40+ ttc: 2018 is full of bfp's!

[Orchid222]

Ladies, the old thread has finished, here's a new one.

Thank you Littlemimosa xxx

Critter you definitely are very brave. IVF isnt as easy a journey as its portrayed by some. It can be both physically and emotionally tough. You really do need a positive attitude and thinking baby thoughts is an excellent way to get through.

CritterTamer you are brave, the jabs I had to have after last one was born I hated giving myself and it's my profession ( although been a long time since I did it)
Ok ladies so af was due yesterday and nothing but some pink on wiping, so I though I would test this morning. This morning on wiping some more pink but thought hang it I'll test anyway.. only a flipping bfp... faint but +, however cramping and lots of pink with cm or maybe just bleeding 😞
So either bedding down with vengeance or on its way out.. 😞

OMG congrats @Chatbash72 - fingers crossed that this is it for you!xxx

Yay chat!! I hope it sticks for you!!

Ohh fingers crossed for you

Fingers crossed chat!
Sorry to moan but I'm having a bad day. So many questions in my head!
Will this ever work? Am I told old now (42)?
I'm so annoyed with myself for being so indecisive about trying for a third! Wasting all that time....!
Also thinking I'm focusing too much on this and maybe call it a day and enjoy the DC I have?!?

Thanks ladies but I think this isn't going to stick, have a lot of bleeding but will take it easy today.. I do think when your mind releases a little bit about trying it seems to release your body.. (there was a lady on here,.sorry can't remember who ) whose dr said that he should prescribe holidays for trying couples.. to relax them.. i stopped checking my cervix and taking temps after Christmas and although I have had one m/c ( not counting this one YET!! 🤞🤞) since it's more than I had seen all last year.. sending big hugs to you all 💕💕⭐️⭐️

CHAT - fingers crossed for you! x

WEASLE - I totally understand how you feel but just want to say I had my dc2 at 42 and no way is it too old/late. I was and am still absolutely fine and he’s now 6 . Hang in there at least a little longer- although I totally get where your coming from as I feel exactly the same on a bad day (and when it’s bad it’s and . Hormones have a lot to answer for . xx

Thanks Matt, what's makes it worse is that MIL keeps going on about the increased risks of issues with children born to older ladies! So close to calling it a day, this period pain isn't helping me much today either :)

@Weasledee - Hopefully you’ll be feeling more positive once the AF pains are past - it’s always the lowest point of the month 😔

My grandmother had my dad at age 42 as well, and he turned out just fine!

Thanks critter, I need the positive stories today, they really help! x

Ive my fingers crossed for you Chat! Im now definitely late. Had quite mild but convincing af pains in the form of backache and tummy ache since this morning but nothing, not a sign of it! Seriously fed up waiting now. Cd 31 is unheard of in these parts. If it wasnt for all the bfns Ive had this week Id be getting excited 😒

Weasle, I understand where you are coming from, I feel like that sometimes too. But then I always get hope again. Today I was with my friend and her beautiful 6 month old. She had her one month before she turned 43. They weren't even really trying. The pregnancy was problem free and the baby is perfect. They give me hope. (As well as a little green eye haha)
We are not out yet. While we are still ovulating there is always a chance

weasledee friends have had small ones in last year aged 44 and I'm sure their developmental miles stones have been reached so far.. but a friends son has 2 small ones with some learning issues and their parents are in their early early 20's so don't panic... mil is not being helpful..
I have retreated to the bedroom with hot water bottle and bitching af cramps so I think my little bean is not sticking.. my friend said go to drs as have had 2 m/c in 6 months but from hearing your experiences I think i will give it a miss.. don't need unsupportive drs and I think a blood test will just stress me.. good luck @minime2017 hope something happens one way or another.. x

Yes Cleozeta 👍👍 while af still comes there is always a chance..

Minime, how strange the same thing seems to be happening to a few people this cycle. I'm only 8dpo so anticipating the same next week!!! I'll be due af any time between mon - thurs depending on how LP is after mc. Hope you get answers soon. It's all very odd!

Thanks for the positive replies, I think you're right, this period pain has got to me today!

Weasle my grandmother had my uncle at nearly 45 and he was perfect and the tallest of all the 7 kids.
Chat I hope you're wrong and the little bean sticks. And it was me talking about relaxing and going on holidays except that it wasn't the doctor who said it but his mother haha. He said while he couldn't advise that to his patients in the fertility clinic there was definitely something to be said about relaxing and getting pregnant.
Minime- hope you'll get a bfp soon!
Karigan- good luck with the scan tomorrow let us know how it goes.
As for me, I just wish my body recognises there was no baby and did it's thing quickly, I hate the thought of being pregnant with no baby...

Chatbash, congratulations and fingers crossed for you!

Orchid, no 'movement' in that regard yet?

I'm firmly in the 2ww, with at least 10 more days to go, possibly more. It's boring.

Nope,nothing at all, no cramps or a spot of blood. It's annoying especially that I know it might go on like that for another 4-5 weeks which I don't have so debating whether to take medication or agree to d&c after my scan next week, just want to get moving since time is of essence.

Orchid it took my body 4 weeks to realise the baby had stopped growing. If you are absolutely certain its not happening, I'd be tempted to move things along.

Cleozeta and Orchid222 it took my body 4 weeks too, bleeding just before 8 weeks , scan at 9 weeks and sack was 5 weeks.. 😞

Chat & Critter & Little. .thank you for your msg's. They checked my iron levels when they did my bloods and said they were normal. I lost about 1.3 litres of blood when i had DS and they gave me loads of iron tablets (i remember having black poo ..sorry tmi!!) but the rapid heart beat was noticed in pregnancy so couldn't be that. I read poss causes might be postpartum palpitations and also dehydration..i def don't drink enough water. But if it was postpartum surely i wouldn't still be getting symptoms 4.5 years later? !!

Booseys - I remember having palpitations in pregnancy too. I was sent for an ECG in fact. It was just the pregnancy. They said it’s normal. I know this isn’t helpful in any way to you now but definitely get a second opinion.

Chat - I hope the bleeding is something and nothing x

Kari - good luck tomorrow.

Orchid - I hope you get an answer soon.

Mini - fingers crossed for you.

Weasle- I get like this regularly too and think about quitting. But then something gives me the hope all over again and I go for another try. I see you writing ‘is 42 too old?’ And I think ‘noooo, of course not!’ Then I remember that I’m 42 too and I have these scary thoughts too about birth defects. Maybe you should try to get s second opinion on your miscarriages?