TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

[L1zz13]

New thread 🐧🐧

@ek78 I'm so sorry Hun. Sometimes bedside manners seems to be forgotten about. Even as a courtesy a simple oh I'm so sorry it hasn't been recorded would have been better than nothing.

I cant get over how heavy my period has been today! Had a week of spotting then bam, I'm constantly back and forth to the loo coz I'm paranoid about the pads overflowing. About to take lunch as I'm feeling light headed and worried that it's due to my heavy period. I hope this isn't my new normal now.

@ek78 I'm so sorry you had that. I had a similar call from my hospital a few weeks back who insisted that I had attended for an appointment that morning and they couldn't find me now.. After telling them I had a miscarriage and I was not there (in fact I had moved 50miles from the hospital that very day) I had to almost shout at her that this was very upsetting and I had not been to the hospital that morning after she kept insisting that I had. So insensitive, she made a terrible job of apologising too. Sometimes I wonder about the people who work in these roles, I know it's business as usual for them but for us it's our whole world crashing down. A bit of sensitivity wouldn't go amiss. hugs

@Boboelephant I did my first ever POAS Friday! For OPK And yay I finally got my first ever flashing smiley face! JKS all through now! Probably try and 4-5 day marathon...!depends on when the flashing smiles become static...
@ek78 eugh that is really awful- and I'm so sorry it upset you- my hospital did the same thing and it's quite shocking that they don't immediately update the system!
@HidCat love your penguin huddle art!!!
And sorry about AF sounds intense...Fx it's just a weird month...
@babibell I echo everything all the other ladies have said. Definitely NOT disgusting, in fact the way you have honoured your MC baby by waiting this long is actually quite sweet. At the end of the day whenever you feel your are emotionally, mentally and physically ready you should go for it! Never place such harsh judgements on yourself- you went through a difficult and terrible time and now that you're ready to try again it is lovely. You can commence a new chapter that will bring new life to the world- there is nothing more beautiful than that!
I too had a MMC in December and was due in July- I then got pregnant immediately (unintentionally) in January and lost that in February . And I am now about to start TTC after taking 3 months break...So we're in a similar position. Sending hugs

Morning ladies! Just catching up... had a bad day yesterday and deleted the app 🙈 who am I kidding, I need you ladies! Just feel so depressed about everything.

@L1zz13 I'm struggling with my DH at the moment too and I think maybe we need counselling but he won't agree to it. I'm having counselling but it's not really addressing all this how I'd like to. My DH keeps changing his mind about whether or not we are going to try and also doesn't want to go through another MC. We're on holiday and have argued so many times it's so sad. It's his anxiety and depression which causes him to be like this. He keeps saying he's a failure and I should find someone else who would treat me better. I'm not giving up on him and I know he will be an amazing dad so I don't feel bad that I keep pushing it. In the TWW now and it's his bday so thankfully we can stop thinking about TTC!!

@Pancakes7 @KnitKitty I will give headspace a go too as I feel like my thoughts are taking over and it's going to drive me insane. Thanks for recommending it!

@ek78 so sorry you received that call. It happened to me last week too. Really got me down as I had managed to forget when my appointments were. Be kind to yourself today xx

@Boboelephant After I posted the pic of my OPK, the next day I got the static smiley and almost equal line on the IC. My app says that I'd ovulate the following day (today) but I felt ovulation pain yesterday between 12-5pm which suggests to me I must have ovulated yesterday even if it was in the evening after the pain. We DTD twice this week but I think we were too early and maybe too late now. Preparing myself for a BFN in two weeks time. However, we did see an amazing rainbow at Niagara Falls yesterday and today we are walking over the Rainbow Bridge into Canada. Can't help but think maybe it's a sign... but life never goes as perfectly as you think it in your head!!

Wishing you all a good day!

@RedRobin7 I feel your pain, despair and frustration.
If I could hug you and say it will be okay I would. I know it won't help but at least you'll know you're not alone.
Reaching out to me has actually made my day. X
I've been to see my counsellor today. I cried the whole hour and she so sweetly took my in her arms and soothed me the whole time.
The grief I'm experiencing is overwhelming. My hopes of the last baby will not be happening.
If you're feeling like I am and your waiting for your first please be assured to hear your feelings are not a life sentence. Neither are they for your husband. Stand together, hold hands and find strength together.
Continue with your counselling and keep the door open for your husband.
Sending lots of love xx

I think I am going to ovulate tomorrow. Will do another ovulation test later. I track my discharge. I got a white stretchy discharge today. But not completely stretchy. So think I'll ovulate tomorrow. Planning to jks for the next week atleast. 3 days done! Dh is enjoying it! Haha!

Thanks hidcat :) x

Hellooo long time no ‘see’!
I’ve not been on here for a while. I’ve been on holiday and trying not to let the ttc crazy in. This thread is moving so quickly it’d take me a week to read what I’ve missed so just going to start from here.

Sorry to see new faces. It’s not somewhere any of us wanted to find ourselves but it’s a lovely supportive group.

@Hidcat my first couple of af after mc were horrendously heavy for a few days. They got better though.

@ek78 some people just have no sensitivity and you’d think people working with pregnant women would know better. When I was waiting for the scan to confirm mc the gyne dr rang to tell me I didn’t need so many appointments (a&e the day before had booked me in for blood tests and I had an early scan already booked in) before I could tell her I had mc she told me I was greedy to have so many scans and ‘everybody else manages with just one’!!! Surely anybody with an ounce of sense would see that the blood tests and scan were booked from a&e and worked out what was happening!? 😤

I’m 7dpo. Have taken a relaxed approach this month after sore boobs and bad back last month had me totally convinced I was pregnant then af came early and I was gutted. so JKS every other day from cd9-21. Ov pains and cm make me think I ov’d on cd16 (when we didn’t dtd but hopefully still done enough). Absolutely no symptoms but we’ll see 🤞

JKS to anyone in fw and good luck to all you tww-ers, here’s to trying to keep the crazy to a minimum 🤔😉

Do we need a new roll call?

I’ve been thinking this thread moves so quick would anyone join a whatsapp group?! They’re far more easy to keep up with! Xxx

I can't get over how rude / inconsiderate some of the midwives are. Makes me even more grateful for the ones around here.

I don't use WhatsApp myself though I know others have headed over there.

Oh @weasledee and @ek78 I'm so sorry for both of you 🐧🐧🐧 I second HidCat's penguin art!!
@HidCat I hope the af calms down!!!
@zarala woohoo!!! JKS!!
@RedRobin7 fingers crossed.
@Pancakes7 JKS!!
@rdm10 hello!! I've been wondering where some of the 'thread oldies' have been. So many newbies coming and so many bfps going the last 2 months. Glad you are able to be a bit more chilled. Fx it's your month!

I quite like MN so would probably rather stay here. Also I think a roll call is a good idea.

@Boboelephant how do we do the role call

Could start the role call on a new thread as we're over 900 now.

Yes I think that's a good idea Hidcat. New thread, new role call. :)

Brilliant thanks @HidCat! Can I make a small request if not done yet? Can we please change the title back to ttc after pregnancy loss rather than miscarriage? It made a big difference to me when I was looking for support after having an EP.

Also @Lilimum4 you'll see when @HidCat does it but it's basically a list of where everyone is at as it's so easy to get muddled up.
Age, what child they are ttc and how long.

Static smiley today so I'll have my own tiny marathon of 4 days this month. No where near @Boboelephant 😂 I got DH to pick up pineapple on his way home too!

Or a roll call will work 🤣 I just really struggle, I think it’s because I’m not getting notifications! Not sure why 🤔

@ek78 I’m so sorry about your experience 😔

@Boboelephant when are you testing love. Gonna hang around to see the outcome 🤞🏻of your shagathon then probably take a leave of absence xx

Oh @L1zz13 I really do hope you’re ok 💐❤️

Good luck DaisyMay25!!
@L1zz13 thanks hun. I'd like to say I won't test early but probably next Friday- 11dpo. I'm so sorry things are tough for you at the mo. I hope you guys sort it out. Do you have any other DC? x

Haha @littleemma1 I probably only keep up because I obsessively check! 🤦‍♀️

New thread is up and running

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3272528-ttc-after-pregnancy-loss-thread-22