Thread 29 | The one with the BFPs (please)

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Well it's sort of sludgy brown goo (sorry so gross) but once we start having sex it is bright red, and looks more then it is because it tinges all other liquid red. The problem is I think it must be coming from my uterus rather than my cervix, because it happens even when I don't have sex, but sex seems to encourage a fresh flow, if that makes sense.

Congratulations sk1pper. Hope you can celebrate this weekend. I am planning on going for a promotion or at the very least a change in job this summer (still with the same organisation so no hindering of mat pay when and if it happens!!)

Flash have you checked whether you've got fibriods?? Sorry if you have been checked and i missed it.

I like the idea of a menstrual cup but I dont even use tampons so don't know if id get on with it. Glad im not the only one with crappy (oh dear bad pun!!) symptoms around af. Wonder if its progesterone causing it.

Basset I had a transvaginal ultrasound at the gynae last month, who said he couldn't see anything untoward, I'm guessing fibroids would have shown up?

Congratulations skipper! Well done. You definitely deserve to celebrate that one this weekend. Re. the SA tests - after four months of proxeed he had two normal results back, both high count, high motility and "normal" morphology at 4%. The consultant said it was very normal and he sees numbers like that all the time. So they don't think its that. I still wonder but I guess we will never know. If it wasn't so expensive I would probably persuade him to have more advanced sperm tests e.g. DNA fragmentation test, but the NHS don't do that.

rainbow my consultant wouldn't prescribe clomid - our CCG follow NICE guidelines which say you shouldn't give it to women who already ovulate. Other CCGs do - for example skippers - so I thought I would try it.

flash know exactly what you mean about the chilled window between AF and FW. I didn't get to enjoy it this month because of sodding clomid!! All that bleeding must be so frustrating. I wonder if they should offer you a laparoscopy to have a really good look and see what's going on?

harriet I'm on day 9 now and I'm feeling more stable. I am still waking up with hot flushes in the night, but I can handle that. Good luck with EOD

We had a GOS this morning. Halfway through realised that upstairs are having work done on the roof and have a ladder up against our bedroom window! Had to decamp to the spare room as DH was too paranoid they might see in down the side of the blinds. Not the most romantic scenario!

Congratulations skipper! Great news.

Jam I feel I should ask my doc about my options for clomid. I'll have 2 more cycles roughly before my IUI starts so wouldn't hurt to try I guess.

Thinking my af is on the way! Have slight cramps and achy boobs. Due on Monday.

Congratulations Skipper, have yourself a glass of bubbly!

Flashinthepan, if you had an ultrasound fibroids would show up. Mine showed up virtually before she'd put the scan on me lol!

Jam, yes there are ways you can shrink them by artery embolisation but its not recommend for people wishing to retain their fertility. I suppose there are risks to mymectomy too but you have to take the gamble because if they grow you could risk having a hysterectomy in the worse situation if there were complications.

I have moments when I worry if I should have had the operation but I'm sure it will improve my health.

Hope you are all doing well .

Jam - doesn't seem like it's worth getting an advanced set of tests done. Men can have issues from time to time too, just like women can have cycles where they don't ovulate. I'm glad that isn't the root of the problem, I hope you are luckier with Clomid than me.

Flash - describe it exactly to your GP how you have to us, dont be embarrassed. I feel like it's just the drugs you're taking. Sometimes it can take a while for the body to process drugs, it could get better with time but there are always alternatives to try and that's probably the quickest route to take.

Fx Rainbow and anyone else coming up!

So I think I am having an anovulatory cycle. Only cd17 and my boobs have been getting less sore all day and have now stopped hurting and I've been cramping all day. The bleeding has been getting a bit more red today too. I'm wondering if I've been having more anovulatory cycles then I realise, which might explain the almost constant bleeding. I took the sore boobs as a sign I had ovulated, but last cycle, on the progesterone, was the first cycle in over a year where they didn't hurt much other than for a couple of days.

Definitely lots to discuss with the GP on Monday.

Caved this morning and tested and of course got a bfn 😕.

Have a good weekend ladies

Sorry rainbow. FX it's just too early. Xx

Hopeful that was exactly the debate they were having re fibroids and fertility and which approach to take. You've definitely done the right thing getting them sorted.

Flash I really hope your GP leaps into action with this

Sorry rainbow you're not out yet but no one likes a smelly old bfn

Alexia hope you're doing okay?

Huge congrats on the promotion sk1pper, you'll be brilliant at the new role!

Flash, sounds like it good be a possibility. Is your GO generally quite good? Def sounds like there's more that needs to be investigated.

Sorry Rainbow, hoping it is just very early though and AF stays away.

Yes congrats skipper - well done you!

Hope you're all enjoying the weekend. So sunny in London! I'm heading to a baby shower so wish me luck...

I just got baby bombed while enjoying the sunshine by a friend who must have been just pregnant when we saw them earlier this year.

I cried behind my sunglasses a little bit even though I was out in a beer garden.

Feeling ok now though.

Hope you hold it together trough the baby shower harriet.

Sorry Kathrino what's GO?

Sorry Flash, meant GP but clearly had fat fingers! I'm really sorry about the baby bomb too, especially with everything else that's going on.

Good luck for the baby shower harriet, you're a stronger person than me.

Brilliant news on the promotion skipper!! Really happy for you ☺️ Are you celebrating this weekend?

Sorry about baby bomb flash - they're never easy. Glad you're feeling a bit better. I'm a mixture of excited and terrified re: starting IVF!

Got a blazing positive opk today at CD11 which means probably ovulating tomorrow (normal for me). Time to get on it!

Me and DH went out with his friends and got absolutely bladdered - felt like shit this morning but it was so much fun and we hadn't done that for ages! Looked at three houses today as well 😊

Hope the baby shower was okay harriet, I'm really not sure I could stomach that

Oh bless you flash thank goodness for sunglasses. It's just such an awful reminder that other people just get pregnant, it doesn't somehow seem real that it can just happen

Pyjamas you and your DH sound so much chilled out together - this seems quite a turnaround for him. Sounds like you are both in a better place to handle IVF together

Harriet - are you safe hon?

Assume you are too Jam as you're London way?

Hey everyone. Wanted to drop by and see how you're all doing. Still following the thread but haven't posted for a while. Specifically posting today as I remember quite a few were from London, so wanted to check that you are all ok?
Such a horrible thing to read about .
Thinking of you all and praying you are ok x

Thanks skipper yes fine thank god. I was actually travelling back from the baby shower via London Bridge last night - the tube didn't stop there and we weren't told why.

Such awful news. Baby shower was pretty hard to take, lots of touching the bump and people asking when we'd we next etc. Sigh.

Hope all my fellow Londoners are okay. My brother works in a restaurant in Borough Market and they were on lockdown last night for about 4 hours but everyone there was okay. Just so unbelievably awful though.

Harriet, that sounds really tough

Kath - glad he's okay xx

Harriet - I hate touching the bump, nothing impounds it more than that. At least you got it over and done with.

Flash and harriet totally sympathise with the baby bomb/shower.
I had a total meltdown last night. We had friends over to stay for the weekend and bbq. One friend is 22wks and amongst the other 4 girls we organised a congratulations cake and present for the couple as we hadn't done anything official yet. ..I made and iced the cake and purchase the 'baby boy' accessories for it. Then just after we present the cake my other friend announced she was 13 wks gone. I managed to smile and hug but then had to run up stairs as could feel the tears coming. It was then flood gates and couldn't stop - 22wk friend already knew and other two single friends had guessed and were totally amazing and comforting. I'd mentally prepared she her announcement for ages but it didn't make it any easier. Being in tww and yet again feeling totally normal didn't help.

All safe and sound here as well. It happened right outside the pub where DH and I met 🙁