Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

so sorry Love
AF is a tease.

Setting time aside for writing sounds like a great idea flash. I was feeling terrible yesterday but forced myself to go to orchestra and was really soothed by it.

rainbow so sorry, I hope I didn't get your hopes up saying that about my friend. I hope its not long until you get that second line xx

No not at all jam. I knew not to get my hopes up but it still sucks.

Hep your 100% right, af is totally a tease!

love sorry about AF. It totally sucks

Heading out for dinner now with the OH so I'm just going to enjoy stuffing my face and having a glass of wine 😊.

Sorry I've been absent ladies. Seems like we've all been having a shite time of it. to all those who need them.
I've bitten the bullet and booked private appointment with an Ashermans specialist for 2 weeks time to see if that's what I have as af keeps getting lighter. Feeling particularly crap as this cycle is the last one in which I can get a bfp before my (what would have been) due date in July.
TTC is really really crap, getting so fed up with it and know my partner is too.
Hope we all get good news soon and in the meantime have a fab weekend. Is supposed to be sunny so that's something and af got me so at least can have
We're hosting a family bbq, don't know about you girls but I hate the thought that family/ friends are beginning to pity us. Hah, didn't mean to come on to moan!

So sorry about AF love, I was hopeful for you! hope you enjoy your evening

Happy friday ladies! Sorry about AF rainbow and how you're feeling Jed. I know exactly what you mean ❤️

We're having our second iui on Monday - I have the trigger shot to give myself tomorrow evening. Then progesterone 'bum bullets' and fingers crossed for two weeks 😹

Thanks everyone. I'm now home with a really sore back, worst cramps ever and massive headache! Least I enjoyed my food haha.

LSFX for you Kerry

Fx for you Kerry. I forgot to say last night, doh!

How are the injections if you don't mind me asking? I've all this to look forward too and I'm quite anxious.

I know what you mean about the pity Jeds , I hate to think what conversations our friends have about us. I mean I know it will be kind stuff but it just makes me cringe a bit to be this object of pity.

Fx Kerry I hope it's easier second time around and you know what to expect

Think I'm 1 DPO. Really ought to HS but DH is showing no interest. There's not much chance of getting him away from the rugby 🙄

Skipper I think I've got the post ovulation clomid tummy! I'm also rather hungover which doesn't help but something is not right hope your sickness has subsided

Hello all. I've missed a few days and seems like people have been having bit of a tough time. Sorry rainbow for AF and anyone else it's got.

Sorry jam about your argument with DH. Interesting to get pjs views from the other side. I had some similar bad fights with DH after the mcs. He said he didn't want to try anymore if it was going to cause so much pain, which totally enraged me at the time, but I see now he just felt stressed and helpless and couldn't see another solution (maybe there is no other solution). It's such a hard time.

Interesting about the sex post-o thing. I wonder if it's because if you use opks you can be a day or more out - e.g. If you actually ovulate 48 hrs after the surge, and then the egg can live for 24 hrs, that could give you an extra day or two (I always assume I ovulate the day after positive opk but don't temp so could be wrong). Also as you get older more likely to release 2 eggs, which could happen at slightly different times, so could be a second ovulation after the first. Worth a try I suppose!

I'm still not in FW but almost! Have been trying to be really healthy but had wine + bread + ice cream last night and coffee this am. Hoping won't be too much of a problem.

And good luck kerry. Fx for you.

Jeds and Jam I relate to the "pity" thing so much. I feel embarrassed a lot of the time now and avoid talking to friends who know we're still ttc. My mum told me on Thursday that she's confided in her friend about what we're going through and that she thinks she needs to go to therapy to learn how to deal with me and this situation. It was a bit of an eye opener. We've always had a very close but fiery relationship (she's a hot-headed Irish woman lol) because she doesn't think before she speaks sometimes and ends up winding me up more. It's sad to think how much this is affecting her though. I can't imagine it's nice having your daughter avoid seeing you, knowing she's deeply unhappy and then listening to her cry and scream down the phone regularly. She said she's been tearing up on car journeys lately thinking about me :( She also said she's now told my dad now and that he was shocked we're having difficulty (well it kind of makes sense since they conceived so easily). Anyway sorry, I think I'm just venting but this whole infertility thing really is shit.

Jam sorry about what happened with dh, I hope the therapy goes well for him. It's definitely helping my dh but he does have major traumas he's never had professional help with so it's going to be a long road. What I would say re. sex is you're very lucky your dh is usually always great when it comes to HS and he'll go every day if needed which a lot of men won't / can't. I'm amazed you still managed to HS despite the argument. I get your frustration completely though as I've been there many many times where I'm literally crying and begging for sex. You've had a great fw by the sounds of it and HS could be on the cards tonight. Good luck this cycle 🍀

Kerry best of luck with the trigger tonight and IUI Monday. It's exciting times, I'll be thinking of you ❤️

Skipper hope you're feeling better today xx

Rainbow I'm sorry af got you You weren't going crazy btw I can clearly see a line on your test. It's a shame cheapies are so rubbish at times.

Alexia I'm thinking it's a bad batch. I'm still getting faint lines but noticeable as my oh is seeing them.

Sorry about AF love - I hope you're feeling better?

Hope things are a bit better with DH jam - did he say anything about his first session?

Had another fight with DH because I went out for a couple after work - whatever, I told him what's what very calmly and he just has to lump it and I went to bed. He was all lovely to me yesterday. It's amazing how much more rationally I can deal with his foolishness when it's not AF week! I had a great time with friends anyway 👍🏼 Went to see a house yesterday and we love it! Weighing up putting in an offer against doing IVF at the same time. Probably sensible to wait, but have to admit it's a nice distraction. If AF doesn't arrive, IVF starts next week - aaaaaaarrrrrgggghhhh

About to turn 33
Cycle 2
PCOS

I just got my period! Okay so not usually something to celebrate, but with the PCOS the last cycle I had was 6 months long and I was terrified after delayed AF and negative tests it would just disappear again.

This month - if I don't get a BFP - I'm going to try to reduce my cycle length. I've done this previously by losing weight and increasing fitness. Did a Joe Wickes HIIT video yesterday - or most of it. Ended up lying on the floor gasping. Doing it again today.

Harriet I agree I think it's worth continuing if you possibly can. Coffee booze ice cream all sound good and probably lowered your stress levels 😎 we have to have some pleasures in life! My best mate and I bought Ben and Jerrys earlier and I said look you are pregnant, I'm infertile - we both need this!

She's been amazing about it but my god it's actually made me want to be pregnant even more - if that's possible. I've made an appointment with the hospital on Tuesday and going to discuss an IUI. Not sure if will defo do it yet.

Alexia you are totally right about my DH - he is amazing in that we do always HS when we need to - even if it makes him really unhappy poor guy. I need to refocus on our relationship over the next few months and get us back on track I think. Our marriage has really suffered and we need to start putting it first again

Rainbow did you have a normal period?
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Pyjamas* that's exciting re the house! Would it be a good distraction during IVF? If it would cause stress I might avoid though.

That reminds me I have another podcast recommendation - Huffington Post one called IVFML. Ticks a few boxes!

Welcome panda good work with your workouts!

Yes I'm feeling much better thanks pyjamas.

Jam yes I've had a normal period, first 2 days were really heavy and back to light today. Thank goodness lol.

Sorry I have been absent. Been away with family up north for a birthday party.

Sorry for who af has got and if I have missed any bfps congratulations.

Well we may have an interesting turn of events with my health. My thyroid has swollen up on Friday night  its gone down a bit since then but doing some research I have a whole range of symptoms to suggest a thyroid problem. One of the biggest things linked to thyroid issues - infertility. Going to make a drs appointment on Tuesday. Just feel like crawling into a ball and staying there forever. It wouldn't surprise me if it is something as I've have had a range of auto immune things in the last eczema, juvenile rheumatoid arthritis and alopecia.

Sorry for being away all, been away from home for a few days.

Basset sorry to hear that - have you had your levels checked before? Your TSH should definitely be under 2.5 if you're trying to conceive/to support a healthy pregnancy and avoid miscarriage.

Alexia so sorry that TTC is causing these issues with friends and your mum. I know what you mean 100% - even when people are supportive, it can still be exhausting to have to update them every time you see them. The one friend I talk to about it luckily is absolutely amazing - we'll talk for hours and then she'll gently ask me about it.

Thank you Harriet Alexia Jamon Hep Rainbow and everyone else for the good luck wishes. I have the IUI at 9am tomorrow.

Hep - when are you having an IUI? The injections are incredibly easy - the needle is so fine you don't really feel it going in, and the pen they give you is impossible to get wrong. I think the one benefit of giving blood regularly is that every other blood test/injection is a cake walk because the needles they use are teeny tiny in comparison!

There is a psychological thing - a couple of days near the start of each IUI cycle it always gets me that I'm here injecting myself to try to have a baby (compared to people who just manage it!) but I don't personally get any side effects. I've seen other people saying they've had hot flashes, nausea, headaches, but I've not seen any of that.

Plus I think the other benefit of IUI is that it gets you used to injecting yourself etc, so if you do go on to IVF, you'll be prepared.

I think it will be easier this time around since I know the first one didn't work, and the chances are only c.10%. But I'm not sure it'll stop me getting my hopes up more than normal. There's just something about knowing that your eggs are nice and big and you'll ovulate at precisely 9pm on Monday that makes you think it really might work! C'mon Science!

Hi all, Sunday evening catch up time for me. My message on thurs evening doesn't seem to have sent 😤 So I'm sorry I'm a bit out of the loop again

What a tough couple of days jam ❤️ Hospital appointment sounds like a good plan- hope the discussion brings you and your DH together and helps refocus

Sorry for af getting you winging and rainbow

Alexia good luck with DH visa- I can't believe how hard it is and you're already married! Madness. And really feel for you with the friends and family issues 💐I hope they are giving you the support you need

Flash my DH and I are doing EOD after period and it has definitely taken the stress out a lot. Obviously I am still not upduffed, but as an approach it has been a lot less stressful. Hope your plan brings you your BFP very soon

Good luck for tomorrow Kerry!

Pyjamas I can't believe it's next week you start IVF- so exciting! And a potential house move too...I would say invoke the law of sod and put an offer in 😜

Basset sorry your health has had a turn and hope the gp is helpful. I also have a number of auto-immune things- I totally get the crawling into a ball feeling, sometimes it feels like I'm collecting all the immune problems and it's a matter of when I get xyz rather than if. Take care of yourself tonight with some ☕️&🍫

As for me, I'm on cd30 which is longer than my last couple, but had been up to 37 days before. Also not convinced I have ovulated this month- haven't had any sore nipples and currently getting lots of thin CM so unsure of what's going on (normally dry like the Sahara around now). Wondering if this is going to be a super long cycle after the stress of this month Yay.

Hope things went well this morning Kerry. Fx for you.

Sorry you had a stressful month binky, ttc definitely isn't easy!

As for me I've had 2 days of heavy bleeding, yesterday it lightened and now today nothing. I'm usually heavy for at least 3-4 days followed by another couple days of light bleeding. I took another ic this morning and there is definitely something there. I honestly feel like I am going out of my mind!
Getting my blood results back today from Friday as I got my hormone levels checked as I haven't been feeling myself lately.