anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

[stillvicarinatutu]

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

Ha ha juney and her 'foof'!

Dawson and Stillvicar I don't go on them. I had a good look around and whenever I see 'that's a myth' 'it's true when you stop obsessing, it happens' I just think... it wasn't that long ago your arse was need deep in OCD TTC sperm-obligated, stick-peeing, aiming into a lid and forcing yourself not to buy 20x tests, praying for that Mother fucking line like the rest of us you've left bloody behind!!

I'm a warrior worrying OCD TTC woman and I'm proud!

WHEN (positive shit there) I get my BFP the only thing I'll be smug about is saving myself about £40 a month on Clear Bloody Blue!

...maybe that's a positive factor??

What will we do when we get that BFP?

1. I want a god damn spa day with a fellow OCD TTC BFP and BFN's, to bitch about those smug bitches 😂
2. start a non-alcoholic wine tasting club for my fellow 'food' friends ha ha! Obviously, cheese approved pregnancy range only (! Love Stilton!)

Anyone else want to add??

dreamers someone in my office just had their bundle of joy...

Christmas I was getting the third degree and 'how when I got back the app said shag now, so we did', what about you, you've just got married, are you trying??
'No, not just yet, got so many things on'...

...nah, I've been having shahathons trying new ways and fads before I even got engaged you fucking bellend...

face palm

stillvic

My mom had me when she was in her forties, and although you have all those things going, I read your posts and I honestly think, you're going to have a shocker BFP, I really do!!!

Sorry it's that's not helpful but I'm hoping you don't mind me saying it ✨🌷

no blooming you made me smile - heres hoping !

I was on a TTC group 2 years ago (I took a break clearly I haven't been trying 2 years solid!) and there was a 44 year old with one tube who managed to get pregnant naturally after having IVF for her first. Don't give up hope!

Hello ladies, may I join you? Am tired of living my life in two week blocks and constantly looking at the calendar wondering if I should plan this or that incase I get pregnant.
I'm 31, TTC for the last year. Had a MMC 3 years ago after falling pregnant within 3 months of coming of the pill. Decided to start trying again a couple of months later then my Mom became really poorly and died. My world caved in but I had to hold it together for my grandma who then died less than 12 months later. 6 months down the line and we decided time was right to try again, got a BFP in June this year only to have an early MC/chemical 12 days later. I'm just so exhausted with the emotional rollercoaster.

well now im just really sad.
dp said tonight he is happy to be childless rather than go down the ivf route. i dont know why its upset me so much but it has. i was willing and i really thought he wanted it. but hes done it before and said no. he doesnt want the risk of multiples or the stress. so im guessing thats us done really on ttc. i cant imagine it happening now at my age naturally. id love it to but after losing the baby last year to the chromosomal abnormality i just cant see it. i really need ot make my peace with this and accept its not happening.

and so why did i poas this morning anyway? ( waiting for positive opk. )

gah.

Been enjoying this thread I really think re. annoying questions, it's best to tell people - it's the only thing that makes them stop & think!! (Especially the bloody cheery perky ones, 'Ooh so what about the pitter patter of tiny feet, haven't got forever you know, tick tock!' Grrr!) I go with 'Well, yes, been working on that for a while now, anything you can do to help?!' Depending on how brave I'm feeling..;) The less well you know them, the more satisfying the effect! If they don't get that it's a rhetorical question & bleating about relaxing, convoy over..
2nd thought re keeping 'it' in, 1 word: Mooncup! Pop it in afterwards - Pretty sure the science doesn't support it & they're all supposed to whizz up there in seconds flat but stops mess at least..;)

I was reading about the mooncup theory yesterday, anyone tried it? I'm not great with tampons so not sure how I'd be with inserting a moon cup but I'd seen something online about a device called the stork and seen suggestions that a menstrual cup device was a cheaper alternative!!

Anyone else get really annoyed with "accidental" pregnancies?

Me and OH we're actively TTC #1 when sister in law who is younger than us announced her third "accident" ugh.

what cd are you jjuney cos mine did that today at cd 13 BUT i did a one step and it is also positive so im guessing smudged or not smudged its accurate.

I already have a DS and am sick of people going on about how I need to get knocked up right now or the age gap will be too big. Had it today from colleagues and just said 'actually I've been trying for a while' then got back to my work. Rude but shut them up!

Period is due today and got a negative so in an annoying limbo where I know these cramps are PMS, but deep down I'm thinking 'hmmm maybe those cheap pregnancy tests don't work!'

@stillvicarinatutu I was day 9 with the smudged stick and went back to my one-steps and have now ovulated yesterday (day 14)

Hi Dingdong, don't think that's rude - arguably they're the rude ones for being nosey! At least you know they prob won't ask again now.. ;) Hi summer1986, I'm disappointed there's a 'theory' - thought I had invented an original idea?! I use Mooncup for AF anyway so used to it, highly recommend for that purpose anyway! Can take some getting used to getting in/out, just need to find technique that works for you. Was a bit offended that I had to go for the 'over 30' large size

Fuck sake so my temperature hasn't shot up as much as I thought so does that mean it's annovulatory? Could well do without that! Ffs

juney i donttemp - i cant really cos i work shifts so wouldnt be ble to temp at the same time each day.

plus i drive myself mad enough with the opk.....and poas in general.

i just hope each month ive ovulated and leave it at that!
good luck x

Does anyone else get mega mardy on fw? Like I've felt crap all week and for the past 2 days people at work have avoided me because I've got a face like a slapped arse. Is it just me? I'd assume it's hormones but what do I know?!

im still at the stage i look forward to fw.. (in theory!) ..that said my ovia app has just shifted mine by days! bastard!

i went from low fertility to peak overnight so now ovia has moved the window. it means i didnt know i was in it. that said i was wondering about a change of tactics - so its been enforced this month. if i know im in the fw im happy to jump him 3 x plus a day. i was thinking while its lots of fun it probably wasnt helping to get me pg (i think we might have been over trying!)

I'm happy knowing it fw and don't have an issue with it but I find my mood is a lot more up and down... like when af appears but obviously it isn't AF if that makes sense x

Stillvicar, I had the same - went from nothing to peak 24hrs later, have you seen that before? 1st month using CB though after I got fed up with cheapies! PS. I don't think you can over try can you?!

well for a year during the fertile window weve been at it 3 x day and its not happened - yet when i did get pg we did it cd 14, 17 and 19! - just once a day on those 3 days i was 44 !
so god knows.

I'm sure my period used to just come and go with no real issues pre ttc but since it's been a nightmare which makes it even worse. I've had pmt for days before and got next to no sleep for the past 2 nights with awful cramps, it seems to be someone so we're mocking me, you haven't got pregnant and I'm going to make it worse so you are in lots of pain!!! Grrr!!

Could I just jump right into this thread and have a good bloody moan please!

Cycle #2 however may aswell be #12 as last pregnancy ended up in miscarriage after months and months of trying.

I appear to be having one of those wonderful cycles of your body gearing up for ovulation then it NOT SODDING HAPPEN!!! Pretty certain I should have had a temp rise by now 4 days after first positive opk! I actually sat and sobbed last night out of frustration.
So that's my first moan out the way.. now onto the next

My hubby was too tired to DTD over the 3 days that I did have a positive test. Only dtd the night before my positive and then the first night of it being negative again. Even though it appears I haven't ovulated anyway, it still really really makes my blood boil that he could be so selfish!

Last but not least, and I hate to moan about this one but it is really proving difficult to cope with. Our last 3 pregnancies have ended in miscarriage, we do have 2 children already however babies are not a number. Our last miscarriage was a late one unfortunately. My lovely lovely friend started trying for her first the same month, fell pregnant first time trying but unfortunately lost the baby 2 weeks after her bfp. We are now both trying again, but she has a horrible self entitled view that because it is their first they are more deserving of it than we are! I just want to scream try going through what we have x3 over and then tell me that!!

Sorry, long one, but a lot to get off my chest 🙈

Tbh, all this TTC lark is ruining our marriage - I never thought I would view DTD as a chore - but we do. I always find the best 'days' in the month coincide with absolute shite days at work, which means I cannot really get in the mood.

That makes me feel like shite even more - I'm male, I'm not supposed to go 'off' the idea of shagging!

Cue watching calendar, AF arriving for DW, and on it goes.

We are lucky to have DD, who is ten, the rest of the family seem to be producing at will..