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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

934 replies

duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

OP posts:
becklespeckle · 11/04/2007 17:41

Lissie sooo sorry. Don't know what else to say so won't.

for you too Impatience, will you keep trying?

beansprout · 11/04/2007 18:16

This is a bad day, even by hut standards.

lissielou · 11/04/2007 18:26
Sad
alittlebitshy · 11/04/2007 18:29

oh lissie - i am so sorry I was so hoping it would work for you this time

lissielou · 11/04/2007 18:41

thank you. the saddest thing is that this time i wasnt even that surprised or shocked.

Impatience · 11/04/2007 18:55

Oh Lissie, I'm so sorry. That's really really crap.

Am on bath duty here so best not neclect the wonderful son we already have. Thanks for the kindness. It helps. Lissie I hope something magic happens for you soon xxx

ps, yes I will keep trying for now. Won't yet know if dp is pg when it's time for me to try again... so at least one more try.

lissielou · 11/04/2007 18:58

impatience, i really, really hope that this works out for you. maybe you and dp will be pg at the same time .

Impatience · 11/04/2007 19:48

Thanks Lissie. Likewise xxx

eclipse · 11/04/2007 20:57

Lissie, I'm so sorry to see you back here. I won't pretend to know what you're going through but I can understand why you don't want to ttc right now. I do hope you get some answers from the doctors. Big hugs.

eclipse · 11/04/2007 21:04

Glad you're trying again Impatience. I don't know what there'd be to get excited about without the roller-coasters of your household's permanent 2ww situation. Really sorry it hasn't happened this time.

sideways · 11/04/2007 21:43

Impatience - bugger, so sorry to hear your period has started. Things sounded so hopeful for you this month, I really hoped it might happen for you. After all the faint lines and symptoms, it's a bitch isn't it .

lissie - not much I can say, other than I am truly sorry you are going through this yet again .

feedmenow · 12/04/2007 17:54

Help yourselves to this big mound of fresh baked, still warm choccie hash-brownies....they'll help ease the sorrows!
Sorry to hear all this v. sad news Impy & Lissie...am sprinkling glittery cocaine your way(s)....

seaside72 · 12/04/2007 19:40

Where is everyone - the hut is unmanned!!
(seaside slumps down in the corner and gets stuck into the brownies FMN left )

I am having a crap day - 9 dpo in the worst end of the 2ww - AF will be here by Monday and my bf just emailed me the news of her 12 week scan - all is fine (which I am genuinely happy and relieved about for her) but she has announced it is a girl and that news has sent me into a pit of gloom. We have had the 'what if' conversations for years (17 actually!) and since we were teens she always said she only wanted boys and I wanted a girl - just a stupid running joke you have when you are naive and think you will just get pg whenever you want to! As soon as she told me she was pg I just knew it would be a girl - she was convinced it was a boy. Now it is a girl and its not like she is not happy or anything (maybe a bit and surprised - she knows better than that.) But I feel so sad about it (for me of course - wallowing in self pity is my other job in life right now) and completely irrationally, like she is having my baby!! - quick - Call the psych ward and get the straight jacket I am going slowly insane - do you think FTC is like some sort of undiagnosed mental illness?

FFS - I am going to mix up a jug of vodka cranberry and sulk here in the corner for a few hours until I am too drunk to remember my horrid irrational thoughts

beansprout · 12/04/2007 20:42

I'm here!! Have been out all day, which has been good. The real benefit is that am another day into the 2ww. Seaside, you are right, the last few days are the worst. My cycle varies so I'm all over the place as I go into the last week.

I really feel for you with your friend's pregnancy. I stupidly told a couple of people that we were ttc and keep being asked. Just adds to the "blimey, just how stupid am I to think that I could actually get pregnant?" feeling. I mean how stupid am I?!!

How is everyone else? Impy? Lissie?

seaside72 · 12/04/2007 21:05

Phew - thanks bensprout - the hut is the only place I can admit to these sort of emotions and it does help to let them out a bit

Practically everyone we know, knows that we are FTC - we kept it quiet for about a year but the last few months it seems everyone has guessed and it is too hard to deny. I dont know whats worse - pretending it isnt happening or having everyone feel sorry for you and continually trying to make us feel beter by saying "it will be OK" - which is all very nice but most of them have gotten pg within a fews months of TTC .

I am so fed up of my fertile/pg friends telling me stories of some poor woman who tried for 10 years and then had her 50th IVF and now she has a beautiful LO, or someone they know giving up and trying adoption and then suddenly falling pg - grrrrr I know they are only trying to make me feel better but actually it makes me feel worse IYKWIM - I dont want to be like that - I want to be like them - TTC max 6 months and be pg and now I will never be that (wahhhh!! - told you I was feeling sorry for myself )

Mmmm those brownies are good! More vodka cranberry I think

seaside72 · 12/04/2007 21:07

What CD are you on beansprout and do you have any clue when AF's due? I am regular as clockwork so no surprises for me just slow torture !!

beansprout · 12/04/2007 21:15

Dontcha just hate fertile people? I have a quick lurk on the ante-natal boards, just to torment myself like, and wonder, who are these people?!! They haven't even tried half of them. I have a v rich friend who doesn't have to work and can afford a house in Hampstead and f*ck off holidays all the time, and I wonder, just how does that work? Why is it so much harder for me?

Beansprout - self-pity a speciality. Available for weddings, bar mitzvahs, in fact, any occasion you want to put a dampener on

beansprout · 12/04/2007 21:17

Am on CD18. Had 3 months of 28 day cycles and then a 26er. Are we cycle buddies this month?

beansprout · 12/04/2007 21:20

Can I ask a temp question while we are on our own?

What is the rel between temp rise and ov? Had a temp rise of 0.1C on CD14 and then a further 0.2C on CD15 and has now stayed at that level. I know I have now clearly ovulated but am not sure when. Or do I just need a few more months to establish any sort of pattern?

seaside72 · 12/04/2007 21:32

LOL beansprout - Might be a new business along the Jo Brand line of self pitying sarcasm.
I feel like we are the bad fairies of the Conception thread - everyone else is revelling in copious BFPs

It makes you so mad doesn't it ?- my bf is wealthy - can afford not to work (DH rolling in it) convinced her first month TTC success was down to 5* luxury holiday they had at Xmas - whooppee for them. NOT!!
I have had an occasional lurk on the AN and pg threads and I feel like a different species. "Who are these successful primates that can get a BFP with ease?" (said in best David Attenborough voice!)
I am on CD22 cycles average at 26 days but last month was 25 - so I guess only a few more days of misery. However DH is away over OV next cycle as if things weren't hard enough.

beansprout · 12/04/2007 21:36

You are on the home strait then. Fingers are firmly crossed for you. A 6ww would be vile. We just had to shag at my parents house for there to be any hope of conceiving this month. Yuck. Just not right some how. Have to admire our commitment to the cause though.

A 5 holiday to ttc sounds just the ticket. Where can I get one? If I ftc I will at least have had a 5 holiday which will ease the blow methinks.

Fertile schmertile.

seaside72 · 12/04/2007 21:38

Well - I am not an expert but it seems really random and individual - the software I use says a rise of 0.2 shows ov. I usually get quite a low temp around CD7-9 then a slight rise each day until CD12/13 then I will get a more convincing rise of 0.15-0.20 which FF interprets as OV. If you want to have a nosey at my chart is in the chartspotters thread - I found it really helpful to look at other's charts on Fertility Friend - some people get a really obvious jump but for others it is a gradual rise?

Really you are jsut looking for consistent temps after ov that are a bit higher than the 6 temps before ov IYKWIM?

HTH

beansprout · 12/04/2007 21:46

Thanks seaside, appreciate that. Will have a look through the charts.

Off to bed now. Glamour, glamour, glamour!
Maybe the hut will be busier tomorrow...

seaside72 · 12/04/2007 21:54

From what you say it looks like ov on CD14 for you - absolute text book - well done - I am pretty text book too - but still no feckin BFP!!

Ohh BD at the parents - harsh! Well done for perservering - If you get a BFP you will be able to tell LO they were conceived at Grandmas house - LOL
We had guests staying during our bd time this month - so a bit inhibited too. Mind you this is month 13 and I have to say enthusiasm is lacking to say the least!

Maybe we should take the hut somewhere exotic on holiday?? 5* of course - We can all go and wallow together

I vote for the maldives

LatenightOwl · 12/04/2007 23:03

mmm looks like the hut is empty tonight... cos Im late as usual....

Impatience - so sorry to hear about AF and the thought of a constant 2WW is so unbearable - I think you will be in here frequently for the drink and other noctious stuff

lissie - oh dear and we were all keeping our fingers crossed..so sorry but lovely to have you back in our cosy hut.

Beansprout - can't believe you visit the AN forums - think that falls under self harm - munchinhousen (spelling???) by proxy or sort of condition like that...

seaside - bf 5 hols sounds fab can't you jump in the suitcase next time??? We tried it once (not the suitcase the 5 hols) it still didnt work

Now then the other night I left you with the egg white (real stuff from a real hens egg) conundrum... Well I used it (just the egg white not the yolk ! whoever thought of that..) luckily spliting eggs (hens not own) has always come easy - one of those kitchen tricks...but then DP tried the BD and couldnt - disaster - first time that we have tried since Jan due to his sore bollock and now nothing. So egg white business was not tested! What a shame.... of course we then ended up with a horrific row about biological clocks and performing on demand wtf! So was in crap mood all day cos didnt sleep well.
Then yesterday we tried again (but had gone and purchased preseed) and he managed the deed - god but this is desperate.I probably ov the night of the row so chances are no luck this month either so Im not getting too excited re. 2ww this month and think I will camp out here for the next few weeks given the lack of action at home - am I bothered about young couples BDing like rabbits I wish.......