TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

[L1zz13]

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Oh @L1zz13 keep us posted love. Hope you're alright xx

Oh no L1zz1e, hope you're ok x

@L1zz13 I hope your ok & things settle down for you soon.

Welcome Penguin I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage- fingers crossed it is implantation bleeding for you- I conceived just over 2 weeks after miscarriage with my least so it is certainly possible!
I'm also in the same dilemma with a wedding around time AF would be due next week.

RedRobin sorry about AF. Keeping everything crossed for you next cycle hopefully the lack of work will be good for conceiving!

@penguingirl and @Jessabean you don't need to abstain completely before 6weeks of pregnancy, just don't get wasted lol (placenta hasn't formed yet apparently). Your personal choice! As @Wellthisunexpected said a few days ago - "drink til it's pink" lol 🍾

@Martydog so sorry to see you back here, I hope you're managing to have a good holiday despite everything.

@L1zz13 hope you're ok and the docs are taking good care of you.

@penguingirl welcome to this lovely group and so sorry for your losses. It is a fitting name as we are all about the penguin huddles here! 🐧🐧 Fingers crossed for a bfp tomorrow and your feckin miracle! 🤣
@Martydog glad you're having a good holiday and hope you are relaxing and spoiling yourself!
@L1zz13 oh no! I hope you got some answers and they were able to do something for your pain.

Anyone else get so bored during the end of af and the start of fw? Kinda nice not to be obsessing but I kinda obsess about having nothing to do!!

I’m really not sure about my tests today... I did an internet cheapie and a frer. I can see a faint line on the frer in person but it’s so incredibly faint that I don’t feel too confident about it! & I think there’s something on the cheapie too. I’ll post the pics and see what you all think. Going to see if they darken in a couple hours! Not feeling hopeful still, they’re either negative and I’m imagining things or they’re too faint I think 🤦‍♀️🙄 but still fingers crossed!

@L1zz13 oh I’m sorry last night was so scary. I hope you’re okay hun!

@hayleyfx I see the line on the frer, and a shadow on ic. I'm in the exact same situation as you! My ic this morning looks like a possible indent/evap again but it was within the time frame so who knows!

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There's mine (not allowed to upload more...)

Morning ladies, I can see the lines too,
Fingers crossed :)

So I'm
Confused!! I'm due to start fertile week tomorrow and ovulate on Tuesday according to the app. However I got this this morning! Looks very positive to me for ovulation! Have I missed the start of fertile week???! Has it come very early!!?

Morning @weasledee how interesting! What CD are you? That's super close to being positive. You'd probably get a positive one later on, how confusing!

Cd 10, I normally ovulate on day 14, really gutted that I'm out this month before we even start trying!!!

@DaisyMay25 & @hayleyfx I can see faint lines on your tests! How many dpo are you both could just be a bit too early?

@HidCat 😂🍾 Haha like the motto! Will probably have a couple of drinks either way tbf only trouble is with the group of mates I'm at the wedding with just a couple of drinks doesn't really exist as a concept!

@weasledee looks like a positive to me so may be worth getting busy just in case! Are you first cycle post mc? Only ask as if there's any bhcg left then can give a false positive with the opks.

No Jessa MC has last October....
Hope my cycles haven't gone crazy days after I told the miscarriage clinic I have regular ones!!!'

Ooh @hayleyfx and @DaisyMay25 tentative congratulations! I hope those lines get darker!!
@weasledee it certainly is looking like your ovulation is just around the corner. Don't stress though, you're not out yet. But definitely get busy for the next 48 hours!!

@weasledee That's very strange if you're usually very regular. I wouldn't say you're out if you're able to DTD today. Test again tomorrow too to see what it says then.

@Jessabean I wrote the wrong thing last night... I'll still be working over the summer just don't have to travel to Europe until September. Work should be quieter though over the summer months!

Anyone else find they can't tolerate alcohol since the MC? I was a uni student 10 years ago and always drank loads. Since then I've always managed to hold my drink. My MMC was in March and since then both nights I have had a heavy night I've ended up being very sick. Husband has never seen me be sick after drinking and we didn't drink any more than normal and neither times did I mix my drinks. I also ate loads last night so would have thought that had lined my stomach 🤔 I don't understand it and I'm embarrassed! Going to stop drinking now and focus on being healthy.

Morning campers. Got home at 2! Wasn't too terrible. 4 hrs in total.
Lots of questions asked, lots of blood taken, gross tissue passed sent off to histology and a poke about to inspect my cervix. Have scan booked for next Wednesday.
They had no real concerns or conclusions other than retained products either passed or still present.
Feel relieved to be getting somewhere

Hope you all have a good weekend.
Xx🐧❤️

@L1zz13 Sorry to hear what you're going through. I'm glad you compromised with your DH as it's important to get answers. Waiting around at A&E is frustrating but you did the right thing x

Glad you feel like you are getting somewhere L1zz13

I definitely see something on both of those DaisyMay and Hayleyfx they look very similar to mine. My free has dried much darker (and still very pink) it's unmistakable now.

Going to try and hold off until Monday then do a digital. I'm too impatient though!

Sorry she got you RedRobin, I hope you had a good drowning of sorrows session yesterday

L1zz13 I'm glad you're ok and have some investigation lined up, that sounds absolutely horrendous. I hope you're being spoiled

haleyfx that frer is light but definitely positive. I've been staring at an obviously negative frer this morning in various angles, your line is unmistakeable. Tennative congrats, I hope it gets darker over the next few days

DaisyMay25 I see a line on yours too

Congrats to those with possible bfp's. Fingers crossed for you! They do say we are more fertile after mc, I'm rolling with that.

L1zz hope you are ok, sounds scary, but also probably the end of that chapter and closure.

Redrobin I completely agree about the alcohol thing! I used to be a big drinker in my youth, I could easily drink a lot of my male friends under the table. Although I have not drunk ao much over the last few years, I could still hold a drink and have a few.
But last night I had ONE glass of wine, and today I feel like I've had a bottle!! What's going on?? I feel horrendous! A hangover on one glass on wine!
I was wondering if it was realated to the mc, so interested to see your post! I guess I'll be cutting down / giving up for a while. Best to be healthy when ttc anyway....

@DaisyMay25 ooh I see it!! I have everything crossed that we get nice dark lines soon 🤞

Thank you ladies! The lines are a tiny bit darker now, it’s so faint though that I’m nervous this is going to be another chemical. I’m so pessimistic! 🤦‍♀️

@L1zz13 I’m glad you’re feeling better and finally getting somewhere hun! X

@SerenaOverjoyed thank you! I was convinced I had to have been imagining it at first haha! Sorry for your bfn, good luck for when/if you test again! 🤞

@JessaBean thank you! I’m 10dpo so it probably is a bit early. Desperate to test again but I know I should wait another 2 days haha! 🙈

hayleyfx I definitely see something there. Keep us posted. Good luck! :)

L1zz13 it sounds like you're coping really well. I'm glad your OH made you ring 111 though. Make sure you pamper yourself and give yourself some treats, you deserve it. Hope everything resolves itself soon and you can start to move on from this sh!t.

Anyone else get frustrated with themselves for being too optimistic sometimes? I think I'm majorly setting myself up for a big disappointment this month. As you know I think I quite possibly totally missed my fertile period this month and I'm now in the TTW. However I keep convincing myself that I managed to catch ovulation on Monday by some miracle and that I'm pregnant! I would really rather just be chill about it and look forward to AF so we can try again properly next cycle, but this incessant optimism pisses me off!!! lol!
I know I have ovulated some time from Sunday until yesterday because I now have the bad kind of CM today, and we've only done it twice this month (because of visitors being here and OH having interviews); once the day after my period ended and then on Monday this week. I was all for writing this month off and seeing it as extra time to get life back on track, but damn these hopeful thoughts!

My dad came over for dinner on Monday to celebrate my OH getting a new job. Conversation somehow came round to my feelings of work (and life in general) feeling very stagnant and having lost my motivation and drive. Dad told me it was a very normal symptom of grief (he worked a lot with bereaved people before retirement). It was very comforting to hear that and it just felt nice to have a conversation about the miscarriage and aftermath again. People have stopped asking me how I am now and seem to feel like everything has moved on, whereas I still think about it every day two months on.

@KnitKitty I think when we lose our optimism that's when we need to be careful. I gave up the cycle I got my last BFP as we only DTD once so I thought we had no chance. Just try to keep your optimism in check but don't give up completely. As for your Dad, he sounds lovely! Sounds words of advice. It took me 4 months to get my happy self back but I still think about the miscarriage every day. It just doesn't rule my life now.

@KnitKitty It's okay to be optimistic as it helps you to get through the TWW and then if you weren't successful at least you know you only have two more weeks until you can try again. That's better than being pessimistic until you see a BFP!

I understand how you feel about people no longer asking how you are. It's exactly the same for me. I think my family and friends feel that I've dealt with it because I no longer bring it up but that's not the case at all. I'm on holiday with my family and my heavily pregnant sister - it's been nothing but baby talk all week and I don't think they realise it's still hard for me. One day this week I got lost in my own thoughts and must have looked miserable so my sister said, "cheer up, it may never happen". I just smiled but I felt like saying, "it already has!" ☹️

We aren't telling family that we are trying again and probably won't announce the pregnancy until further on this time. I have already worked out that if we manage to conceive in two weeks time then the baby would be due in March which will make it easier to deal with this March being the worst month of my life! It's hard not to get carried away with dates and stuff but then I remember that there's no guarantee this next pregnancy will be successful. It's a constant battle between optimism and pessimism for me!!