TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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Cross post @boboelephant that experience sounds lovely. I think sometimes people and things are put in just the right place to send us signs. I know that sounds a bit woo and that’s not normally me but I think are loved ones let us know they’re ok.

@MisBit1 thankyou. I know what you mean! I do think the majority of people just don't think. Before my ectopic and after my easy pregnancy with DS I have to admit I thought it was so easy. Now I cringe to think of things I might have said to others. It's so hard though! Woohoo for your positive opk. Even without tonight tomorrow should be perfect timing.
@Lilimum4 I think when ttc it's a good thing. Afterwards probably not! I'm jealous though because this wait from end of af to start of fw just drags for me!!

Ooh @MisBit1 get a pineapple slicing gadget. It's ace! I'm buying more pineapple tomorrow just to have another go! (Yes, I'm easily pleased when it comes to kitchen gadgets!)

@MisBit1 cross post again but thanks again! Its a tough couple of weeks with that due date and then my next due date in 2 weeks and still not pregnant so I need the signs at the moment! I like to think so too.

@Boboelephant so lovely about the balloon xxx

@Boboelephant I do SMEP every month, it makes the most sense to me.

Gonna pick up some grapefruit juice and raspberry leaf tea tomorrow see if they help this month. Need to order more conceive plus too. Anyone got anymore tips?

@laney79 I love a kitchen gadget I’m off to look on amazon now.

@Boboelephant & @TinyPaws thank you. I'm feeling surprisingly ok about it now. Few weeks ago I would have been rushing off to the loo for a little cry! As you say I think it's just that not having been there or know someone close whose been there they just assume everyone's experiences are the same & they don't think. Annoying thing was that I've usually started just telling people about the mcs when stuff like this happens as I'd rather educate them/make them think twice in the future but because it was in with a patient it would have been a bit unprofessional and seemed to be making a big thing of it to bring it up afterwards when everything had moved on! 🤷‍♀️

@DaisyMay25 not sure about when exactly- article didn't say but I'd guess during the fertile week- maybe couple of days either side to be sure?

This thread moves quickly!

@Laney79 I had what I assume was implantation spotting 13DPO last time, and got a faint positive 16DPO (although it might have been faint because I did the test at night because I was too impatient to wait until morning). I can't remember how long ago you had your MC, though — I had bleeding and spotting all over the place for quite a while afterwards, and in fact this cycle I had spotting on CD26, nothing on CD27, and spotting again on CD28 before AF started the next day. In summary our bodies are totally bonkers and it sucks.

@MisBit1 Agreed re: people asking when you're going to have kids. I have three half-sisters (all older than me) who've popped out babies without any difficulty and every time I see them they enquire when I'm going to have one. :( The best/worst was when a friend of a friend asked when we were planning on firing the vagina cannon. I still don't know whether to be amused or disgusted.

Morning, lots to catch up on! Hope you're all well today.

@misbit if you do try cough syrup it has to be one for clearing mucus that contains guaifenesin. I've got a Boots own one. The theory is that it loosens up cm - just make sure it has that ingredient otherwise it can dry it up instead which you don't want!

@boboelephant - going to google some orange food! Hadn't heard that one! I have been reading a book called fertile by Emma Cannon that has lots of advice about food to eat at diff stages in your cycle which is interesting - going to give a few recipes a go!

Re. Grapefruit juice & EPO - from what I understand you have both of these leading up to ovulation and then stop until af or bfp.

Morning team TTC,

Had a friend visiting so haven't been able to post but tried to have a glance over everything every now and then. Hope everyone is doing well and feeling positive in a new week

Entering week 2 of TWW - now 10dpo. Nervous is an understatement. Hoping to test on Saturday when Flo predicts AF is due but may crack earlier. Questioning everything: Feel like we may have stopped dtd just a day too early, i've been too focused on this for it to really happen etc etc etc.

Anyone else testing this week?

I think my period has started so trying to get hold of the clinic to arrange the next cycle... eep!

I say 'I think' because normally it starts quite heavy but so far I've only had light bleeding. I feel crampy though and was expecting period today/tomorrow from cervical mucus so hopefully this is it.

@afictionado 'firing the vagina cannon'!!!! No words!! The world would be a much better place if randoms at parties were less interested in enquiring about what we are or aren't doing with our vaginas!
@bobothelephant that sounds like such a lovely moment.

I'm having another cycle of a million (ok, 8) days of flashy smileys and no static again. Was away from DP from day 2-5 of the flashy smiley so unlikely to be my month whatever is going on. It's either anavolutary or my surges are shorter since the last mc and I'm not catching it. Having said that, the two lines on the digital ops sticks have been equal colour for the last 2 days so it's a case of jks and see... I'll get internet cheapies for next month so I can track the lines.

@afictionado no!!! Cannot believe someone said that to you. That is totally horrendous.
@Jessabean thanks for that article.
I've gone and bought grapefruit juice (puke!) and cough syrup. I hate anything bitter- coffee and tonic water included- so did not enjoy that gf juice when I got home! Mixed it with Apple juice, necked it down quickly followed by the cough syrup! @sweetpea0318 how much cough syrup do you have? Also baby carrots and sweet potatoes are good one to have!
@TedLife fx!!
@TinyPaws Ooh exciting! Did you get hold of them?
@ek78 JKS!!!!!

Feeling gutted. Defo ovulating today pain pain pain but DH to tired. What do you think my chances are of a bfp if we DTD yesterday and day before or am I grasping at straws

Lilimum4, relax, you're in with a very good chance. :) Those wee spermies will be in there already waiting for the egg.

@ek78 Good luck! I think you're still in with a good shot, all you can do is JKS. OPKs never worked for me, I missed the surge every time, but I am definitely ovulating!

@Boboelephant Yes, I did, thanks for asking! Appointment tomorrow morning, may my lining be thin and my cyst be gone (there's not much hope for my bank balance though!)

@Lilimum4 I heard sperm can survive up to 5 days in the female reproductive tract and that the best days are the day before ovulation and ovulation day itself so I'd say your chances are pretty good!

Oh I hope so Ladies.

Another odd question for you ladies. Since my last mc every time I ovulate I get a lot of pain ovulation pains I think and also you know the feeling when you finished sucking a mint and you breath in through your mouth and you get that cold intake. I get that the day of ovulation and for a few days after. Does any one else get any strange symptoms like this ?

@boboelephant I'm taking 2 x 5ml spoons at breakfast, lunch & dinner with a glass of water to wash it down each time. Maybe try pink grapefruit juice? I quite like that one - mixed it with gin last weekend ha!

Well, deffo AF for me-started to bleed more heavily today, so our Greek JKS marathon didn't give us a little yannis or Maria...onto next month I guess.

@ek78 definately JKS! I bought a load of IC as well as the non flashy CB opks and they seemed to work whilst we were away-I used the CB ones with fmu and did the ic ones in the afternoon and sometimes before bed too-so I had a good idea of how long my surge was. I got a negative CB sun morning but a positive ic that day at 1700, following morning CB was positive first thing as was IC that afternoon-following day both negative.

@Lilimum4 id say a good chance-better that they are ready and waiting! Not had any weird pains or tastes/smells-although during fw I was incredibly randy!!! I think it was a combo of hormones and the fact it's been so long with what happened with my MC (was a good 3+ months)

@Lilimum4 my teeth have definitely been sensitive the last few days since ovulation. Maybe progesterone is the cause lol. I also get pains around ovulation time and your timing is perfect. Apparently sex within 3 days of ovulation is the best chance!

Period due around the 5th / 6th July. Feels so weird now, trying to distract myself but at least another week before it's worth testing and at least 3 days before I can even think about symptom spotting. 🙏🌈

@ek78 I have been in the same situation this month. Tuesday morning was negative and then from Tuesday afternoon I had the flashing smiley and it was still flashing yesterday and then I ran out of sticks but also my husband is away with work now so just have to hope that the jks we had already done have worked 🤞🏻

Another question
I had positive opk at 10am but negative at 2pm which do I enter in to ff app

Sorry about all the questions today I don't know what has rattled my cage

@Lilimum4 I agree with the others. Your timing is great! No experience with those symptoms though. I think we are just alot more in tune with our bodies after MC.
@TinyPaws good luck for tomorrow! Everything crossed for you. I hope it doesn't take long. The money aspect is another unwelcome consideration for you I'm sure!
@sweetpea0318 ah thankyou. I thought just once a day so I'll have some more. As for the grapefruit juice, it was pink!! 😂 I just really hate it!
@Laney79 sorry it wasn't your month. It's so disappointing after a holiday. Fx for next month for you.
@HidCat and @Anyday88 fx for you both for this month!!