TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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@achanger I'm using fertility friend as recommended by some of the ladies on here
It's really easy to use and I am quite enjoying tracking and learning about my body - I think I am still on the free trial - not sure what functions I'll lose when that ends tho

You're right this is such an emotional rollercoaster isn't it!
At least we have each other !

Also @achanger youneed a thermometer that reads 2 decimal places- a bbt thermometer- i bought mine off amazon

@zarala it really is still early days so I don't think you are out yet. I have never monitored temp so can't help there but fx for you.

@boboelephant it is still the same but I have a heavy feeling like my AF is coming any minute so I'm pretty sure that is what it is. I had it on my last AF which I put down to left over stuff from the d &c but before the D&C is never had this at beginning of AF. However if I don't count the day that started and only day of proper bleeding then yesterday would have been day 24. It's all very confusing. Will watch and wait but I reckon this just may be my new slightly odd cycle.

BFN here this morning, 13dpo and started cramping and had a little bit of brown spotting. I though I saw a line on in cheapie but nothing on frer. So I think I'm out. AF is due Monday then onto the next cycle!

Hi everyone!

I've been a bit quite recently as was trying to sort my head out!
Really sorry @Boboelephant I hope you are doing ok!
Sorry @DaisyMay25 & @zarala for your bfns today!
I am work so can't catch up on everything but I really hope you are ok!

I am cd13 today Ovia seems to think today is ovulation day but my clear blue opk test is still only at high not peak which it has been since Tuesday and hubby is away from Sunday night so I am just not feeling optimistic now 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks everyone for your kind messages! I'm still struggling to believe it but just taking it a day at a time.

@KnitKitty I know what you mean, we've been on this journey together over the last 3 months. I really hope you have a successful month soon. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞

@zarala Thank you for the reassurance. You're right - statistically the odds are in my favour but it is so hard to believe that. My best friend has had 3 MCs in a row and being so close to her I find it hard to be positive for myself. I really need to work on that! I'm also nervous about telling her as she's on cycle 3 TTC since the last MC. She asked me to tell her but I haven't yet. I really hope things work out for you. Fingers crossed 🤞

@Jessabean Thank you! You're right it's a constant battle. I just finished reading a book called "Stay with me" it's about a woman who has trouble conceiving. Won't ruin the storyline for anyone who wants to read it but it ended with a very powerful message that sometimes when you give up hope and think you know it all, you may be very far from the truth. Very powerful and left me thinking. Good luck to you too! I will keep checking in on everyone.

@Maydot hey hey sorry for late reply. Yes managed lots of dtd . Got my peak on Monday there and we had dtd Sunday- Thursday . Having tonight off ! Lol time for a rest . When do u plan on testing? I'm going to try and hold off til next weekend . This is a very long cycle for me I had an early miscarriage last month and no af since so I am cd 27 at the min . I usually ovulate on day 17 but this month was so late

@lolacola13 I’m going to try and hold off for as long as possible. Last time I got my bfp really early, I just knew I was pregnant from about 11 dpo!!... Sounds stupid I know. But it made the 12 weeks up to my scan feel like forever! I’ve Told my OH we can wait til i’ve Completely missed a period!!... But I won’t be able to do that!!... So, AF is due 6th July so maybe test a couple of days after that unless I feel pregnant again 🤞🏼

@zarala yep I find it fascinating!
@Blondcat sorry af got you but glad your body is at least being regular.
@L1zz13 glad to hear that things are going ok for you and you're keeping busy! @achanger I use the baby mad one too. It works well. As the others have said most important thing is that it's a bbt which tracks to 2 decimal places
@Newbie21 yep it's strange how much things with our body can change post MC. I had spotting the day before af this month and I've never had that. And my MC was 6 months ago! At least though it seems like your LP hasn't shortened.
@DaisyMay25 I'm so sorry hun. They are the worst. Im sorry its taking so long for you too. I can't remember how long did it take you to get your bfp before MC?
@Anyday88 hope you get peak tomorrow and ovulate right before DH going away!
@RedRobin7 hope it's a smooth journey for you. Let us know how it all goes x

@Maydot more power to you if u can hold out lol. My af is due 3/4th July. I would expect a bfp if Iv conceived on the 1st ish . I'm trying to be easy breezy about it but I don't know how long that will last 🙈.

Thanks @Boboelephant 🤞🏻

@Maydot we are due af the same day!

@Boboelephant I had sticky cm 8th till 14th June. So some time around then. I think the Sunday maybe. I so want it to be a bfp. But maybe next month. I just hope I know one way or the other soon.

Awwww @Anyday88 I really hope we get some bfps!!!
Fx to everyone waiting to test 😘

Random question - has anyone else's ewcm been brown since mc?? Or habe you all gone back to normal ewcm?
Hope you are all ok? Sorry not had much of a chance to keep up lately

@Cleozeta not me..sorry

I just found this link for this free book- so thought I'd share

The Sperm Meets Egg Plan: Getting Pregnant Faster by Deanna Royitunes.apple.com/gb/book/the-sperm-meets-egg-plan-getting-pregnant-faster/id566014943?mt=11

July will be out for me as I'm away during the crucial 2 weeks but I'm going to get on this plan in earnest come August 🙏🏽

Unless of course this nausea and bloatedness that I'm suffering from today is a sign this month?! (But probably not!) Based on the rules of this book we didn't JKS during the most crucial 3 days this past month 🙄 so I've now resigned myself to waiting for AF

@cleozeta I have experienced brown cm just before AF just after my MC and D&C and then this month I am experiencing brown cm now - very light so assume that I am about to have my AF in the next day or so. I never had this before MC.

@Boboelephant only three months of actively trying which I know isn't that long but it's been nine months since then and it's just frustrating...

Thanks newbie, maybe it is just another mc oddity then. It's just unnerving when weird things happen like that, its reassuring to know its not just me!

Thank you ladies. I hope we all get our bfp soon x

@Cleozeta I also get brown cm. Pre and post miscarriage always get it day before and after af and post mcs I had it for ages throughout first cycle before first af. So assume it's ok!

Evening ladies how are you all doing?

I've had dentist today which is normally fine but the waiting room was full of babies and pregnant ladies. Why do they seem to be everywhere !!!!

Apart from that I'm enjoying the stressless few days before fw starts Sunday. I've been doing the head space app its very good. One of you lovely ladies recommended it so thank you ( sorry I can't remember who said it)

@DaisyMay25 hi I've seen a few pics like yours with the ring in it, I might seem thick but what does it do? Is it to show a pale line better

Boboelephant RE getting your other ovary to ovulate, you could give visualisation a go? Not very scientific, but I believe it can help. I'm convinced I got rid of the endometriosis I had in my bowel due to visualising it being healthy and clean of it. Maybe try visualising ovulating on that side every night and morning until ovulation? And maybe try massaging the side that you want to ovulate every day? I wish there was a switch so you could choose! Good luck in your new cycle. xx

No luck for me this cycle, AF arrived today. On the positive side my LP seems to have lengthened to 13 days rather than the 8 it's been since my MC.

Fingers crossed for those still in with a chance.

@Lilimum4 it focuses the camera a bit better. (My cat has scratched mine with her tooth so it isn't the best)
@afictionado sorry about AF but good news about the LP