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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

934 replies

duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

OP posts:
Debbsyandson · 08/04/2007 17:27

not 4goten you ladies hers is a magnum of champagne and some fresh strawberries (cost nme 8.00 quid robbing bastards)

feedmelotsofeastereggsnow · 08/04/2007 18:40

Thanks Debbsy. If noone is here to help me out soon then I'll scoff the lot

Chickbabymummy · 09/04/2007 07:06

I knew nice weather couldn't last - it's cloudy now grrrr...

feedmelotsofeastereggsnow · 09/04/2007 10:19

God I am sooo confused!! Have been having massive debates with dp over the last couple of months about ttc. I have told him how important it is to me, how I still feel devastated by mc, how I don't want to just not use contraception and "see what happens", I want to actually TRY if that is what we are doing! I have been through with him about my cycle (he has never been one for paying attention to that sort of thing)and explained about when I'm most likely to be fertile so we should be having sex frequently for a good while before and after. So even though he is armed with this knowledge, we haven't had sex anywhere near enough or at optimal times. Yet this morning he tells me that having sex can burn 150 calories....now I know my dp and I KNOW he said this as an incentive for me to want/have more sex! Why, when I have blatantly been wanting lots of sex and he's been the one that hasn't?? I just feel so frustrated cos the more time that passes since mc the harder it seems to get and the worse I seem to feel.

Impatience · 09/04/2007 10:47

Sorry to hear you had a teasing line too Bbabymumma. They are evil.

Thanks for the champs and strawbs Debs. FMN, have you left any for me?

FMN, sorry to hear you're having stress about sex. Are you making moves on him? (Throwing yourself breasts-first down the stairs at him doesn't count!) Is he getting performance anxiety? Are you? Is it turning into Nike sex (Just Do It)? I know that I really am not in the same boat with all you other girls about the stress of having sex around the right time in order to conceive, but I find it frustrating when I can't get over to inseminate at the right times, and that's without it getting tangled up sex stress. Time for a big chat? Have a big row, get all emotional, then make up with blinding sex?

Still no period or line here. Temp still high this morning, spotting stopped. This is now 15th day of high temp, which is a long time. But frankly I'm fed up now and have pretty much stopped bothering!

ovenREADYhotcrossbuns · 09/04/2007 15:25

Impatience... 15 days of high temps?? Have you tested?

ovenREADYhotcrossbuns · 09/04/2007 15:29

Sorry to butt in

seaside72 · 09/04/2007 17:17

Ready - poor impatience has been through a veritable array of tests over the past few days - most of which were inconclusive - with faint second line - arghhhh - v v frustrating.

Impatience - hope you are doing OK - high temps are a good sign though? Fertility Friend says if you have 18 high temps above coverline you are pregnant!! so sod the tests and keep those legs crossed until Thursday!!

Feedme - The whole issue of sex is such a PITA - I have the same prob with my DH - I have tried not talking about it at all - didnt work cos I am aparently so transparent in my minx like behaviour - he always knew I had planned it and would either say he was tired or just leave me in bed until I had gone to sleep
Tried talking about it and planning it - didnt work as DH got performance anxiety
Tried being casual -"lets just try every couple of days for the next 2 weeks" didn't work cos we got bored after a week and fell asleep!
(Gosh I am painting such a sparkling picture of our relationship!!! Frankly I think Impatience might have a better deal - insemination as a means to an end and then sex for fun and intimacy!!)

Everyone says you should be spontaneous but TBH now we have been TTC for so long how can it possibly be that - everytime you are thinking "maybe" -Actually I think our sex life is permanently ruined!!!! Its no fun anymore when it doesn't work! IYKWIM

Impatience · 09/04/2007 17:24

Hello there Ready, you're butt is welcome! (I cunningly saw through your hot cross bun disguise ) I have tested every bloody day since Thursday. Still nothing! I was poorly around ovulation, so I think ovulation may have been held up for a day or too, but this was the last day I was expecting my period. Am now day 32 and am usually a 28day-er. Had a tiny bit of spotting, but only when I searched for it IYKWIM but that's gone now. My google search has shown 18 days is the longest you should have high temp before you start to strongly suspect you're pregnant. So, I still have till Thursday. Groan. There's a danger I might be responsible for evacuating the Hut if the kind ladies in here are subjected to my harping on and on about this till then!

How are you these days?

Impatience · 09/04/2007 17:26

Hi there Seaside, crossed posts with you. Hope you had a good long weekend.

seaside72 · 09/04/2007 17:38

thanks Impatience - so it is def legs crossed till Thursday - 18 is the magic number!!

It seems that lots of people dont get a BFP until well into the 2nd month - theres still hope while there is no AF!

I had a good weekend in the sun thanks! This is when living by the seaside is the best!! Mind you I only have a few more days left of blind optimism and chirpy mood so get ready I will be back in depression by this time next week. Handily Fertility Friend gives me a lovely 5 day countdown to doing a test/Af arriving which starts on Wednesday. I am so grateful - NOT!!

BTW -Thanks Debsy - do you think I could make a bastardised Bucks Fizz with some pineapple juice

Impatience · 09/04/2007 17:43

should our bucks fizz not be with grapefruit juice?

Sounds like we might both be going bonkers on Wednesday!

Impatience · 09/04/2007 17:45

Oh hang on, do you mean your countdown starts Wed, or you expect period/bfp on Wednesday? If the countdown starts Wed that's a long time to keep waiting!

seaside72 · 09/04/2007 18:36

Impatience AF is due a week today but as if I am not thinking about it enough FF starts counting from 5 to1 and then puts a big fat T on Monday in case I might have forgotten that I could test then!! Actually this month I think I might just test anyway on Monday even when AF has arrived (as she does every month) I never get to test (stamping feet stroppy emoticon!)

Cocktails only with grapefruit juice before OV and now I have read we need Pineapple juice after OV to make the uterus sticky and help implantation or something?? - quick - down a pint of it now!!

My motto should be "try anything" cos I will

ovenREADYhotcrossbuns · 09/04/2007 18:39

Impatience - It sounds like your patience is really being tested at the moment!! Hang in there - and keep those temps high! I've been reading the posts in the Hut and I saw that your DP is going to ttc as well - so fingers crossed for you both

Pineapple juice for the implantation - Grapefruit for the CM

ovenREADYhotcrossbuns · 09/04/2007 18:45

seaside - if you lose the VIP features - you don't get the taunting countdown

Impatience · 09/04/2007 18:50

I didn't know that about pineapple juice! After all this time I still find something new to try. I too will try anything.

Seaside, I don't know how they expect anyone who's logging their temps and fluids to forget when their period's due! Good luck for the long 2nd week...

Yes Ready, dp has started trying... It is very strange to be on the other side of TTC. I've noticed her already going on at length about her various ovulation signs and stressing about whether she's insem'd too early or too late. And I have developed a 'what will be will be, you're doing the best you can, now just try and relax' attitude from nowhere! It's very interesting.

Thing is, our cycles are perfectly interpolated (yikes, is that the right word? it just slipped out!): Until one of us conceives we will be in permanant two week wait... hmm

Ready · 09/04/2007 19:04

Yep - a friend told me about the pineapple juice. A damn sight tastier than grapefruit juice
Interpolated -a constant 2ww would be mental!! It's great that your donor is happy to do double the work ... I love that you are calm and relaxed when it comes to DP but the reverse when it comes to yourself.
My fingers are crossed for both of you
I'm in cycle 8 now - I foolishly assumed I would be pg by now! Still... keeping going

seaside72 · 09/04/2007 19:04

OMG - Sounds like some kind of hell - Permanant 2ww - Even Dante's inferno couldn't beat that!

Nelli30 · 10/04/2007 08:47

Hi there everyone! I trust you all had a nice break over the weekend?!

I've just logged on today because I need to rant!!

I have spent the last 4 days in my house refusing to go out as I didn't want to run the risk of bumping into any 'happy' people!!
I am so angry ! Sometimes I feel like I want to scream and shout and others I just feel so very sad it feels like my heart is tearing in two. Its all so very unfair, especially when you see sooooooooo many people who if there was any higher judgment, would not have children at all!! I work in a GP surgery so you can imagine the things I see and how frustrating it is. Alcoholics,drug adicts, unwanted children, abused children and then I log on here with all us lovely ladies who so want a child to love and look after and it just makes me sooooo mad!!!!! Why is this happening to us!! Part of me feels like I am being punished for stuff in my past! I have always tried to do the right thing and live my life the best I can, but as with everyone else I have made the odd bad decision. One of these sticks in my mind ,its the biggest regret ever, and part of me , even though I know its silly, and irrational and so not the case but a little part of me can't help but think its my punishment! How stupid eh?!
I'm now at work , sitting here at my computer going throught all the normal chit chat when all I want to do is shout and make the world stop untill I am ready to carry on 'as normal'!! Got to go now as I have some patients to see!! God help them!!! Will drink my coffee and calm down a bit before hand so don't worry!!
Thanks for listening , hope I don't sound too barmey!!! xxx

Nelli30 · 10/04/2007 08:55

Sorry - me again - something else I need to get out! My step daughter (who is 8) is due this week which normally isn't a problem but I am dreading it and how it will effect me at the moment! She has also (as from yesterday - when ex wife rand dh to 'discuss') just hit the whole 'I hate everyone - and want my mummy and daddy back together' stage! Talk about good timing!! Ofcourse this could also be ex wife being dramatic as this is what she is like if the attention is not on her for too long!!! She also rang on sunday and asked dh if I was pregnant!!!! godd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks xx

seaside72 · 10/04/2007 09:48

Nelli - it realy sucks doesnt it - I have no helpful words really - sorry - just I absolutely agree with you - I find myself staring at every pg woman I see and thinking why her - its so horrible.
IKWYM about happy people too - I have pretty much avoided all my friends who are of childbearing age at the moment!!! (and def those already pg!) There are a couple of friends I have not spoken to in a few weeks and I have an irrational fear that if I call one will impart some joyous news on me and I will start to cry - not from joy!!
In fact I have just ordered some fancy flower remedies tis morning (for those who dont know me - I will try anything and seem to unearth a new "treatment" every week which seems worth a shot!!) So this is what I have ordered this morning!!
White Chestnut: another flower remedy helpful in getting pregnant, white chestnut reduces tension, stress and anxiety. Helpful in promoting mental health, white chestnut is particularly helpful in reducing feelings of bitterness and frustration which women who have difficulty getting pregnant often experience in their journey towards pregnancy

Particularly liked the bit about bitterness and frustration- LOL - thats me!!

Shall I get a vat of it and we could try mixing it in some cocktails??

Or maybe the original huttees will object if we become all happy and carefree!!!

beansprout · 10/04/2007 10:00

Sorry, only depressants allowed in the hut

Impy - you are getting my hopes up here.
Nelli - I soooo know how you feel. You are very welcome to come and rant here whenever you want.

First month of temping seems to have revealed that we shagged on all the wrong days. Am sooooo fed up .
Naturally, will still go through all the usual 2ww stuff of talking myself out of the notion and then convincing myself again. Torture, in other words.

Still, at least I don't feel old and fat at the moment.

Doh! I do!

Impatience · 10/04/2007 15:01

Still in limbo here. Temp was high when I woke up earlier than usual, but then slept another hour or so and woke up later than usual and it was lower. So I don't even know whether my temps still up! Feeling a bit more periody today and have had a tiny bit more brown. The worst thing is that I feel I'm being set up for a cruel joke. I can't believe after all these months of trying that I could possibly be pregnant, yet over the last few days I've had moments where I've imagined what it could be like and I feel like an idiot for believing in the possibility.

TBH I can imagine posting on here that my period has started but I can't imagine that I'll post that I got that elusive line. What a sorry state my expectations are in.

Nelli, sorry you're feeling so crap. I recognise exactly what you're describing.

eclipse · 10/04/2007 19:33

Hi, Impatience. Sorry to hear you're still waiting to know. I'm hoping that the longer you have to wait, the more likely it is that you'll be getting a good result. I imagine it's quite stressful for you but, in the spirit of comradeship, I'm feeling the need for a stress-relieving session in the hut. I've decided to settle in the corner, with a good view of the sunset and sand dunes and an obligatory crate of vodka and red bull (not my usual tipple but it could be a long night).