the LO as they reckon it had died at 6 weeks and we only realised during an early scan at 9w3d). You sound very strong and you should be really proud of yourself.

Good luck with the clear blue fertility monitor, after everything you have been through, I hope they work for you and you soon have a new pregnancy to enjoy!

It is so nice to see quite a few people with BFP on different threads, fingers crossed that it will be our time soon!!

Big hugs! x

LittleSquirt · 17/07/2007 14:31

Sorry, MoodyMoo I meant!!

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 14:54

I agree Littelsquirt. really good to see people getting BFP's - helps keep us positive about the future. Got a friend at work who told me she was pg a few weeks ago and I know she hadn't really wanted 2 tell me but I was really pleased for her. She has had a few m/c so I knew how much it meant to her. Not sure what it will be like working with her and seeing her bump grow but I just got to deal with it. Due back to work in 2 weeks which is daunting after being off since March but am going mad just sat at home.

In a way I am glad I got to see my LO. the hospital staff were great and brought me little outfits and things to pick out for her and they took photos of her. All very strange at the time but found it has helped me loads.

Anyway positive thinking from now on for us all! We will all be having BFP's before we know it. We can at least have fun trying...

ladylush · 17/07/2007 15:12

Oh moodymoo I know I am emotional at the mo but reading your post brought tears to my eyes I agree, you seem very strong. I really hope you conceive again soon and have an uneventful (as in successful)pregnancy. In fact, that goes for everyone. I have to confess that I never completely left my ttc thread as I missed everyone, and the only good thing to come out of this terrible situation is that I get to talk to new ladies in the same situation as me as well as some friends I had made who are still ttc.

kneazlechick · 17/07/2007 16:49

I agree ladylush. It makes me feel so lucky that I've only had 1 pg and have my lovely dd. I don't know how I'd cope if I had to go thru some of the things you ladies have had thrown at you.

Makes me realise how lucky I am.

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 17:52

Whoops - sorry Ladylush I feel bad now that I made you more emotional than you alreday are. Didn't mean to.. I Hope you are feeling a little better now.
Big Hug
x

ladylush · 17/07/2007 18:46

Don't feel bad! If you can't "talk" about stuff like that on here, then where can you. My aunt had a still born baby but I was still a kid so I didn't know the intimate details. A colleague lost one at birth but we weren't close enough to discuss what happened (though I had much respect for him as a person and a colleague). How did your dp cope with it all?

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 21:14

He handled it really well at the time,he didn't really have much choice though as we had taken his son with us to the scan and they told us with him in the room so had the pair of us to deal with - not easy. think he is struggling a bit now though. Trying to convince him to speak to someone but typically is refusing. Have spent alot of time waiting for results for various things but have most of them now just got 2 more to come back and the due date next week to get out of the way and then I think we will be able to start moving forward a little bit.

Only got married last August so has put a bit of strain on us but we are getting there. Will be celebrating our anniversary in a few weeks - think will plan something nice for us to do - just not sure what yet - great opportunity to try a bit of bd though .

How about your dp? It must be hard to go through this so many times (I assume from looking through the thread that this wasn't your first one) and must put pressure on you both.

x

ladylush · 17/07/2007 21:29

This one has hit him hard (it's the 3rd one since we ttc no. 2)as it seemed to be going so well. I feel worse for him than me at the moment plus it's his bday on thursday. Mind you, I've miscarried around the time of my bday for the past two birthdays. I just keep self-indulgently feeling why is this happening to us - we're quite decent people etc etc. when of course it's all irrelevant.

I think doing something nice for your anniversary is a lovely idea. Any thoughts? Where do you live? Ours is in August but we might delay celebrations til Sept when mil is back from hols so she can look after ds if we have a weekend away. Was thinking of Sweden as we have a friend from Stockholm and thought it might be nice to go there with her and her dp (they live in London)plus we've been saying we will go for ages but not doing anything about it.

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 21:56

Think people forget that the men have feelings in all this. Everyone always focuses on the women. To be honest though I didn't have the energy to worry about him at first - was too wrapped up in myself. it was only when he begged the doctor to give me sleeping tablets so that he could have one night of from me that I realised he was hurtin too.

Must be really hard to go through this 3 times - can't imagine how you cope with it. I just feel so sorry for you both. I suppose it is really hard to get your hopes up but you just gotta to keep going. It's happened for you once and it will happen for you again. Keep nagging your doc for whatever tests you can - have you got a pre-natal ward at your hospital? Could you not ask for refferal to there? That's who we are seeing and they are so nice.

Sweden sounds great - just what you both need - nothing better than a break. Would love to have a holiday but spent everything on the wedding last year, so got no spare pennies at the moment(not complaining too much though cos i had a great day). Got a weekend in the Yorkshire Dales though in september as an anniversary present from my SIL so looking forward to that. We live in Leeds so think might take dh to the coast or back to the hall where we got wed for a meal on anniversary but it's b/h wkd so will be heaving. Also If this reiki thing is any good on thursday I might try and arrange a session for dh as a treat cos i reckon he could do with realxing a bit.

x

mslucy · 17/07/2007 21:58

I think this is a very good thread.
It's very easy to forget men have feelings because they're not very good at talking about it.
The baby was half them so the loss is just as real.
They're less likely to go bonkers as they don't have the hormones but m/c is hard for blokes too.

ladylush · 17/07/2007 22:12

True and I think it is less permissable for them to feel upset. I really feel for my dh at the mo. At least it has brought me closer to him, rather than further apart.

mslucy · 17/07/2007 22:15

that's good.
Because you probably will be a bit emotional in the next few months and he might find you hard to deal with.

ladylush · 17/07/2007 22:18

He finds me hard to deal with as it is I am high maintenance

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 22:47

Bit of a strange thing though when you see your dh crying. Not something have had to deal with before so was a bit strange. Got so used to him mopping up my tears was a shock when the roles reversed. Won't thank me for telling people though.
It does bring you closer though in the end. Am really hoping he will go get some cslling though cos it's really helping me and 2 be honest think he needs someone outside it all who is there just for him. It sounds awful but I have had so much more support from our family than he has - they just think he should be there for me and thats that.
Think you need to try and spoil your dp Ladylush on his b'day this week, make him feel special for a day - then he can get back to looking after you.

ladylush · 17/07/2007 23:04

Yes well I think we have to look after each other. He has been brill this past week. I think we will be treading on eggshells next pg. Interestingly, I had a chat with a mate of mine who's dp is an obstetrician and without even asking any questions he said tell her she needs to go on aspirin, heparin and folate. Wow, now that's impressive. Why bother waiting for the RMC

moodymoo · 17/07/2007 23:27

It always suprises me how doctors go round the houses before giving you the stuff that they already know will help. At least you are clued up and know what to ask for.

Know what you mean about the next time you get pg. Will be really hard for you.Just got to be sure that you are both ready before you ttc again.

We saw a lovely consultant last wk who told me to ring her when I get pg and she will do as many scans as it takes to reassure me. Bet she will regret that when I am down there every week.

Anyway am in trouble for ignoring dh as spent most of the night on here. Didn't realise it was so late. whoops.

Hope 2moro is a good day for u x

ladylush · 18/07/2007 08:08

Is that an NHS consultant? If so, lucky you seem to have a supportive one. In re. to my mates dp, well he's not my dr and they live overseas. I only told her yesterday so can't blame him for not passing on advice sooner. I have been thinking of aspirin as I was wondering if there is an auto immune problem where my blood is clotting too much, but apparently this is not easy to check (not always reliable results) so some women take it as prophylaxis.

Sorry to hear about your dh crying It is v hard to see your loved ones cry.

kneazlechick · 18/07/2007 08:32

Morning ladies.

I know it's not been a nice few months for some of us but ... a friend of mine had a beautiful baby girl last week. They've called her Frances. She has 2 older brothers to protect her when she's older and trying to go on dates

Nothing to report here except dh's knee if back to normal which means normal night-time activities have resumed

Hope everyone is OK this morning

You about today Scorpio?

moodymoo · 18/07/2007 09:56

Morning
Yes she is an NHS consultant,really nice lady who just helped us relax so much. Having read some of the other threads on this site I appreciate how lucky we are.

Wasn't meaning your friends dp by the way when on about docs - just think that your own doc should have told you all that your friends dp had.It's like my eldest brother has spondilitus and the docs made him spend over a year trying loads of medicines that they told him they knew wouldn't work before they would give him the one that would work cos it costs alot of money. (know nothing to do with ttc but trying to explain my frustration with doctors)
I am rubbish at explaining what I mean so will have to bear with me - friends laugh at me cos i get myself in such a muddle at times.
Can't u just start taking the aspirin yourself? i'm not very clued up on ths type of stuff.
Anyway hope today is going to be a good day for you x