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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

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duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

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beansprout · 04/05/2007 13:06

Chocolate days - sorry, that's just so miserable. Will keep everything crossed that you are preg by xmas so it will be bearable.

Chocolatedays · 04/05/2007 18:02

Thanks for the empathy.

Been feeling kinda sick all day - guess it is anxiety/stress. I'm trying to give myself a bit of a talking to... nothing has changed for the worse, in fact it is a positive I'm going to be an auntie, I was struggling to conceive yeaterday and still am today - the only difference is my brother has some really great news - he is going to be a dad. Am I convincing any of you? Hope someone is taken in by this because even writing the words 'going to be a dad' brings on a sick feeling. I'm happy for him but makes me (continue to) feel deeply inadequate.

lissielou · 04/05/2007 21:58

oh shit! im so sorry! its not fucking fair this monty python god of ours is rubbish. i demand a refund!

Soreheart · 06/05/2007 09:41

Beansprout, I'm sorry sorry sorry. I too thought you'd made your escape. Bah.
Nothing happening here in my world except work. Bah again.
I have a friend who's starting her counselling diploma in the Autumn, have checked some out myself, many expect that you are already doing something within the field. Do you think the 'Hut' counts? It should!
My pattern is that I'm oddly neutral during the month then quite hysterical when it hasn't worked out. Will I be like this until the menopause is over? It strikes me that I can't do that and remain sane. Oohhhhh. Like LLou says, can I just have a baby, please? Does trying for 2.5 years (all told) count yet? Better go off and look happy(ish).

eclipse · 07/05/2007 08:05

Morning all. What a grotty day. I'd begun to expect it to remain gloriously sunny for the rest of the summer. Can anyone help me get the sides of the tent down - the rain's making my rizlas soggy.
I'm in the hut for some sanity this morning. I'm at that stage of the month when I'm just starting to waste money on hpts and I'm wondering whether to cut out the middle man and just throw £10 notes down the loo and pee on those instead.
I have absolutely no symptoms of pregnangy whatsoever. But... a few days ago, Friday I had some pains, on Sat evening I had the slightest pinky spotting and then nowt since. If by the remotest impossible chance the spotting was the elusive (whispers) implantation bleeding, how long should it be til a positive shows up? The pain bit was on cd24 and I'm normally a 26/27 day cycle person. And they're all negative, naturally.
I need a good hut-shaped talking to.

lissielou · 07/05/2007 08:26

hi eclipse, shall we club together and buy shares in clear fecking blue?

we should at least get some kind of loyalty card!

well right on schedule my period started on sat. but at least i can book my HSG now, get some dye poured into my tubes!
oh, and my next peak fertile day is when we're on holiday. the bad news is my parents are staying in the caravan with us on the two days that count!

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duchesse · 07/05/2007 08:42

Lissie: creative solution- you leae your parents in charge of your baby and go for a meal and "walk" afterwards? Would that work?

eclipse- I know this is like giving drugs to a junkie, but do you know about the cheap clinical ones sold on ebay- they're just as accurate as the cassette ones, if not more so as they tend to be more sensitive, but they're 10 for a tenner! Also a lot less waste, if you're green-minded, as they are just a simple strip.

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lissielou · 07/05/2007 08:46

ooh duchesse, thats a fab idea. a romp in the sand dunes might be fun as long as i can stick my legs in the air afterwards!
and good point about the ebay tests. they are v good and have saved me a fortune. tho when i want confirmation i get clearblue, just to make sure

eclipse · 07/05/2007 08:48

Thanks, duchesses,
I'm sure that's a sensible solution. Mind you, then I'd probably take to testing several times a day. I shall investigate.

lissielou · 07/05/2007 08:57

take your pick

Soreheart · 07/05/2007 12:14

You guys are up early. E-bay stix and shares in big drug companies. .. . all good ideas (although the second may not be very politically sound.....!) Sand dune sex is a definite idea...hopefully a bit of a laugh as well!

lissielou · 07/05/2007 12:30

ill have to get dh to hold my legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards tho

eclipse · 07/05/2007 13:38

Thanks, Lissielou. I'll definitely get them there in the future. After a year, paying full shop prices sure adds up.

lissielou · 07/05/2007 15:10

tk diagnostics are v good!

eclipse · 07/05/2007 18:13

It's all immaterial now. As normal I'm successfully not pregnant. And we've given it our best shot for a year and the stress, build-up and eventual disappointment is getting too repetitive and soul-destroying so I've decided to duck out now and stop actively ttc/ftc. I have ds and while I'd love him to have a sibling, the disappointment of perpetual failure and constantly wishing so much time away is not fair on him or even on dh. So, I'll unload the contents of this small truck of knock-off booze and wish you all well and many thanks for all the support.

lissielou · 07/05/2007 18:18

eclipse... {{hug}} wish you well sweets, hope that life is good to you, will miss you!

and thanks for the booze

sideways · 07/05/2007 19:01

eclipse - sorry to hear you are leaving the Hut, but you have to do what's best for you and your family (and your sanity).

Take care of yourself and pop in occasionally to say hello .

And thanks for the booze!

beansprout · 07/05/2007 19:03

Eclipse - what sideways said. I understand your reasons for having a break from all this. Take care of yourself

LatenightOwl · 07/05/2007 19:35

Hi folks, sorry that Ive not been around for a while, work is a nightmare and I just couldnt get to the computer -even late at night!

Sorry to see you leave Eclipse, but dont worry when you feel ready to return i am sure to be here still. Im going to take up quiet residence in corner of hut on cosy cushions. I just feel like a duvet day and cant cos work is just horrible at the moment. Well nothing exciting has happened to me - boring life and all that - still on the FTC front but now on weird cocktail of vitamins (10 tabs a day) to see if that makes a difference. Just picked up a fertility test from Boots too - has anyone tried them (24.99 )and you pee on it on day 3 to see if your egg reserve is good that month?? I thought then, I would know on day 3 whether to even bother with the whole TTC and 2 week wait . Other news is Ive got my follow up of FTC via IVF this month so that could open a can of worms too...so will keep quiet in the corner (if you dont mind?) and sup some of Eclipse's booze til then.....take care all

Soreheart · 07/05/2007 22:47

Eclipse, I hope you can manage to stop thinking about it every month. Not sure I could. Good luck with everything.

nomoremagnolia · 08/05/2007 11:20

Hi girls, can I come and skulk in here for a bit? I brought some goodies...

feedmenow · 08/05/2007 13:08

Hi all. Just had a quick read thru and see everyone is as gloomy as ever....just the way I like it!
Got back from Paris yesterday. Dp had promised me loads of sex cos we got rid of the kids on CD13, got to Paris on CD 14 and came home yesterday on CD17. With my 30 day cycle I thought the timing was fantastic and was really looking forward to spending hours in bed like in the old days pre-children. However, dp didn't quite manage as planned! I think the pressure was too much for him cos he kept saying how exhausted he was and how he didn't think he could manage it. So sex twice the whole weekend, CD14 and CD15. I know that is still good timing, but had really wanted at least 1 shag a day to cover it.
And to top it off, we had a fab time in Paris but the second we got home Dp turned back into "Home Mode" and became a grumpy arse!!
Oh, and pg bearded dragon is getting huge! I reckon she'll lay her eggs by the weekend!!!

feedmenow · 08/05/2007 13:09

Oh, and nomoremagnolia, what have you brought???????

Chocolatedays · 08/05/2007 14:16

Hello!
Eclipse - if you are lurking - totally understand the principle of stopping ttc but never managed the practice! (and if you are lurking I guess you are finding it hard too!)

Nomoremags - welcome - feel free to spill your guts (and your goodies)

FMN - (or Mde.DeuxShags) - timing sounds good - maybe DP was going for quality deliveries rather than just quant. How annoying he's being such and arse.

How is everyone else today? My drugs are kicking in a bit - kinda go a dull hangover feel going on, injections are too bad though.

Freakily landed myself a new job (perfect timing to coincide with IVF - ho-hum) - so my posting will soon be stricyly eves. Damn.

lissielou · 08/05/2007 14:20

congrats on the job CD, FMN, its quality not quantity that counts

cant have the HSG til next month now coz the only appts they had were when we're on hol! fecking docs!

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