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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

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duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

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beansprout · 02/05/2007 21:01

Ouch Lissie - that is harsh. It's one thing to know about it but another to have to go and congratulate her. You don't have to go if you can't face it. I wouldn't expect anyone to come and congratulate me if it was painful for them to do so.

I'm ok, generally. Have managed to get back into positive mode. I fear that the crunch will come if we don't get lucky this month, that's when it will get really hard.

Does anyone else have to listen to the suggestion of "taking a month off"? What's that about?!

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:06

the main reason (from my mw after my 2nd mc) is for dating, but a mc is a big thing emotionally and physically. even early mcs. tbh its when you feel up to it. but you must feel ready. you are at youre most fertile after youve been pg BUT there is a slightly higher risk of another mc. are you seeing a consultant?

tbh tho, i feel that if we give up now, or even take a break then our beans died for nothing. but thats just my take on it.

Janus · 02/05/2007 21:09

Oh Lissie, do you really have to go? Do you know sometimes you just have to look after yourself and sod doing 'what you should'. I couldn't face it. I've been ttc for about 15 months and my bf has just given birth 2 weeks ago. She does live hundreds of miles away so seeing her is not so easy but I find it hard even ringing and hearing the baby in the background! My next door neighbour is 10 days away so soon I will hear it crying through the wall, aggrrhh!
I'm on my new theory of chinese approach, currently doing accupunture and cupping! Frig, I'm fed up of a new approach every few months, shouldn't it just bloody happen? I'm not even bothering with ttc threads, can't stand being the only one on there for months or years.
Had another friend say 'just relax, it will happen', asked her if she could suggest how to relax when I'm this far down the line, poor girl !

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:12

my favourite reply to the relax crew is "you relax when the doctor knows more about your sex life than you do and your bits need a revolving door for all the fecking doctors who peer at them"

Chocolatedays · 02/05/2007 21:16

PMSL

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:19

i told my stepmum who told me that my sisters 17yo 1/2 sis was 4m pg and didnt know who the dad was then told me that im too tense about the whole thing exactly what they did to remove my ep then what it felt like to mc then what would happen in my HSG. she soon shut up

Chocolatedays · 02/05/2007 21:23

I used to go on the temp charting threads but it became the norm to write how many cycles you'd been ttc. +30 just became to damn depressing.

Lissie - I understand why you have to show your face... and I understand it will be incredibly hard. New borns are a killer fro me - I'm ok ish when they start to show personality, but when they could frankly be any old baby I simply want them to be mine.

I'm wracking my mind to try and come up with some visualisation that may help...eg. can you imagine the baby looks like one of the grumpy men off the Muppets - a laughable, bizarre thing. (sorry if this is too off the wall for you - it's my psychology degree popping out!)

Chocolatedays · 02/05/2007 21:27

Yeah, Yeah, I know i'm a freak.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:31

pmsl, youve a psych degree? i want to do a counselling one!

not weird at all. i just put too many now. we were ttc ds for 6y but now i know what its like im sure i had at least 3mcs in that time. im just fed up of my shitty useless body not doing what its supposed too! fgs all those years worrying about condoms splitting, the pill being missed etc and its just wasted energy!

Chocolatedays · 02/05/2007 21:36

If you are thinking of doing counselling can I suggest you look into Coaching (Life Coaching) - mates of mine qualified in this change and unbelievable hour rate... and seem to get shed loads of work, (we're talking in excess of £150 per hr. Amazing.

Chocolatedays · 02/05/2007 21:37

that should have read charge an rather than change and.... I may have the degree, but not the typing skills!

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:39

pmsl, thanks for the tip!

i see a counsellor (for other probs) and hes fab. has really helped me

Chocolatedays · 02/05/2007 21:40

Guys - my bloke is hankering to use the pc - so I'm off for the night.

Lissie - thinking of you tomorrow - hope the Muppets theme tune plays in your head .

Night all.

lissielou · 02/05/2007 21:43

night!

lissielou · 03/05/2007 17:25

well, have been and shes gorgeous, i want one! when is it going to stop being so painful?

Janus · 03/05/2007 17:50

Well done lissie, I'm proud of you. Of course she's gorgeous and I, for one, hope it happens soon for you, I expect that's when this gets easier or after some time, either way, good on you.

beansprout · 03/05/2007 18:12

Well done for going Lissie, that can't have been easy. It was good of you to go, I may have bottled out myself. You ok?

Not great here. Have slumped and am feeling quite wobbly.

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duchesse · 03/05/2007 18:24

Sprouty old thing, you've just had a horrid thing happen. Give it time. And some alcohol.

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beansprout · 03/05/2007 20:39

Thanks D. In RL I don't drink but have a few chocolate biscuits that I might put to good use...

gothicmama · 03/05/2007 20:42

well done for going Lissie - it is hard is n't it

lissielou · 04/05/2007 08:08

thanks all

beansprout, i wish i could take it away. lifes so fucking unfair!

Chocolatedays · 04/05/2007 12:24

Stop Press.

My brother and his wife have just announced they are three months pg.

"Great" I say on the phone... then of course go off for a good cry.

Two one month old babies going to be around for Christmas. Whoo-hoo.

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duchesse · 04/05/2007 12:57

Oh my lord. It never rains but it pours...

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duchesse · 04/05/2007 13:01

Oh my giddy aunt. It never rains but it pours...

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duchesse · 04/05/2007 13:02

Aha. The first one did post, I see.

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