TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

I'm definitely on board with the feeling of wanting to move on and other people having it easy.

@glitterbug I definitely felt like that. Sometimes you think you've had your fair share of bad luck.

@flatwhite I'm glad you've got an appointment. Hopefully they'll be able to help.

I think af is done now. Just hoping I have a longer cycle than the 2/3 week ones I've had since MC. Before, they were at least 30 days.

DH is feeling a bit better now. He's being made redundant at the end of nov. (We've known for a year and it's due to an office relocation) Failing means he can't apply or jobs straight away as a qualified, which is a shame because he has the equivalent level of experience. He's decided to use his pay in lieu to not work and study for this exam in early March instead. It's been his dream for nearly 20 years so I'm on board with him making it a priority. Hopefully 2018 will be our year, because quite frankly 2017 can do one!

Morning all,
Hope you don't mind me joining
Had mc just over three weeks ago, suspected ectopic pregnancy.
Me and my OH are super naughty and haven't waited until my first cycle to try again.
No idea when AF is due though so take a test once a week.
Last couple of days I've got very sore breasts and nausea (when even sick Saturday night) so I'm sure it's just around the corner!

Daisy sorry about your loss :(
I didn't wait either (Opps hehe) but unfortunately i didn't get pg.. I'm now on my first proper cycle. Lots of luck xx

I had some bleeding at 3am after i had a wee, But it was only while i wiped. There has been nothing since! Weird 🤔

Hi Daisy and bluee, I didn't wait. Had my MC 3/4 weeks ago and got my positive OPK on Saturday morning. same again Sunday morning so we tried this month, although we didn't get to dtd until Sunday night so I'm really worried I missed my chance

Grumpy & flat
I had some one at work say I'm going have a holiday then have another baby ! Like it's the given ! And they did !
i think it's the fact we all know it's not a certain and I think every one who's gone through a miscarriage thinks like that
Keep thinking I will book a holiday next year something look forward to but then that 1% that might be lucky enough be pregnant.

Cd3 and there’s not enough to call it more than spotting! 🤔 anyway can’t comfort eat as am sticking to calories but did buy some new “skinny” clothes 👍🏼 hope everyone is doing okay today x

Only 2dpo (presuming actually bloody ovulated and it happened Sunday - who the fuck knows) and already fed up of the bloody wait. I just don't feel pregnant and suspect I'm not. Last time I'm pretty sure I know the exact moment the sperm fertilised the egg as I felt really sick and weird! This time = nothing.

Got an AGM end of month and was supppsed to be there pregnant and glowing, effectively revealing my pregnancy and setting the gossips tongues wagging (as I'm not married, shock horror in my profession/where I live) but instead I have a flat (well, apart from my cake weight!) belly and now may not even have a BFP by then.

Know there are many worse than me/worse things but whole thing sucks. So many of my friends just breeze through life popping out bsby after baby, getting married, being popular etc and I am the one who always has the shitty end of the stick.

One of my mates even said to me "Jesus, you do go through a lot of shit don't you". Reckon I must've been a mass murderer in a former life to constantly have shit thrown at me.

Welcome Lotty and DaisyMay, I'm really sorry for your losses and I hope you're not here too long.

I convinced my DH to book a flight home, so we can still try this month - albeit very quietly. Same awkward parental situation as you Flatwhite!

God I'm feeling awful today. Am SO tired from work and emotional stress. Got an appointment at the breast clinic on Thursday morning which I'm so nervous about. Luckily I get seen quickly there, as I'm on their books due to family history. I'm so bloody nervous. I went through a biopsy on a lump 3 years ago, and it was thankfully benign, but the wait was hell. I can't bear going through all this again so soon after the MMC. My DH is falling apart too, as he just can't cope with all the stress we are under.

Flat, sorry it’s so stressful. I’ve also had a biopsy in the past. They are so good with getting you seen quickly. Try not to worry, they are always going to check it out even if it’s probably nothing. Hugs.

Trying very hard to keep positive as I don’t want to live my life miserable every day! Diet is working well, sticking to calories and macros isn’t as hard as I thought, so that’s good. Got a holiday coming up end of next week and will coincide with FW 👍🏼 we can do this ladies!

I can't do it @TheGrumpySquirrel as I'm so tired it's a struggle to get up the stairs. That's how bad I feel today. It's mostly job related exhaustion. I'm surrounded by marking I just can't do.

@flatwhite big hugs. I wish I could say something that would help you feel better.

Would it help to start writing a diary so you can get your feelings out? Or maybe something as simple as having one small thing to look forward to each day. Like a bar of chocolate or a glass of wine, or even a favourite film/TV show, a nice bath. That kind of thing. I know it sounds a bit daft but it might be easier to start small.

I hope you don't have too much wait to get the results and keeping everything crossed for you that it's nothing.

I do treat myself everyday, it's just the exhaustion I can't cope with. We are even considering cancelling my birthday weekend away this weekend as I barely have the energy to walk round school, never mind do a trip away.

Maybe getting some distance from work and home will help with the exhaustion. Can you just chill out in the hotel if you're not up to it?

Seems sad to compound things by missing out on your birthday trip :(

It sounds like you are really struggling flat. Can the GP sign you off work for a couple of weeks? X

I've got half term next week @TheGrumpySquirrel. Thank god! Going away at the end of it to my parents, but it's going to be quite full on as we are travelling during it as well. I just want a week at home doing nothing.

That's nice grumpy- where are you off to?

I need to do more exercise though I do cycle to work (8 miles a day)

Flat - fingers crossed everything is okay for you appt

A cosy cottage in West Wales with dd and DH. Can’t wait.

Sounds like some iron might help Flatwhite

Sounds lovely grumpy! Perfect time of year for autumn walks and getting cosy in front of the fire 😍

Holiday sounds lovely grumpy.

Flat, you sound shattered and I'm not surprised. Iron supplements do sound like a good suggestion to me too (have you tried spatone?). Don't be afraid to ask to be signed off after half term if you are still so tired...teaching is an exhausting job at the best of times and leaves very little space for dealing with anything else.

I'm feeling a bit flat this week. Feel like I'm getting sadder about our MC rather than better. Think I'm just fed up of waiting and seem to have so little tolerance for anything...finding the school gate increasingly depressing/confronting and work is hard. It's so hard just waiting isn't it? I just want to be pregnant again and move on with the next phase of life....feel like I'm in one enormous state of limbo.

Hey ho. Curling up with the bake off...anyone else watching? X

Yes pjs! I'd like to try a sweet/savoury clanger 😊

They look good! Never heard of them.

Hi Daisymay sorry your here in the nicest possible way!
@Grumpy your holiday sounds lovely. Make sure you have a fabulous time and thats an order :)
pjs i know what you mean about being in limbo. Sometimes it feels like I'm in some parallel TTC universe where i no longer can participate in life the way it was before yet can't quite join the future planning brigade either. I have to say its been nearly four months since i lost my baby and i don't cry about it anymore. I buried the remains of my baby in the garden under the magnolia tree i got especially. I have this deep longing to be pregnant again so maybe thats why I'm not sad anymore because I'm using all my energy trying to move on. Its either something like that or I'm emotionally dead. I never did cry at funerals. Weird.

The limbo thing is so shit. I'm fed up of thinking about TTC'ing all the time. I'm so blessed to have DD but she took so long to conceive that I've spent 60% of the last 4 years TTC'ing (am such a loser, I just sat and worked it out ). I know it's not long in the grand scheme of things and a lot of people have it a lot easier than me...but so many people have it so much easier! When I got pregnant in March at the 3rd month of trying, I remember thinking that it couldn't be that easy for us, we hadn't put enough effort in. And hey-ho, it didn't work out
Some friends of DH announced to everyone that they were going to go for a honeymoon baby the same time we started (secretly) ttc'ing for DD. And they conceived first time. Then they complained to me when they conceived their second that it took 2 months of trying when they were only planning it to take one some people really don't realise how lucky they are!

My fertile days are coming up and DH has been announcing all day that he's coming down with a terrible cold - good lord I love the man but he's an utter hypochondriac! Every fertile week this happens, really not conducive to me feeling happy to pounce on him

Also low GI diets are shit. And not drinking alcohol is shit. I want a vat of wine, a bucket of jelly babies and ALL the cakes

Anyway that's my whinge for the day/as you were...