anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

[stillvicarinatutu]

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

Is that really you vic.
Great to see you back
Good luck TTC.

yeah tis me....x

Good luck everyone for the next cycle!
I give it a week before I lose my shit again

This thread is a god send... all different ages, different difficulties, different idiots around us... feels like a breath of fresh air!!

Next TTC Month (2years and 7months) I'm going to try morning 'sexy time' and instead of tilting my legs in the air on the bed, I'm going to slide down the side of the bed, with a beanbag for my head and shoulders to try and get the 'baby juice' in there!

It's also my third month after my HSG so praying the painful procedure I had opened something up!!!

TMI I know but I thought I'd leave you all with those images in hope it'll make you all have a giggle at least!!

If not I hope no one gets arrested for telling off someone for being insensitive!!

Just remember everyone, you're not alone 💗 regardless of age, DH/OH's, fertility positions... we've all got a different journey! Which includes A LOT of 'sexy time' 😏 Then hopefully soon, A LOT crappy nappies, sick and a lifetime of worry! Ha ha

(I'm here all day folks) xx

im frantically checking ovia app and stitch situation with a magnifying mirror....
im only cd 8. im sending my fanjo healing vibes.

Giggling at blooming and her beanbag haha!

Just been to a family party where I was asked when me and DH will be having a family....... sigh
How do people cope with these questions?

I get defensive, Sharl then get pissed off about "just adopt" as a platitude.

Speaking of which, I get married in two weeks. Does anyone have a good suggestion on how to deal with the inevitable comments about kids being the next thing on the list?

My DP is infertile. Miraculously, I appear to be fertile. He is catastrophically infertile too - ICSI or bust, but we would only get one cycle so we're edging towards not putting ourselves through it.

sympathies vivienne

i think if i were you id just go all in and go for it. easy for me to say though.

from tomorrow i am back to opks and poas. im changing tactics this month tho....

Ah my people! I'm on cycle 10 in a same sex relationship, sick of making small talk with our home donor, sick of the Mrs getting huffed because she can't get me pregnant. Sick of getting pregnancy symptoms only for AF to show up right on time. Sick of peeing on OPK tests, sick of taking my temperature.

sympathies juney

im having a .

Loving this thread, helps me to see I am not alone. Can I make you all feel any better? AF was 6 whole days late, the usual lots of symptoms. I thought I might just be lucky. Bang AF arrives. And that same day at work I was asked "how long I have left of my pregnancy". Apparently she had been told that I was due soon, either a lie or a weird rumour. And I couldn't even tell this woman, who is actually lovely, how much of a kick on the teeth that was. Didn't think I was looking third-trimester. Sigh.

Thanks Shar2017 😂 I'm not getting an injury from this upside down lark!! My normal peops who tried for ages gave me a right bollocking for not getting 'those legs up' so much so, that we had a couple of drinks and practised the manuvre in her kitchen!!! DH just laughed.

It's a good job because we'd be blubbering messes without a couple of normal mates... the ones who come over to you at functions when see someone's asked you YET AGAIN about kids and THEIR advice is gospel, then whisper in your ear "FUCK 'EM, just have yourself good time!" (Obviously, they don't whisper) they've had a rough time too so they understand the bullshit!!

I now have the beanbag upstairs ready crash on ha ha!!!

keep positive keep positive

I love your style stillvicarinatutu too! When you get your BFP I hope you have a new thread with yourself with a HUGE glass of non-alcoholic (shit) wine 🙂

Well Dawson, when I have two stone lighter, (6months ago) everyone including my dickhead directors, asked when I was due, on a bad day!

So I told them both that considering illegal the working structure is (no breaks, long hours over the legal limit) that 'I should imagine a pregnancy would be dire considering you told me that you wouldn't have hired me if you'd known hold old I was'... seriously they told me if they knew I was 29 at the time, they would have hired a man!!!! So I went to an interview, got offered the job for them to ask me if I was trying for a baby and 'couldn't take another member of staff joining and then falling pregnant'!!!!

I told them both very diplomatically that 'just because their wives uterus is like a bus, doesn't mean everyone else's is, in fact you could say that to someone who's been trying for years'

I DONT FUCKING UNDERSTAND HOW MALE DIRECTORS CAN SAY THAT WHEN THEIR FUCKING WIVES ARE AT HOME WITH A MINIMUM OF FOUR KIDS EACH!!!

here I go again

So many fucking rude pricks about!!!!

Sorry juney not said hello yet, 👋🏼

...

1. When I am pregnant, I'll let these fucking pricks know this 2.5 year turmoil, with close family dying, bring in life changing car accidents and current illness of close family member AND decreasing wage due to 'exports being a problem since the pound dropped' is utter BULLSHIT.
2. Join a union just in case possible pregnancy hormones make me tell them to go fuck themselves
3. I have my own business which my DH has encouraged to cut to part time... but can't because we need savings for IVF if my BMI isn't down enough...

Fucking bollocks....

where's my beanbag of positivity

*coulnt say that...

So sorry about the three spelling mistakes, the TTC Rage kicked in!!!

@bloomingimpatient hahaha you have had me laughing out loud!!!! I can't decide what I have laughed at more the 'bean bag of positivity, practicing the manoeuvre in the kitchen or your comment to the director! 😂😂

@sharl and @still I honestly think my approach as previously mentioned of asking as seriously impersonal question back when people ask about 'when are you going to have a baby?' works a treat!

It's my 2 year wedding anniversary today and someone said ooh you're leaving it a long time...I asked them what they meant and pretended I had no idea what they were on about until they felt very uncomfortable!!

On a positive note DH has took me out for a lovely meal!

Ha ha - i shit you not MrsJones17 Hope it makes everyone feel a little bit better - because knowing others are experiencing this crap too, really does help stopping me from feeling lonely!!

It it works, I'm going to call it my 'Beanbag of Louurrvveee' - ha ha!

Oh I will try to make people feel awkward too...
Excited about getting my own back Bitches

If Bridget Jones can get knocked up on Dolphin-friendly Johnnies, in her forties, being a little bit slutty, with two guys... surely, there is hope!

This is a breath of fresh air. I'm new to posting anything but I felt the need. Moan commencing...
I'm on the 2 week wait been trying for over 3 years and this bit kills a bit of me every month. The wait, the symptoms that could be, the worry it's not. Can't talk about it at work as god forbid 'someone else' gets pregnant. Pregnant friends around me, oh I sneezed and whoops what happened... baby number 3. I am a brilliant aunty and I love my role but nothing, nothing can fill this void.
RAH!!!
I don't talk about it much anymore as I felt it always turned every conversation to a negative and emotional chat- don't want to moan all the time to my friends, family or husband. I felt very moany and negative in most conversations about fertility and that's not me at all. I am that super positive person but this, this I do not feel happy about.
Then Last sept a colleague at work confided in me about her pregnancy then her abortion. I agree it was right for her and her life but that was a very incredibly hard and emotional time behind closed doors. It was so hard to disconnect but as I say work is not a place I can talk, nor would I want to. @bloomingimplant you made me laugh re your male directors. Mine is a female Jekyll and Hyde! Everything you Have done she has done bigger and better, there isn't anything anyone can have. She is a full time job in herself!
I also agree with @mrsjones17 ask a difficult question back or depending on the situation and how strong you feel I've said in the past unfortunately we have fertility challenges- bet you wish you'd not asked that now. Or my favourite- oh have we forgotten them again... then walk away!
I feel very moany but better it's out there. Moan over and out...
Thank you for listening x

😂😂. Yep making those total c**ks that are so irratating asking about babies feel uncomfortable is quickly becoming my favourite pastime! Asking inappropriate questions back is my favourite. 'do you have to strain really hard when you have a shit?' and such like. Childish I know but every little helps haha!

So much for that bollocks taught at school 'it only takes one look to get pregnant' and all that! 🙄

Definitely knowing others are going through the mill too really helps!

Please let me know how the bean bag if lurvee works out!!! Never know there could be a niche in the TTC market that you could market as yet another essential expensive item that poor suckers like me will buy to help me concieve!! 😂

This is the best thread I've read EVER. Finally some bloody honesty about how shite ttc really is.
Been at it for 16 months. Finally got a positive last month and had approximately 36 hours of excitement before bleeding started.... seriously, medical professionals should know better than to say 'well at least we now know you can get pregnant'. I didn't need 10 years of training to know that getting pregnant is only half the job....

Loving these rants. It shows the true side of TTC.

I definitely thought ooh I've never had sperm in my foof before I'll get pregnant first time! Hahaha what a fool!

Just out of interest... Do you find it difficult reading the Pregnancy threads on Mumsnet? I don't think it helps me to be reading these as it feels like yet another friend announcing pregnancy, and I get in to that whirlwind of "its easy for everyone else"

I've stopped going on both the pregnancy and conception forums as find it really hard (apart from this chat Obviously!). The conception one cos every time there's a positive test on I feel jealous then guilty. When it gets to when is your bfp due i found that really hard and had to stop as it was just too much pressure every time

helly i keep tormenting myself with those threads too....i will learn to stop.

well. my fertility lube arrived this morning. im ready and waiting. took a opk this morning which is neg but no surprise there i im only cd11. i use the clearblue mega bucks dual hormone thingy but its good - gives me a clear reading and you only have to poas once a day!

really at my age i feel i should be grown up about this and just stop - but getting pg last year just gave me enough hope to keep trying. im not sure whats worse - if i hadnt got pg i might not be pining to be pg now. i might have put the idea to bed. i was so blase back then....if it happens it happens attitude. now im a woman obsessed. it cant help really can it...
anyway. onward and upward.

dawson I hate them, especially the ones like "am I pregnant" with a glaringly obvious positive test inside.

stillvicar I struggled with the clearblue dual hormone this month as the pee stick smudged inside and gave me a peak result and now won't let me pee any more this cycle. Absolute waste of time. Back to using the onestep strip tests.

Just had someone visit the office because he's getting married and everyone was going "ooh you'll be having a baby soon... that's what happens after marriage" and my pregnant colleague was like " yeah, it could happen really quick like it did for me" and then I have to stop myself from saying "it's not so easy for everyone!"

(I hope no-one from my office is in this forum! no reason that anyone would be - but if you are then yes, I am TTC and yes it hurts)