Thread 29 | The one with the BFPs (please)

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Hi all

This is 45 mins later

What do you think?

I've never had another line before

Please your advice would be fantastic

Harriet I'm really sorry about the baby shower. I never go - I say I don't feel comfortable celebrating before baby here - which is true and as I've said that for years is OK for now

Can't avoid the work ones though

Hate pregnancies at work. At the moment everyone's off on maternity leave but for lay two years has been a sea of bumps, and then of course it's all anyone can walk about

I took to running at lunch time to avoid!!!

pyjamas I'm so glad you and your DH had a good night out - you really deserve it and sounds like the therapy has helped loads. Didn't know you were thinking of moving - where to? My house purchase is still dragging on (since Jan!)

winging and flash it's so hard isn't it. Seeing pregnant friends doesn't make me jealous of them, it just reminds me of what could have been for myself and weirdly makes me feel like I'll never get there. DH and I have been asked to be godparents of the baby of yesterday shower, which is a huge honour, and bittersweet as they said they'd asked us as we're both so great with kids and don't have our own yet.

ana that looks almost positive to me. Mine are usually a bit darker than that for a positive but it really fluctuates depending on the person and time of day so I'd get shagging if I were you and keep testing. If it gets lighter you'll know you've had your surge.

Thabks Harriet

Boyfriend currently in Kenya -he's back tomorrow and has been briefed so to speak!!!!!

I'll test again at 1430. Apparently that's the optimum time

I've been doing OPKs for months and never got anything

Looks nearly there ana!

We're looking at houses in East Dulwich Harriet - love it there!

Therapy really has helped us - cant recommend it enough. We've only had a couple of sessions so we've still got a way to go, but everything is so much better already 👍🏼

Understand all the difficulties around being around pregnancies - it is hard and a lot of people don't put two and two together on how it affects those in long term ttc. Someone else I know at work is pregnant and the person who told me (both a friend and a colleague who knows we're about to start ivf and we've had many chats about it) said (when she told me), "now there's a woman who gets shit done" (promotion at work, wedding and getting pregnant all within the last year). Now I know she didn't mean anything by it, but it still stung a bit!

I'm fine, was on a hen do near Bath, saw the news when we left a club last night. So awful 😔 so tired and sick of it, it feel relentless.

Oh winging poor you ☹️ I would have been the same. It's so so hard.

Well done harriet getting through it. That's exactly how I feel re others being pregnant - just sad that's what we should be experiencing and doesn't feel like we ever will

That's amazing pyjamas it seems to have helped so quickly too. So worth doing. DH has his first appointment this week - I might see if we can do one together

I've just got back off a hen do and was hoping for a GOS before DH set off up north. He said he didn't have time and left 😔 he doesn't get back until Wednesday and egg is due Friday - so there is time but I would have felt so much better having got another shag in today. Why doesn't he feel the same???? Ugh.

Hi all
Apologies as again have fallen off the thread 😞 sorry- it's been a hard couple of weeks. Which also means I've eaten my body weight in carbs and done almost zilch exercise, so feeling crappy on that front also 😡

Know I won't catch up on everyone's stories but wanted to try to jump back on so have tried to read back and get back up to speed

Congratulations skipper with the promotion 👍

So sorry to those who have had a shit time of it recently 💐 Especially you Lisa - thinking of you, I can't begin to imagine what you're going through ❤️

I was going to temp and opk this month but with lots happening the last couple of weeks I gave up. I'm now CD23 and have had none of my usual signs of ovulation, so either stress has done something to my cycle, or I'm having an annovatory cycle I guess. Totally deflated with it all this month, think it's probably as it's the 1year mark next cycle 😞

Sorry your messages didn't show jam and pyjamas- didn't mean to ignore you!

Sorry you're having stresses jam; men just seem to deal with the whole TTC thing totally differently to us. Have you told him that it upset you and why?

Pyjamas I totally get why that comment stung. Yet another example of people not considering how their comments might affect people. Sigh.

I'm glad you lovely ladies in London are safe and well.

Im not a massive fan of baby showers either. Such an Americanism. Its why if i do go to any I buy pamper things for the mum to be rather than for the baby.

So sorry for the strange cycle binky.

I think I am heading for cycle 11. Had some brown spotting, cramping and a headache today, af due tomorrow 😞. Not sure what else we can do. We've tried to eod from end of af but we just run out of steam before the middle of the fw. Any other ideas?? I use opks some months. Its too much doing it every month. I have a thermometer but I dont sleep well so not sure how good it would be.

Pyjamas - glad you're safe too (sorry always forget your London way too). That comment your friend made is completely shitty, but unfortunately unless you have to go through the trials and tribulations of infertility you have absolutely no idea how these throw away comments can upset people. I don't think anything is meant by it, I wouldn't be surprise if in 20 years time there is a lot more awareness about this kind of thing.

Ana - yep that's nearly positive, where did you read 14:30 was optimum time? Seems hogwash to me, women can ovulate at any time of day or night and a 14:30 test isn't going to pick up everyone's surge.

Jam - try not to worry, unless you're early you'll be in perfect time.

Binky - glad you're okay, you could have still ovulated - the symptoms may have been subtle and you've just missed them. Or you could be late? What's the latest you've been according to your app?

Basset - I was doing this and running out of steam too. Now I wait for about CD 7 or 8 then do it every other day until the opk is positive and do a few days in a row. I honestly think this is enough.

Ah binky it's tough reaching the one year point do you think you might have ovulated but not known, if no OPK or temping? I can understand you not bothering - I can't be bothered this cycle!

I haven't really gone into it with him to be honest as we've fallen out so much recently. I just wish he felt more like I did about it and that it wasn't acceptable for him to not have sex for 4-5 days around my fertile window

Basset if you are having sex regularly and you know you ovulate regularly then you don't need to OPK or temp in my opinion, if you don't want to. As for keeping it up, well I think we all struggle with that 😂😔

Thanks skipper I hope so. Hope you are doing okay I know last cycle was tough on you

Thanks Skip - don't know where I read. But in months and months I've never got a positive. I also wouldn't bother if I had a regular cycle and regular sex. If only to both!

Hi everyone. Hope all the Londoners on here are ok. Really shocking news and makes me worried about the world we live in.
So AF arrived late last night with a vengeance. Been moody and crampy all day but managed to get out and had a picnic and a walk. DH has been super lovely and cooked dinner for us. I had to cry myself to sleep last night as getting AF was so soul destroying. That was cycle 16 (or 17?) so on to my last cycle on clomid before IVF. Starting to think this may never happen. Went out with a close friend of mine on Friday and found out she's also having infertility issues but starting IVF next week (nhs funded) Obviously happy for her but can't help feeling jealous and a bit annoyed that she hasnt been trying as long as we have and managed to get funded ivf asap.

sk1pper congratulations on the job promotion, well done! Did you get to celebrate over the weekend?

flash wingingit and harriet sorry about the baby bomb/shower.

pyjamas glad therapy is helping

londonjam hope you catch the egg this cycle!

Jam - I'm fine hon, but like you I can't really be bothered much anymore. I'm having a couple of break cycles now, I need it...been analysing and policing myself for too long.

Ana - you may just surge really, really quickly. Your test looks really good, I'd be surprised if you weren't ovulating.

Otters - cross post, sorry to hear the witch got you. Was hard to celebrate properly as we had family over but weekend was still nice anyway - thanks x

Yeah like you skipper I don't think anything was meant by it - I probably would've said something similar before this TTC business infiltrated every iota of my life. Sounds like a couple of relaxed cycles could be just what you need - I had a couple a few months ago and it was great.

Last GOS in the bag over here - which means we HS on days O-3, O-2 and O day. Could go for tomorrow as well, but the post ovulation bloat has kicked in, so not going to bother, we're done! We've got our pre-treatment appointment at the clinic to go through everything on Thursday - gah! I'd like to hope we get that magical BFP right before pulling the IVF trigger, but not getting hopes up.

Sorry AF got you otters 🙁

Fx for you pjs.

Sorry af got you otters. Shes got me too. I can barely stand upright this morning because of my cramps. Ergh driving to work will be fun.

Sorry about AF Bassett 🙁

Sorry - meant to say we HS O-3, O-1 and O day.

Hope everyone's Monday is swift and painless!

Basset - AF pain is the worst, you got some good pain killers?

basset sorry AF got you too. I also suffer from terrible cramps and really heavy periods. Didn't sleep well last night as kept worrying about staining my sheets! Really really hate the first few days. Hope today is ok for you

Sorry to all af has got 😕.

Bfn on ic, af due today and usually comes in the morning but no sign as of yet.

Hi all, just catching up after returning from an mostly internet-less holiday. Managed to get a bit of signal now and then, and having a quick read of this thread really helped me get some comfort and perspective after being around loads of pregnant women/babies during wait for AF.

I'm out this month - caved and tested on Friday (bfn), then AF arrived Saturday. Disappointed but sort of unsurprised (I think I just don't believe it can happen). Looking ahead to next week when we try again though.

Sorry to hear she got you too otters and basset.

Good luck to all of you entering fw.

Sorry otters I would feel the same re quick IVF, we've got a 6 month wait it will be two years since we started trying by the time we start IVF though so we will have given it the full length of time to try naturally - and we both really did want it to happen that way. I don't think it will now. It sounds like you'll be starting pretty soon?

Skipper good for you having a break, it'll be good for you to have some Headspace to think about the wedding and get your bride on 👰🏼

You've done everything you can pyjamas fx

Sorry basset cramps are insult to injury

Hope she doesn't get you too rainbow
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Alexia* hope you're doing okay

Ah I changed my name last night, this is jam