Anyone ttc baby #2 in July?

[Impatientmummy36]

Hi all,
Anyone ttc number 2?!

I know lots of you are so I thought I'd see if anyone in same boat wants to chat on a new thread?!

I chat to some lovely ladies on the monthly ttc buses....I know some are ttc their first baby (some with real difficulties like MC, or just for a long time) and I feel so bad to be worrying about conceiving #2 when I already have a lovely little one tucked up in his bed upstairs, when I'm sure they'd love to be in that position. (Not that they'd ever say anything or show any resentment, as they're all lovely and just as supportive whether people are trying for 1st or 5th!!!)

It is a bit different though, different emotions... grateful for what you have but longing to be a mummy again... and different challenges (trying to fit in dtd when you have a little person sabotaging your efforts and popping up to demand a drink/teddy/phantom tummy ache, I swear he has a radar for it!)

So I just wondered if anyone wanted to chat who's in same boat ttc #2, as it can also be hard when you desperately want to have another baby, to give your others a sibling, and it's seemingly not happening...

I'm ttc#2 (ds just turned 3)
Age 36
Cycle 5 (af just ending). Feeling disappointed but hopeful ...

Good luck all ttc whatever number you're on!

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Hello I want to join too :)
I'm 27 and also ttc#2 my first is 2 and a half now and loves babies so would really like to try and give him a sibling. Just starting my tww now so fingers crossed

Hi all, please could I join too? My stats are:
Age 34
TTC #2
Cycle 1 as of yesterday!

DD is 13 months and she took 12 cycles (10-ish months) to conceive. I was adamant that I didn't want a gap of less than two years so we weren't planning to start TTC again until August but kind of got carried away... It did take us longer than expected to conceive DD so I guess I shouldn't be too worried about conceiving the first month but you never know! I do have a feeling we might conceive quicker this time though.. partly because my cycles were a bit all over the place last time, ranging from 23-31 days and this time they are almost like clockwork every 27/28 days. Did anyone else notice their cycles change after first pregnancy?

Last time I was all over the ovulation sticks and DTD was planned with military precision.. This time it will be just going with the flow (at least for now!). Currently CD14 and going by body signs I think ovulation has recently happened or is imminent..

Mynameisjune.. How long are your cycles usually? Did it affect how long it took you to conceive the first time?

Silversun - usually around 25/26 days so 19 is short. We weren't really trying when we conceived but I hadn't been on contraception for 6 years when I fell pregnant. Not sure how long it's going to take to conceive again. Hopefully not too long!

Yes yes! Can I join? 🙂

(I have not RTFT so will go back and do that now!)

My stats are:
Age 31, DD is almost 18 months, we were lucky that we concieved DD on cycle 2 last time but no idea what to anticipate this time.
I'd have started TTC when DD was 4 weeks but DH would have none of it!

AF is due in about 10 days but I've had a heart rate spike so I think she's going to be here early but we are TTC officially this month.

I'm tracking AF on Ovia and Clue, monitoring my heart rate on my Fitbit and will start doing ovulation tests once AF has gone!

I've found it really difficult to cope with friends and family announcing pregnancies (5 in the space of 6 weeks!!) But what I found harder, I think, was feeling like I'd be unsupported or not understood if I spoke about how I felt. I was obviously super happy for them all but for myself I was so sad and then felt ungrateful because I have a wonderful DD!

Perhaps that's that just me?

Spnfan I completely understand how you feel. There have been a spate of friends getting pregnant this year, twice now since I've been TTC friends have announced on the day AF turned up. I'm happy for them genuinely but sad that we might have a long journey in front of us to get DC2.

@mynameisjune that must've been so difficult for you. Gosh, what bad timing your friends have! It's just so bittersweet.

It's so difficult, isn't it? TTC I think is something that is difficult to comprehend if you've never done it. I personally never understood how it could take over your life (had always thought I'd adopt over having my own kids) but now I'm in it it's remarkably easy to be consumed by it.

For me each announcement was just reminding me of how badly I wanted a sibling for DD. The last announcement (was via text) DH was there when I got it and I cried for 20 minutes. Think that was the moment he realised how badly I wanted to try again!

I've mainly been okay, had a little cry here and there but DH is hugely optimistic and keeps me from getting down.

It is very easy to be consumed by TTC, I use Ovia as well but I try not to think too much about it. Luckily work and DD keep me busy.

The worst part for me is that everything feels like it's on hold, we only want two children and I'm so, so ready to be done without TTC for good.

Hi ladies, can I join too?

Ttc #2 (we have a daughter called Olivia who turned two in March)
Age 37
Been trying since January, had an early loss last week at five weeks which was just devastating. It took eight months to conceive first time round, so we were delighted to find out I was pregnant earlier this month. Bleeding has all stopped now and we're going to try again straight away, but I'm now terrified and know I'll be a nervous wreck if I conceive again. It will of course be worth all the stress if we are lucky enough to have another baby, but daunting all the same.

Here's hoping we all have a lucky month and get good news in July x

@kazzah29.. So sorry about your loss I can imagine that it's now made TTC a bit of a double-edged sword.. Obviously you want to conceive again quickly but can imagine the anxiety will be even worse than normal.

@spnfan @mynameisjune And sorry you're both finding it so difficult.. It is hard, especially when others around you are pregnant.

I'm surprisingly feeling a lot more relaxed at the moment this time around.. Though probably only because in my head we were planning to start a bit later and as June, you've said.. DD and work keep me on my toes! She doesn't reliably sleep through yet either (though last week did three nights in a row, woop!) so part of me is wondering how I'm going to cope with early pregnancy and a big sleep-deficit! I think also, last time the big fear was if we were able to conceive at all so now I know we can (obviously notwithstanding secondary infertility), the pressure is off a bit. That said, I'm posting here and looking at Ovia a bit more closely so we shall see how long this lassez-faire attitude lasts!

Hi new people xx

You're right it's so hard when others announce they're pregnant, and you see newborn babies everywhere you look... keep having to look at my little boy and remind myself I'm happy with what I have, and I'm so lucky to have him, which I am... Though I'll still feel devastated in 12 days time if I get a bfn again! Just wish I'd started sooner/younger !!

Back in the tww now and based on past experience not feeling very hopeful...
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Please someone help me!!!!
So i thought perhaps I might be pregnant with the symptoms I been getting! I'm 6dpo, and I definitely know I had already ovulated as I keep track of the symptoms AND I have a calander on my phone! Me and hubby had intimate moment on the 18th of June and I ovulate about the 20th of June! I just took a pregnancy test and immediately I had a light line, but I don't know what to think! It can't be an Evap line as it come up as soon as I took the test! Help me please!!! Ahh see pic attached

Also the test is from Asda, it come in a pack of 2.. xx

CharChar I doubt at 6dpo you'd get even a slight line (sorry) it takes a fertilised egg 7-10days to implant and it's the egg that creates HCG not your body, so you won't get a positive until after implantation.

I'd save the other test and test again in 3-4days. And maybe get a first response test as these are the most accurate for early testing.

Hugs ImpatientMummy, fingers crossed for a BFP x

I think I'll be joining you guys...I had a frer bfn yesterday at 11dpo and bleeding post sex last night which might be af rocking up early (I thought she was due on Wed). A pain in the bum as we're off on holiday today. Oh we'll, maybe it'll be lucky cycle 10, as dd was conceived on cycle 10. I kinda hoped this month might be our month after a sterling effort following a cp, but that's looking hugely doubtful now....

Curlygirl not out till you start properly. Have a lovely holiday. Maybe the relaxation is just what you need. Welcome also

Hello lovely ladies. Just wondering if there's room for one more. Expecting AF imminently after what looks to have been an anovulatory cycle. Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
TTC #2
Cycle: 9 (due to start on Wednesday)
AF due: 24 July(ish)

It took 10 cycles over almost a year to conceive DS who is currently 19 months, but I suffered a cp and an ectopic along the way...

This time round, I haven't even had a whiff of a BFP. We've started basic fertility tests and have an appointment to discuss our results with the GP on 10 July. We've made a huge effort to time dtd well every cycle, and given that my last 3 pregnancies happened much faster, I'm fairly sure that something isn't quite right on the fertility front.

I can totally identify with the feeling that life is on hold and I've lost count of the number of pregnancy announcements I've received since we started ttc this time around (literally everyone I hung out with during my last pregnancy is pregnant at the moment, as are a couple of my closest friends). You have no idea how much I want to hang up my ttc shoes for good (I wanted to after DS, so having to go through another struggle this time round is pretty unwelcome).

Sending to all those who have suffered losses. It's very very tough.

Way too early to tell ImpatientMummy.. Keeping my fingers crossed for you When is AF due? Mine is due 9 July.. Not sure whether I will test beforehand or not..

Curliegirlie.. Annoyingly timed AF if so though hopefully the holiday will take your mind off it a bit.. Are you going anywhere nice? How old is your DD?

Sorry for your previous losses Cariad.. Try not to lose hope though.. It's still relatively early days (especially with an anovulatory cycle), though I imagine harder to understand given your earlier conceptions.. Last time it took us 12 cycles and we'd just started fertility tests when I conceived.. No apparent rhyme or reason why it took that long!

Curlie sorry if it is AF, hope you have a lovely relaxing holiday.

Cariad sorry for your losses it's so bloody tough. I only said to my DH yesterday that if it wasn't for wanting a sibling for DD I'd happily hang up my TTC'ing shoes.

I've got an appointment on Thursday at the Dr's to start fertility testing for low progesterone and to check whether I'm ovulating at all as like you this cycle appears to have been anovulatory.

Hello ladies & to all the new joiners.

I’m hoping to catch up from all the activity that’s been posted recently. Sorry to hear of recent losses – hoping for some Rainbow babies to come bouncing along soon.
I am out for this month – but I’m disappointed for another reason. So after BC ( 6.5 years) I was having long cycles – like 80 days 38 almost 60 days…. I wasn’t sure I was ovulating and if I was it was late…so this month, I started to track with the following methods: CM checking, OPK, CP and BBT and coupled with some natural herbs, low and behold I ovulated for sure.

I knew when I had a temperature dip at 14DPO I was out but something else was worrying me, I realised that AF (when she has decided to show her face) is very light indeed, so I did some digging as I am starting to wonder if my womb lining is thin…. I know when I was on the pill I had my lining measured and it was 2mm and you need at least 8mm or around that measurement. So booked an appointment with my Dr to see if I can have an ultrasound to evaluate the thickness as well as check the health of my uterine scar as have heard this can slow the flow too… and have some hormone levels checked out at the same time. Hoping I will get a positive outcome… has anyone heard of a Yoni or Vaginal Steam?

All the best for those in their 2ww and for the others that will be there soon!

Thank you for your kind words Silver and Myname. I am horribly impatient which certainly doesn't help when it comes to ttc. Like many others on this thread, I'm really regretting not throwing caution to the wind and starting our ttc endeavours sooner.

I really hope your trip to the GP is fruitful Mynameis. Fx this was just a one off wonky cycle.

I hope your trip to the Dr goes well Jack. I'm no expert but it sounds as though your cycles are taking a while to settle down after coming off the pill. Fx that your cycles start to regulate and you get that BFP very soon.

Hey 'mynameisJune'
The test I took this morning was my 2nd pee of the day (had no fluids prior)....So just out of curiosity I used my other test this afternoon to check it wasn't an issue with the batch of tests, to make sure it wasn't an indent or anything like that, but this one had nothing but the control line, which does leave me wondering?
I called the helpline and said it was white, the lady told me that it just may be too early to properly pick up the hcg hence the white and not pink! I'm going to buy some different brands and test in a few days! And go from there!

Jack and Cariad I really hope you both get your BFP's soon!!! Xx

Thanks mynameisjune! Hope it goes well on thurs for you, it's good they're helping you, I hear that some Drs are very blasé about it and don't offer much help especially when you've had a child already x

Silversun you're right it's way too early to say, you just get used to being disappointed each month so I don't feel that positive about it! Due around 7/8th similar to you then... I'll possibly test a couple days before or wait til af comes

x