TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

@Flatwhite31 That's probably not the most helpful thing to say, is it? Otherwise you'll start thinking something is wrong after two cycles and I think it honestly can take out bodies such a long time to adjust. I remember seeing one of mine (think he's my main one but I've only been three times and I saw someone else the first two trips). He actually said that well some people can get pregnant and lose them before they even know about it. Fucking thanks, Douchey McDouchebag

I'll explain it as best as I can, but it was be quite a long post!

So I had the initial first period about 29 days after first being told about mc (about a week and a half after the bleeding stopped from the whole process). It was pretty painful and light, I think possibly because I just bleed for such a long time before and after surgery (about maybe 3/3 and a bit in total). I then had lots of stopping a few days after the period stopped.

I had a second period on the 17th September which was much more normal and heavier. I didn't bleed much afterwards, I think maybe a little bit over the course of a day. There was an actual build up to ovulation (though I still wasn't sure if I was going to). Previously, I had a positive OPK in the beginning of August but I'm not sure of the build up to that, and it was the first time we DTD, it didn't feel very comfortable though so kind of had to keep doing that and it eventually felt normal (thought I'd given it enough time afterwards op. to settle down but whatever). The ovulation in September was on something like day 20 (of a usual 28 day cycle, but this one was 30 days for no reason). I think it may have been an anovulation as whilst I got a surge, it was very, very sudden and everything before was so, so faint.

I'll add my Ovia charts, not to say 'oh look what I did' but it might make more sense and help you.

Important dates so it'll explain chart:
10th July: was when I first started spotting and rang GP for referral
11th: Scan which confirmed MC
12th: Start of natural MC
13: More natural MC. Bean was born
19th: Surgery management
6th August was apparent ovulation day:
17th: 1st period
Started spotting from the 26th.
5th September: Apparent ovulation day
17th: Period
(As I can only post 3 images, I ovulated again on the 2nd Oct at day 16 so much better than before. Last cycle if I actually did it was on CD20)

I hope that makes sense. Sorry it's long-winded but I'd rather attempt to help than be super vague.

Fuck that's a mission and a half! 😣

@BlueeSpottyTiger I was trying to work it out after I wrote it cuz I remember you getting the positive with that one, yet had the same due date. Then I remembered that people have different cycle lengths and DPO

And AF is here 😥 onto cycle 6. Must not test so much next time! Once at 12DPO then wait!

Thank you SO much @UnicornsandRainbows1, that's really helpful. I wish the doctor hadn't said that, as he's set me up for a fall! My AF is due on Wednesday and I have zero symptoms. Literally nothing. No cramps, no sore boobs, no spotting, no sugar cravings, nothing. It's a bit like my first one after my MMC, although I just out that down to everything settling. It's unnerving having no symptoms, as I know it isn't normal for me. I don't have any pregnancy symptoms either, so the BFNs, while upsetting, are not a surprise. My body literally feels like it has no hormones in it! I can't remember ever feeling like this since getting my period age 13!

We are going to a baby loss remembrance service today in a local church. I'm expecting lots of tears, but I'm hoping it'll feel like a proper goodbye to our very much loved baby, who I think about every second of the day.

Sorry to hear that @TheGrumpySquirrel. I'll be joining you soon. Xxx

@Flatwhite31 Sorry, I've read it back and it's riddled with sentences that make no sense. Ah, brain. Can I ask how long it took to fall last time? Good luck at the church. It sounds like a lovely service.

Oh Grumpy that's so shit

Oh no worries @UnicornsandRainbows1, it all made sense to me! Xx

Came off pill after our wedding in Feb and conceived in June, so 4 months. I didn't do any opks etc til that successful cycle in June, as I naively thought I'd just get pregnant! Now we all know it's not so easy!

@yellowfrontdoor 4 months is perfect! I've been reading "It starts with the egg" and it says that a lot of problems with egg quality occur during the Meosis stage - this starts about 4 months before ovulation and is the process of readying the egg for ovulation by halving the chromosones in the egg so it end up with 23 in place.

There's a theory that if we don't process folic acid properly it may impact meosis and lead to chromosone abnormalities which is why folic acid (preferably in the form of folate) is recommended for at least 4 months to improve egg quality.

...sorry for the lecture-y post! Just wanted to share as I'd not been aware of the meosis process (hah - rhymes!) before, I was vaguely aware that I should be thinking more long term than a month in terms of lifestyle changes and it was good to read the book and actually understand why

...especially as I can see 40 fast approaching and it was good to understand that it's the effect of age on the process rather than on the eggs themselves that can make the difference and that it's something that supplements can help with - so my eggs aren't necessarily irreversibly aged, it's possible that there's things I can do to improve their quality.

No thank you @Juancornetto that’s so interesting & definitely helps me to feel better.

I’m so sorry @TheGrumpySquirrel, getting AF when you’re so hopeful is really shit.

Hi Ladies,
It's been quite a while since I popped in to say hello!
I'm now 13+4 weeks and had our dating scan the other day. Although there was a baby on the screen it still feels unreal that I've made it this far this time (last miscarriage was 12 weeks).

With it being Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day, my last miscarriage has been weighing heavily on my mind. Reading through some of the recent posts, it's so great that we have these forums to support each other.
Keeping fingers and toes crossed for every single one of you.
Much love x

Congratulations @ForeverHopeful21, that's great news. I also had my MMC at 12 weeks. Leaving soon for a baby loss remembrance service. Still crying most days. I just can't get over it. Next week will be 8 weeks since we lost our little bean. If you don't mind me asking @ForeverHopeful21, how long did it take for you to get pregnant again? X

I can now feel what I think is a breast lump. Shit. It could be normal tissue, but it doesn't feel the same on the other breast. I have a direct link to the breast clinic due to family history (and I had a scare 3 years ago) so will be ringing them in the morning. Feel like my whole world is caving in right now.

I'm really sorry grumpy. X

@Flatwhite31 I'm sorry for your loss. I had my miscarriage early March and got my bfp in early August. This was very quick for me as the previous pregnancy took 2.5 years to get bfp!!
I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. Get to that breast clinic asap x

Sorry af has arrived @grumpy hope you are not feeling too sad about it.

Really hope the baby rememberance service is good @flat sure there will be many tears indeed but a good cry can be so healing I think.

Hopefully the breast clinic will see you quickly and you'll be able to get some reassurance xx

@daffodil so sorry to read your story- sounds like you have had an absolutely horrendous few months really hope you catch a break soon xx

I should have a 3 week old baby, be 32 weeks, be 11 weeks and currently I'm 3 weeks 6 days... having so many milestones makes them seem a bit of a nonsensical really so I don't think about them too much, but I don't forget the due dates xx

🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️For our little ones x

For all our tiny babies. Xxxx

Big hugs. (Temporarily avoiding facebook...)

Don't want to share on Facebook and we have guests for dinner. So am sat in my bathroom, thinking of my little one. Just wanted to share with someone. Thank you guys for listening. X

Love to our babies 💖 xx

❤️❤️❤️ Virtual bear hugs to you all ladies

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