Skip a month to avoid Xmas Bday?

[RDW1989]

Hi everyone.

DH and I have been TTC since December. If we don't get a BFP this month, I am thinking about skipping March. My period is due 25th Feb which I think could mean a birthday directly around Christmas if we were lucky that month. My Mum has a birthday a couple of days before Christmas and hates it. Is it weird to skip a month for a reason like this??

I could do with losing some weight (I'm 5'3 and 11stone, although only size 10-12, not sure if that's going to cause problems with TTC?) so perhaps I could focus on that for March...

We're both 28, and as I said this is 3rd month TTC.

[hophap]

I have a Christmas Eve baby... who I expected on Feb 2nd!

[jkl0311]

Totally normal I wanted to stop ttc for the summer months of birthdays for school years!!

[MrsM2017]

Hubby and I thought about this, as have family and friends who don't particularly like their December birthdays. But as other posters have said - you can't plan these things and if you get pregnant baby could be early or late and this scuppering any well thought out date planning! We are just going to continue TTC and go with the flow - if it happens and we get pregnant in this/next cycle and have a December bubba then we'll just be thankful to have a baby at all ☺️ x

[isitfridayyet1]

This is a really ridiculous post no one can know exactly when they will fall pregnant even if it's planned the laws of probability still come into action. I really think these days people try and micro manage their lives, my sister had her baby at 25 weeks! You just never know, best just to get on with it. Then be thankful when the pregnancy occurs whatever the date!

[Arbies22220]

I'm a December birthday and I hate it. As a child I REALLY hated it and as an adult i've just given up celebrating. 'Joint' xmas and bday present, no school friends, getting other peopls's unwanted xmas gifts recycled as present. I say skip!

[greendale17]

I would.

I know two people who have their birthdays very close and after Christmas. They hate it- no one is ever available to celebrate with them and they just end up with a joint Christmas and birthday present.

[NinjagoNinja]

Of course you can plan fertility. Some Peale can't but lots of people can and do conceive the first month they start trying - it's not unusual at all.

We only wanted Sept - Nov or Jan - April birthdays. So we only ttc December - July with the exception of March.

[Hollyandtheiveee]

Have you actually worked out the correct date in a due date calculator? If you conceived this month, your due date would be around 2 Dec. So if you skipped a month, it could still be just after Xmas. Not always so easy to plan it as you could come early/late and I really don’t think it’s worth missing a few months.

[RoryAndLogan]

My baby came a month early. You're being totally ridiculous. If you want a baby enough, you won't give a shit what month it's born just that it's healthy.

[Babdoc]

My DD2 has a just before Xmas birthday. It’s brilliant, as she was on holiday from school, the shops are full of great choices of presents, there are pantomimes etc on at the theatre, and everyone is in festive mode! When she was a stroppy teen, she had her own smaller tree called the “dd2mas tree”, with her birthday presents under it, to make it clearly separate from Xmas!
DD1 has a mid August birthday, which in Scotland meant she started back at school on her birthday. Much more annoying than December!
But I don’t think it matters all that much, tbh- your child is so much more important than their arrival date .

[Roastchickenbitch]

We tried to do this- and our end of January/early Feb baby came early and right during Christmas time anyway! Typical

[Baubletrouble43]

My due date was Xmas day but it turned out to be twins who came three weeks earlier. My own birthday is the very end of November. It's a non issue. I mean, if you really want a baby wtf does it matter when it's birthday falls? I wouldn't want to miss a month of trying.

[ovenchips]

You're overthinking it! Really, really overthinking it.

[Pannacott]

I would stop ttc to not clash with Christmas. We did this. Most people I know with Christmas birthdays struggle with them. If you aren't having conception issues, haven't been trying for ages, it's one month to you but a lifetime for them.

[Rachie1986]

I was thinking about this, because dd has her birthday on 27th Dec. But I thought TTC in march would be fine as I got my bfp later in April for DD, so there's another month to try before the Christmas fortnight. Or am I wrong??!

[Aprilshowerswontbelong]

I have a ds born 5/11 - he hates it!! Fireworks display every year!!

[Rae90]

I wouldn't take a month off personally, but then I have PCO so don't exactly have the luxury of choosing which month I'm going to conceive. Of all the things to worry about when having a baby, when its birthday is seems pretty superficial tbh.

FWIW I have a November baby, fine if you live in England (and Wales maybe? Not sure how they do things re schooling) but we live in Scotland so she will be one of the youngest in her year. We'll also never get to have a nice outdoor BBQ birthday party due to the crap November weather but you know what, I couldn't care less! Her birthday would be special regardless.

[fizzytonicplease]

@Babdoc Great idea about the second tree, DS is only 3 so we just decorate one side of the living room with birthday banners balloon etc..the day before, but having a birthday tree would be great instead of xmas decorations we can put birthday decorations on.

[pinkdonkey]

I skipped March the first 2 years of trying, but I won't be this year. I just want a baby, and to be honest I don't expect to get pregnant any month these days, it's just too stressful after so long. I've realised I have very little control over this.

[Oysterbabe]

I've always loved having a December birthday, it always felt special and everyone's in a mood to celebrate. DD was due end of Jan but arrived on NYE. DS was due 17th December but arrived on 21st. We have a 2 week celebration in our house and it's lovely.

[Happies]

My dd bday is January... it's also not the
Most fun month to have a bday.... plus so far every birthday she has been ill 🤒

[RDW1989]

Thanks everyone for your responses. I don’t really agree that wanting to avoid a Xmas birthday is superficial, or that the ‘baby should come first’, as a couple of posters have said. We would be missing a month of tic because we feel it would benefit our child throughout their life (albeit not in a major way, but if we can avoid it then why not?) It seems other people have done the same so glad I’m not alone ;)

I counted wrong though, I think the baby would be due early December not around Christmas as I thought... oops!

[HotCrossBunFight]

FYI it's a bit bloody rude saying December babies are disadvantaged.

[Pittcuecothecookbook]

Haha, bloody hell OP. If you skip a month because you think to do so will benefit your, not just unborn, but not even conceived child, that's madness. I love my Dec birthday and in no way have I been disadvantaged throughout my life. In fact, it's been an advantage because people have always gone out of their way to make it special. But y'know, your choice. Hope it works out for you and they have an end of Jan birthday or August birthday perhaps.

[Unicornchaser]

Before finding out I am already pregnant, I was in the same mind set as you, I had planned to avoid March and April conception to avoid Dec/jan births. I have a step son and we love Christmas as a family so adding a birth/birthday would be too chaotic with all the family Christmas stuff. And myself and hubby as January baby's and we HATE our birthdays being in jan, not so bad for kids but since teenage years, everyone's skint, cold and depressed after Christmas.