P to the M to the A! Thread #6, here we go!

[ArchiesMamaBird]

So in the absence of our lovely founder Hippy, I've set up thread #6 to help us keep up the motivation and PMA.

Congratulations to all our grads, the rest of us may be slacking behind but we'll be there soon!

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Cramping lol not camping 😂

Thanks.
I'm pretty relaxed in that I don't chart or use any ovulation sticks etc. I know when I ovulate and we have sex regularly, that's about it. But once period is due it's really hard to be relaxed isn't it?

Well I had pink spotting after did last week, which is normal for a few days before af. I've had cramping and sore breasts so been waiting for af so I can get on with the next cycle, but nothing. Dtd this morning and expected to spot as I normally would, but nope. I assume it's because I've been ill, it always messes me up, but I can't help but hope. I'm not POAS cos I hate seeing that blank window, it's crushing.
Today is beautiful and sunny so going to get the paddling pool out and enjoy the final day of the school holidays with dc and dh and try not to obsess.

I hope everyone is enjoying bank holiday weekend. Magpie, I hope you are finding time to rest and just be during this difficult time. Thinking of you.

Chips I have everything crossed for you that AF hadn't arrived because you are upduffed instead 🙊 but I totally know what you mean about not wanting to test.

AF due either today or tomorrow for me so I'm on constant knicker watch. But I've had a drop in BBT this morning so I think I'm out. Although I've had a nasty cold the last few days and a stuffed nose so I've been sleeping with my mouth open which can affect BBT so I've not lost all hope just yet

Aaaaaaand I spoke too sooon. AF is here right on time. I honestly feel like giving up now, I don't think I can do the emotional rollercoaster anymore, I think 14 months is enough for me I have a consultant appt on 8th Sept and I'll see what he says, but I might tell DH that I don't want to put myself through it anymore.

God I hate CD1!

Archies I'm sorry. It's tough isn't it? And no amount of good news stories such as "my friend tried for two yrs and now has twins" helps on cd1 when you feel disappointed and hurt and crushed and all those things.

See what the consultant says on 8th, make that the goal for now.

Thank you so much Chips. Yes I might as well see what he says and go from there, no point quitting yet when I waited so long for an appt x

Chips I really have everything crossed for you, it does sound promising! Hope you are able to distract yourself with paddling pool
and ds, it sounds like a perfect plan for a nice day.

Archies I am so sorry. Cd1 it the worst. And it does get increasingly discouraging when af turns up cycle after cycle. How long did it take you to conceive ds? You have probably told us this before, but my memory is like a goldfish' nowadays. I'm sure it will be your time soon, but I also fully understand why you feel like giving up. to you!

I remember being single (I was for the best part of my 20s and early 30s) and thinking that if I just knew I would eventually find the guy on the white horse, I would be completely fine with my life. I had an interesting job, lots of great friends and ds. But still, the prospect of it not happening did make me depressed from time to time. I feel the same about ttc now: if I only knew that a (successful) pregnancy was in the cards, I would be super-happy with my current life. I don't know what the moral is in this story, but I think it is something along the lines of that I should probably try to live a bit more in the now, being happy with what I have, and not think too much about what I don't have. Easier said than done, though.

Thanks Patient, and I totally agree. If we could see into the future and get told that it will all work out like we hope then we could just relax now and enjoy the moment. But I suppose that would be boring eh

We were one of those annoying couples who didn't try for DS. He was a complete surprise! So I think that's why it's so annoying that we're now 14 months down the line and still no sign of a BFP. But DS is amazing and I just keep telling myself that we age so lucky to have him, and if he is the only baby that we get blessed with then that will be fine. He will always he more than enough 💕

Ah @ArchiesMamaBird so sorry she showed up. Cd1 is a killer. But no need to give up, just think of it as not going back on contraception then who know what'll happen?! (Yeah right,I've tried that mentality before and I'm just too in tune with myself to ignore what's going on in my cycle!) Were very similar in that DD was no trouble to conceive but number 2 is hiding. He/she better be worth it,I want a good sleeper and water after all this trying! Keep going hun xx

@Chipsahoy loving you're attitude to the sunny weather! I'm almost half way through tww and sunshine and DIY are keeping me sane! I hope af is being illusions for good reason x

@MissMagpie still thinking of you. Hope you're ok xx

chips - eeeeek sounds promising, fx for you chic x

archies I'm sorry that af turned up for you cd 1 proper sucks. I think we all feel like giving up sometimes ... like how can it be this freaking difficult!!! But good things take time Hun and you will get there ... we all will. Your Pma attitude has been an inspiration to me on this journey so I am confident when I say - you will bounce back soon! Xxx

patient you're so right - we should live in the now but ttc doesn't make that easy does it 🤣

cakes fx for you chic ... Bfp is well overdue on here ... no pressure 😉

magpie xxxx

Xxx

Thanks Cakes & Hippy. I feel bad for moaning, but I think I was just pinning so much on this cycle. It was Cycle 2 after my hycosy, and cycle 1 was when I OV on the side with my blocked tube. So I did EVERYTHING right this cycle and got my hopes up so much, so it's been really hard.

I'm due to OV on my blocked side again this cycle so I already think I'm out and there's no point trying. I suppose I'll see what the consultant says on the 8th.

Chips FX that AF is still staying away for you. and Cakes all eyes are on you too this cycle

archies you moan away - you're fully entitled to be pissed off... this ttc lark is really challenging at times and isn't the walk in the park that we'd all hoped for! I hope your appointment on the 8th is able to offer you some reassurance chic
Xxx

Yup, moan away, positivity is great but we all need to be real and part of that is acknowledging how tough it can be.

Ha, yes to a good sleeper and eater after waiting for a BFP! Mine are bad sleeper and bad eater, one each. Ill probably get a bad eater and a bad sleeper all rolled into one this time.

I've been trying on and off for two yrs, but we have stopped for months at a time, so it feels like forever but it really hasn't been active ttc time at all.
I feel guilty for any feelings of wanting or feeling crushed when it doesn't happen as I'm so very lucky to have two dc.

I was young and a mess when I had them. I've got my life together now and I suppose want to experience a baby when life is calm and balanced and not chaotic.

Still no af. Feel dizzy. No cramps. No spotting.

Gosh, I just went on and on about me then. I'm sorry.

chips .... I'm on tenderhooks ... this is sounding promising ... are you not tempted to test?!

Xxx

chips we don't mind you talking about your situation at all chic - it's nice to get an insight into how everyone is feeling and their respective stories ... we've all done it ... cuz we've been on this thread for so long lol
Xxx

Thanks. I am very tempted to test. I got up to pee this morning and I was forcing myself not to reach into the cabinet..After I congratulated myself on getting through another fmu without testing

Thing is, now I'm desperate to test when I get home from work in an hr..but I should wait for fmu and maybe even leave it for a day or so as I've been this late before...trying to convince myself not to test here.

chips ... I do exactly the same lol .... I waste the fmu half because I'm asleep and half because I'm determined not to poas ... and then come 5pm if af hasn't showed I'm like .... I knew I should have tested lol
Good luck with whatever you decide ....
No pressure ... 🤣😉
Xxx

Well I couldn't resist, tested the second I got home. Omg I'm shaking

OMG Chips!!! Huge congratulations!! Knew we were overdue a BFP

Yaaaaaaaaaay .... congratulations chips ..... we love a long overdue Bfp xxxx

Thank you. Feel a bit shocked. I was sure af was on the way that I had a cocktail and glass of wine last night.

Chips that is a very nice and strong bfp! Congrats! Let's hope we are on a roll! And from someone who have had one child early 20s and one late 30s: I really enjoyed it more this time. I love them both equally and to pieces of course, but the calmness and satisfaction that comes with parenthood when things are settled and you don't worry about money and your (diminishing) social life to the same extent, has been so nice for me, at least. Wishing you the best for the next nine months!

Chips!!!! Yyaaaaaaayy!!! That's ace news!! Let's hope you've set us off on a roll!! Congrats!

Hi everyone.
Congratulations Chips! Great news. Hope everything progresses nicely for you. How long have you been ttc?

I am still with you guys though not supposed to restart ttc until after I have had a proper period. Still spotting post-miscarriage so that's going to be a while off.

I am trying to focus on life going forward and have stocked up on more Pregnacare conception tablets and making a fertility friendly eating plan to give me the best chance next time.

I know exactly how you feel Archies. It is so disappointing when AF turns up. Keep positive. It will happen. Xxx