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Skip a month to avoid Xmas Bday?

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RDW1989 · 23/02/2018 13:53

Hi everyone.

DH and I have been TTC since December. If we don't get a BFP this month, I am thinking about skipping March. My period is due 25th Feb which I think could mean a birthday directly around Christmas if we were lucky that month. My Mum has a birthday a couple of days before Christmas and hates it. Is it weird to skip a month for a reason like this??

I could do with losing some weight (I'm 5'3 and 11stone, although only size 10-12, not sure if that's going to cause problems with TTC?) so perhaps I could focus on that for March...

We're both 28, and as I said this is 3rd month TTC.

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gossipgirl28 · 23/02/2018 14:06

I'm born on Christmas Day and so is my OH. I think it's special

ReinettePompadour · 23/02/2018 14:09

DH is a Christmas time birthday. He hates it. His own parents even give 1 gift to cover both tight arses and on several occasions family have forgotten its his birthday at all.

Yes I'd avoid if possible but it depends how long you have been trying and whether waiting will be considered a missed opportunity.

usernotfound0000 · 23/02/2018 14:26

I can see why people would. But then you might also want to avoid an August baby, avoid clashing with a siblings birthday, school holidays, winter etc etc. Basically just saying that there could always be a reason why you wouldn't want a baby to be born around a certain time so just crack on would be my advice :) good luck.

Dancingfairydreams · 23/02/2018 14:32

December birthday here & I hate it! Not ttc yet but have told my dp that I do not want a December baby when we do start.

lilydaisyrose · 23/02/2018 14:36

My DD was due on 8/12 but born on 22/12 so you could plan to avoid Xmas, but had you conceived next month, have a baby born mid Dec - first week in Jan! I think you are over planning and just need to go with the flow. I wouldn't take a month off.

kikibo · 23/02/2018 15:12

Or baby comes (way too) early and you end up with a Christmas baby anyway though they should have arrived in January, February or March even.

That's what I've told Hubby.

Makingworkwork · 23/02/2018 15:13

You could skip a month and your baby could come at 36 weeks.

Wakeuptortoise · 23/02/2018 15:14

We did. Me and dh are January birthdays and they are always poorly celebrated because everyone is skint from Christmas.

HotCrossBunFight · 23/02/2018 15:15

My baby was due late september. I was quite smug about it until he was born 4 weeks early on August 30th.

You can't plan these things.

PaperdollCartoon · 23/02/2018 15:15

Im a December birthday and it’s fine. As PP said baby could come early or late, you don’t really know. I’d be more worried about avoiding a July/August baby than Christmas.

almondcroissantplease · 23/02/2018 15:18

My son is a Christmas Day baby and it's a nightmare! No matter how much I save and prepare it never feels like enough. No one can make it to a party, and everyone else also gets presents!

I'd go with getting in shape for that month!

be47 · 23/02/2018 15:55

This is what my parents did (and luckily too - I was born Jan 22nd!). I think if you can it's worth it - obviously some people love having a birthday then, but some hate and it's a relatively easy thing to avoid just in case?

CuppaSarah · 23/02/2018 15:58

I have a Christmas Eve baby, he's two now and it's amazing. We make a big effort every year to celebrate his birthday traditionally. Then four pm we start Christmas Eve. It's our families favourite day of the year, it's honestly magical!

Plus hospital was very quiet, we got the top midwife and consultant on duty as no one else was in labour at the hospital. It was so quiet I got a private room in postnatal. The anesthetist was available at all times if I wanted an epidural too. I got top quality care because of the time of year.

I would whole heartedly recommend having a baby that time of year.

Aprilshowerswontbelong · 23/02/2018 16:01

We skipped a month to not clash with a major holiday. Ds was 5 weeks early and we missed the holiday anyway!! Just go for it. Dd was due Christmas Eve but waited till NYE instead!

darceybussell · 23/02/2018 16:20

I'm always a bit confused about this to be honest, the date someone's birthday is on is really only a small part of their life. There are so many other things that are so much more important, such as providing them with a loving home. I sort of understand worrying about August babies and whether they'll be ok at school, but I think trying to avoid a birth date because it might be a bit of an inconvenience to you and to the child is a bit silly.

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RDW1989 · 23/02/2018 16:20

Thanks everyone, I appreciate your replies. I think a Christmas-time birthday is okay when they are small and you celebrate with close family, but once they are school age through to adulthood and have their own friends I can imagine it's a pain to try and organise anything on the day. I mean, obviously you can organise it for another time but I know from speaking to my Mum that it can be frustrating.

It's a tricky one!

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RDW1989 · 23/02/2018 16:21

P.S. I don't have any issue with any other time of year, but I'd prefer to avoid say 23rd Dec - 1st Jan if possible. Appreciate it's not completely in my control though, even if we do skip March Smile

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Rach5l · 23/02/2018 16:27

Definitely skip January, mine is at the beginning and I hate it. No one wants to celebrate, everyone on a diet, I get re-gifted Christmas shit. I'm actually thinking of moving it to July Grin

Squ1ggle · 23/02/2018 16:31

To be honest although December is a pain (my ds is 2 weeks before Christmas) at least everyone is generally feeling happy and festive in the run up to Christmas. January is grey and miserable and everyone is broke. Those adults I know with January birthdays hate it even more than those with December birthdays as nobody can ever afford to do anything to celebrate

Thelampshadelady · 23/02/2018 16:36

I’ve got a very early jan birthday and I hate it!

Chocolatecake12 · 23/02/2018 16:39

It is tricky. My ds has a mid Dec birthday. The positive side for him has been - a Christmas party at school on his actual birthday - he said it felt like he had a whole school party! It’s not often as kids that they have a party on their actual birthday - often it’s the weekend before/after so I wouldn’t use that as a reason.
August birthdays as a kid are horrible as all your school friends are on holiday and by the time September arrives it’s been forgotten but my mum has her birthday in August and as an adult she has the best birthdays.

Bubblegum89 · 23/02/2018 16:53

My sister was born on Christmas Day and we as a family never have an issue celebrating both. Personally I’m at a point in my ttc journey where I couldn’t care less when my baby was born as long as I just had a baby lol but I suppose if you’re fortunate enough to have that luxury of deciding when you want to conceive then go for it

Owlpatrol · 23/02/2018 18:46

Same as @Bubblegum89 for me I've been trying that long that honestly I'd do anything to get pregnant any month but I suddenly realised that I now won't have a baby on 2018 and that makes me feel very sad Sad

CountFosco · 23/02/2018 19:03

DSis and DD are both Christmastime birthdays. DD likes it because we always celebrate on her birthday. The last few years we've gone to the pantomine on her birthday and she loves getting a shoutout from the Dame. She then has a party with her friends in the new year. DSis says her friends don't really want to go out on her birthday because they are busy so she doesn't like that.

But my birthday is in January and I can confirm that you get shit presents and I've not been out with my friends on my birthday for years. I agree December is better than January.

gossipgirl28 · 23/02/2018 19:06

At the end of the day the birthday is irrelevant and your baby should come first. Who cares about the date...