40+ ttc: 2018 is full of bfp's!

[Orchid222]

Ladies, the old thread has finished, here's a new one.

That is a good point Ali as I am now taking vitamin B6 in addition to pregnacare

My departure from the board has been short lived as I have lost my mini me. Its been a horrible 2 weeks of ups and downs. I had spotting and a bit of bleeding but an early scan at 6 weeks showed all was ok. However things got progressively worse and the inevitable happened. Its all over now. As bad as it was I know it could have been much worse. Im trying to remain optimistic and plan to make the most of the supposed fertile months post miscarriage. Any tips/advice on getting my body back to normal would be most welcome.

Oh minime I’m so sorry to hear that. You must be devastated.
Have you ever tried acupuncture or reflexology? I know both are good for helping to re balance hormones.
Thinking of you x

Thank you Littlemimosa. At the minute im being very philosophical (or foolish) in thinking that we caught this time so will do again soon. I have rationalized the whole experience by believing the little one had difficulties so wasn't destined for this world. I had a bad weekend and know there'll probably be a few more rough days to come. At the minute im just relieved the physical side of things are over. I might restart reflexology as i found it inmensely relaxing before.

Oh no so sorry to hear that minime. It really must be so devastating. I hope you are okay and have lots of support x

Minime sorry for your loss. Having been through the same thing twice - I know how pants it is. Hopefully you will feel physically able to get back in the game soon, as this is the best time for another possible success. In the meantime sending you a big cyber hug and prayers and healing. X

Oh no, so sorry to hear that minime
You must be gutted. I really hope it happens for you again soon with a stucky one. Maybe try accupuncture?

Oh no minime, so sorry to hear that. It must be so hard. Praying you feel better and have happy nine months soon x

Mini so sorry to hear that :(
Having been there myself too I know how awful it is x

Thank you for your kind words. I think knowing so many go through this makes it a bit easier. For the many pregnancy announcements that have been made in my circle over the past year, there have been a handful which have ended in a similar way. There are no guarantees in this process. Im a bit worried about how I would cope psychologically i ever conceive again but it wont put me off.

Minime, sending you love and strength. Sorry to hear of your loss. X

Thought I’d dip my toe in this thread even though I have no positive story 🤪

I’m 43. Had DS1 at 37, three miscarriages and then DS2 at 40. We decided to try one more time and fell pregnant when I was 42. Everything was going well, got to 12 weeks scan and she was measuring correctly although incredibly quiet at the scan (this should have raised alarm bells). I had the Harmony test which unfortunately showed the baby had Edwards Syndrome, a CVS confirmed it and I chose to have the pregnancy terminated in London at 17 weeks. The pregnancy ended in September last year.

Since then my periods have been terrible. Incredibly short cycles - 23 day cycles have become common. I’ve just purchased Vitex and co- enzyme Q10 alongside vitamin b6. I’m also taking the Pregnacare pre-conception vitamins.

To be honest I think it’s very unlikely to happen now but I do wonder if I can lengthen my cycles again then it’s a possibility. I think at 42 I read that the conception rate drops to 2% per cycle!!

Just to add when I conceived DS2 I had very short cycles and fertility acupuncture was amazing. It lengthened my cycle within a few months and I conceived. My issue is it was £50 a session and I think that’s just too much for us now considering really our family is complete. I would recommend though.

MINIME - so sorry to read your post. Unfortunately I have experienced mc too many times and know how dreadfully awful it is. As you say the physical experience of it all is the first hurdle however the psychological impact is one that tends to leave a bigger mark. Be kind to yourself and take it easy - so difficult I know. Nothing anyone can say can make it any easier - it’s a process we all deal with in our own way. The one thing that has always helped me with my hormonal challenges is Magnesium OK a supplement that can be found in Boots/Superdrug etc. A combination of magnesium and b vitamins. I also add in 50 mg B6 as this used to be the original dosage in this supplement but they reduced it so I just add that in as extra. Superdrug sell 50 mg b6 - not many other places sell at the dosage but I find any less doesn’t really cut it with me. Sending you love and strength xx

I’m so sorry Minime x

Welcome to the thread SleepFreeZone.
The past week we have seen a few BFP's and some sad news of MC so firstly, to echo what we have been saying to MiniMe, I am really sorry for the loss you experienced in Sept, to get to 17 weeks along must have been terribly hard, so I extend a big hug to you for that, as it I'm sure moving past that has been really tough.

I am also 43 and beginning to give up hope but then I have a better day and read lots of success stories, including the ones on here and get a boost of focus and hopefulness coming back.

My cycles are regular (aside from last month going a bit awry) at 27 days but my bleed is only 2 days long and hardly worth me wearing anything to catch it so I know this is not a good starting point for implantation. I am doing TCM (acupuncture and herbs) and will do this for another month but after 4 months I just cant justify any more e

(whoops - send button launched itself!) meant to say can't afford anymore TCM. I have decided to try to do some temping and see if I can pin point ovulation a bit more accurately as this is something I have yet to try and at this point I am willing to give anything a go!

I am taking the following daily
DHEA - 75mg
Pre Natal
Vitamin E
Folic Acid
EPO - 1500mg

along with the herbs (which are pretty gross but I am persevering!)

I am thinking I need to add B6 and I was trying progresterone cream but I don't think that does a whole lot...

I have given up alcohol but still have a big latte every day and too much chocolate. I have a feeling that my scant periods are also a symptom of my eating which is not great but I am an emotional eater, and my issue has always been under-eating rather than over-eating and I am not in a position to change this much, right now.

Anyway, sorry for the ramble all. Mini - still thinking of you. Hugs.
X

HI Sleep and welcome to the thread. I am so sorry for your loss. It must have been an incredibly difficult decision and thing to do. What a sad story.
Re your cycles I’d also recommend Shatavari. It works in a similar way to Agnus Castus (don’t take both). Have a read about it on Dr Google. It’s really helped mine. I feel a lot more balanced, my PMT is way better and my follicular phase is longer now (my problem area is a short follicular phase- luteal is fine).

SLEEP - welcome . So sorry to read about your loss - that must have been so difficult to go through. I can’t really offer much in the way of advice on the TCM or acupuncture as I don’t have have any experience of these. However just to offer some hope I conceived DC2 at 42 so it can and does happen Wishing you much luck in your TTC journey x

I'm sorry @SleepFreeZone x

I'm only just about to start out so I feel like I sort of should be intruding in the thread. Bt also I only have one friend irl who knows I'm ready to try (she's trying too but she's a good few years younger) so I hope it's ok to post here.

I went to the GP today to ask to get the coil removed and she said it could be 6 weeks because of the waiting list I had planned to have it out start of May, FW will start 9th of May - ish, I think - so after nearly 42 years of waiting I now feel desperate to get cracking and am so aware of having so little time left, it feels like now I'll be wasting a cycle. I think I'd better start getting used to impatience and disappointment... Sorry, just needed a little vent.

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*shouldn't be intruding

Stars, you're not intruding at all and this is a good place to vent, we've all done it :)
If you do anything on nhs it always takes time unfortunately. I got a letter from a fertility clinic one Friday night I'm February telling me I needed to have my tubes checked and to schedule it on cd1 or Monday if AF arrived on the weekend. Well AF arrived the Friday I received the letter so I called Monday morning and the said to late and I had to wait a cycle. And now I'm waiting another cycle before my fertility clinic appointment so that's just how it is. Hopefully once you have the coil removed you'll get pregnant quickly and won't need to get used to impatience and disappointment.
As for little time left we're all different you might still have a few years who knows. My grandmother got pregnant with a surprise baby at 44 so it's not always doom and gloom just because you're over 40. Good luck!

How is everyone anyway? We've a been fairly quiet lately now that we're not getting Cleo's and JoJo's input as much. Hope you ladies are ok.

As for everyone else, hope the weekend will bring something interesting timewise, be it ovulation or testing and if anyone is testing fingers crossed for a positive result.
Weasle you must only have a few days left like me? I'm expecting AF on Wednesday so will find out then.
Wishing you all a good weekend.

Morning @Orchid. Im still lurking. The thread is quiet without Cleo and JoJo but Im delighted theyve graduated. Hopefully we'll be there to join them soon. I've started using opks again to track this cycle. I'm doing ok after my loss and trying my best to be optimisitic. Dh and I have agreed to try again straight away basically because we cant waste a cycle. Trying not to think about it too much and maintain a relaxed approach but its so hard-soooooo many feelings!

Mine, I used the sticks and ovia app. Although if I had just gone by the app I would have missed the fertile period. That's why I think doing both are good. I stopped drinking too. Took the pregnacare conception tablets. I put all my sticks on a piece of paper to compare them and I did them for the whole month, as sometimes it was difficult to tell if the line was clear. Xx

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