Anyone ttc baby #2 in July?

[Impatientmummy36]

Hi all,
Anyone ttc number 2?!

I know lots of you are so I thought I'd see if anyone in same boat wants to chat on a new thread?!

I chat to some lovely ladies on the monthly ttc buses....I know some are ttc their first baby (some with real difficulties like MC, or just for a long time) and I feel so bad to be worrying about conceiving #2 when I already have a lovely little one tucked up in his bed upstairs, when I'm sure they'd love to be in that position. (Not that they'd ever say anything or show any resentment, as they're all lovely and just as supportive whether people are trying for 1st or 5th!!!)

It is a bit different though, different emotions... grateful for what you have but longing to be a mummy again... and different challenges (trying to fit in dtd when you have a little person sabotaging your efforts and popping up to demand a drink/teddy/phantom tummy ache, I swear he has a radar for it!)

So I just wondered if anyone wanted to chat who's in same boat ttc #2, as it can also be hard when you desperately want to have another baby, to give your others a sibling, and it's seemingly not happening...

I'm ttc#2 (ds just turned 3)
Age 36
Cycle 5 (af just ending). Feeling disappointed but hopeful ...

Good luck all ttc whatever number you're on!

X

Hi

We have just started TTC#2 again after an early MC in Nov and a MMC at 12 weeks in Mar.
My DD is 2 and I desperately want a sibling for her. She's obsessed with baby's at the minute and keeps asking when a baby is coming to live in her house.

Hi tiberius I'm so sorry re your mcs, that must be so hard to get over xx

My little boy is the same, he is just turned 3 and chatty... he tells people in shops, everyone we meet, about 'my baby brother' or says 'I'm buying this for my baby brother!'.... I then have to explain he hasn't got one yet and, no, I'm not pregnant either! He even has a name for imaginary brother :). I want this for him more than I do for me to be honest! Ideally I wanted a smaller age gap too... kicking self for not starting ttc much sooner. Wouldn't have felt under such time pressure if we had.

I hope you have some good luck this time, fx for you x

Thank you and good luck to you too x
My daughter talks a lot about being a big sister, it's really cute but heartbreaking at the same time.
I'm the same about age gaps, I always thought DD would be 2 when I had the next 1 but that's not going to happen now. I think you take it for granted that it was easy to have 1 so it will be just as easy to have the next 1

Hello all can I join in? Been ttc# 2 properly this month, have no idea what my cycles are like as I am still breastfeeding and af only came back last month! My dd is 11 months and wanting a small age gap.

Sorry to hear about the mcs Tiberius hopefully everything goes according to plan from now

Hello! Also ttc#2. Just ending cycle 4. DS is going to be 2 in July. I definitely wanted a smaller gap that what will now be if I do get pregnant. Sure you all saw my other thread about feeling down! Just thought it would happen quicker.

Hi can I join also

I'm currently trying for #2 also my dc
Is nearly 3 now and so would like another asap.

Hi Tiberius yes me too I took it for granted as I conceived first cycle with my first baby, no opks, no supplements, no pre-seed !! I keep hearing others say the same too! x

mother yes I saw you seemed down. I think you got a slightly unsympathetic response from some as well on your thread ! I keep hearing the same, 'well you've got one already so you're lucky' (which is true) but I'd still be heartbroken if I couldn't have a second XX

Hi Lorrimay, i know that breastfeeding is meant to be nature's contraception but I do know people who got caught out when breastfeeding so I'm sure you can now your af back?! X

unicorn yep mine is just turned 3, hence we need to get cracking :) x

How old is everyone if you don't mind me asking?! I'm 36 and feeling waaaay older than when I conceived last time (32!) x

I'm 27 and this will be my first cycle trying. At the minute I'm not using opks or anything like that I'm just tracking my af on an app and it predicts your rough fertile days and dtd around thy. If I have no luck within first few months I will start the opks

Hi all

Can I join too please? I'm at the end of cycle 2 TTC #2 after very complicated and drawn out miscarriage last year (conceived on cycle 4 that time). My DS is 4 so if we do get lucky there's going to be a huge age gap ☹️

I so wish we'd started TTC again sooner. My DS was quite a challenge as a baby and toddler so we just couldn't face having a newborn as well at the time. With hindsight, that was the wrong decision.

My DS is desperate to be a big brother and he was SO excited when I was pregnant last year. Broke my heart having to tell him our baby wouldn't be coming home. Will keep any future pregnancy quiet until much later on.

Having a very odd cycle this month. AF is 2 days late but getting BFNs and don't feel pregnant so not sure what's going on. Just want to move on to cycle 3 now but still in limbo.

Sorry to hear about your mcs Tiberius It's so heartbreaking

Hi DT I'm so sorry that must've been so heartbreaking for you all :( xx I honestly never knew how many people were affected by mc until I started looking at these threads.

We're not helping ourselves beating ourselves up about the age gap and not starting ttc sooner are we! But I feel the same.

Hey it sounds like you might still be in with a chance this month though? I know you said bfn but if you're late.....?.... I know with my last pregnancy I was testing negative until about 2 weeks, I have no idea why, as he was fine in there ! Fx x

I'd like to join in too. I have a 2yr old DD and planning to start trying later this month after I've had a normal cycle off the pill. Feeling bit terrified to be choosing to go through TTC again. Hoping to be less stressed this time as I already have DD and doesn't seem as bad having just DD as it felt worrying I'd never have any children.

Some really tough stories on here, my heart goes out to all of you who've had mcs. In some ways, it's harder struggling to conceive #2 because you know how awesome it is to have a baby and you can clearly imagine it.
We also weren't ready to start trying until now, dc1 didn't sleep for such a long time and money etc. My logical brain says that actually it would be great to conceive at the end of this year (just because of work and some personal plans) but I'm late 30's so pushing my luck already. I was 34 when I conceived before, 1st month chemical, 2nd month didn't ovulate, 3rd month pregnant. So I got pregnant every time I 'could' have done.

Anyway, it's early days, July will be 2nd month trying. And I am enjoying the trying :)

Thanks ImpatientMummy I think sadly I'm probs out for this month. BFN on FRER this afternoon and just had some (TMI alert) pink tinged cm so I think AF is on the way. My cycles have been a bit odd since mc drama.

I'm in my (very) late 30s too ladydolly so I understand your worries! I was 35 when I conceived DS. I was so excited to have conceived fairly easily last year and bubba was due in April, a few months before my 40th. Perfect, I thought but was not to be. Now I definitely feel like I'm pushing my luck but Dr's and midwives have all been very encouraging and said not to worry about age.

Let's hope we see lots of lovely BFPs on this thread in July 🤞🤞🤞

Is anyone taking any extra supplements other than the usual Pregnacare/folic acid? X

Hi ladydolly & sciencegeek,

Definitely relate to everything everyone's said. Nice to know others feel the same!
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DT* I've been taking pregnacare conception and a high strength omega 3,6,9, evening primrose between cd1 and OV...

I was taking maca and larginine but ovulated early that month and panicked so stopped taking it as normally like clockwork!

Other than that just pre-seed since last month.

Think we just need to dtd more !!!

Anyone doing anything different?!

X

Thanks DT I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, it's absolutely heartbreaking. Are you nervous about being pregnant again? I am, I think I'll find it very hard to relax if/when I get pregnant

I'm 32, I was 29 when I conceived my daughter and 32 just seems a lot older.

I'm 26, I was 23 when I conceived DS. 3 years seems like a long time ago though!

So sorry to hear of all the losses on this thread, I do count my blessings that I haven't experienced that. I can't imagine the pain, especially after knowing how much love a lo gives you!

Just waiting game now for af for me, due Thursdayish. Hate the wait as I am definitely not pregnant.

I'm 32, took me 9 months to conceive DC1

Being positive, if AF hasn't arrived yet there's always a chance that the BFP is waiting!

Anyone else finding dtd with a small child very challenging? Most of the time I'm feeling knackered as DD wakes up at least 3 times in the night and decides 5 am is a good time to get up! Not to mention waking up while in the middle of dtd....!!!

Hi can I join too plz?
29 ttc #2 I have 1 ds whos 2. Ive had 2 miscarriages at 7w july last yr and 13w feb. I thought ild have my baby by now or at least half way through pregnancy. But no im currently just over half way of tww, bt i am not optimistic at all this month, really hoping if nt this month maybe July will be it for us! X

Tiberius I'm absolutely terrified about being pregnant again. It was so traumatic last time, but if we want another child then we have to be brave. I try and take comfort in the fact that things will never get as bad as it did before as Dr's will (hopefully!) be on the case as they will know the history. Consultant has said he will scan me himself at 5 weeks if/when I get pregnant again.

It's so sad that the joy of being pregnant is taken away for all those that have suffered mc.

Hi Mother, Unicorn and tobeornottobe. So sorry to hear of your mcs tobeornottobe

My temp took a nose dive this morning so AF on way any minute on day 15dpo. Really long lp for me. On to cycle 3...

Bfn for me again this morning so I'll join for a July bfp. Ttc #2. We have a nearly 6yo ds desperate for a sibling, been putting it off too long because I'm (still) very overweight so we have decided to bite the bullet. Cycle#2, didn't catch a bfp with opk although had lots of ovulation symptoms. I'm cycle day 24 so testing a bit early still but getting really bad pmt and some cramping so af is defo on the way.

Hi flumplet, unicorn, tobeornot xx

Tobeornot, so sorry that must have been harrowing... really can't imagine. Feeling very lucky after hearing what some of you ladies have experienced xx

Unicorn my just-turned-3 yr old is a fantastic sleeper.......

......except for around ovulation when his sibling prevention radar kicks in and he finds every possible reason to come out of his room usually around 9/10/11pm when we would be trying to dtd, and again at 6.30am when (having given up the night before) we had planned to try a quick early one! Honestly it's unbelievable! One month we had about 8 attempts and only managed 4... ahem... finishes! :))

Morning ladies!

unicorn I'm afraid not 😆 My nearly 2yo sleeps like a log! We were in the bathroom next to his room last night drilling holes in the wall and hoovering and he didn't stir at all even tho it's only a partition wall! Only way he affects us dtd is we don't have time to fit it in the morning as he gets in bed with us when he wakes up.

Big temp drop to cover this morning at 12dpo so af should be here tomorrow. Boobs are killing me, don't remember this from previous months boooo.

Feeling a bit down as a colleague announced her pregnancy yesterday. She already has one dc who is about 10 so for all I know could have taken her years and be desperately wanted. But still feel abbot down that it isn't me announcing! Fx for July.

Hi

Can I join?

We are TTC#2 my DD is 19 months so the broodiness has started to kick in!

This is cycle 2 as AF arrived this morning which is a couple of days earlier than expected. Next opportunity for BFP will be middle of July!

We conceived first month of trying with DD so I am not expecting such an easy time of it this time round.

I've downloaded apps etc. So here is to a positive month. Fingers crossed!!