TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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New thread 🐧🐧

@Boboelephant no doctor didn't say no DTD. I'm just nervous I guess because DH is only home on 3rd and 4th so its a very small window this cycle.

@Lilimum4 if it was me is DTD on the 3rd and 4th and then go to my scan and hope the cyst has shrunk! No harm in trying.

Hiya, can I join? Found out at 10 week scan nearly 2 weeks ago that baby stopped growing at 6.5 weeks (the day ater I had seen a heartbeat), went in yesterday for medical management that didn't work, and now waiting impatiently to start ttc again. I am 41 so time is not on my side so I won't be waiting for 1st AF! Does anyone know if we can still ovulate with a small remainder of retained product?

Just checking in on the new thread. Sorry to see some many new people but welcome to a great group. Sorry to hear about your loss @Cleozeta I had very similar to you with no heartbeat. I don't know about if you clan ovulate but I'm sure someone on her will have an answer!

Congrats @DBoo! Fx for a sticky bean. How many dpo are you? I'm in the tww and itching to start poas!

@Cleozeta so sorry to hear that. I can totally relate to impatiently wanting to ttc again. I'm no expert but I believe ovulation will only take place once the majority of the hormone has left your body. I too had a small amount of remained product and was advised not to ttc until all bleeding had stopped due to risk of infection. I would discuss with your EPU or doctor about trying again. Take care xx

Thank you. Bleeding has slowed down, but I think there is still retained products. I did a pregnancy test this morning out of curiosity and it has gone a lot lighter so I 'm hoping it won't be long. I have no patience!

@SerenaOverjoyed join the club!
Still no AF!!! Shes gone AWOL!!!

@DBoo congratulations! Hope its sticky.
Should be able to watch lines get darker now 🤞🤞

@sweetpea0318 glad you are back on track 😊

@Lilimum4 i agree with @Boboelephant
Crack on!

@Cleozeta welcome

Thanks @YellowDaffodils86 at the minute im thinking im not going to test anymore because it will stress me out.

@maxiflump1 af was due monday or tuesday so im guessing 16 or 17 dpo? I dont know i dont track ovulation.

Hi all. Feeling loads better today. Felt really knocked for six last night when AF made its appearance. Alcohol is the best painkiller by far.
From what I've seen so far I'm almost certain I've still got tissue to expel and will be the reason why I still have hcg in my system 9 wks later.
For those asking about O and hcg I'm not so sure. Research says it's possible but in my case I don't think I did. I've only just started temping properly and as hcg affects opks they have not been a reliable indicator. I've had very erratic results with them.

I'd advise get confirmation of hcg levels 1st. Especially if you've had your first AF and tests are still a faint positive

I'm defo losing my marbles. I have just been having a conversation with DH about TTC. And noticed he had cocked his head (you know like a puppy does) and said what do all those letters mean. It was then that I realised I had been talking like I was typing on here lol

Thanks for the new thread @L1zz13!
Marking my place!
@laney79 I really hope this is AF for you the constant bleeding is so tough physically and mentally. Xx I’m doing ok thanks! Had a bit of a shit few days last week as this time last year I conceived for the first time plus work stress BUT feeling loads better now. I took a day off work today and the sun is shining - and I’m also quite enjoying the fw (she says, 2 days in!).

Just hit by baby bomb. Good friend just told me she's due on what would have been my EDD. I'm honestly really happy for her as she's had 2 mc's before this one so it's not been an easy journey by any means but when I heard the date it was like a punch in the stomach. Wow this is hard 😥

@Cleozeta welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. Not too sure as I had the erpc so knew there was nothing left. I have heard stories that you can if there is a very small amount left. If the MM hasn't worked what's the plan? Will you have more tablets?
@maxiflump1 where are you in tww?
@YellowDaffodils86 and @SerenaOverjoyed what is going on??? Hope you guys get out of limbo soon!!
@L1zz13 glad you're feeling a bit better. Fx this af gets rid of anything left for you and you are ready to go for June!
@Lilimum4 haha! I hear myself pausing and editing when I'm talking to DH too! 🤣
@ek78 glad you're feeling a bit better too. I had the day off too and it's been lovely!
@sweetpea0318 I did the yoga yin this morning and loved it. Thankyou!!!

Oh @sweetpea0318 I was typing at the same time as you so just saw that after I posted. I'm so sorry. That is so hard!! I know how you feel. I have a friend due on what would have been mine too. Sending you hugs. Feel free to punch a pillow!!! xx

Bobo, they wanted me to just wait 3 weeks and take a test. Was not happy about that, so managed to convince them to book me in for vacum procedure next week.

@Cleozeta is that after already waiting 2 weeks for the MM? That's shocking!! Did they offer you all the options at the start?

Yes so after another 3 weeks I would have been walking around for 9 weeks after it had gone wrong. I was only offered medical management. It did nothing. So ready to move on now....

Thanks @boboelephant. It was just a bit of a shock that it was the exact date! My OH didn't want to know as he's taking the 'don't look back' approach to all this so had to let it out on here. All this def hits you when you're least expecting it!

Glad you enjoyed the yoga btw! I like it as i find it v relaxing but also feels like I'm doing something positive towards everything :)

@cleozeta really sorry you're having such a rough time. The constant waiting is one of the hardest things I've found with this whole experience. Hope you get some closure soon.

@Cleozeta that's terrible. My epu gave me the choice of waiting, med management or ERPC straight away. We waited a week for a second scan to confirm the private scan but then we both needed it to be over as bubs heartbeat had stopped a week before first scan too. We chose erpc as it had the highest success rates and I don't seem to have a lot of luck with percentages. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. The loss is hard enough without waiting even longer. It shocks me how different EPU's are around the country. It's so bad to make a woman just keep waiting. I really hope your body let's go soon. If not at least you have the erpc scheduled so can hopefully look forward soon. Well done for not just accepting their crap suggestion.

@sweetpea0318 that is hard. Sorry you have had a bit of a hit. At least you can look forward to ttc soon, now things are getting back on track.

@DaisyMay25 fingers crossed for Thursday then! Good luck 🤞
@HidCat so nice that you’re feeling positive! I’ve been feeling much more positive this month and it’s made such a difference. Feeling so much better!!
@Sictransitgloria welcome & I’m so sorry for your loss and traumatic experience. Sending lots of luck your way!
@KnitKitty I normally get EWCM for about 5 days leading up to ovulation and on ovulation day it turns to watery. It’s so different for everyone. But when you notice ewcm = dtd!! Haha basically whenever I notice it I pounce on my OH 🤣
@DBoo yay BFP!! Congratulations! I hope it’s a very sticky bean for you 🤞
@WhitleyBae I’m so sorry for your loss and also understand how you feel, my cousin is due one week after I was meant to be & a work colleague is due 3 weeks after my EDD. It’s hard but just go easy on yourself!! I felt guilty for feeling sad at first but I’ve since realised that it’s only natural, I’m allowed to feel sad and still be happy for them. I hope June is your lucky month hun! 🤞
@Cleozeta I’m so sorry for your loss & also so sorry that the medical management didn’t work! I hope this is all over soon for you. It took my body ages also and despite being in a constant state of pain and shock the hospital refused to offer medical management for at least 3 weeks. Luckily my body MC’d naturally after 2 1/2 of those weeks but it was an awful experience. Sending you lots of hugs, all the ladies here are so understanding & supportive!
@sweetpea0318 oh so sorry hun. Sending you hugs! I’m glad things are getting back on track for you now though!
@Lilimum4 I think if anyone can relate it’s all the ladies here!! I’m the same way, it’s like we have our own language! 🤣

Sorry for the long message! Just realised quite how long it is 🤦‍♀️🤣

Good evening 🐧! Sorry only just linked to the new thread!!

Oooh lots of TWW people!!! Good luck ladies!!

@YellowDaffodils86 omg sounds like there could be a bfp around the corner for you!!! Eek!!

@Boboelephant and @dulwichdays ok... list at the ready.
I DTD 8 days straight from cd8-cd15 and ov on cd14.
Used fertility check gel every time we DTD (buy it from boots... it's like pre seed)
I weirdly stopped having long hot showers and baths
I ate pineapple core 1dpo-5dpo
Rubbed progesterone cream 3dpo-12dpo (then started again cos I got bfp on 15dpo)
I actually continued to drink in the TWW and I did manage to relax a little cos I knew we'd done all we could do....
Oh and I got a puppy!! 😍🐶
I've attached a pic just cos he's cute!! Haha
I of course also did bbt, opks (ic and cbafm)
And I obsessed like a loon!!! And that seemed to do the trick! And then at 12dpo I gave up all hope and had a bottle of wine!!! Then boom... bfp!!!

I've got my 10+4 scan on Friday. Still nervous as hell. I'm too scared to admit that it might be real yet. But had to start restructuring my company today in the hope that it is real because I'm now stepping back more in preparation! Eek!!

Sending high fives to all those joining!! It's mega shit that you find yourselves here but I couldn't have got through it without this amazing women!

Sending massive hugs to all of you who are struggling.

Sending massive energy boosts to those in FW!

Sending massive amounts of patience to those in the TWW.

And sending baby dust and good luck to those about to test!!

@DBoo massive congrats babe.

Thank you bobo and hayley, it's so nice to have this place to vent, and people who understand what I am going through. Sorry you have all had to go through it too. At least we have each other to let off steam if we need.
Fingers crossed for lots of successful bfp's here soon.