Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

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Ladies, here's our 2nd summer thread :)

Ooh @AuntieGeek so sorry, enjoy that pastis and don't forget the pate and beautiful soft cheeses

Holding out to cd26 with a £land cheapie and a faint line on an opk and crappy painful boobs for over a week was a torturous waste of time - bfn. It's not really going to happen at my age is it?

auntiegeek some for you too.

Oh no! Not liking the bfn's
September will be our month. Positivity!

I'm still ov stage.... got the lovely tww 😬😬

Good luck chat!
I'm due af any day now. I'm guessing on Friday, but completely miss timed dtd this cycle so totally out. Hoping for a nice straightforward cycle in Sept to restart ttc properly

I'm hoping for a normal AF so I can start counting. I've honestly no clue where I am in the cycle.

PS the was pecharmant and glorious

I'm DPO9 and have tested today. It's basically BFN but I've been obsessively checking the test all day and have convinced myself there's a hint of a second line. Why do I do it to myself?! I know I'll test every day til AF arrives in 5 days
Commiserations on the BFN's and congratulations on the BFP's, ladies.

Sorry about the BFNs ladies - this ttc thing is really shit but you kind of get used to the misery every month the longer it goes on I find - this month I didn’t even cry when AF arrived, was just sort of numb and didn’t cry til 24 hours later.

My body surprised me b6 doing something right this time though- I managed a 13 day luteal phase which is a record 😊 Maybe all thefertility yoga and acupuncture is helping with that.I hoped that might mean a better lining but nope AF still only 3 days long so i guess my lining is still crap. Started on raspberry leaf tea today in the hopes that might help (DH now officially thinks I’m crazy and descending into the realms of witchcraft what with all the packages of Maca and spirulina powder about the place, constant pill popping and now raspberry leaf tea LOL)

Anyway, treatment planning appointment for IVF2 is first thing tomorrow so I’m hoping that will boost my positivity - at least I know I can get a decent lining and LP on the IVF drugs even if my eggs are shit quality 😁 ironically my NHS fertility clinic appointment finally came through after 6 months of waiting and that’s tomorrow afternoon too. I’m not expecting much help after hearing some of you guys’ stories about NHS doctors and over 40 fertility but it can’t be worse than Dr Doom right? I’m hoping at least I might get a prescription for progesterone cream to help with the short LP but we’ll see - I’ll let you know how it goes.

Hope you are all doing ok and managing to stay more positive than me. I hope the Ava bracelet works out well Cleo!

Ahh good luck tomorrow Critter xx

Sorry about the bfns ladies, all round xx

I'm in ov pain city at the mo. DH has made it his mission to get me pregnant this month and asked for ideal dates in advance. 3 goes down, now on to the waiting! Joy...

Here's a really straight forward question for you experts. Af arrives, the 14 days later I have ewcm. But af arrives 3 weeks after that. When do I ovulate?

I'm due on Sunday, but think I already have a few af cramps.... but being hopeful I'm planning on testing on Friday :)
Sorry for the bfn's and fingers crossed for those still hopeful :)

Good luck @CritterTamer for tomorrow that sounds positive, this is the first month I've not spotted pre AF (apart from 7dpo which as I'm an obsessional symptom spotter I'm optimistically calling possible IB) 2 days pre AF getting crampy but still the eternal
Optimist. Will prob test early as have been given progesterone to take the minute I get bfp and as I've given myself til Feb I figure I can take the hit on the compulsive POAS. it's getting harder, DH feels "under pressure" erm helloooo how do we feel? So I'm having to not be scientific and instead get seductive which in itself is suspicious when I want to scream "just do it on these days then you're off the hook"! Anyone else having this too? Good luck to everyone with pending tests and I'm hoping a bfp will mean I don't have to get my best nylon 70s babydoll out

@MakeAWhish you're not alone the way I look at it is the torture of the final week is short lived and I totally commiserate with a weepie and . Do you have friends to share what you're going through or are you keeping it to yourself? My fingers are crossed for you! lots of baby dust to everyone and sorry for the bfns - gutting everytime xxx

Sorry @CookieWaffle the maths is too much for me I'm sure on of us is an expert x

@Dinah99 Glad it's not just me!! I seriously can't wait to test with FMU in the morning - argh!!!
I have been laughing about it with a friend and with my OH today. I keep obsessively checking this mornings test and squinting at it in diff lights. No one else can see even the slightest hint of a second line I fear I may lose my mind.... x

@mondaycando1 don't give up hope! I got pregnant at 43 11months but miscarried due to undiagnosed thyroid issue. It can happen for you xx

Well it could be worse you could be obsessively checking your toilet paper or pants for spotting! Ewww
It's a bloody nightmare isn't it! Well we'll be testing together then! How early are you? I'm 2 days and frer'ing it x

@Dinah99 AF isn't due for 5 days I'm a lost cause xx loads of baby dust to you!! Looking forward to your update x

critter good luck with your appointment today!

@Dinah99 I think you meant @mellongoose. Sorry Mellon I'm not a CM follower but I assume your ov happens just after your EWCM, maybe you had a long luteal phase. Can't really say for sure.

Had +OPKs for 2 days and was expecting my temp rise this morning but it didn't happen. Now thinking everything under the sun as to why I'm broken. Hopefully it just pops up tomorrow.

@Dinah99 my OH sometimes gets like this.. it's like his " don't feel up for it " mood clashes with when I'm ov which is too frustrating.. and yes in those final days before af I get scared to go to the loo.... just in case I see spotting...
@mellongoose not sure when you ov, can you feel ov twinges or cm? Dtd every few days to keep yourself covered and swimmers in the tubes x

@Chatbash72 it's a nightmare isn't it, you go through all the timing and opk's for them to be tired.... I've still no spotting but did a frer this morning and bfn. It didn't help that I'd had a wee an hour before and I'd read instructions wrongly and held it for only 3 secs instead of 5 but however much I squinted and looked at it next to window I couldn't see a line.... annoying as we've guests tonight and tomorrow and feel in limbo for . Oh well..... so no spotting and no bfp, and that's why they tell us not to test early! I have to learn....

@MakeAWhish omg you're worse than I am for testing early!! as you probably saw below mine was bfn... x

Cookie - same happened to me this cycle with +opk's and no temp rise. I've no idea when ov happened now as had to go away 2 days after 2nd +opk so decided to just roll with it. Now awaiting af which would be tomorrow if temp had risen on the 1st day away.

Mellon - i often have ewcm quite a few days before ov happens, sometimes up to 6 days before (not for the whole time, just for a few days) so your ov is more likely later. Have you tried opk's or temping?