TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

I've also got stomach pains from barely eating all day. Am hungry but the anxiety is making me feel ill.

Try and eat something to keep your strength up. I know it’s easy for me to say. Get a hot water bottle and take some paracetamol. Have you rang antenatal ward for any advice? I was advised to do that as I started bleeding at work while I was on nightshift (I’m a nurse). Apologies if I’m asking useless questions or saying useless things. Big hugs to you @Flatwhite32. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling.

Sorry unicorns I hope you are ok and they manage to get you in for a cancellation slot. Flat thinking of you tonight too 💕

@Flatwhite32, really, really sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself, try to eat and keto warm. It's no consolation I know, but I miscarried at 6-7 weeks and it was just like a heavier period, the most sac-like thing I got was some globs of brown sticky cm-type stuff. Got everything crossed for you for the next few days xx

I second what soz said, I miscarried at 6 weeks and it was just like a heavy period with a single bigger clot and no more painful than a period either.
Hope it doesn’t come to that for you though....

Thanks ladies. Your support means so much. I'm going to ring the EPU again in the morning. I feel ill from the anxiety and am looking forward to going to bed.

How is the bleeding this morning? Thinking of you x

That's so lovely of you @TheGrumpySquirrel, thank you. It is no worse today (touch wood) so that's something, but it is still there. Going to demand to speak to a medical professional today, as EPU fobbed me off yesterday, and the GP didn't ring back! I honestly think some medical professionals don't realise how stressful and anxiety provoking this is, especially if you've got a history of MC.

unicorns i'm so very sorry to hear that. it is so hard, its relentless infact ttc - the planning, hoping, thinking, taking pills, etc etc and then the absolute devastation when it goes wrong. i really hope you are being looked after.

flat i'm SO sorry to hear you have bleeding. i really hope it's just one of those little things where stuff is settling down and because its not continuous you have some hope. my natural mc at 7 weeks was just like a heavy period - i had nothing, no pink spotting, and i literally stood up and felt wet in my pants and knew it wasn't going to be good. I only saw blood, more than a normal period, about twice much i guess, and i bleed for longer, a week instead of just a couple of days. no pain though and to be honest i couldn't tell what was baby amongst the blood and normal clots. that's not to trivialise it, more that there was a clear difference between my mc at 7 weeks and the mmc at 10 weeks - when i knew i'd passed the baby, and it was much more stuff and a sac etc...
Hope you get to talk to someone today. xx

turquiose that is just the best news. thank you so much for sharing, you really give me hope as someone else that is 39 and ttc from the beginning of the year. i really hope all goes well for you. please keep us posted.

Well i reached my second due date yesterday and my af arrived as well. what a way to really ram home the point about not being pregnant hey... i sort of knew it was coming as i did a test sunday to see if I could have a drink at the pub and it was definitely a bfn but it still hurt to see it. my next fw is busy with bloody xmas parties etc, but will see how i get on. I could/would be testing christmas day then...oh the joys. and then it will be a whole year. i can't believe i've been etc or pregnant all year and nothing to show for it....come on 2018, we all deserve some luck!

Thank you @NoCatsHere. My fantastic GP phoned the EPU on my behalf (they fobbed me off yesterday) and I've got an appointment tomorrow at 10.50. I'm dreading it, but at least I'll know either way. I hate uncertainty. Oh to be someone who sails through pregnancy! It's so unfair isn't it .

I hear you, @Flatwhite32. Still got everything crossed for you x

So today I'm just so fucking angry at everything. I don't get it. I don't have any blood problems, I don't seem to have any hormone issues (I haven't had an issue with periods anyway), I can clearly make a good environment so what the fuck happened? I've never had any chemicals so (I'm assuming) there's no major genetic or chromosomal issues in the beginning (I could be being naive here). I don't understand and I fucking hate everyone who complains about dumb shit. You wanna bitch about sickness or you can't have this that and the other? Is your baby fucking dead? No? Fuck people

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I feel for you. I really understand how angry you are. Those people that bitch about feeling so bad in their pregnancy, I get that it's horrible and you don't want to feel that bad but at least your baby is there! I gave birth to my son at 24 weeks earlier this year and all he's not here with me anymore. I said Hello and good bye all in the same day! Life really sucks sometimes, don't know why we're the ones that go through it and then watch other people sail through (though their life is always far more stressful!)

Unicorns I totally get where you are coming from. But before I had my mc, I was one of those people. Pregnancy made me feel like crap and I was so worried about the impact on my work, the timing etc. I drank alcohol almost as normal and went on several transatlantic flights basically to prove it wasn't affecting work. Of course I feel really stupid and guilty about that now.

I was told (in hospital in Spain) that mc before 6-7 weeks (ie before there is a heartbeat) is more common and that after that it is rare and usually a chromosomal issue causing it (rather than an inability to implant properly or hormonal problems).

Dora I'm so sorry for your loss. That must have been awful.

How you doing flat and Unicorns? X

Thinking of everyone today xx

I have a question for you ladies and I realise it's probably a bit of a dim one. Assuming I decide not to wait a cycle before ttc (assuming of course I stop bleeding long enough to actually dtd ever again), should I really take a pregnancy test to make sure it's negative? Or do I go for a slightly more zen approach of seeing what happens?

Thinking of everyone. Hope things go ok today @Flatwhite32.
@Zoo33 I made sure I had a negative pregnancy test first as I was worried incase I ended up with a positive a few weeks later and wouldn’t know if it was from the miscarriage or I’d conceived again. I’ve heard people do different things though.

Hi ladies, today was inconclusive. I'm measuring 5 and a half weeks instead of 6+2. I know I ovulated slightly later, but only by 2 or 3 days. That worries me. As it's so early, they couldn't see an embryo. Only a yolk sac and a gestational sac. My anxiety is horrendous. Got another scan in 12 days. The only positive is that the bleeding has stopped.

@Flatwhite32, I know how the waiting can be, sorry to hear it was inconclusive but there is still hope. Sending you lots of hugs x

Crossing everything for you Flat x

Hold onto that hope @Flatwhite32

What worries me is that a Clearblue test said 3+ last week which, going by the sonographer's measurements, should have put me at 2-3 on a Clearblue last week. I'm worried it was actually 5 weeks last week, but has now stopped growing. I was also feeling sick until today, but that feels better today. I'm so anxious.

HCG levels can vary so much in the early days, I don't think you can infer that x

It's such a shit thing being in limbo. Hugs 🤗