P to the M to the A! Thread #6, here we go!

[ArchiesMamaBird]

So in the absence of our lovely founder Hippy, I've set up thread #6 to help us keep up the motivation and PMA.

Congratulations to all our grads, the rest of us may be slacking behind but we'll be there soon!

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Good to hear from you @MissMagpie. So glad you're feeling ok to love forwards. I didn't pay attention to that waiting for a period business, it's only for dating reasons. And I wouldn't have DD if I did! But I did get lots of stern looks from doctors and midwives because they couldn't date my pregnancy 🙈 worth it! It is also good to give yourself a rest and some time to adjust though so don't listen to me rambling on, just do what feels right! Xx

Move, not love!!

Hi magpie, been thinking about you, so good to see your post.

I agree with cakes, if you want to try right away then it is only advised against for dating purposes. However, also get the need to spend some time recovering and healing. Whatever you need to do.

Magpie it's so lovely to hear off you and glad you are doing as well as can be expected. I've been thinking about you lots. Take some time to recover and I'm sure when the time is right you will conceive again and go on to have a healthy pregnancy

Well I got a call from the hospital yesterday asking if I'd like to go in today for my appt instead of next week. And it's bad news. The consultant thinks that I definitely have a blocked left tube. He said that I could still get pregnant naturally but he suggests IVF. And we wouldn't get any funding and it's about £5k-£7k. DH said we can go for it (we can't afford it at the mo but will be able to in a few months) but I don't think I want to spend all that money on something that might not work. I'd rather put that amount away in a savings account for DS and help him have a good future.

So I'm feeling pretty shit at the moment, I didn't think I'd be faced with this at 26. I have no reason to have a blocked tube so I just feel like my body has let me down and it's so unfair.

Archies I'm sorry you didn't get better news. Completely understand the feeling of your body letting you down. But although you might have a higher probability of conceiving via IVF, your consultant also said it might happen naturally. It will take longer time since you might only have a shot every other month (I don't know how this works with one blocked tube), but at 26 you still have at least 10 years with excellent eggs and 5 more with ok eggs! And you already have ds, so clearly your body can do this! Don't get me wrong, I really don't want to diminish your feelings of things being discouraging, you have every right to feel sad and upset. But it does sound to me that this is more a question of the time it will take rather than not being able to have another baby. So I also completely understand that you are reluctant to throw enormous amounts of money on it now. Unless the age gap between ds and the new baby bothers you a lot, continue trying on your own does sound like a good (albeit as we all know a somewhat exhausting) strategy. Anyway, we are here for you whatever you decide, cheering you on!

Magpie I hope you fell a bit better as time goes by. Mc is so exhausting on so many levels. Keeping my fingers crossed for a quick recovery. Come join us again when you feel ready!

Patient thank you so much 😘 I've had a good cry and a chat with DH and he's told me to be positive and that it will happen for us. I'm a big believer in fate, and what will be will be. So if we're meant to have another baby then we will 😊 the age gap does bother me a bit, DS is 3y 8m now, but I know that he will be an amazing big birthed when the time comes. So we're going to keep trying for now (albeit we'll be taking a much more relaxed approach) and then we'll make a decision next year maybe if I'm still not pregnant x

@ArchiesMamaBird that sounds like tough news to take. Glad you had the cry and the chat! Like patient said, it does sound like it's worth plodding on and seeing what happens. Like I said the other day, just don't go back on contraception and just enjoy sex when you fancy it. It can totally still happen. Hugs for you though lovely,it's an unfair situation, but many healthy Peggy's are still rocking around in there!

Age gap bothers me too but I've no idea why. DD is almost 3. I know plenty of kids with bigger age gaps, I'm 8 and 10 years younger than my siblings and we have a great relationship! I too and coming to believe that stuff happens when it's meant to or not as the case may be and we have so much to be thankful for xxx

Nice to hear from you magpie - I echo what the other ladies have said and wholeheartedly support the theory that a healthy fertility diet is a good move to make.
I have let my diet slip considerably of late and will be resuming a healthy regime when I return from holiday. Should you want me to scan any recipes and post them up please shout in a few wks on my return.

archies again I echo the sentiments of the patient and cakes. I am not a great fan of the conventional medicated route (although I don't dispute it's necessity at times) and will be here to support you whatever route you take. From what I've read in fertility books by the likes of Emma cannon etc doctors are very quick to prescribe the ivf route and it's not always necessary.... I've read a lot of stories on here where ladies have decided to go down that road and then find themselves upduffed just before they do ... and I sincerely hope this happens for you too.

Hi chips hope your doing well

I'm off on holiday again tomorrow ladies ... and will be nice and relaxed just in time for fertile week ... so fx df and I get some well timed baby dancing in.... but you know what ... I'm taking the chillaxed road ... so what will be will be and I'm determined not to stress anymore

I'll try and keep up with the thread and post if and when I can

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Cakes & Hippy thank you 😘 I did say to DH that at least we won't have to use contraception anymore 😉 I think the reason that I got so upset was because the consultant straight away said "you're only option is IVF" and it was such a shock. I then asked if there was any chance if we could conceive naturally, and then he said "oh yes of course. Sorry did I not mention that?" 🙄

I've done a lot of googling since and seen so many stories of people who have been in my position and still conceived, it just takes a bit longer. So I'm not going to give up hope yet. I'm going to look down the more holistic approach and try and relax as much as possible, and just have sex as and when we want to and I'm sure it will happen for us eventually 😘

archies you're welcome and I'm sure it will happen for you - it has before so you can do it again and we're all here for you... this scenic route is annoying at times but we will all get there chic.
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Love from Cyprus ladies xxx

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Sorry for the double post - dodgy wifi.
archies I would recommend reiki for holistic approach and reflex is nice for relaxation xxx

Thanks Hippy, and Cyprus looks amazing!

Just a little fact that I found out whilst googling and I thought was really interesting...

So we only OV from one ovary each month, but there's apparently no rhyme or reason as to which one you OV from. So you ovulate from the right side 3 months in a row for example, and some women OV from one dominant side 90% of the time. Also, either tube can pick up the egg, no matter which side you OV from. So that's given me a bit of hope. As long as my little peggy can make it down the right hand tube, then we're in with a chance

That does sound positive @ArchiesMamaBird, you definitely still have a good chance. I think it's bad that the consultant went straight in with telling you ivf is your only hope when it really isn't. Could just be that the odds haven't been in your favour for a while but they could switch any time xx

Thanks Cakes yes I'm hoping that for the majority of the last 14 months my dodgy left tube picked up the egg, but from now on it's going to head down the clear right tube I'm planning on giving the left tube a good talking to and telling it off for being greedy

archies I recall reading that too and it totally makes sense .... I genuinely believe that ttc is a lottery and anything can happen. I also believe that science doesn't have all the answers and therefore can't explain everything...I also believe you will get upduffed soon as we all will 😘

Good luck cakes xxx

Morning all! I'm out again this month ladies. Another perfect 28 day cycle. Blood tests booked for this month now and I'm on count down to my holiday next week. Shitty cd1 vibes can kiss my ass!!!!

Cakes Oh man AF needs to do one now! Sorry that she showed up, but it's fab that you sound quite positive still

I reckon you just reach a point of indifference! Plod plod plod through another cycle. It's getting quite boring now 😂 come on Peggy and Doreen,sort it out!! There's some lovely people waiting for you to get your act together!!

I totally agree with the Cakes. I took it really hard last cycle but I think it's because I pinned EVERYTHING on that cycle (becasue I didn't realise about different tubes collecting the egg etc. and I was CONVINCED that it was my right ovary and right tube that would be doing all the work last month). but generally I have an inkling that AF is on her way so when she shows I'm like "meh here we go again insert eyeroll emoji)

Same. I know too well now when she's coming. About 2 days before her arrival I reckon. But I don't let that stop a little hope creeping in. Then when she shows I'm like,yeah,that's what I expected anyway. One month,that won't happen though. Just got to keep on

It's hitting DH pretty hard too. I'm a bit crap at remembering that he cares about this too and it's not just me dealing with it! We've got a lovely long weekend away to look forward to though and just get back to being a normal happy couple. Think it'll do us the world of good. And now I can drink too! 😂

Big hugs cakes .... we will get there ladies ... and I'm feeling the meh / indifference thing too ... waiting for that surprise Bfp ... itwillhappensoon.com

Managed to get a well timed baby dance in last night - cd14... hopefully being away means we get another in tonight or tomorrow.

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Hippy that's fab news about managing to DTD, try and get another one in tonight for luck I have such a good feeling for you this month xx

Thanks archies ... I'm hoping to Hun ... two days on the trot will take me back to when we first met and were at it like rabbits 😂 Fx there's some good Doreen's left after last night 🤣

Cheers ladies ... non alcoholic cocktail lol

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