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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

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duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

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Nelli30 · 13/04/2007 08:36

Hi there everyone.

Hi Latenight - sorry to hear you've had a crapy row with your dh and didn't get to try out the whole egg thing!! I hope things are a bit easier this morning.

Reading through these posts.....its such a relief to see that the very irrational thoughts/rows/feelings etc are not completely abnormal and that I shouldn't necessarily be locked up in a tower away from everyone else forever more!!! I always go to post a message and then read what I've put , feel so guilty that I end up deleting it and its only the same at what everyone else is posting! I really must try to get my true miserable feelings down on here!!!

One of my friends who is a couple of years younger than me has 3 boys and 1 girl , the youngest being a yrs next month and she is expecting again!! It drives me mad trying to figure out why it happens so very easy for some people and we all struggle so much. Another friend / neighbour who got married the same year as us, got pregnant within 6 month (we were trying too) and now is on her second!! Breaks my heart.

I've been reading about the benefits of vitamins etc so went out yesterday and bought a load - I'm surprised you can't hear me rattle!! I've also just ordered Zita West 2007 book.Need to feel like we are doing something active!!

Hope everyone is well xx

seaside72 · 13/04/2007 08:51

LNO - sorry about row with DH - I totally empathise as I have been there many times unfortunately - My DH often throws his "inability" right back on me saying I am uptight - so I shout back - Why do you think I am uptight then - duh!! Viscious circle repeats and repeats!! grrr!

Nelli - Honestly this is the only place that you can pretty much post anything safe in the knowledge that you will not be judged or vilified. We must be saving the NHS millions in counselling resources! I am so and about what I write and how I feel sometimes -it is so not how I am normally - honest!! - like I say I think FTC gives you some bizarre chemical mental imbalance - that's my excuse anyway And it def helps to get the thougts out of our brain or else they just stay there and fester.

Zita West's books are really good especially re IVF. Have you read anything about the supplement DHEA? I am heading to IVF I think and have been trying to read up on how best to maximise chances (esp when eggs are rubbish like mine )

feedmenow · 13/04/2007 09:52

Have just been reading everyones messages since yesterday and feel like I want to cry! I mean, I feel gutted for myself but in some ways it is harder hearing all you ladies tell your sorry woes cos everyones stories are soo different yet all based around the same one factor God, I must be v. tired to be feeling like this, its not really me at all, all this tearful emotional stuff. I normally vent emotions by shouting but for the past 5 or 6 weeks I've felt more tearful emotional than shouty emotional...I reckon it is something to do with my acupuncture, but that could be utter crap.
Forgive the waffle everyone (mmmm, waffles with maple syrup....) I'm off for a little quiet time to myself before I really get going.....

PuppyDogsTails · 13/04/2007 15:45

Havn't posted here before but have been lurking in the hut (anyone for a freshly rolled joint?) I have massive long 46 day cycles, so everything is taking a long time, Im now on day 53 and two tests have come up negative, and I really have no hope that it isnt just my useless body (but torture myself anyway)
To make it worse, I visited my mum in my old village, and took my 6m neice for a walk.
All the old biddies who saw me asked if she was mine (NO) did I have babies of my own(NO) did I want to (SHUT UP YOU NOSEY OLD BAG)

seaside72 · 13/04/2007 17:01

Hi puppydog (nice name )- welcome to the hut!!
Well you are in good company here. You can moan here anytime - guilt free -and no oe will try and make you feel better the'yll just empathise - it's fantastic
I live in quite a small town/village and my family has been here on and off for 30 years so lots of people know me/them. The other day I was in town when a friend of my parents (male) saw me and we chatted then he looked at my stomach and patted it and said -"its just not good enough, come on, when are you going to make your mother a grandma she will be so excited!" and smiled at me GRRRRRR - honestly I nearly smacked him. I think I just mumbled something about how I would like nothing more than to make my mum happy - and now wish I had just said actually we have been trying for 18months and are BARREN!!!!
Some people are so interfering!!

beansprout · 13/04/2007 17:12

Welcome puppydog! I like your line in patter with the biddies . I would honestly hit more people if it wasn't against the law and all that. Ahem.

I feel like I have been in the 2ww for ages but it has only been 5 days. This really is insufferable. How anyone manages with 46 day cycles, I don't know. Late period and negative tests really is the last straw when ftc.

Right, am stocking up for the weekend - any requests?

PuppyDogsTails · 13/04/2007 17:41

ooh, alcohol of any discription and chocolate (lots of half price easter eggs to be had - appropriate, they are all empty and rapidly heading towards their sell by date).

beansprout · 13/04/2007 18:11

You saying I is a half price Easter egg?

sideways · 13/04/2007 18:46

Yes, that could describe me too

feedmenow · 13/04/2007 21:24

Well, I have pregnancy news in my household, so exciting......looks like my bearded dragon is going to have babies!! Hows that just to rub my nose in it????? And if we're right, she won't just have one or two, she'll have up to 25 of the little blighters!!! Do you think I've REALLY lost it when I start to feel jealous of a reptile while still getting excited and "clucky" about it?
Perhaps I should stop thinking about this and think more rationally, about more sensible things.....like being similar to a half price easter egg

lissielou · 14/04/2007 13:30

anyone here? i need a rant. fmn, sorry and glad about your bearded dragon. its not fair is it!

scorpio1 · 14/04/2007 13:31

i'm here.are you ok?

lissielou · 14/04/2007 13:35

im so angry with everyone and everything. have put my maternity clothes into storage. my SiL is about to pop, and im still spotting. im so fed up of having such a shitty, useless body. its supposed to be the most natural process in the world but im failing miserabley at it.

scorpio1 · 14/04/2007 13:37

its fine to be angry,tearful and all the other things you are feeling.its normal and allowed.

sorry if personal (we havent 'met' very much) but are you going to ttc again?because looking forward to it may help?i understand it may frighten you though.

we are here to listen.moan as much as you like!

lissielou · 14/04/2007 13:40

tbh im too scared to ttc again at the mo. this last mc (considering i was only 4w) was v painful and i dont know how much more my body can cope with.

beansprout · 14/04/2007 16:52

Hi Lissie. I'm sorry it's so hard for you at the moment. I hope you are being kind to yourself.

Hello to everyone else. FMN - I don't even know what a bearded dragon looks like, let alone what I would do with 25 of them! What do you do with 25 dragons?!

LatenightOwl · 14/04/2007 21:45

so sorry lissielou that you sound so down - I think you need time in the hut to air your views and for us to spoil you rotten. There's plenty of out of date eastereggs under the bar....

Beansprout - my views too, never seen a bearded dragon before - unless you count my boss in as that and I think 25 of them would be telling me to resign quick!

FME maybe you ought to rename the hut "dragon's den" ....

Anyway brought in some bottles of vino cos my horse came 3rd in the grand national and I won all my money back and a bit more - (mind you TTC is a bit like the grand national isnt it - I always appear to fall at the first two hurdles!) Enjoy folks - Im going to see if Ive won on the lotto now too

seaside72 · 14/04/2007 22:02

Evening all
lissie - so sorry for all you are going through - I do not have anything to make you feel better except to say you are a strong beautiful woman and hopefully the hut can give you a little relief however brief. Here's a fish bowl of Tequila Sunrise just for you

feedmenow - OK I too have no idea what bearded dragons are but talk about rubbing your nose in it - its bad enough with most pets having litters of 6-8 but 25 FFS - whats her secret - spread some of that fertility around please!

LNO - congrats on the win - I had that one and the winner too - yippee - except stoopid cocky DH thought my bets were not as valid as his and put £3 on each of his horses and only £1 on mine crap - I could have won over £100 - so basically even with my winnings we were only up £20 cos of all of his doozies!!! Fricking men! Cue HUUUGE barney in the seaside house!

lissielou · 15/04/2007 07:07

thank you all. have decided to def not ttc for a while. dont think i could take much more tbh.

congrats on your wins ladies, im impressed. my horse fell at the 1st!

beansprout · 15/04/2007 16:09

Lissie - hope you are ok today. Totally understand your decision to have a break. Give yourself some time and then see how you feel

Seaside - your dh's betting is a classic. How could the completely random selection of a National winner possibly be pulled off by a bird? Far better to leave all that stuff to the men

Am already a bit bored with the hot weather. Cor, what a bleedin' misery I turned out to be!!

feedmenow · 15/04/2007 16:34

I see that there is no-one in today but just thought I'd let you know that I was out last night at bingo so my phone was switched off, but when I turned it on I had an urgent message from dp. I called and he said that the beardie had laid her eggs!!! He reckons somewhere in the region of 20-25, but she has now buried them so we don't know exactly! I'm gob smacked cos we have only suspected for less than a week!
Anyway, will be buying an incubator tomorrow so will count the eggs when I transfer them.
Beansprout, we will have to sell them. We never intended to breed them (only planned to get one originally, but felt sorry for the "runt" so got him too. And even then we had no idea we had a boy and a girl!!) The thing is that she can apparently do this 5 times a year, so that is 125 eggs a year Mind you, we can probably sell them for £30 each (cost about £65 in the shops!) Imagine, 125 x 30....thats £3750!!!! Blimey, maybe I should take this up full-time!!
hose that want to see, I am going to put a piccie of my beardies on my profile so now you'll all know what they look like!

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duchesse · 15/04/2007 19:57

Hello all! I'm back- did you miss me? Not laden with spices and pungent unguents, but with wine and Carambars. Internet access was crap.

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Soreheart · 15/04/2007 20:01

Evening All, been away doing WORK. Who'd've thought it. . CD23 today so only DAYS to wait to er...um....well, who knows. No symptoms of anything at all, what so ever at the moment. DP is doing well with the new regime which is brilliant.

I'm so sorry, Lissielou, to hear your news. I do think a rest might be in order, plus some very serious 'what else can medical science do for me' discussion with the experts up the hospital. Knowledge is power and all that.

Also agree with Bsprout (?) that the Hut of Doom is saving NHS masses of money on counselling. It really has been so good to find you lovely ladies.

Impy, please don't leave us - if you do stop TTC. We'd miss you badly.

OK, time to eat. Hope you are all outside with your white wines / lager tops / Vimtos.

beansprout · 15/04/2007 20:47

Woo-hoo!! Duchesse and Soreheart are BACK!!

lissielou · 15/04/2007 21:41

hi all, missed you duchesse & soreheart!

have booked our hol today for my ep due date so im not around for it. its odd but most dates now seem to have failed pg conotations, agree, need a frank chat with the doc. does anyone know anything about natural cycle ivf?