Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Sad to report AF is here.

GP recommended going back on the pill to try and re regulate so I think I'm going to try that. I think my mind needs a rest if nothing else.

I'll hang around if that's ok but probably won't post much as won't be anything to report.

Oh Flash I was so hopeful for you xx hope you're okay

Sorry to those af got 😔.

oh flash

don't think of it as a set back. Just a strategic withdrawal before a new a successful battle plan.

flash, skipper oh yes to the nipple check ! well last year I really wished I had a dulux nipple strip !

skipper i think i normally try to wear each wedding outfit at least twice. honestly, I hate dress shopping ! Will buy a new one for a wedding this summer though.

Thought this FW would be a right off, but think I will get 2-3 "rolls of the dice" in. Next month ...... well..... I have a work trip abroad that coincides EXACTLY with FW. sigh.

p.s. I don't care who people are voting for, but I hope you all vote.

In other news, we are buying a new car. Looking forward to it, but there is a tinge of sadness for me, as when we discussed it last year, we were talking about cars we could get a pram into.

Oh flash so sorry. Please don't leave us.

skipper I always recycle wedding outfits and have never bought a clutch in my life - am I doing it wrong?! Gold shoes are deffo neutral though - I've got some and they go with everything!

Cd11 here and still 3 days till FW. Should be enjoying this stage but I'm so keen to get going again! EOD is working out well though I'm blatantly going to end up going for every day in FW then running out of steam before the end.

Ps good news hep on FW for you!

Hep - wise words. I don't care who anyone votes for either. There are plenty of websites to help aid your decision, people just need to do it.

Oh flash I'm so sorry 🙁

Work has been mental so sorry if I've missed anything big!

Voted this morning - glad this shit show is nearly over!

We also had our pre-IVF treatment appointment with the nurse this morning. It was really thorough - went through all of the steps (of which there are many), showed us how to do the different types of injections (we practiced on a cushion) and then we had our blood tests (including full blood count, thyroid test for me) and chlamydia test for me. And now we wait...

Sorry flash

My best mate is pregnant. She's just sent me her 12 week scan picture. I'm so fucking heartbroken and can't start sobbing. I hate what this has done to me.

Just a quick one as I've just been told my meeting is starting early- but wanted to give big love to flash and jam ❤️ Totally understand the feelings- but it doesn't mean it won't happen for you.

Jam are you at work? Can you escape for some quiet time with tea and chocolate? Look after yourself 💐

Will catch up properly later but wanted to let you know you're not alone x

sorry for the baby bomb Jamon

If anyone remembers, my 1 rl friend who knows i'm ttc, tried ttc about 10 months after me. Am meeting up with her in a few weeks (lives in different country). She is now 7 months pregnant.

Sorry flash AF def here for me too. ...cd1 cycle 17

Oh god jam I'm so sorry I know just how much of a stab in the heart that is. It affects me more than Af arriving. Does she know your situation?

I'm working from home thank god

This has hit me much much harder than af

I feel like such a bad person

Jam I'm so sorry It's all so bloody unfair and cruel isn't it. I live in fear of my best friend telling me she's pregnant again so I know exactly how it feels. It's ok to cry and be angry. Big hugs to you

Oh no Flash I was so hopeful for you this cycle. Please stick around here even if you do start the pill (how long would it be for?) as we'd all miss you lots. Hope you have some nice plans for this weekend, be kind to yourself

Harriet I'm very impressed that with your long work hours you can manage eod. Best of luck for fw 🍀

pyjamas great news you're ticking things off the list and getting closer to starting.

Hep glad you've had a solid fw LSFX for you. Totally understand your feelings re. car buying. We bought our dream family 4x4 in March 2015 - still no baby and it's a very sore daily reminder.

skipper gold shoes sound fabulous! I love shopping so I'm not much help but the internet is your friend and return whatever is reasonably possible afterwards.

Otters I'm CD5 here too. I don't mind answering - we're applying for a UK spouse visa extension. It's basically like begging the Government, losing all privacy in terms of your relationship, finances etc. and paying quite a lot of money just so your husband and love of your life can actually live in the same country as you.

Oh I'm so sorry jam 🙁🙁🙁 It's such a massive kick in the guts - did she know you've been TTC? Don't feel bad about how you feel, it's natural. Let it all out - scream, shout and punch things (soft furnishings are great here) if you need to.

Yes I'm glad we're ticking things off the list - although today made it all feel much more real and it hit home how much of a big step this will be. Still keen to get going though.

I'm so sorry Jam. I think we all know exactly how you feel. Don't feel bad about being angry and upset, it's completely natural and it doesn't make you a bad person. I've felt exactly the same way.

She knows what we're going through. They started trying in January and conceived in March. She said they had sex throughout the cycle and told me we shouldn't stop after I think I've ovulated.

We've had a massive heart to heart and I've sobbed saying I'm scared it will come between us and I'll be left behind and won't be able to relate to her. It's helped getting all of those fears out. She said she's worried about me and wants me to speak to my GP about how much this is affecting me. I'm going to try and get an appointment, but I feel totally despondent about it. What can they do? All I want is to be pregnant.

Also called my mum and sobbed my heart out. That's the first time I've done that - she knows we've been trying a long time but she doesn't talk to me about it at all. She's completely rubbish with conversations like that - you can tell she just doesn't know what to say. I'm glad she knows how I feel though.

That's great you are making fast progress now pyjamas
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Alexia* i can't believe you have to go through all that especially when you're married - I thought spouses could automatically stay.

Thanks for all the support. I don't know what I'd do without this place.

Alexia good luck with the visa, I have many friends who have or are fighting that battle.

jam r.e. having sex after ovulation: i have heard that from several people that they conceive after when they thought they ovulated. I am trying to remember that now. It is good advice.

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Oh jam it really sucks. It's good that you've spoken to your mum for your sake even if she wasn't especially helpful. And we can all totally sympathise with these horrible irrational feelings.

I'm struggling with my friend who is pregnant with no.2 (the one who complained about not being able to drink after I told her about my mc) making insensitive comments. Even if she wasn't the very fact of her pregnancy makes me feel sad, and then guilty for feeling that way.

We're all here for you and I'm really glad we have this community. Our time will come.

pjs that all sounds really positive - when does it all kick off? And what is the first step (I have no idea how it works)

Yes I'm seeing it as positive Harriet - first step is me calling them on day 1 of AF (on the 19th June), when I'll be booked in for baseline scan for day 2/3 which is also when I start doing injections, then scans every other day, then add second kind of injections, more scans, then trigger injection, then egg collection 33-36 hours later, then we wait to see how many fertilised and decide when to transfer, then transfer, then bum bullets (progesterone) and the worst TWW ever. Gah!

So sorry for what you're respectively going through right now flash & jam this whole thing it's just emotional torture at best!

And Harriet how insensitive of your friend!!! That's bad anyway but after telling her about your MC?? That's just mind boggling!

Pyjamas that is quite a list of things to do!! Glad you are in your way with it all though

Scans every other day? Work are going to hate me if I have to use IVF . Glad you're getting on with it though Pyjamas - I'm going to follow your progress with interest.

Im so sorry Jam and Alexia, know you've both been feeling so low recently. I just hope you find the peace you need soon, don't beat yourselves up over it - you've done everything in your power to make this happen. The best things in life can take time and I hope that once you have your babies you won't even give this period of your lives a second thought.

It might be every other day skipper, or it might be every few days, just depends on how I respond really. Makes it very hard to plan around work! I think I'll just need to be honest with my boss, but am going to play it by ear. The clinic is really easy to get to from the office, so it may work out without too much disruption. It'll be trickier for egg collection as I don't know when that will be and that will be a day out of the office (if it's a week day). Please pleas be a Saturday! Come on ovaries, work with me for once ha ha

flash sorry about AF. Will be good to have you around. Hope you're doing ok. It's so tough isn't it?

harriet LSFX for your FW. Hope you don't run out of steam !

pyjamas glad you're starting treatment soon. Really hope it works for you. Do you mind me asking where you are having treatment and is it nhs or self funded? Can DM if you prefer.

jam sorry about the baby bomb. It's good that you had a heart to heart and talked to your mum as well. Good idea getting an appointment. Do look after yourself

alexia hope you get the visa. I thought if you're married then its not an issue but clearly not.

Flash just reread your post - they recommend the pill to regulate you? I'm no doctor but that seems counterintuitive to me. Doesn't the pill mess cycles up? I'd be tempted to get a second opinion on that

Had a very positive OPK and had a GOS with DH. Don't expect it to get me anywhere but HS actually makes me feel better